Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Usually the week of.  The dates are not supposed to be posted, so if you can't find the info, someone is doing something right.

I'm so glad to finally find some people that have love ones in the same DIV as my husband :)

why cant a sailor get married if his hard copy says japan?

Why cant a sailor get married in A SCHOOL?
Who can he ask for permission?

Sailors can marry in A school.  They do need to run a special request chit up their chain of command, and to complete counseling or pre-marital classes if ordered to do so.  No one can stop them from marrying unless they are underage.  

Sailors can get married if they have orders to Japan.  However, if they are an E-3 or below, their new spouse cannot go to Japan.  The Navy doesn't authorize that.  If they have orders in hand, orders to anywhere, then get married, the spouse will not be moved on the Navy's dime.

Forgot to add: spouse cannot just go to Japan without command sponsorship.  That gives the new spouse the correct visa so they can stay in country, and would be eligible for housing, for use of base facilities, for employment on base.

Came back home from PIR yesterday...best weekend ever! :)

Yay!  What were the highlights for you?

Anti M: Everything about it was absolutely amazing. The look on my sailor's face when he spotted me in the crowd was a moment I'll remember for the rest of my life! We hung out with his parents until he had to go back to his barracks at 8:00 pm the day of PIR. He flew to San Antonio the next day for Corpsman A school, but much to my luck, even though they bussed them to Midway airport at 2 in the morning, he didnt fly out until that evening. His parents and I went to the airport to give him his phone and laptop, but they had to leave to drive back home. Lucky for me, I flew in and my return flight wasnt until sunday. We got to spend a good chunk of the day together, just me and him. Even caught a bus from the airport to Chicago mall for a little bit! :) Best weekend ever!!

Oh I forgot to mention we went to go see the Cubs play at Wrigley Field that afternoon of PIR...lol a pretty big detail to forget, but obviously my focus wasnt on the game...lol I dont even know who won or who they were playing! haha

Going on week 3 of this....i can't adjust to this no contact thing - it's just so odd to me. I wish I could get a phone call or one of his letters already.....I thought after getting his form letter I'd feel better, but as time moves on I'm feeling worse - It's so strange not hearing from him, i can't explain it....ugh :(

Hey Juliette it will get better I promise. I know exactly how you feel. Once the letters start coming (and they will) it gets so much better. I will never again take for granted a simple text or phone call that can happen in a matter of seconds. This whole one or two letters a week has made me appreciate my SR so much. It has made our relationship stronger than it ever has been! Hang in there. It will get better!

Thanks guys...i'm hanging by a thread right now! ...it's only the beginning of week 3, so i'm guessing i probably won't hear from him till next week, if at all? i'm going on day 14...and it's just weird, i'm always staring at my phone since it hasn't left my side yet, hoping it rings or something. I hope he writes me - I know he has to miss me, but I know how busy they are so I sure hope he struggles to send me letters..I miss him dearly.

Agreed with all that was said! And although I can't really say it gets much easier, but I think you learn to somewhat cope as time moves on. I, as well as everyone else, has my good days and my bad days. I come to find that the nights are the WORST time for me. Once I get home from a busy day at work, where I'm distracted and not thinking too too much, I come home to an empty place - where's it's just me....and he's no where to be found. I can't seem to cope with that just yet. Just the other night I sobbed myself to sleep, so I get it! It's so extreme to have them with you always one moment in time...and now nothing - it's like they were cut from the earth. I don't think I'll ever deal with the no contact rule. It's the worst thing about this whole experience....cheer up Anndrya, your letter is coming soon! I'm here if you want to talk because I SO get it, especially since our guys have been away the same amount of time :(

I'm dreading entering October though. Especially since he doesn't graduate until 11/09....and with the uncertainty of phone calls it makes it worse! I know with each day it's a day closer, but it's so hard to see that when you feel like it's taking so long to finally communicate with each other. I'm on day 15 with no communication. How soon did u get his letters? I feel like I need something at this point!

I hope sure hope so! I think that was one of my worries - I've been writing every day, so will he be able to read all my mail lol? I know everyone says they live for those letters...so I keep sending them out. I more so plan to just send a bunch each week at one time. Hopefully he gets to most of them. I also hope he has time as well to write to me. I kind of figured that the beginning letters may be short because of sheer exhaustion. Nonetheless, it just will be nice to hear from him soon. And Ghost is a perfect example of what this is LOL. It's so weird - just knowing each other is out there but you can't communicate. It's so hard to explain lol! Well I hope you're right and I finally get one this week...that would be great. Not having high expectations though as everyone is different....Did you write to your guy every single day? I know my fiance is going to have ALOT of letters when it's all said and done lol.....

Lol..ok, well thanks for the input! I wasn't sure. I sent out ALOT of letters the day after i received his form letter. Some have said its hard to read everything each night...so I wasn't sure? But I'll scatter them throughout the week I suppose...

my one friend had said her bf got her mail on the same day ever week...so it never mattered on whether she sent one letter at a time or a bunch at once - he got them the same day? so...yeah...i dont know?!

