Keria-my SR left on the 11th as well, I think it takes about a week and a half or even up to 2 weeks after they leave to get the letter, that's what I've been hearing from people whose SR left about a week or two before us.
I haven't gotten his letter either, but some people who left the same as our SRs started getting them yesterday, hopefully they will come today!! Have you tried contacting his recruiter? I'm not patient enough so that's what I did!
Hi everyone! So my boyfriend left for boot camp about 3 days ago. and i miss him soo much. He told me to make sure I still keep in touch with his parents while he leaves, and make sure they're doing alright without him. I just don't want to feel clingy or I wouldn't know if they just want space or what. Should i stop over there? He said i should get my nails done with his mom but I'm not to sure she was too crazy about the idea. Should i just call them and see if they're up for anything? The worst thing that can happen is they say "No" or "Some other time" right??
Hello! I'm waiting on a letter too...my BF arrived 6/30...our relationship is a new one. So, no form letter or box. We live in two different states...we have spent a total of 8 days together since we met! We text and talk on the phone in between. So waiting for a letter is very, very hard!
Oh my goodness! Yeah that must be really difficult. But it sounds like you two must really love eachother if you've only spent such little time together and are still willing to stick it out for eachother:) it's really inspiring.
Johns girl, i always have this problem when asking people to hang out, i always think im bothering them lol so when my husband was in bootcamp I kept in touch with his mom through e-mail. She never responded but sent me short things about hotels flights etc. Later on after bootcamp my husband told me his mom appreciated all the e-mails and keeping in touch. Shocker lol she never responded.
In your case I would definitly call and say hello, maybe wait a week the first couple weeks are the hardes and she may realise a lil bit down the road she would appreciate a hang out session
We do love eachother! Both surprising for us both...we figured we'd be alone! Then we met & (at least for me) it was love at first sight! He came around about a month later! LOL! Men! I'm not stranger to separations, my dad worked out of town, my ex worked out of town...this is just a really long "job"! Plus, not living in the same state has it's drawbacks! We've been talking about one of us moving closer...I have 2 children, so uprooting them is a concern. Anyhow...still waiting for my letter! Maybe today or tomorrow...since it's so far away!
Oh my god Kac thats actually really relieving that you sorta went through the same thing. Whenever my boyfriend would tell her that i'd stop by or anything she wouldn't seem to thrilled about it so i'd feel like if i did i would be bothering her you know? But thats good I'm gonna send her some texts every now and then because we did exchange numbers!
HvnlySnow itd be good to move closer to each other! even if your children are all settled in where they are it'd probably be nice for them to get to really know your boyfriend would be good! But i'm jealous i wish i could be expecting a letter today or tomorrow! Haha!
Stalking the mailbox today and I have my phone beside me....maybe I'll get a call, you never know! We talked about taking a big vacation after training so we can spend time getting to know eachother and him getting to know my kids. I can't wait!!
No mail, no letter. He's been there three weeks! He's always been so good about communicating with me....I worry. So, I'm at a loss and very disappointed.
keria i agree with you 100% this site really keeps my mind off of it too. Considering i have like 2 more weeks left til i can even start thinking of getting a letter from him :(!
Johnsgirl it gets worse before it gets better! Seems like the longer I go without getting a letter the worse I feel, even though I know the first day he's allowed to write is tomorrow! Getting the box and especially the form letter seem to make people feel a little better, although I haven't gotten either, it went to his parents. Thank gosh we have each other for support!
AHH! I have to share this with y'all because it has been such an emotional day! I have been at the beach for the past week with family and that served as a nice distraction from all this bootcamp misery (sorry, but to me it just plain sucks!) and I get home today with a package for me on my doorstep. I had no idea what it was...figured it was some checks or something, and I opened it and it was a short note from him and a claddagh ring!! Have y'all ever seen one? It has hands holding a heart with a crown on top. Hands for friendship, heart for love, and crown for loyalty. I have ALWAYS dropped hints about wanting one and he had gotten his mom to send it when he left!! I was SO happy and burst into tears...but the problem is I haven't been able to stop. I had not cried at all since the first few days and now I am just falling apart! This 2 week mark is a hard one.
Navygirl, that's awesome! I know exactly what a claddagh ring is! Also known as an Irish engagement ring. And this bootcamp thing just plain sucks for me too, it seems to be getting harder every day instead of easier! Hopefully when we start receiving lettersd it will get better. But such a great day for you, I hope it gets easier for you after that!
Awww! Thanks for the encouragement! I think that I'm just needing his words to reassure me that everything is ok. We haven't known eachother very long & my marriage of 16 yrs really took a toll on my ability to trust. Been divorced 4 yrs & I never thought I would find anyone again. So it's scary! We fell for eachother very fast & thats scary for both of us too...he also just came out of a marriage too. Im trying to focus on other aspects of my life...get squared away so I can look forward with him. Sorry getting over the top here! Thanks for listening!!
