Thanks for the well wishes/prayers. We are staying home this Holiday weekend, too scary to leave or go to big city. We were in Columbus/Hilliard this past weekend and no issues. (Our son stayed at our house) Also Finally get to Celebrate my Dad's 85th Birthday this weekend!!! Get to SEE Family. SO EXCITED here :) So If ya all think about it Sunday, lift your glasses or cups To Life!
My small city has been having riots too. City of just 100,000. We have had over 30 million dollars in damage in just over a week. They burnt down our downtown and uptown areas. People have been killed. Its very scary. I dunno. Between my son being in Japan and the COVID and now this I really cant cope anymore.
Blondie, will gladly have a toast to your father. Have a great time together. And I agree with Kim - you were not political, just sharing what happened. Glad you were save and very sorry for the other little town.
Sushicat, my heart goes out to you. All I can say - come here and talk. We will listen and maybe something shared will help you. I am happy that your sailor is in Japan. That is where my sailor first station after boot camp. He loved it. I wish your sailor a great time, but I know he is thinking of you.
Ok, wish all a good weekend. This world is crazy - but I hope better heads will come around.
Sushicat, We are all here for you. We all had sailors in Japan and have stayed together because we are a great group! Word of caution.....We don't like it if you try to leave us once your sailor leaves Japan. LOL.
I am a Japan Mother-in-Law as my son married a girl from Japan. I am also a Japan Grandma.
Tell us about yourself and your sailor. What is his/her rate? Sasebo or Yokosuka?
I checked out your profile zip code....Please Stay Safe! and check in often so we do not worry.
Sushicat - what Kim and Blondie said. We here feel this. We know we cannot really get to each other. But honest, just getting to talk to someone who is going through the same things at times - gives ideas to find solutions. And our hugs can be felt.
By the way - do you have a cat that likes Sushi?
I have a pet turtle - her name is Shark and she is 43 years old. Her favorite person in the family - the sailor. She once sent him a note of complaint. She told him, that everyone else in the family was getting post cards, letters and even presents - but nothing for her. Well, a few weeks later - her comes a package for for Shark. It actually said Shark on the box. He sent her a Japanese Kimono. He was a local craft market and found a kimono for a doll. And the box was only for her! After that too, any post card that came was addressed to Shark - told about what is happening and then a message to tell the rest of the family hi. YES, I read the cards to Shark. I would send picture of Shark with her postcards to him. And when he calls, he is on speaker and he talks with her. the turtle has send him care packages too. Several of mom's here - the pets have all sent packages. Its a fun thing for the sailors to get.
T-Lynn We have two cats but neither of them like Sushi :) My IT director gave me the nickname and its just stuck. We went out for Sushi one night and he had never had it so I was educating him on it. My dog also doesnt like Sushi lol.
I found out Tuesday that my son wont be coming back to the states for training in October like had been planned. Im trying to not think about it but its really devastating to me. I know in the military nothing is guaranteed (Im an army brat) but this hit my hard. Besides the riots and burnings Ive had major health issues the last few years that seem to want to be horrible the last couple of weeks. When it rains it pours right?
My son is in Yokosuka and he is a gunners mate but I cant remember his exact title right now. It changed recently with some promotion or something. We dont get to chat very often and I havent talked to him on the phone since January and it was very brief.
I was diagnosed with Epilepsy last year and dealing with that has been depressing and life changing. Honestly everything I used to enjoy I cant do anymore and I havent been able to figure out what to do to make myself happy and get out of this major funk Im in. Thats where Im at. So its just been a cascade of poop lately.
No worries. That is why super clue was made. So we Navy Mom's can rant - vent - cry - scream and we all just glue our ears back on. Hey, I have had my day of venting. We all do.
I understand that feeling when you Think - they are coming home for training or a leave and then that rug is pulled out. Many times. And as you stated - you being an Army Brat - you REALLY know. Ok - now I have to ask - You were Army - and he went Navy? You think he would go Army. Oh well, glad he did. Now I have new friend - You!
I am very sorry to hear of your illness and frustrating not to be able to find something else to do. But I feel that something will drop into your lap.
