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Janet did your daughter like bootcamp? What did she say the wrost part was?

Thank you =] I leave mon and really nervous. Im not a girly girl either so ill be good lol. How did she say the running was and the tests?

Does anyone know anybody who liked bootcamp?

Yesterday it hit me. Only one more weekend with my son and then he is gone. We went to the office yesterday to finish his paperwork etc. Today, off to the bank etc. Nothing like waiting until the last minute - but that is Seby. Want to see him tell then in BC - no we can do it later. lol.

kk thank you for that =] I thought i was the only one that was in the situation im in where me and my fiance are both in bootcamp but to hear your son and gf are in together makes me feel better lol. Did they say if they are writing eachother or ever get to see eachother? I leave mon for bc and getting really nervous.

thank you for the advice. I will be sending letters to his mom to give to him and he will be sending to my house and my mom will send to me. No we didnt ship on the same date =[ He left a month ago and i leave mon. His pir is 9/2. But I think it was kind of a good thing we had this time apart so it wont be that hard when I leave cause i have already been away from him for a month. I just have to have the hard part of leaving my parents but its only 9 weeks. Then he gets to come to my PIR cause his A school is in GL. =]

Thank you Janet R. glad to read I am not the only Mom in that situation. This site has been a Godsend for me as I have no family here and my husband's family does not approve of Seby's choice. My friends are great, but don''t understand the emotional swings I am going through. Thank you to all the Moms out there supporting each other - it is terrific.

kimbob... you are leaving out of Houston right? You sure it's Monday? If so, I will see you there and you will be leaving with my daughter. Her boyfriend will be coming to bootcamp 4 weeks after her.

kk...thanks for the info on how they can mail each other :) How lucky you get to see both of them graduate!!! and now kimbob's honey too!!!

I leave mon to go to the hotel in houston and tues evening I fly out of houston... Thank you kk =]

Janet, thanks for your support. It is really nice to sign on this site and read the comments. I don't feel so alone.:)

Morning all... Today is my last day here, Its a very busy day. Is anyone elses child leaving from houston airport tues aug 10?

Good Morning all - Here I go signing on before I even have my first cup of coffee, but coming here soothes me and gets me prepared for the rest of the day.

kimbob699 - best of luck on the next step of your journey. You will be fantastic.

Janet R. thanks - how true it is

Angie - thanks so much for stopping by and updating us. Great news! Congrats to you and Michelle!

My son leaves home tomorrow for the hotel and to MEPS on the 10th. We will be going to his swearing in but he doesn't really want us to go to the airport. But that could change as well. His best friend since 5 and his family have been with us for two weeks and will also be going to the swearing in with us. I have been so happy they are here to help me through this departure time. Have been so okay with it. But then Wednesday will come along and i will be all alone, but will cross that bridge when I get there.

Have a great day everyone!

kimbob699- Good Luck and know there are a bunch of MOMS cheering for your!

My last day also. The recruiter picked her up an hour ago. I'm OK, since we will go over tomorrow to see the swearing in. Good Luck to everyone with a child leaving his week.

My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you. My son goes to the hotel on the 16th , and then leaves from El Paso, Texas on the 17th. I too, will be an empty nester. I know that it wilI be "One day at at time" for me and my parents. I have learned so much from all I have read here on this site. My Thanks to all of you wonderful moms for passing on this great info.

I am the mother of a son who just joined. I am so glad to have found this group. I am sure I will find the information here helpful and calming. My son, Sam is not leaving until June 2011 unless the job he realy wants opens up - then it may be sooner. I am going to take the time to read all of your posts and I hope you will understand if I have questions. This is all very new. Thank you, Nan.

I am a mother of a son who is leaving for boot camp Aug. 24th. To make matters more stressful we sold our house 3 weeks ago and we are moving to Myrtle Beach the problem is we bought a house that is a short sale and I don't know when I will have a address for him. I am praying that the bank will accept our offer soon and everything is final soon so I can give him an address before he leaves. I'm scared he will leave before I have an address to give him.

Proud Mom:
Open a PO Box in the town in which you are moving. You can keep it just until he graduates and then he can use your new homes' address.

Great idea Yvette ! I think I will do that.

Okay, Dwayne left this morning for a Navy meeting and I'm just packing the kitchen to keep my mind off everything.

Ok, so I'm really quiet and don't say much in the group. But I've been checking in and reading all the posts and sending strong thoughts out to those whose children have left for BC recently.

My emotions are all over the place lately. My son graduated HS three years ago and had a full scholarship. I sent him off to college four hours away and tried to get used to living alone. He lost his scholarship and has been drifting through life since, but he's only been living with me again for about a month. The changes in him are proving hard to adjust to and when you add in the anticipation of sending him off again, it gets a bit overwhelming at times.

