Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

yea apparently some ships arent allowed it either. Idk why ours is. Apparently its the super strict on everything else but I guess they give them this one thing haha Yea you would really be surprised what some people will send over email lol one lady was like I dont care who all else sees it as long as he sees it to.. I was like ummmmmmm really??

wow thats really nice! We get to email pretty often but thats pretty much it. but only through the Navy email. but they also have a lot of OPSEC violations on my husbands ship not only the spouses but the sailors themselves. Some of the IT guys apparently can get on facebook and one of them apparently posted that they would be pulling into Dubai in a few days (not like right now but he did it a few months back when they were about to pull in) but the guys are realllyyyy bad about it and posting how many days are left! its a hot mess!!

haha if my husband ever showed pictures of me like that on his own he would find himself single quickly. If he wants a girl that doesnt care if he did that then I am sure that he could find a girl like that... somewhere.. not here! haha!

I'm amazed how many people don't realize that no cell phone call is secure.  Every one of them can be monitored. Facebook security is a joke.  I used to work with crypto, so I had the training, not just OPSEC and PERSEC, but also anti-espionage.  I've kept updated, because you can find the training online if you want the information.    Scary, and scarier as technology advances.  We have people trained to puzzle out terrorist activity from the smallest of clues, you'd better believe the bad guys do too.  And yeah, they can pose as anyone online.  

Hard to decide what is simple caution and not just paranoia!

oh yea we get warned EVERY single meeting not to post dates anywhere. Since this deployment started they have violated OPSEC on this website, facebook, twitter, and Instagram just to name a few! Its a PAIN you will actually be surprised just how many people do violate opsec. I see people doing it all the time. Not only for my husband's ship but many many others! Across all branches of the military! The new thing people are doing is the percentage of the deployment down or what percent is left. Which although it isnt technically violating opsec right now it really does. Almost all units publish or announce they have left so it only takes like middle school math to figure out a time frame of when they would be back. I ask people alll the time to take stuff down. If I ever get a return frame I say like summer/fall lol!! which is like a 6 month window!!! haha I dont even put the month!! he is attached to the Lincoln. Its mind boggling how many people think that facebook is so safe! really how many people have their accounts hacked?? geez!!

Meg i see what you are saying and totally know and understand that violating things are a HUGE NO NO!!!! Do you want to see your sailor again? I know i do!! lol people dont take stuff serious because they think nothing can happen to them its just words..but like you are indangering soooo many people both away and here at home!! mine as well just have targets all over your back & everyone who is deployed. smh  Anti M you are soooo right. anything can be hacked or accessed. as much as i set everything very private on my FB i know for a fact stuff can be accessed and found or read.  Some just dont realize what you post can cause negative things to happen. its sad & unfortunate when privileges like emails or calls can be taken away to everyone for one persons actions.Don't get me wrong. no one is perfect, not even me..but common sense isnt so common lol

Does anyone have a SR at boot camp? We just got my boyfriend's ship and div # (ship13/div 236). I can't wait to send all my letters to him!

Anti M thats what I am saying! Its utterly mind boggling! I actually have a friend that lives in military housing by the base here and pretty much some guy hacked into all their computers. Their facebooks, emails, desktops, even hacked into a woman's skype session with her deployed husband. Found out she had a 10 yr old daughter, stalked her until they left and broke in and stole all her daughters underwear! He ended up being a convicted pedophile! But seriously he went to those lengths to find out who had female children in their house imagine what our enemies would do to get that information from our computers! The USS Cole was def linked to people letting information out. My dad helped with the clean up on that ship when they brought it back to the US finally. Even all that time later he said it was horrible! I told one wife.. let me find out you made that body part my husband by leaking information lol. but for real. I dont understand why people feel the urge to post that information!

PERSEC is soo huge too! they linked a wife getting killed in VA beach to her posting on fb she was home alone and tagged her house!

The wives from my husbands ship seriously have been throwing hissy fits this whole deployment since they have moved home and cant get dates and information and whatnot. They wanted the FRG to call them, text them, email. and even send out a freaking newsletter via snail mail.. umm since when did the post office never lose a letter??

Know what scares me?  Those car window family decals, with the names of the kids and the pets, and bumperstickers of the kids' schools.  Practically begging a pedophile to walk up to your kid and asking them to find Sparky the family dog.  

I'm not on my nephew's FRG, he tells me what he wants when he wants.  I can figure out when he's deployed by how lonely his GF is on FB, and she's pretty good about never posting much info.  