I am into crafting - actually beading. I was taught some native American style and then making Native American Dance Shawls. Plus, hubby is into black powder shooting so I have been learning to make haversacks and other re-enactor items . Plus, I throw a tomahawk. Now talk about your stress relief! Throw those when mad - feels great. Well, until the tomahawk missing the target and lands in the poison ivy. so far - knock on wood - no problems
There has been times when my sailor has not made contact for months too. So I come here and pout and then get ideas of things to put in a package, with a letter saying to call sometime or I have even sent a package with stationary - envelopes address to me with stamps - with instructions "write something or I will have my fellow Navy Moms contact your commander.". I actually think that happened and the poor sailor got call in to the office and had to explain why he had not called his mom! He called regularly after that. No not mine - but when his pet turtle started sending emails - letters and a package asking for things and to please call. He called.
Funny - he called the turtle and not me.
AS I stated I craft - maybe some of the other moms can chime in and share their ideas.
The thing is - there is something for you - I believe in you
I will send out positive thoughts for your son to call. And who knows - the Navy could change its mind and his training is back on. Miracles do happen.
I was born at Fort Stewart and lived there until I was 3. Both my parents were Army and I never wanted my son to go into the Army. Im very glad he went into the Navy.
I used to crochet and we used to play board games all the time. I also used to read ALOT like a book every other night but with the epilepsy none of that is possible. I cant even cook dinner right now.
I started a new medication a few weeks ago. My doctor increased the dose last 9/4. I slept for 20 hours a day for an entire week. Im hoping it starts working soon and the tiredness goes away.
Sorry, it tool me so long to get back to you. Babysitting grand kids, my hands are full! My older son, my dil and two grandchildren - we all live together. So I have been teaching Pre-school when this virus hit and now getting him ready for that bus for school. Then the granddaughter who is 1 and half years. - thinks she is older ! Is into everything. when nap times comes - I am napping too.!
Gee, I am so sorry. I didn't have a true understanding of your illness. I have never heard of this being so rough. I cross all I have for that new meds to kick in an work for you. And I still believe in you. One who had so much going and that spirit just can't get buried.
With your permission, may I send healing Reiki Energy to you? It is an ancient Japanese hands on - well - long distance hands on healing. You can ask some of the other Moms here - I have done it for them.
It will last 7 days long. - each evening I would think of you and place my hands on my body and to send the healing energy. this energy is not mine - it belongs to the highest power of good. I am only asking for you to receive it.
Please let me know. And I promise to get on back on sooner to check in on you
We visited our son in Maryland last Tuesday to Thursday. Thursday morning he said that he thinks he is coming down with something. Mild headache, sore throat and that body feeling you get before a cold. I convinced him to get tested Friday but non of us felt it was covid. He phones Monday afternoon and says "I have good news and bad news". Now, this is my son in remission for brain cancer (reason for visit and MRI was good). Did he want to give me a heart attack!!! He has Covid. His wife got the rapid test and she is positive too. My husband and I went Tuesday and got tested. Thursday we heard we were negative. But, we had started mild symptoms and yesterday my husbands fever was going up to 101 or 102. Does anyone know why this expensive temple thermometer is always 1 degree higher than our cheap mouth thermometers? Phoning doctor in couple of hours to find out if there is a place near us to get the rapid test. I only have bad headaches and can't sleep.
Sushicat, I will be praying that you find the medication that works for you. I hope you are with a facility that does research on your epilepsy. T-Lynn's Reiki really works! She got me through my chemo. So much positive energy from this group of ladies. Just typing my Covid fear at 5:00 am this morning is already relieving my headache. Maybe the coffee is helping tool
Coffee FIXES everything! But naturally I mean the good ole coffee you perk on the stove.
Kim - gentle hugs. I believe in you. You are already positive and this makes me feel you and hubby and son and dil will be ok. But do keep us posted.
Hubby and I - with the kids and grandkids have been quarantine for 10 days. Someone in Riker's class had it - I think. But our county health department said only get tested IF we call and they never called. None of us - knock on wood - have any signs. Just frustrating. But now my kids have decided to keep Riker home and teach him at home. Also, have invited another child form his day care too. The two families have known each other since day care days. And when the little girl was 3 - she told everyone she was going to marry Riker. Told that to Riker too - he said ok.
I think by January - our school system talked of being totally reopened. But if Riker and his little friend are doing better at home - it could just stay that way. I have gotten grayer. and Emma now runs every where. Hoping me having to chase her - I should be a smaller size by Christmas!
checking in ! not much time. Been working Everyday, co-worker quarantined, she was Very sick, turns out not Covid. Thank God! Sunday was Church Festival so no day off Sunday either! Weekend before had Connor for his birthday he's 9! (WHAT?)
