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My fiance has just started in CT. We had originally planned to get married before he finished A school and got his first orders, but recently he's been told from a number of higher ups that a wedding will be too stressful for him and too much to deal with and he should postpone it until he gets his orders. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? I feel like yes, a wedding will be stressful in A school, but it seems like everything I've read says a wedding after A school would be a lot tougher. Is this just the Navy hoping to put off doing the paperwork? Any insight would be great. Thanks ladies!

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We were married before my husband enlisted, but from what I have heard from other couples, you are best off at the very least getting legally married before he gets orders because then you will be on them as a dependent, and trying to get you on them after the fact sounds like a big hassle. If it were me, I would probably try to keep the wedding as small, simple, and stress-free as possible but go ahead and do it, OR do a courthouse wedding and then take your time to pull together the ceremony/reception that you want.

There are a lot of students who do some really dumb things while in school and get in trouble, their performance suffers, whatever...so I think the higher ups just want them to stick to a prescribed straight and narrow. It makes sense too, because only 1/4 of my husband's BESS class has made it to A-School graduation- all the rest have either been separated from the Navy or sent surface. They did try to tell us it would be a baaaad idea for me and our son to move out here to live with him and they weren't exactly helpful, but his A School (including BESS, ATT and TCNO as well) was a year long. We were authorized the move and housing because of that and in the absence of another overriding reason there wasn't anything they could do to keep us from coming. We did (although we didn't get out here until the last week of BESS because of the run-around they gave us) and it was the best decision we could have made.

I'm kind of in the same boat. My boyfriend and I were planning on getting married before he finished A-school, but then his instructor told him that it'd be better to wait until I got a chance to "know the Navy," so now my boyfriend wants to wait a few more months. It's kind of okay with me, because I want the whole wedding experience, but at the same time...he graduates A-school in 2 months and so I won't be on his orders. I'm finishing my last semester of college right now so when he graduates in April, I'll only have one more month until I can move out to him, but we won't be able to live on base or get any BAH. I think the Navy just is focusing on the sailor getting to where he needs to be before marriage gets involved.  It's annoying though.

My husband and I got married in a simple ceremony in Mystic with just two other friends about 6 months before he graduated A-school.  We had our big Irish-Catholic wedding one month before he graduated, but it was no problem because our hometown was only 3 hours away and we made it work.  Also, I did all of the planning and just consulted with him on what appetizers he would like at cocktail hour lol.


It was the best thing we could have done, and there was no hassle given to us by the Navy.  However, I didn't move up to CT with him until 4 months after our little ceremony because of my job.  That worked out great because we were able to save up money and really prepare for our new life together.  My husband and I were also "older" than most of the other guys in his class, and had been dating for 5 years before our marriage, so his instructors and mentors never tried to discourage him from going through with it.  In fact, some of them joked around about how we weren't already married.  We thought he would get his orders in January, and he actually received them in November.  It worked out great because we were already married, even though our big family wedding didn't happen yet. 

Just make sure that this is definitely something you both want.  There is no need to rush into anything, especially if either of you have any reservations.  I have met some people who have rushed into quickly getting married and they are not happy campers and have had a lot of trouble adjusting.  You don't just marry your man, you marry the Navy, too, to an extent.  Good luck!!

My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married after A school and C school. Not sure if he's been told anything, but considering how busy he would be during school and trying to advance possibly to E3 or E4, a wedding would be extremely stressful. I would recommend waiting just to see how it goes. A wedding is a sacred event and you don't want to rush it :) If you two love each other everything will be fine. Just make sure to get married before a deployment would be my advice. That way you get benefits. In the end, it's up to you guys what you end up doing. Just don't do it because someone told you to. It's your life!

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