Surprises are lovely aren't they Navygirl! His gift was so sweet & thoughtful!
navygirl - that is adorable! i am so happy for you! i am going into week four of my boyfriend being at bootcamp and i can honestly say that i am surprised at how fast it seems to have gone by. When he first left i was a mess and couldn't stop crying but now it doesn't feel like he has been gone almost a month. Just stay strong and vent as much as you need about how much you miss him on here. This website is a godsend, i love it. and it does get better. Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk, i wish you and your boyfriend the best (:
Everyone says that they look back and can't believe how fast it's gone-my boyfriend left 3 weeks ago & it still seems like its dragging! I hope it does get easier but it just doesn't seem like that's going to happen! I really don't know how you've all made it so far & seem to be so well adjusted, I am still a mess & still just so sad all the time! How do you make it through the weekends? I don't even want to leave my bed!
I have good friends, kids & future plans to look forward to with my SR. Pick something positive to focus on. I'm exercising & watching what I eat. It's a good stress reliever!
yeah, i put myself on a work out regime, i never used to have one before so that keeps me busy, plus i just started a new job from 8 am to 3 pm so that is a motivator to get up and start my day. before i would just lay in bed till noon or later. it really is just finding ways to keep yourself busy, plus i am constantly texting and talking to my SR's mom lol we have become really close so in a way it makes me feel connected to him. also, come on the website a ton! it helps to talk to other people who know what you are going through, as much as my friends at home want to be there for me, it just comes down to the fact that they don't know what it is like to be so far away and disconnected from your boyfriend. the girls on here are great to talk to and vent to. (:
I've started working out again (I stopped for awhile after I started dating him!) and that and work keeps me busy during the week but it's the weekends that are really tough. I do stay in touch with his family but actually all of my friends are married or in a serious relationship and it's hard for me to hang out with couples right now, or really spread out. I am on this website ALL THE TIME but it only makes me feel a little better because everyone eles seems so much more well adjusted to this than I am!
I completly understand! Same for me...people are coupled up and don't understand why I don't find someone that lives closer. Well, when you get a second chance at love, you take it...and he is worth it! I'm thankful for this site too! I haven't met any of his family yet, so I don't have the luxury of calling up to see if they've heard anything...I wouldn't impose :) so just have to wait it out for a letter! Thanks everyone for being here! Hope you all have a great day!
I guess me and you are waiting it out together Hvnly... hope you get one soon, I know your SR left before mine, but some divisions do hold their letters for a week, so like if he was allowed to write LAST Sun (7/17) it might not get sent out until today, which might explain why you haven't received it yet. Keeping my fingers crossed for both of us that we get one this week!
Still haven't received my boyfriend's form letter, and he got to GL on 7/12. I'm started to get worried, I hope everything is alright and I hate not being able to call him and make sure!
Does anyone on here live in GA or in the South East? Did you get mail on Wednesday or Thursday? I did not get a letter today like the other mothers did in my SR's division. I am really, really scared and upset that it is not that I have delayed mail that it is that he simply didn't write me...I am just all torn up that he really may have forgotten about me...
Hello everybody! Im new to this site so bear with me lol. I was wondering if anybody would know about how long it takes for your SR to write to you. Mine just left 7/19 and I'm having a hard time being away from him. So any advice would be very appreciated :)
Brittany-you have at least another week. They get to write their second Sunday there (so, this Sunday). Mine left 7/12 & I still haven't gotten anything though. Sometimes they hold the mail for a week after they are allowed to write.
Okay thanks! His mother got his form letter monday so she showed it to me yesterday and I started to cry. Lol I just miss him so much and I don't know how to make it easier. Iv written him a letter everyday and sent 7 out Tuesday so I'v been checkin the mailbox everyday just hoping that maybe there would be something from him there. So far I have been let down :P
Still no letters as of yesterday for me...the family hasn't heard from him either...so I think he's just trying to stay focused! Mybe I'll get the "I'm a Sailor" call?!
Oh my god Brittany7 my boyfriend left 7/19 too omgomgomg is he at great lakes for boot camp?! It hasn't even been two weeks yet and it feels like it's been a month:( I've been trying to keep myself as busy as possible but it's just way to hard to keep my mind off of him:( everyday after this weekend I'll be STALKING my mail man for letters or anythinnggg lol
I got my first letter today!! He wrote it the 17th then they got the privilege away then finished it the 19th! It wasn't postmarked until the 25th...so looks like mail was held back. So keep faith that your letters will come...you just may have to wait it out. He has been sick and had pink eye. My poor SR! He still has his sense of humor! I miss him terribly!