My back/legs is doing better can go up 3 steps now with help on 33rd. BUT neck and between shoulders is bad, too many hours, work, weather and Stress. seeing Doctor's twice a week hardly any relief. Not sleeping.....Life! Working on wills, medical directories, looking towards retirement. (pick your jaw up T-Lynn. LOL hubby will retire first, right now, he's still laid off. Health might play a factor.)
Blondie, Keep your eyes on retirement! always a goal! I just filed for a former job retirement benefits. For the 20+ years it will take for me to make up the difference between taking it now and waiting even 2 years...give me the money! I will save it for tickets to see my son! He's out of Japan, headed to HI. Do you use the Reiki offered? I pray you have what you need for pain.
T-Lynn-The coffee comment made me laugh. We went camping over Labor Day with my daughter and SIL. I had carried around a campfire coffeepot for 30 years, and got rid of it last year!! grrr. lol. Those who say that keeping stuff around must have never gotten rid of something just before needing it. I also disposed of closing papers of a house we bought 30 yers ago, and sold in 2017. For 2017 taxes, the accountant asked for the original paperwork for some sort of calculation for a ta credit... lol never fails!
Prayers for all having ANY covid issues. As a nurse, I have been fortunate not to have contracted it (that I am aware of!) and neither has my family. Stay mindful and live healthy.
Wish we could get together to meet! in NC about 8 of us would have lunch once a quarter or so when we could. Some drove 2 hr, some 10 min. It was fun.
Wish all the best. Have a Great Holiday Season this year!!
Update. Went back to the urgent care Saturday. That place was awful. It is a covid testing center but they were all booked. A doctor would see him. They cattled everyone into the same small waiting area. It looked like 3 covid and 3 sick patients all together. I left him in the car until called. Oxygen 93 and fever. Doctor said he definently has covid and sent us home. She didn't want us waiting for paperwork in the lobby so he didn't spread the germs. Booked appointment Monday at a better place. Brought him in thru back door, to his room. Saw the fever and 93 and ordered blood work and xrays. Pneumonia. Set up virtual doctor appt. for Wednesday with our doctor. gave him antibiotic and steroids. I bought the oxygen finger thing to monitor. Still 93 on Wednesday, told he was borderline to go to emergency. My test came back negative, his test came back positive last night. Virtual appointment this morning. 91/92 but went up to 93/94. He has to do breathing exercises every hour and monitor oxygen. I am freaking out playing nurse. I think I convinced him to let me take him to emergency.
I reported the first urgent care to the health department. They should hang a sign. "Covid testing center, If you don't have it when you come in, we guarantee you will have it before you leave".
Chris, Thanks for your comments and encouragement. Yes, I've benefited from Reiki through this group and home town. Good luck with your retirement benefits. Our children are our future. I'm the same way, Mama will find a way!!!
Update: Talked hubby into going to emergency yesterday. He is now getting great care. Whew! I felt like telling the ER doctor "Tag your it". He has to stay in for 5 days of remdesivir and I don't know the other stuff. He is feeling much better. With him being positive severe case and me being negative, he must quarantine for 20 days from 1st symptom (10 if mild case) and I must quarantine for 14 days at the end of his quarantine. Oct. 31st is my coming out day!
TLynn, Good idea to do school at home. I can't imagine what these parents are going through. I am so lucky to be able to work from home. I have been doing 1/2 office, 1/2 home for 23 years. It was easy to switch.
Whenever I feel down, I remind myself how difficult so many people lives are during this pandemic. I can't help but feel blessed for the good things in my life. Like you ladies.
First off - Sending out a BIG Hug !!!!!!!! Hope you all felt it.
Blondie : How did you know I would think you - when you typed retirement? Yes, I almost did the Navy Mom Happy Dance in my chair. Now I have to wait. Tease! Conor is 9 years old? Oh my, I feel old. ANd you all know - we love LONG stories. So let us know when you plan on telling it - and we all will get our snacks and listen. Me - I'll take notes so I can ask questions later.. But keep safe dear friend hugs. Oh happy that your co-worker did not have Covid.
Hey Chris: I am so sorry that you do NOT have your coffee pot! Want me to look one for you? I cannot image non perked coffee. Just the morning smell gets my day started. Oh to get together. I get tingles just thinking - imaging ALL of us together - sharing stories and REAL hugs! WE would have to have our own room at a restaurant. WE all would sound like a hen house - all clucking at once.
Cluck Cluck all - lets dream this into being real.
