Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Sabra - This link is for the PIR group your boyfriend is in:  PIR 2/1/13

This is the group that is made for the loved ones of recruits who graduate that day.  I checked, and Div 78 is in there.  Join the group and read all the discussions at the top, introduce yourself, etc.  You all have recruits there going through the same thing at the same time and it'll be a huge help for you to be in contact with them.  There are also veteran moms that help by answering questions and providing support and guidance.  There are similar groups on facebook.  I personally joined both on NavyForMoms and Facebook.  Facebook seems to be more of a social thing, whereas N4M has more info. 

I went to a Christmas party with my Bfs family yesterday. My Bf is in basic his PIR will be 1/04/2013. He had his Mom give me a Christmas present he had got for me before he left. I had no clue he had done that. I started crying when I opened it because I was so happy! It was a necklace with a little anchor on it! :) I am so happy! I Love him so much!

It is true that many of the benefits are only in place during active duty, however, that is not just deployment.  For you, the good news is A school and his other training counts as active duty.

Hey ladies, I have a question. My fiancee is in seps and I was wondering if he could appeal?

Anyone can answer my questions?
My husband is in Boot right now. I called DEERS and they said I am in the system already under my husband's name.
But when's the form gonna come?
And what else do I need to know as a new Navy Wife here?

I also wanna know about getting paid.
Is that possible to change the bank? Like changing to the other bank?
How long does it takes? Is it gonna delay anything?

YAYY! After almost 11 mths apart we are getting married 12/28!!! I am getting everything together so that our day is awesome and filled with love, family and good food. Hang in there ladies! My bf called me yesterday to tell me that his world is me and the Navy. <3

Not really sure where to ask this question...Question about BAH - I just saw that with the new 2013 rates released, the BAH in my area is going down. Will that affect me, or will I stay at the 2012 rate since I started receiving it already?

wynona - I got my DEERS form about 3wks after my husband left. I was already in the system too, but his signature was on the form which is what they wanted. If your husband didn't take his bank information with him for the direct deposit, then he will have opened up a new account at basic. I doubt it can be changed to another bank during bootcamp unless you have a power of attorney. 

SailorVsWife - Your BAH cannot go down, it will only stay the same or go up if you stay in the same duty zip code.  It's grandfathered in.  So if you move to a different station, you will get the current BAH rate for that zip code, but if you stay where you are, your BAH will stay the same.  The lower rate will only affect people moving into that area. 

WhoooHooo Heathee!!

NicksWifey is right on the BAH part! As far as getting your ID I have heard of people doing it before but call your local IDs office because some are stricter than others. Some require you have a POA for it and a special form and whatnot. I would just wait in case you need it asap but it probably shouldnt be too far behind him leaving. I have heard typically they get it 3-4 weeks after their spouses leave typically.

As far as changing banks that is going to be something he would have to do unless you had a special POA saying you could go do that but even then Idk if they would actually let you. My hsuband was told if he changes his bank it could take awhile to catch up and it can cause issues idk if thats true or not but we have just never risked it. Anything having to do with money can take a few pay cycles to kick in.

Thanks ladies!  

Hello ladies my name is Janice my hubby just left December 10th can anyone give me advice on liberty for the 804 division special warfare unit he graduates on Feb 1st and we're trying to get married

Hello everyone! I am very new to this site as well. My boyfriend left for bootcamp on December 10th, he is in ship 03, div 092. I think I am getting used to the fact that he is gone but I still have days when I feel very sad and lonely. I am thankful that friends and family are close by to support me. Anyway, my boyfriend told me before he left for bootcamp that he won't be writing any letters while in bootcamp... I am still hoping that he was not serious! Reading a letter or hearing his voice will make me feel a lot better! I have been writing letters to him everyday, but I constantly remind myself that I may not receive any letters back. =( I do not know much about the military life and I got lots of info from this group.... A school scares me a lot due to the negative experiences that some ladies had but I hope our relationship will not be affected drastically. Anyway, i hope everyone enjoy their weekend!!! =)

@mitchie - It is going to be hard. No way around it. I think he might not know how much he will be doing each day so maybe he thought he would not be able to write. Even if you don't get a letter write him tons. It will help more than you know. My boyfriend said he got crap for getting the most letters every week but he didn't care because he LOVED it. I would say NOT to worry about the negative experiences others go through. No couples love story is the same. You and your SR have your own love story and that is what you should embrace and focus on. There will be a lot of negativity surrounding your relationship, especially from those that don't understand. Believe in what you two have, and do what is best for you and him. Enjoy the holidays and write, write, write :)

hey mitchie keep writing him no matter what, they need all the love and support they can get, trust me he will come around if he hasn't already and start writing you also 

They are allowed to write on Sundays, but not the first couple of weeks.  He'll write when the others are writing.   They make them do it.   Hang in there and keep writing to him.