So big hugs to all of you. Navy families have always been the strength behind our sailors and the people here are proof.

Words of wisdom. You always want to try to say the right things so here goes. Let me start by saying - Been there done that.
I am a dep returnee, almost to a a year ago exactly. My younger daughter left last Sept. and my youngest and only son leaves this Sept. We will only have one remaining daughter at home, an older daughter who is engaged to be married.
So I have been on N4M for the past year and a half. In many groups I am considered a stalker, we are not always comfortable spilling our emotions, not sure if our questions are silly and definately unsure if the mood swings and odd behaviors of our Deppers are normal. We often gage how comfortable we are by others willingness to express themselves. I personally had a tougher time then expected. I knew I had an independent daughter, she was older, more mature and had lived away from home before bootcamp, so not only my daughter but I would not have a problem with this leaving process. Wow! talk about a kick in the butt.
Sorry, rambling, what I'm trying to say is, we are all here to learn, get support, encouragement, wisdom and even praise as we "follow" our children through this experience. Once we send them off to BC they are no longer our children and the changes and maturity you will see at PIR will astound you. The only way we, those of us that have been through the process, can help is if you ask those questions, express your concerns, and know that we will be with you along the way.
I will be happy to help in any way. It has been the help of so many Moms on this site that have helped me also. JM

Hello to all. I had no internet last night and could not post. I will check back here once in a while, but I am moving to Boot Camp Moms. My son left yesterday. Called his girlfriend and said he had arrived and all was well. My house is so empty. We had his best friend since he was a year old and his family with us for two weeks. They even went to the swearing in with us and watched Seby get on the bus. So you can imagine. Thanks to all of the fantastic Navy Moms out there and their support while i was here.

Good Luck KatQ, hang in there.

Good Luck and all my prayers to those moving on. I thought that I would get to join you later this month today when my son got a call saying that he was gonna leave for BC early. Then got another call later saying nevermind your still leaving in January. This is the second time this has happened. Very frustrating. Anyone else had this experience?

How is everyone doing today, my son only has 10 days left before he goes :(

Thanks, we hasn't been home a lot he has been doing stuff everyday for the Depps. I can't wait until graduation I already so proud of him.

We are at 45 days and counting. Going by quickly.

We are at 71 days and counting down. It Is going by quickly now.
Sunshine, I have heard that does happen, regarding going in early, but we have never got a call about it.
Kat Q, Good luck to your son in BC. I am glad you got to go to the swearing in. My son still says no. He doesn't want us at the swearing in.
JM(Aub'smom), thank you for all your support. Input from someone who has been there has really helped me. I know the hardest part is still to come, with BC, and I am so grateful there are moms like you to help us through it. I hope to be able to pass it on to future moms too.
Moliana, I find myself getting weepy for no good reason. I am so proud of him and I know he is doing what he really wants to do but I am afraid at the same time. It really is no different then what I felt when he learned to drive or when he went off to college. The fear of the unknown and if he will be safe. Thank you for the hug. Supporting our children is what is most important in this journey.

Klmcarl, I know what you mean about the uncertainty. The fact that our daughter went in almost to the day a year before our son is going, has made us ask if he is doing this for himself or to follow in his sister's footsteps. We want what's best for him. They both tested in the 90's for asvab and were selected for the INTEL program so there again, he will be going to the same A & C school location. We don't know if he will pick the same speciality school but we will see. So as you can see even though we know the steps and process we still have our concerns. Our daughter will go on her first deployment in a few months and we will have to wait patiently through that experience also. It will be then that I need prayers.

The uncertainty is what is about to kill me especially since we are in the middle of moving also. I will be glad when we get moved and we are settled. My son feels a bit lost since he hasn't even seen the house we are moving too. So when he gets to come home we will be in a new house in a new state but at least it will be at the beach.

Kimcarl, thanks for your support. My son didn't want me to go at first, then changed his mind. He however, wouldn't let his girlfriend go. She went to the one when he swore in as a DEP and it was hard then and he wasn't leaving. It is a nice ceremony though. I am trying to figure out how to upload pictures but not having much luck. Seby did all the computer/electronic things in the house. He forgot to leave me post it notes so I am completely lost. lol

Kat Q, That made me feel better that your son said no then changed his mind. I think B is afraid I will be too emotional and then make him the same. He said he is starting a new chapter in his life (he is a writer, lol) and he wants to think of his family at home instead of 3 hours away at MPES. I am not hurt and really understand what he means but it doesn't mean I will stop asking to go, lol. Oh, yes, another thing to do before B leaves. Get post it notes for everything about the computer. lol. Thank you for that information.
JM(Aub'smom), you do have your plate full with two kids that can't tell you what they do. lol. B is going into the cryptology rating of CTR so I will have that problem with him. Your daughter must really like what she is doing and your son sees that. He has had lots of time to think about his decision so all we can do is support them and then hope it is right. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like not to have any worry's. Then I know that I would worry about no worry's. lol.