Kim !!!!!!!! What a Roller Coaster ride you have had. So happy - glad - doing teh Navy Mom Happy Dance - your hubby FINALLY got help and is doing better! And you are negative. I never thought in my life, I would be so happy that someone was "Negative". I know you all know what i am saying. My mom always told me to Never say a person was Negative. But in this case - NEGATIVE is a beautiful thing. Naturally yours is Flamingo Pink Negative. And updates about your son and dil? Hang in there - Reiki and Healing Spell is continuing. Gentle hugs
Here is just hoping for grandson and his little friend to get into the routine of home school. It would be helpful if they both had the same the teacher. No - my dil works between two teachers. It is hard and grandson is getting angry - he has to share his mother's attention. Plus, the little friend is faster at teh work - so she gets to play first. So tempers have flared.
As for me - I am busy with the grand daughter. She is 1 and into everything! Even the turtle runs and hides when she hears her.
At this time - no words from my sailor. So I have to believe all is well.
Its late , I need to move on. wish all a good weekend. Stay safe - hugs. Oh yes. Cluck cluck.
Thanks T-Lynn for the offer to find a coffee pot. My daughter actually went online while camping and ordered one!! lol She camps a lot as well, and now it is her turn to store it.
Kim, glad hubby receiving the care he needs. Stay well.
My son left this am for HI finally!! He was anxious to get on with his career. Vacation is good (better for mamas) but sitting idle for that long was hard for him.
I had told another mama to come to this site form the Yokosuka groups as y'all are much better support and interactive. Hope she does.
This is my FINAL Covid update. Yey! The prayers, Reiki and wishes worked! Thank you ladies. My husband came home Thursday after his last Remdesivir. He was so much better. He was also given steroids, plasma with antibodies and something for blood clotting, so science and doctors helped too. I had my antibody test and it is negative. I can't believe with all the hugging and kissing my son and husband that I could possibly not have gotten it!
I count my blessing for all the good stuff happening. Back to you.
I LOVE coffee and make horrible coffee. I buy it or use my Keurig. I am a great baker which I do for others because I do not like sweets. I am an ok cook. But I make horrible coffee.
Connor is how old??!??
For all the grandmas (and moms) dealing with home schooling. Bless you! I have a question. I am looking at buying a phonics game for my grandson. All he wants to do is math and this online is a bust for him in kindergarten. His mom is worried. She is Japanese and struggling with this. I want to buy something for them but have no idea what is good.
But Reiki will be still for the next 7 days. Let me ask my dil about a phonics game. Riker needs it too being almost deaf in one ear. And I have two girl friends, one in Maryland a great Librarian that helps teachers with many books and games, and another who is a Teacher in Virginia. One or both should have ideas.
You take care and still get some Me Time. But does my heart good to hear he is him - hugs.
Heard my sailor !!! He was relaxing beside a pool , drinking his second Long Island Ice Tea and stated he hadn't called mom in a while. Don't want to say - it was the drink, but if it help - OK !
He is doing ok, just doing that hurry up and wait time to return from deployment. He wants to be home so much for Halloween. But one nice thing - the temp has dropped where is he is at. Now in the 90s. I shared - it appears it will be 32 tonight here and we have the heat on. He just laughed. Then said - I wish I was there. Me too.
Hope all are doing ok.
Hubby and I had our flu vaccine shots this weekend. And now we both are feeling like the flu is coming to visit. Wonderful - I thought it was suppose to keep it away! Guess, things have been working backwards for me this last month.
Hope to hear from you all - would love to see some gossip.
Hi I'm a new member.... Today's my son bday and he is station in Sasebo. Just stymbled on your group.
Is there a way for me to order him dinner and a cake to deliver to his home?
Welcome aboard here. We call ourselves the Pan Moms.
Explain a bit later.
Yes, there is a way to order him a cake. But can't think of it. Hey Kim, Maggs. Blondie, Anti M. I should have written it down, but I didn't can you help here.
Sorry, this is choppy - I was just checking in and I need to get upstairs to the grand kids.
9 days before pack out for England, House is sold, they turn the house over 5 days later, then on hold till they leave right?
Joe tells Daughter he wants a divorce. Only because she questioned him what was wrong, was he okay, were they???? When she asked when were you gonna tell me? He said after we were in England. (WHAT?!!!) He seen no reason that they all shouldn't move to England together. She told him, Tahlia and I Will NOT be going to England. So next day he went into work and told the Navy he was pulling his contract and gave up putting on Chief. Came home and asked Daughter to stay in VA for the next two years.....Then we had to wait to see where they would station him!