Johnsgirl41111- Yea he is!! That's how its been for me. Lol Luckly Iv been working alot but that dosn't stop my mind from wandering to him. Before he left for basic my SR used to pick me up from work so now everytime I go outside I look for him to be leaning against his car waiting for me. Although I know he won't be there, I always hope <3
Brittany & johnsgirl-the first two weeks are definitely the hardest. My bf left 7/12 so I'm only a week ahead of you. So trust me when I say it gets easier for you this week and of course when you get that first letter (should be this week for you hopefully!) Its unbelievable how time just seems to speed up!
I can't wait for a letter!! Iv written him everyday since he left so I feel like I have been talkin to the mailman more than anything! Lol Im hoping time speeds up cause right now I swear a dead snail moves faster...
It will!! Trust me last week I had everyone telling me what I'm telling you & all I could think was they're crazy, its never gonna go faster! But it really does & he's going to love your letters!
I know Brittany im like best friends with my mail man now too! Loll, but I hope you're right and our letters do come this week because I can't take it anymore!!
I GOT A LETTER YESTERDAY!!!! He sent it with his parents letters to them. So his mom told me and I came by and got it. It was so sweet!!! But he sounds so depressed....I wish he was feeling better :(
Brittany-that's awesome! :) the first letter usually sounds like that, don't worry. The first week or two is the worst for them like it is for us. He'll start to like it and his next letter will be much better!
Wow. Tonight may be the hardest night so far! He has been gone a little over 3 weeks, but to me it just gets worse...it feels like eternity until I will see him- and when I do it will only be for a mere few hours. Then he is off and I won't see him again for a while! I just really miss how things were before he left and I get all depressed thinking they will never be that way again. I am moving across country, he is moving across country and I can only hope we will have breaks at the same time to visit eachother. SO afraid of what the navy will do to my relationship :( I hate it! AND on top of that- no letter for me this week! My SR told me in a phone call Monday he had watch on Sunday and couldn't write. BLAH!!!
Navygirl just try and stay strong:( this may sound a little cliche but if your love is strong enough, which it most likely is, then you guys should find a way to get through it. I've been feeling the same exact way the last 2 weeks since my SR has been gone. Everyone goes on about how fast it goes by..but i feel like its going slower and slower by the moment..
Navygirl-you are lucky because he's only gonna be in bootcamp for 8 weeks. So even though he's been gone for 3, you get to see him in 5, for everyone else it's 9 weeks... So be thankful for that little blessing! You ladies are much stronger than I am, if I was 17 or 18 & in high school or college I know I would not be able to deal with this. In fact, I had some huge struggles before I was able to commit to being a Navy girlfriend even though we're getting married and I'm moving with him. The only thing you can do is see what happens in your relationship. If your love is strong enough like johnsgirl said you will make it but it won't be easy. But you won't know now. Even if he wasn't in the Navy you'd still just have to wait and see.
Thanks girls for all the encouragement. Abuon- I too struggled with the idea of being a navy girlfriend. I could not imagine moving because of the navy. That must be difficult. That is great that y'all are getting married. We plan on getting engaged when I graduate physicians assistant school in 2.5 years that way I will be able to move to him when I get done and hopefully he will decide not to reenlist. I have a feeling he will, but then again I don't know. That will really be a struggle if he does, GAH! I really respect all of yall that are so committed so young, to not only them but to also their career! It's such a crazy life!
well, I have always planned on moving anyway so it's more like an opportunity than a hassle for me to move for him. It's not for the navy that I'm moving really, it's more for me because I always told myself that I would give myself two years back home then be out of here anyway. I have no kids, my family is all spread out, and my friends have moved all over the place since high school anyway, so there's nothing keeping me here. Plus, my career is in hospitality, and more specifically what I went to school for is event planning so it's actually a great career opportunity for me to move with him as well. We are going to get married whenever the navy allows it, lol. He obviously has to get his chit approved and everything but also we have to be in the same place at the same time, financially I can't really fly up to GL again after his PIR so either if he can get leave and come home for a few days or after we're in San Diego.
LOL! I'm not so young Navygirl! I was married for 13 yrs, together 16. I never thought I'd fall in love again...until now! Life is full of choices and sacrfices...and if you are lucky...second chances! For me, my SR & I live 3000 miles apart as it is, so the hard part for me is the very limited communication. We have actually been in eachothers presence 8 days total since we met this past spring...and right now I really want to grab him and kiss him!! I'm not able to go to his graduation or fly down to see him in A school...so my wait is round six months to see him. I carry my phone around at all times! I check the mail everyday! But, I can wait...cuz the future is worth the wait!! Keep your chin up!