Hello everyone !!! Im new to this group and glad that I have a great support system now !!! My son ships out 6-14-11 anyone else here with that date ?? Have a great day !!! Carolyn =)

Hey Carolyn,,
I'm pretty new to the group also. My son leaves in 8 days :( sad but looking forward to graduation!

Thank u for your welcome Dwayne's mom !! Blessings to him and your family, what an exciting time for all of you !!! I will be there in under a year yikes !!! Im confused on this grad and go process , do u know where and how I can find out how we as a family find out if he is one , do they send it out with "the letter" ?

HowiesMom,
What I understand is when they get into boot camp they receive a division number and ship number from there we will find out when graduation is. We should get a form letter sent to us. I might be wrong hopefully someone on here with more experience can enlighten us.

Hello Ladies and welcome to our new Moms, Yes you will get a form letter sent to you that will have their Pir date, the mailing address and even a small hand written note from your sailor at the bottom. If they can write small they can fit quite a lot of information which is always welcomed by parents. As far as the grad and go sailors. This information will not be told to the SR's (Seaman Recruits) until just a few weeks before PIR. Some are not given the information until just before PIR. Our daughter who finished BC last September was told she was a grad and go, so we assumed that she would leave right after PIR on Friday or early Saturday, so we booked a flight out early Sunday morning. Found out after we arrived that she wasn't scheduled to leave until Monday morning. Plan on being flexible, everything is on Navy time now and unexpected things can happen. If you are lucky you will know ahead of time that your Sailor is a grad and go and when their flight leaves. You can follow them to the airport and visit before they fly out too. If you have more questions just ask. Someone will be looking out for you. Take care Moms

Katiegail , I agree it IS inportant for him to go for the job he wants !! What is it that he is going for if you dont mind me asking ? My son is going for MA. Even though they go a week apart they will be in GL at the same time !!! Have a great day !

Howies Mom my son ships out Aug 17, 2011. I dont think there are many of us summer 2011 people out here yet.

Hi Fellow Moms - my son ships out July 12, 2011. Although, he says that after the first of the year, he may request to go sooner.

My son signed his Navy contract a year ago this week and is now home again, getting ready to head to his first ship. The time moves so fast, you won't believe how quickly you go from waiting for boot camp to being the proud parent of a fleet sailor.

Proud, he can request having his date moved up at any time. My son was supposed to leave in April 2010, but his date was moved up twice, first to January, then he actually went to boot camp in Dec. 2009.

Arwen - thanks for letting me know. He said he wants to get passed Christmas and then he'll be ready to go. Did your son have to change ratings in order to go sooner? That's what my son is afraid of - what if he goes earlier but gets stuck with something he really doesn't want do.

My son is to leave Mach 2011, joined in May, he started out saying when the summer was over he was going to request to leave early but now that he realizes how quickly time is passing he seems content to wait until the original date. I should rephrase he is not going to seek it out, if they ask him that would be different.

Thanks for all the great comments and support. It helps :-)

My son's date is currently Jan 24, 2011, but that will likely change. He's waiting on a waiver so he can go in as a nuke and that will push his date to sometime around June 2011.

In the meantime, we're trying to get used to living in the same house again. It's painfully obvious that the people he has been hanging around with over the last couple of years have rubbed off on him and not in a good way. It's hard as a mom to see those changes and keep reminding myself that he's not just my little boy anymore.

Hi everyone, I have a question that I have not seen here. Some of the DEPper's have such a long wait until BC, so much can change in that time, what happens if they change their mind - must they still go? I hope this doesn't sound like a stupid question but I still have many concerns over this whole thing.

Normally they only look for earlier openings in the same school, and they don't force them into taking another job.

DEPpers drop-out all the time, either they fail the background check, get into legal trouble, get hurt or have their situation change and they simply choose to not go to boot camp. Sometimes those slots are taken by new signees, sometimes they give them to sailors who requested an earlier ship date than the one they received.

Your son can give them a list of ratings he would be willing to take. That would give him more chances to ship out early.

Sam's mom, as I said, deppers can simply back out - until the day they go to MEPS to leave for Chicago.

However, if they ever want to try again it is a LOT harder to convince the Navy that the second time around they won't bail again. It looks really bad.

Thanks for the info. My son ships out June 2011 and says he can't wait - delay is to get job he wants. I just know him so well. He has been to three colleges, had many majors and jobs, and always changes his mind in the end. Bright boy but always seems a little lost. I am still in shock about him joining the military but it may be just what he needs. I was just wondering what would happen if he fails to follow through on this also. Thanks again.