I know my husband liked getting mail nearly every night.  He only sent me 4 letters, but each one was written diary style, with a little paragraph for each day.  He said he was writing after Taps by the "red light".  In one of his letters he had written that he didn't get a letter that night, so he was hoping for 2 the next day. As you can see, it's sort of torturous to wait all week to see if you get a letter, so even if they do get all bunched up, I'd still send something every day. 

If you run out of things to write about, try looking up a bootcamp day-by-day thing and read up on what he's doing.  I tried to sound peppy on what was coming up.  For instance, I knew he was looking forward to the firing range, so when I was writing about that week, I reminded him that his FOID card had come a couple days after he left.  I had joined a group on here (and Facebook) for his PIR date and those ladies usually got more mail than I did, so I at least knew what was going on.  BIG help!

Ok cool thanks guys! I guess then I'll send out letters throughout the week. That way he gets them daily. I don't know if I could live off of only four letters though lol. It would be really nice to get one or two a week once things catch up. I guess I'll see how it goes for him. I haven't missed a day yet to write to him - somedays I even wrote twice, if I had some spare time at work I'd write and say hello to him. Sometimes its hard because I think of everything I want to say during the day, then sometimes draw a blank at night :( Nonetheless he has ALOT of reading material. I guess tomorrow I'll send out some more letters I have...to keep up the pace. I haven't a clue how he's dealing yet - kind of hard since we haven't spoken since he got off the plane....so i can't seem to know what he's dealing with - if he's ok, or if it's awful for him? Hopefully I hear from him soon....it would make all the difference!!

This is another ridiculous question, but do you think it's safe to just drop off my letters to him in the outgoing mail box outside of my apartment complex? it's part of our mailboxes....i just felt sketchy and more safer dropping them off at the big mail box at the post office - does it really make a difference? i just want to be SURE they get to him!

lol yeah...place is safe where i live, but i still just don't trust it you know? I think i'll play it safe and drop it off at the post office lol!

If the outgoing mailbox is accessible to others, I would drop it at the PO.  I had an apartment where the common practice was to set your outgoing on top of the mailboxes and the carrier just picked it up.  After having some mail not reach its destination, I learned my lesson. 

I printed out some stuff and mailed to him because they don't get to find out what they are doing the next day until taps right before bed.  Even PIR, they did not know what time the ceremony was or ended or anything.  We really do know a lot more about what they are doing than they do. 

Anndrya..join our PIR group!!! come chat with us and know all the girls that will be at PIR for their sailors!

PS..just look at my page and check out my groups, you'll find it there.

thank you everyone! =)

Got the "i'm a sailor" call! What a happy day!

So I just got back last night from my boyfriends graduation and I must say it was amazing to see him again. Everything just felt exactly the same as before and it felt like we were never apart. For all of you who have a Sailor graduating soon, you'll have a great time. :)

Mayers 10,

Yayyy Im so happy for you. Wasn't it great? I felt the exact same way when I saw my boyfriend again. It was like he never even left! He's been at A school in San Antonio for about a week and a half now and we talk everyday...even though I miss him and cant wait to see him again, I feel closer to him than ever. BC was hard, but it made our love a million times stronger than I ever thought it  could be! :)

Briana, yes it was great. Just seeing him made everything better and made me realize just how much I love being with him, even though I already knew that. Boot camp was hard and really long but I'm looking forward to hearing from him every day and even looking forward to the next time I see him when ever that will be.

That's awesome :) it definitely gets better in A school...I love getting "Good morning" texts from my boyfriend and texting/talking to him at night! I just cant wait til he comes home again. Christmas cant come fast enough! Lol

I want to try to visit him before Christmas at least once between the three months because three months is just too long. So maybe for Thanksgiving if I have time. 

Yeah three months is pretty hard, but unfortunately, I think me and my bf will have to wait it out. Although he will have time off for thatnksgiving, I cant afford to travel there and we decided it would be best for him to just stay where he is cause we wouldnt want him to have to choose between coming home (south carolina) and seeing me or going to florida where his family gathers for Thanksgiving every year, and its impossible to split the time. I guess we just have to hang in there!

Yeah I might just have to wait it out too. That would be hard though making him decide. But on the bright side phones do help a lot, especially skype lol.

The other hard ting for the sailor is they only have so much leave and training commands are strict.  As new sailors, most don't have the time on the books to take both turkey day and Christmas off.  They're only allowed so many days "in the hole" (borrowed forward from days they haven't earned yet).  They may have liberty on Thanksgiving, but they can't travel unless they're on leave or can get an "out of bounds" chit approved.   

If they are in a longer school, or have gotten up to C school, they may be have the leave days, or they may be able to get their travel chits approved.  

I hope everyone has terrific holidays!

Lol for sure. I'm a little bummed cause he's also going to miss my 20th birthday (Nov. 5) and I'm almost not even excited for it cause he's not gonna be here, but he promised me that even though he wont be here, he will still make it special. Not sure what he means, but knowing him, he's got some sweet surprise up his sleeve. But seeing him for Christmas will be amazing, even if we have to wait a while for it! :) And I have the feeling I might get an extra special present from him this year! :D

That sounds really sweet. Surprises are always fun and when you say extra special does that mean what I think it means lol.