So she continued getting the house ready for turnover Plus had to pack all their stuff up, find a storage unit..... She refused any help from us, don't come..... Tahlia and her moved in with Jane, her "partner" from military back in 2008-2013, I felt better. Until Jane told her Joe was not allowed in her house.
Back Story: Back in June we did an intervention, 2 Military friends and myself, told Daughter she shouldn't go to England with Joe unless He sought help. AND they should be in Marriage Counseling also. She asked he said No! Things got worse he made comments, not out an out threats to daughter and T. Although one day he told T he was gonna hit her if she didn't stop whatever she was doing. She got up in his face, nose to nose and said Do it! He comes from an Abusive Family, he once told me the only person who had never Abused him was his Step Grandmother. He never let his Mom meet his wife or daughter, he says she's poison.... Then deploy the last 3 years for 8-9 months stretches hasn't helped. He's seen a lot, done a lot, almost died 3 times this past year.... He NEEDS professional Help but won't even considerate it.
So she moves in with Jane and he moves in with one of his friends. He tells her look for 2 apartments in the same building, so they can co-parent, gives her a dollar amount. Oh they must allow his dog.... Then he leaves for Missouri for 2 weeks, he told her 1 week. So because of the fight between Jane/Joe and Daughter, daughter has to leave my oct. 31st and the FBI wanting info on residency....Jane works for the FBI now, not suppose to have people living with her without permission.... Joe tells Daughter take T and go to Ohio. Well daughter tried to put a hold on an apartment but no job and Joe wouldn't give her his financials.....she wouldn't go to Navy Because Joe Wouldn't like it! So basically she's homeless so she packs a small bag to come to Ohio, then he tells her don't leave before I get back! Threatens abandonment and kidnapping charges! She believes him. UGG So she checks into a hotel. He gets home on the 31st so they can trick or treat, T has 5 of the top 8 allergies, she can't trick or treat! Then he sends her home to Ohio Nov. 1st. And wanted her to bring his dog. Ahh NO! She drove straight through, Poor Babies were so tired when they got here.
Enough for now, will try to get on tomorrow to continue
Oh my goodness, Blondie! I am at a loss for words. Bless your heart, I can only imagine (no not really) what you have been going through. When our children are going through even the smallest things it brings us to our knees, so I know you have been on yours for sure. I am praying for your sweet daughter and granddaughter, and you and your hubby as well. I wish I knew the right words to say, but I do know that you are holding them both close and you will do everything you power for them both. Sending you lots of love and prayers.....
Thank you Miss. Our world is upside down and sideways.
God is good.
He tried to get a quick divorce in Missouri, uncontested and she would have signed it! He has Emotional and Mentally beaten her down so bad. Luckily the Judge said no! He wants 50/50 custody and pay nothing! He doesn't even KNOW her allergies, he's only been alone with her once. I asked Daughter, would you be okay with T spending the night with him, 149 nights per year. A lot of late night talks....
She needs to get a Lawyer, file in VA or go to the Military. For thanksgivings we can't go to family because of T's allergies. So I offered to make whatever they wanted....She had to call Joe. What ? Why? Everything is Joe won't like that, He'll never pay spouse maintenance or child support.... NOT his choice. Judge will decide. UGGG
Blondie, you are so welcome. I know prayers are what you need the most right now. Sometimes as Moms, we feel so helpless, but I know you are guiding her with wisdom and lots of love. I will be praying that you always have the words she needs. I am so thankful that she is home with you and her Dad. Y'all hang in there and lean upon the Lord right now. He will see you through this. Just know that my heart hurts for you, and your sweet daughter. She is so blessed to have great parents like you.
Blondie, You were in my Thanksgiving prayers. Your daughter has a great mom to be her rock as she maneuvers through this.
She is a strong girl that will get through this and be strong for her daughter. Emotional abuse is real. Physical abuse leaves you with a bruise (or worse) that confirms it in your mind. Emotional abuse from a loved one is so confusing.
Victory number 1 was that she did not move to England. Victory number 2 would be if she moves to Ohio. I am confused on the status of that one. Is she just visiting you? Plus, I predict that you have 8 more victories to go.
Huggs Mags. We have to plan a visit after this Covid crap. I still go to near you every 4 months for my sons cancer tests.