As much as I was tempted to, I never posted that my hubby left.  I feel pretty secure with 225lbs of dogs in the house, but still didn't want to risk it.  Can't imagine what someone would have to be thinking to make that info public.  In fact, I never post anything to my profile that I wouldn't want the world to know.  I figure, my profile is set to private, but anything online is fair game.

Anti M Me too!!! Children are naturaly more trusting of someone that knows their name. Especially if they know other information such as the dogs name! They can easily convince a child that they are a family friend they just dont remember them. When I worked at a daycare we pounded it into those kids heads, stranger danger! lol For days after I would have kids coming to test Ms. Meagan lol my favorite was the little boy that would come up and say oh Ms Meagan want some candy and I would say oh yes. and he would yell NO STRANGER DANGER!!! haha.

What a wonderful surprise!   

Find BunkerQB ... she will know a lot about groups in that area.  Her son is now out of the Navy, but she's in NoCal, and she is still here helping new members.

Hi ladies!,

My fiance just got shipped out to go to bootcamp june 6. Im so excited to see him at graduation august 3. But Im trying to figure out how long after A school he gets to come home for before he gets deployed. If anyone is going through, or has been through this before or has any pointers, It would be greatly appreciated! :)

Tracy - I don't really know the answer...I just know my boyfriend has been in since 2009 and just got his first deployment starting end of March this year.  I don't know if that's the normal amount of time or if depends on his station or what.  I know he went underway several time for several weeks at a time to practice naval war games,but they never were officially deployed.  Hopefully someone else can give you more insight!

Ashley- Thanks for your info! what job did your boyfriend go in for?  Mine is a damage controlman and he was hoping to get deployed right out of A school so that he could be back in time for us to get married next august.

Tracy its going to depend on a lot of other things lol. He could get assigned to a ship right out of a school that is already deployed and he could get sent out immediately or he could get assigned to a ship that is in drydock and not go out for quite awhile. there is really no way to tell for sure other than be ready for as soon as he graduates him getting sent out.

Tracy - he's an electronics technician.  It would be nice from your boyfriend to get deployed ASAP and get it over with right at the first and maybe get some time after that.  I'm hoping when the New York gets back he doesn't get deployed again for a long while.  This is torture.  LOL

My nephew was sent out to his boat (sub) in the Persian Gulf immediately, while my ET went to a ship in San Diego and didn't go on a long deployment for a few moths.  

The Navy has a way of choosing your wedding date for you.  Hope it all goes well!

Tracy, it really just depends on which ship/boat he gets assigned to. 

My husband had 30 days leave and then was immediately flown to his ship which had already been on deployment for 4 months. He finished out the deployment with them. 

He should get some leave time after A school, but if you mentally prepare yourself for him to go out as soon as he gets to his first duty station, then you won't be emotionally unprepared when he leaves immediately.

Hope for the best, but plan for the worst!

I just found this book on Amazon and wondered if any of you guys would find it helpfu. I haven't read it yet, but it seems like a handy guide to figuring out the Navy from the spouse's POV http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Military-Spouse-Survival-ebook/dp/B0...

I've never read that one jazzelle. But Married to the Military by Meredith Leyva is a really good reference material for everything military. From moves to pay to healthcare, its a great resource!

I took a Compass Course and they gve us a book called "Sea Legs" on CD I havent had time to sit down and look at it yet! maybe I can start that! lol

Has anyone recently moved to NS Mayport?

We live in Jacksonville. My fiance is trying to get contracted out there once he gets back from a school. Mayport is nice. You also have the bigger base NAS Jax which is about 45 minutes away.

Hi Kbreanne. Is your husband in the reserve's or active?

And yes it is best to stay south of town. I have been in Mandarin since I've moved up from Miami 4 years ago and haven't had any problems!

Ok. That is when the fun begins! This site will become your eyes into bootcamp as to what he will be doing from week to week and what to expect while he is there. There are groups that has SR's in your husbands division and you really start feeling like you are apart of a family! My sailor will finally be done with bootcamp next Friday after 10 LONG weeks! The hardest part is leaving them at the hotel the night before they leave and then each day after it will get easier! :)

Mandisa,

My husband just got stationed at Mayport and I moved here like 3 weeks ago. We are living on based housing right now because we are both not familiar with Jacksonville (from New York). Can you please explain further about staying south? I mean Jacksonville is huge and we trying to live off base but clueless as to where would be a good neighborhood....

Jacksonville is an alright place to live. You have four major side's. Northside, Eastside, Westside, Southside/Mandarin. The best places are either Southside or Mandarin. They are the most developed area's and the most diverse.