Mitchie

Keep on keeping on! Write him everyday like you have been. It will brighten his day. My BF told me he was going to study during letter time, but that never bothered me. I was like, "aww really?"When he told me, but something made me think that after being gone for a week he would either write me or his Mom. He has wrote me every week since he has left. :) Keep your head up and your pen handy. Writing letters will not only support your, but make you feel better and strengthen your relationship. :) MERRY CHRISTMAS MITCHIE! Also, he should be allowed to write you on Christmas.

Also, like these ladies are saying, they can only write on Sunday, and not for the first few weeks. If you get letters that were not written on Sunday do not post that you received them on here. Sometimes RDCs check this site, and they will punish your sailor, for writing when he was not allowed. Stay strong and Love your Sailor!

Hi there. My husband is still in Boot Camp. But I've heard about Brown Bag (live off base) while he's in A school?

Does anyone know about that? And anyone know if that's easy to apply/get approval? How long does it takes?

Any answers will be great. Appreciate it. :)

@Abuon18, he will be going to San Antonio, Texas for A school. Do you know if he will possibly get approval?
I would love to be with him. Enough long distance. lol

@Britt, how come they don't get to live off base? Because it's too short? Or some other reason?
And how are those phase work? I don't really know about that.
And his C school is even shorter than A school actually. 

@Angie, well, I guess we will probably keep the long distance thing going. And just plan to go visit once or twice a month then.
You know, I would love to stay in an area that knowing people around. And he would love that too. :)

@Britt, thanks for your information. That helps a lot. Well, so better don't visit him until he's in phrase 2, right?
About C school. The only one that will go to C school right away is the one who go with the Marine (FMF). And which is another 2 months. 
For the others, they will go to C school, but not right away. 

@Britt, those information help a lot!!
Are you serious? They are trying to do that? So basically giving people that are better a better chance, right?
I think it's good to do that actually. My husband wanna be an officer as soon as possible. So more training/schooling will be great. 
So did he go up to phrase 3 in 3 weeks really? Or longer?

Hi, I have a question about BAH. Our October to November BAH with dependent was based on Hawaii's zip code (where I reside), and for some reason this month it changed to Great Lakes zip code.  My husband is an E3 currently living in BEQ Great Lakes for A school as an FC.  I am still living in Hawaii. What location should our BAH be based?

Anyone here who lives in San Diego? Found out that is where we will be going and want to get some info on the best options of where to live. Anything would help! :) Thanks!

Are you married?  Makes a difference, as he probably won't be getting BAH as a single sailor in San Diego.  

Just thought some of you would be interested in the link I got sent last time I emailed my nephew on the sub and forgot to choose "plain text":

http://berkutsystems.com/modified/

Anti M, I have a few friends that are sub wives and one time one of them sent me this link. She thought she had done something wrong and was in trouble lol. But After reading it they are definitely a lot more strict than ships!! Its understandable though! Sometimes when they would have half of my husband's ships down for RC the other half would still be up and I had to make sure to send smaller emails in plain text or they would get kicked back.

I think ships may have more capacity.  Of course, that depends on the size of the ship and how new the systems are.  

Yeah the captain told us that they had more than one server.. and thats how they shut down the different parts of the ship... He didnt really go into detail when he was explaining it and I am not completely tech savvy soo I might have mixed stuff up lol :)

at least I think he said server?? lol

Server is right.  

Hi Everyone,

My bf's PIR 02/08/13 and he's on ship13div100. I'm going to start planning for my trip. Hopefully, I'll get to meet you guys at the grad! :D

Hey Ladies, I have a question. When is a good time to get married in "A School"? What kind of paperwork does my S/O fill out to be able to get married? I heard they receive their Duty Station orders a month before they graduate is that true?

My S/O will be attending "A School" in Port Hueneme California

Thank you very much for your help!!! Any informational links would be great too :)

Just wanted to post this for anyone going out tonight for NYE or maybe to pass on to your sailors that might be heading out to celebrate. Hoping for a fun but safe NYE for everyone. And ladies if you go out, be safe. Sober or not the roads aren't the best place to be, but if you're drinking this is a free and safe way to get home:

The American Auto Club (AAA) sponsors a complimentary "Tipsy Tow" service on New Year's Eve that offers free rides and vehicle tow up to seven miles from the point of pickup to drivers who have consumed an excess amount of alcohol. Tipsy Tow service is available to members and non-members. Ask for a Tipsy Tow by calling 1-800-400-4222.

hi my boyfriend came home from a school the sunday before chirtmas and left that saterday and im really haveing a hard time with him being gone. i feel like hes going to brake up with me. but i know hes not going. but why do i feel like this and i felt like when he left for bc and the day after PIR