So...I hate to be needy (after asking for covid prayers)...BUT...My sailors wife was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Her entire family lives in Sasebo Japan and cannot travel because of covid. She starts chemo soon in San Diego and they will move to Chicago during her treatment. I am so grateful that I work remotely and will be able to help them out when I am needed. Just prayers needed right now. We will beat this!
Sailor will be relocating in Great Lakes soon and I will be traveling there over the next 3 years a lot. I hope to meet as many of you as I can on my travels.
Kim, don't ever feel "needy" asking for prayers. With the distance between us all, praying is something I can do. Lifting your daughter-in-law and son up in prayer. Also praying for you and all of your family.
Blondie, you and your family are in my prayers.
Thanksgiving was good, yet really weird for us this year. We decided at the last minute that it was just too risky to bring Mom to our family Thanksgiving. We have a very large family (anywhere from 45 to 50 people) at our gatherings. It was a tough decision, lots of tears and sleepless nights but I just could not get any peace about it. Four of us went to her window and had a really good visit with her Thursday afternoon. She was happy to see us. I have a sister that has tested positive for Covid, and her husband has tested negative but has more symptoms than she does. My brother's wife had been running fever for a couple of days before Thanksgiving, but tested negative so they did not come. My sister, Shirley lost her Mother-In-Law, Wednesday afternoon. She suffered a very bad stroke 2 weeks earlier, and had not known anyone since the stroke. Shirley and Travis came but didn't stay long. We had a total of 11 that celebrated Thanksgiving together. We are all hoping it will be better for Christmas, but it does look doubtful.
My daughter is worried about flying, and yet wants to come home so bad. She is wanting to go see my Mom even if it is just at the window. If they are still doing porch visits, she can definitely have my turn. We are thinking those will stop soon, just because of the cold weather. They do need to be sitting on the porch freezing. But you never know about Mississippi weather. We had snow yesterday, and it was 25 this morning. But suppose to warm back up later in the week.
Hope all of you are well. Take care and stay safe.
funny, I feel no words. Now that is strange for me!
This has been some year. Lets put it that way.
1. First off - Major Reiki Energy coming to all of YOU! I am pulling out all I got too. So the next 7 days, I hope you feel and your love ones feel the healing energy wrap around you like a warm blanket of Love. And have a cup of Hot chocolate too.. chocolate makes everything better.
2. Blondie - first off . I agree with the statements already voiced. Your daughter is so strong and she has you and your hubby. With your permission, I will do a Justice Spell for your daughter and little one. And protection spell too.
3. Miss- What a hard but loving decission you made for Thanksgiving, but it shows you care. I hope your daughter can make it home. Tell her to find a stone near her home. Clean it and place her request to be safe on her travel home on the plane and place it in her pocket when she travels. It will be a protection piece, because even if she is flying - she is ground to Mother Earth. YOur family gatherings sound fun !!
3. Kim - got a real good feeling about your daughter in law. But will sending her Reiki energy and the healing spell. As I do ever so often for you son. And I agree - asking for help is NEVER too many times. hugs.
4. Maggs !!!!! YIppee - 2 grand children !!! Double the spoiling. I know my words can't help that much with you missing your hubby - but I and the others care. WE all believe in you. I know you have had many Cardinals visiting you. Take teh gift of love that is being sent to you. hugs
Me - doing ok. Just alot of babysitting - laundry and cooking and cleaning. The kids got the tree up and when Emma tried to climb it - they decided NOT to put on the Disney Collection ornaments. So now this weekend - they will get some plastic ones to finish the tree. I have never had to say - get out of the tree - so may times in one day!
My sailor is home and is enjoying the cooler weather. He got back from deployment where is could reach 125 degrees. He has decorated his home. One 6 foot Snowman - one 6 foot Santa in the front yard. Lights all round the house. In the bushes, plus those light up presents. BUT he still needs more.. I believe he is going for that Christmas Vacation look
No leave at this time, but he did get it for all his crew. So learning to zoom and getting packages ready..
AS for me the only thing I had happen, is my nails started to peel apart and my hair break.. Then numbness in arms and hands and feet. Leg cramps and lower back pain. I thought - darn Thyroid or the other - getting old and warranty is gone!
No - after a blood test - I have very low vitamin B12. REally?
Do you know all the darn vitamins I take? Even that multi vitamins for women over 50 ! Well, I did it. So now I have to another vitamin - you guess it vitamin B12 1000mcg. And maybe by 6 months I will be good. I am getting a chocolate cake from Protello's. and I am eating the ENTIRE thing!