LOL, Mandisa.... you realize with the Navy, if you live near a base where it would be convenient to commute, that they'll give him orders for halfway around the world?  

haha Anti M! Thats how it was with us! He even requested the base 30 minutes from us! lol they gave it to another kid in his class from halfway across the country and I moved twice in the last year bc of the orders we got instead lol!

and the other kid was single. lol would have saved them tonsss of money and been a lot easier to switch our orders hahah!

Hubby thinks it is a way to get the young sailors to concentrate on being sailors and not falling back into their old familiar civilian roles.  You'll never find that as official policy, but it sure fits how orders seem to be issued, doesn't it?

I agree! I am sort of glad we got moved away. We have both found out who are true friends are especially this deployment.. I have all of... no friends from back home that ever really ask how I am doing at all. Well one but she is busy supporting a household with a flakey baby daddy. Actually the one person that asks how I am doing it his childhood best friend. Hopefully this means when we go home we dont spend days hanging out with his friends who all claim to be emailing him all the time and really arent. On the flip side I miss my family like crazy. I have a 3 year old little sister so it would have been good for our relationship if I could have lived closer but since my parents just buoght a webcam its helping a lot!!!

megan5220 do you think that maybe it is hard for friends to relate to what you are going through? I am not making excuses for anyone but what I do know is that being in a military long distance relationship is rare. Most of my high school friends, college friends, have boyfriends, husbands in town. Actually aside from myself I only know of two other friends back in my hometown that are in a military long distance relationship. Most of the time that my friends would try to be there, it was kind of like I had to comfort them while they tried to comfort me.  At the end of the day, I learned its better to accept people for who they are and not dwell on the relationships that are not giving you the time of day versus nourishing the relationships that you already have & keeping those strong. Being in the military life I am sure you will be able to find more friends who will be able to understand what you are going through and be there for you. Just have to be positive =) like fine wine good friends will come in time. -i might have changed that expression a little bit but still true =) 

I dont think its a valid excuse to never talk to your friends. I have made attempts to talk to them and I barely get a response at all if ever.Being in a miliatry relationship where I am from isnt rare. Either way a true friend would take a second to text every so often and at least see if you are still alive. I am not upset about it. I would rather people show their true colors while I am young. then I can cut them out of my life and stop having fake friends. I am not a negative person more a realist. This is life and its not my loss. I honestly dont try to make to many military friends either. Too much drama honestly. I have my family and my husband and my few close friends and its not skin off my back if people are fake.

Not saying all military people are drama but I cut a lot of drama out when I was in college and as soon as I started making friends in my husbands command my name started getting thrown around in all sort of conversations. I know it depends on a lot of factors but I dont have time to try and weed out the possible good friends lol I have heard stuff about people that is not even relatively close to true and its ridiculous.

lol that's real. =) I wish I had more friends that just spoke their mind. I should not have to tell you how to be a friend, just be there when I need you like how I have been there for you. I understand where you are coming from. I skipped the drama in high school, I don't plan on having it in my adult life.

haha. I dont uhh sugar coat haha! I mean I dont try to offend lol. but I am pretty blunt lol saves everyone time and heartache lol!! Yea I have one of my "best friends" the only time she has made any comment to me on her own since I left almost 4 months ago was to make a rude statement on my status about the gay rights situation then her bf got on and was a compelete jerk AND an idiot coining terms to describe why he thought gay rights was wrong and talk about politics. Otherwise she hasnt said anything to me unless I made contact first and even then she ignores it half the time. lol oops sorry to rant. lol Sometimes that one irritates me. lol Yea the hs I went to was full of drama. I tried to stay out of it but even 5 years later I went to something where there were tons of hs ppl and my drunk ex came up and yelled about how everyone was talking about how I finally came back to them lol. they are all drunks and druggies they dont like someone breaking that mold haha.

I know that is a possibility if he goes to active duty in the future. My friend is in that situation right now with her husband and I see how difficult it is for her.

hello everyone my name is gina, My Boyfriend is on the USS Eisenhower. This is my 1st time joining this website :)

Thank you lacey! :) i just got my 2nd email today it's always good to hear from him!!

haha Veronica I hear ya!! lol ppl are a hot mess! lol

snmouse it sucks but I am also glad to know who is really there for me. Plus when we go home on leave we know who is worth spending time with lol!!

I am glad you ladies got some emails!! If your sailors dont have skype already I strongly suggest setting one up for them and getting a webcam you can get good ones for $40 at best buy or somewhere! We didnt skype til last port but its been so amazing! Makes me verry happy to be able to see him! We are nearing the end of our deployment lol but I wish we would have done it from the beginning! they can only skype in ports but its awesome!