I finally got my letter today :DDDDDDDDDDDD best feeling IN THE WORLD <3
I was so happy to hear he's missing me just as much as I'm missing him. He's just really having a hard time being away, he says its so hard being there. but he can't wait till he can come home to me so i can see him in his white uniform he said haha :) he's adorable. I definitely feel a lot stronger with this letter :) It was definitely worth every second waiting for it !
So happy for you johnsgirl! Trust me it gets easier-you don't miss them any less but once you start getting letters it does get easier! And its pretty much like clockwork, you can basically expect thurs to be your letter day!
abuon18
Congratulations Vaughne you'll get to see your SR sooner than the rest of us will!
Jul 19, 2011
abuon18
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abuon18
Jul 21, 2011
Johnsgirl411
Hi everyone! So my boyfriend left for boot camp about 3 days ago. and i miss him soo much. He told me to make sure I still keep in touch with his parents while he leaves, and make sure they're doing alright without him. I just don't want to feel clingy or I wouldn't know if they just want space or what. Should i stop over there? He said i should get my nails done with his mom but I'm not to sure she was too crazy about the idea. Should i just call them and see if they're up for anything? The worst thing that can happen is they say "No" or "Some other time" right??
Help!
Jul 21, 2011
HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
Jul 22, 2011
Johnsgirl411
Jul 22, 2011
Kac46047
Johns girl, i always have this problem when asking people to hang out, i always think im bothering them lol so when my husband was in bootcamp I kept in touch with his mom through e-mail. She never responded but sent me short things about hotels flights etc. Later on after bootcamp my husband told me his mom appreciated all the e-mails and keeping in touch. Shocker lol she never responded.
In your case I would definitly call and say hello, maybe wait a week the first couple weeks are the hardes and she may realise a lil bit down the road she would appreciate a hang out session
Jul 22, 2011
HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
We do love eachother! Both surprising for us both...we figured we'd be alone! Then we met & (at least for me) it was love at first sight! He came around about a month later! LOL! Men! I'm not stranger to separations, my dad worked out of town, my ex worked out of town...this is just a really long "job"! Plus, not living in the same state has it's drawbacks! We've been talking about one of us moving closer...I have 2 children, so uprooting them is a concern. Anyhow...still waiting for my letter! Maybe today or tomorrow...since it's so far away!
Jul 22, 2011
Johnsgirl411
Oh my god Kac thats actually really relieving that you sorta went through the same thing. Whenever my boyfriend would tell her that i'd stop by or anything she wouldn't seem to thrilled about it so i'd feel like if i did i would be bothering her you know? But thats good I'm gonna send her some texts every now and then because we did exchange numbers!
HvnlySnow itd be good to move closer to each other! even if your children are all settled in where they are it'd probably be nice for them to get to really know your boyfriend would be good! But i'm jealous i wish i could be expecting a letter today or tomorrow! Haha!
Jul 22, 2011
HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
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HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
Jul 23, 2011
Johnsgirl411
Ah HvnlySnow don't worry you'll hear from him:(!
keria i agree with you 100% this site really keeps my mind off of it too. Considering i have like 2 more weeks left til i can even start thinking of getting a letter from him :(!
Jul 23, 2011
abuon18
Jul 23, 2011
navygirl
Jul 23, 2011
abuon18
Jul 23, 2011
HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
Surprises are lovely aren't they Navygirl! His gift was so sweet & thoughtful!
Jul 23, 2011
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abuon18
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HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
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Jul 26, 2011
navygirl
Does anyone on here live in GA or in the South East? Did you get mail on Wednesday or Thursday? I did not get a letter today like the other mothers did in my SR's division. I am really, really scared and upset that it is not that I have delayed mail that it is that he simply didn't write me...I am just all torn up that he really may have forgotten about me...
Jul 27, 2011
Brittany (ship07/div303)
Jul 29, 2011
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Jul 30, 2011
Brittany (ship07/div303)
Yay! Happy for you Hvnlysno!!
Johnsgirl41111- Yea he is!! That's how its been for me. Lol Luckly Iv been working alot but that dosn't stop my mind from wandering to him. Before he left for basic my SR used to pick me up from work so now everytime I go outside I look for him to be leaning against his car waiting for me. Although I know he won't be there, I always hope <3
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HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
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HvnlySno (S11, DIV 276)
Aug 3, 2011
Johnsgirl411
I finally got my letter today :DDDDDDDDDDDD best feeling IN THE WORLD <3
I was so happy to hear he's missing me just as much as I'm missing him. He's just really having a hard time being away, he says its so hard being there. but he can't wait till he can come home to me so i can see him in his white uniform he said haha :) he's adorable. I definitely feel a lot stronger with this letter :) It was definitely worth every second waiting for it !
Aug 4, 2011
abuon18
Aug 4, 2011