As I said - chocolate makes anything better. Keep you posted.
Until then - that laundry Fairy just said - first load done.
Kim, Prayers going up for your DIL. And her Family, What a Mess our world is in. I live in OHIO, so when you're visiting those Great Lakes think of me!!!
Miss, I understand the struggle of what to do with aging parents and sick family members. It's such a stressful time and we just want to do what's right for everyone. My Dad is shut in for the winter now, we talk on the phone and take his groceries to him and leave on the porch. My sister is working from home again because of her husband's poor health. My Brother is still recovering from heart surgery and hasn't even gone to Church! The problem is my 2 other brothers don't understand the concern... It's okay to have your own beliefs BUT be Considerate of others! Sorry to hear of your family's problems and loss, just know we're all going through it, you're Never Alone! Prayers going up. (thanks for mine)
I haven't seen my Son and DIL for over a year now. And they're not Military, stupid Covid! My other Son is still working none stop in Covid Units, I worry about his health, He tells me I've been living on borrowed time for 20 years, God is in control. We send him food and groceries also but not the same as a HUG! Eldest daughter is Pregnant again, 13 weeks, got to hear the heartbeat yesterday (virtually of course) Thank God for technology! Who would have thought I would say THAT?! LOL So Miracle Baby Joseph is gonna have a brother or sister, took them only 1 month of treatments SO HAPPY for them, but SCARED. They are being Very Careful and Mindfull.
T-Lynn, Love that you're willing to send Reiki Energy just be mindful of your own. Although we were taught the more you give the more that comes back to you. And I am certainly sending LOVE your way! Yes PLEASE any protection you can think of! Glad it was just a vitamin deficiency.
He got passed over for Chief (really got him going!) Why did he think he'd get it. He was all set up if he went to England, but when he didn't go we KNEW he wouldn't. He always thinks he's got an "in" So Now he's MAD he has to do ALL the work cause they're off doing Chief stuff....Told daughter to stay in Ohio, he will be unavailable for 6-8 weeks.
Then he got Notified they are relocating him! We don't know when or where..... He thought he was staying with his old command. His contract with them was up, they were headed to England. Then he told them he was getting out in 2 years. His Chief told him they'd make a job for him. WELL Big Navy says NO! (I'm so bad, I'm laughing!) Of course Everything is Daughter's fault, I'm SO GLAD they are here with us.
Daughter started her virtual job, 6 month contract. Still talks about going back to Virginia! Joe still refuses to pay her anything! Well what she's making (what I make) won't afford her to live here leave alone VA! She gets Mad but usually at us or even if she gets mad at Joe she makes excuses for him. UGG So she just started hasn't got her 1st check yet, so can't wait till she gets that shock. And they don't pay your rent or insurance..... no breaks for daycare.....
Hubby is babysitting for now but his unemployment runs out at the end of the year so he'll have to get a job.... With schools and day cares shut down.... I keep telling hubby and myself, it's Her problem! She needs to realize she needs that Child Support!!!
Blondie, I think your daughter can get free legal by going to the closest base to you. She can also join the navy as a career recruiter for her hometown. She will get her own BAH and his will switch to single. She keeps her rank and recruiting has extra pay. When my son was a recruiter he worked with a young woman, just divorced with child that did this. She had permanent orders for that shore duty. I don't know if I have all the details correct. I can ask him or your daughter can follow up on that. Either way, Joe is getting BAH for a family and not supporting a family. Bad, bad move on his part! The navy will take care of that! They will garnishee his wages for her.
I am sure she still has conflicting feelings for him. Maybe you can suggest she go for legal or counsel advice to see what her options are. Especially if it is free like I am guessing. She can go for counseling in confidence without reporting on him.
Thank you everyone for your prays and kind words.
Miss, I feel for you and everyone else with aging or at risk loved ones. My father passed away a year before covid. My first response last March was to say thanks that he did not live to face this. Being isolated from my sister and brother would have made him suffer.
I agree with 'stupid covid'! Everyone stay safe. I think of all of you often. Maybe we can set up a Christmas toast.
We've been trying to get her to go to Base to get counseling without him since June! She refused, He wouldn't like it! Now that she is here, Dayton Wright Patterson air force base is closest but 4 hours from us. She knows she can get 50% of everything from the Military until a Civil Suit is settled... She won't He wouldn't like it! She had a chance to go FBI and didn't.... I've set her down and explained he's getting housing and dependent pay.... She and Tahlia is homeless with no income (until she started work Mon.) She refuses to seek legal counseling also. She says he wants the divorce let him file.
