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All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018.
Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)
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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed. Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.
**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.
**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:
In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).
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**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED. Vaccinations still required.
**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.
RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021
Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.
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Visite esta página para explorar en su idioma las oportunidades de educación y carreras para sus hijos en el Navy. Navy.com
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Hi you all I have a quick question..My Husband has been in the Navy for 5 years now, he's an E-3 and he's never been on deployment and was only on the ship during his first year for 6 months at dock. Shortly after he went on LIMDU for over a year due to a minor injury on the ship & mental health.
He has been at this facility where sailors who are recovering from LIMDU or separating for the past 4 years and has failed multiple Sea Duty Screenings historically to present, along with his E-4 exams to rank yet was able to re-enlist last year in December.
I read an article that any Sailor that can't deploy for any reason will be involuntarily separated. Is their a chance that my Husband can be separated or his situation a normal circumstance and would he be able to re-enlist again in 2 years with his current situation? Thank You
He shouldn’t just not support you if he has the means to help you, but if it takes all of his base pay and BAH for him to survive with just the essentials in VA, yes, he can do that. Obviously he should be sticking to a tight budget and cutting back on whatever he can to have more to help support you and your child, but I know just the couple months we were apart while I finished some classes, it was a little rough, even though I worked full time. He was in the barracks during that time, so no BAH for me or OHA for him. It can work though, and I hope you guys are able to make it work too.
One thing to be prepared for is that if you guys can’t make it work where everything is getting paid, everyone is clean and fed, and has the basic necessities etc. is that there can be consequences for him for that. Financial stability is really important in the Navy, more so too if he holds a security clearance. They have great, free resources on base for financial planning that you guys should look into as you prepare for this change. I believe you would contact Fleet and Family for them.
Okay I understand, thank you for the help. :)
I gave the long version first because the short version sounds harsh on its own. The short version to answer your question is that your husband has a right to military provided accommodations, in the form of actual accommodations OR funds to find them nearby, which he is getting right now. He will either have a barracks or BAH to find an apartment. The military doesn’t owe or promise you, as a spouse, anything because you aren’t the one with the contract. Yes, they provide service members with BAH to help support their families, but the benefit is coming from their contract, for their promised accommodations. If you CHOOSE not to live with him, you’re pretty much SOL because they don’t owe you anything. Emphasis on choose because it’s different if the military forces service members and their families to be separated.
Thank You all for the help. So I understand, my Husband is allowed to use all the BAH and Base pay? Could he leave us with not having enough money to support our financial needs for our child and I? I just want to make sure I understand
Hi Paige,
When a service member is a geo-bachelor it basically means that the family is welcome and able to move with the sailor, but they CHOOSE not to. So my first piece of advice is that if for any reason that’s not correct, like his orders are unaccompanied/you’re not sponsored by command, you or your child need access to services that this base cannot provide, you’re legally separated, etc. he needs to talk to his command and PSD about that. But if at the end of the day you are in fact just choosing not to live with your spouse for any number of other valid reasons like cost of living, school, family support, anticipation of long deployments/shifts etc., he is in fact a geo-bachelor.
So normally, how housing for service members works is that they are allowed only one form of housing. There are some exceptions like when a sailor is in a long A or C school, training, or routine cruises and required to have a barracks room but also “live ashore” (basically just not a barracks or ship) with their families, or sailors on deployments that have accommodations on the ship but also have a home with their families. But essentially the standard is you get one form of “free” accommodation.
When a sailor and his family choose to do geo-bachelor tours, they may, though obviously not always, be able to get a free or low cost barracks room while also receiving their BAH, this is command dependent and based on mainly on accommodations they have available. So when his command says they’re not accepting anymore geo-bachelors, what they’re probably saying is they don’t have the space in the barracks to give rooms to sailors that have access to other accommodations, so he has to choose. His options become either move into the barracks and give up your BAH, or use your BAH to move out into town. I’ve heard cost of living there is high, though I don’t know first hand, which is probably why he’s saying he’d need all of it. Unfortunately, this is the situation, and there’s really nothing you can do to get the BAH, it’s a use it or lose it situation, and if he uses it, he’s obviously going to need it to live.
Hopefully this helps :)
Hi you all, I know I've had previous questions about this topic, but I need clarification on BAH & Base Pay. So my Husband got a new set of orders to stay on land duty in Oceana, VA. He has a barracks he can stay at, but he said they will take the entire BAH if he stays there, he said they no longer accept Geo bachelors that have dependents. My husband also said that his command told him that he is entitled to BAH and Base pay, and that if he needs to get an apartment, he can use his Base pay and BAH to do so. I'm getting so many different answers from Navy, and I'm not sure if he can use BAH or even a portion of it to get an apartment. I live across the country with our child who is starting school and my Husband will be moving with us when his contract is over in 3 years. What are my rights regarding BAH and what are his? Thank You kindly
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