This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors


Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

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I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue


Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

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Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by Allison on October 31, 2019 at 12:19am

PPV housing is offered to both single and married sailors, and even more commonly to married sailors. It is basically just when a private third party operates military housing. So if you’ve ever lived in Lincoln housing (a common military housing group) that is PPV housing, and eventually (supposedly) all military housing will be privatized. Sometimes these housing communities are former military housing, which I think is where the confusion of what PPV housing is comes from.

Unaccompanied housing (UH) is where single sailors and married sailors without their dependents live. These may be on base “barracks” style or more like apartments. There is also the option for sailors to move off base into either a place they find or in a PPV housing community...this kind of just depends on the options available where they are stationed and were they want to live. This typically becomes available at E-4, so they have to be in on base UH until at least then (I think this might be a command dependent thing), but single rate-BAH doesn’t kick in until E-5 like abuon18 mentioned, so it will be an out of pocket cost before that. Exceptions to get off base early include (sometimes) sailors on sea rotation or when there is a severe lack of availability in the on base UH.

Another important thing to remember about BAH is that a sailor gets it for having dependents in their care...there is a minimum amount of time I think, but the point is basically that they don’t have to be married to be considered to have dependents. They may have children or even in some circumstances have elderly family in their care. It is also possible that a sailor has dependents and is even married but does not receive BAH, receives single-rate BAH, or that the location influencing the BAH rate will be for a different location than expected. I wish there were clear consistencies that I could explain, but it is dependent on so many factors. 

Anyway, if you and your spouse are separating or divorcing, you need to get someone else involved...preferably not command though, that’s not their job, and they won’t really be able to help you. They can harp on your spouse to get their ish together, but without someone breathing down THEIR neck, that’s probably all they’re gonna do...and maybe start ignoring your calls. They can’t just tell a sailor to give you money because you ask and they should...that’s not even up to them, that’s all dealt with in PSD and DFAS. Based on your previous questions, I would probably start with Family Advocacy, but if I’m misreading your experiences and you disagree, try Fleet and Family Support or a civilian attorney (i.e. not JAG). If you are separating, whether temporarily while you sort it out or in preparation for a divorce, file for a legal separation so there is a clear agreement of things like child custody, child/spousal support, and you’re protected against any big financial moves...this will also help your case in any disagreements or non-compliance on your spouse’s part.

If you are just going to be living separately for a different reason, like when I had to finish my semester at school and my husband got sent to Italy, you just need to make sure your spouse is on it with PSD and that you both understand what’s going to happen with your spouse’s pay when this happens. PSD likely won’t deal with you directly, but you can go to the meetings with your spouse. It might also be worth checking if they’ll accept special power of attorney to be involved with you while your spouse is away, and unlike divorce or separation, JAG actually can help with POA.

Comment by abuon18 on October 30, 2019 at 7:40pm
PPV is housing for single Sailors, not for Sailors with dependents. It's basically like a dorm. But it is for single Sailors who rate BAH (E-5 and above get BAH at the without dependents rate if they are single). As a married service member he is not eligible for that housing.

If he wants to live somewhere else, separate from you, then that will have to be something you two figure out with your finances. It depends on where you both choose to live, how much your living costs are, what your BAH is. If you are separating, the best thing to do is go see legal and get set in the right direction so you know what you are entitled to during your separation.
Comment by Paige on October 30, 2019 at 7:34pm

And if he were to get housing for himself using his base pay only, I would assume he would need to use some of the BAH to cover some living expenses?!

Comment by Paige on October 30, 2019 at 7:29pm

@abuon18 Thank you for the info, yeah I thought originally that service members can apply for housing for themselves without their dependents, he said its called PPV housing

Comment by abuon18 on October 30, 2019 at 7:26pm
Comment by abuon18 on October 30, 2019 at 7:26pm
Also, he will not be authorized military family housing for only himself. If he applies for military housing, you will have to love there as well.
Comment by abuon18 on October 30, 2019 at 7:24pm
Paige, BAH for servicemembers with dependents is to provide housing for their dependents. If he is not using to provide housing for you and your children (if you have any) then that is fraud and you should report to his command.

Regarding the second part of your question, if he is providing housing for his dependents and wishes to pay out of pocket (i.e. with his base pay) for additional housing for himself, then he is free to do so, as far as the Navy is concerned. However, if he is failing to properly take care of his dependents' needs, then there is cause for legal action.
Comment by Paige on October 30, 2019 at 6:34pm

Hi you all, I have a question regarding BAH. Can my husband use our BAH to sign up for military housing for himself? Or can he pay for military housing or off base housing using only his base pay? Can he pay for 2 households?

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Comment by Allison on July 7, 2019 at 12:05am

I don’t know why the first part of the FRG didn’t post, but it is a “social and informational support network” for spouses. They host a variety of events from pre-deployment meetings as necessary to BBQs and Christmas parties. Many of the spouses will be dealing with similar situations or have dealt with them before, so they can be a great resource, and they are lead by trained FRG leaders, typically including the ombudsman, that are prepared to provide knowledge and support. Meetings are also a lot of fun! 


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