WE worry he has threatened her or something. It's just Frustrating to see her going through this, and acting like this! She was a Force to be reckoned with! Now she cowers doesn't want to leave home, won't make decisions. Sometimes she resents him or gets made that he has the "life" no responsibilities....but she's allow it. UGGG I said you don't have to screw him or be a bitch....but he NEEDS to take responsibility for T. These past 3 years, he deploys every year for 8-9 months, then all his training etc. He gave her 200.00 per month to live on! I said well that's NOT gonna work with rent, babysitter.....! We just wait.
I guess you make her feel safe if she is taking her anger out on you. You are exactly the rock she needs right now and we are here to be yours.
She is a great, loving and caring person! A shallow woman would have stuck it to him long ago. Emotional abuse is tricky. There is this great guy that she loves and married and he is probably still in there. I bet he also has narcissist qualities which explain why he is in control right now.
We have all known Blondie Jr. for years. One day she will realize that she has an army of navy moms all over the U.S.
PM me and give me a way to contact you outside of this.forum.
I drive thru Ohio to Great Lakes. My retirement plan is to drive through U.S. and visit many national parks and many of you gals along the way. Then go to Europe and travel by train for several months.
Blondie: What Kim Said !!! I agree with her and I know fellow Pan moms here do too!. And talk with Kim - that's what we do here - help each other.
I am glad you are saying - go talk with someone. Share with her I did. Maybe you don't remember when my mom threw me out of her life and home back in 2012. I saw a lady councilor and she taught me: "this path you are on - there's going to bumps in the road and you will fall - but we working together - you will not fail. And at the end of that path - honest - you are going to love it. Because, you will have found yourself you buried. then you can be there for your family and yourself. Because how can you help others - If you let others walk all over you. "
Ask Blondie Jr. - how can she really help Tahlia - if she allows herself to be walked over. Please remind her too - we all here called her Blondie Jr. Not because of just being your daughter - BUT - the strength - leadership - honesty - courage - and caring person she is - we learned that with all the wonderful stories you shared about her. That person - Blondie Jr - is STILL there . Just hiding. I believe in her.
Challenge to all Pan Moms:
Please Let Blondie Jr Know you Believe in Her. Just type:
I Believe.
And Protection and Justice Spell will be done. Perfecting timing too - Moon is waning - to pull away Negativity!!!!
I know the Spell too. Down And Around You Go
One writes on pieces or roll of TP, ALL the things that are hurting you or that you just want gone! Then throw it into the toilet and say: Down and Around You GO! All my troubles and woes. Gone you Be and Justice Served and My Battles Won . I'm finally Free and Back to being Me and now I can see my life as it was meant to be - So Bless It BE. Doing this Spell with be an Honor and Reiki coming for all of you. Thanks Blondie - as you stated giving help to others and you too receive it back. hugs
Need to go - Laundry Fairy came back. Really, just because I made spaghetti for dinner! So Emma is wearing some - ok a lot. And the table and the chair and the floor. Ok My bad. The poor Laundry Fairy HAD to come back.
I have been terrible about posting. I will write more later but I cannot say enough about having an objective third party (aka counselor) to talk with. I was married to a narcissist and we have 2 children, one of whom is my Corpsman and the other my daughter who is a special ed teacher. It is a complex situation, needless to say, and I could never have been on this journey without that help. I am constantly learning. While this year has been so difficult there is one bright light. I became a grandmother for the first time. My son and DIL had a baby boy, Max, on November 23. I will not be able to travel cross country to see them. I am grateful for FaceTime! Reading regularly, just not posting. Love to all of you. Blessings of peace and comfort.
Kim
2tymeNavyMom, well said.
Blondie, I do not think you got political. Those are Thugs. That sounds really scary and I am glad you are alright.
This what I love about you ladies. We share our trials. We pray for all and we stay positive. I am always uplifted when I read your posts.
Stay safe everyone.
Aug 29, 2020
Blondie
Thanks for the well wishes/prayers. We are staying home this Holiday weekend, too scary to leave or go to big city. We were in Columbus/Hilliard this past weekend and no issues. (Our son stayed at our house) Also Finally get to Celebrate my Dad's 85th Birthday this weekend!!! Get to SEE Family. SO EXCITED here :) So If ya all think about it Sunday, lift your glasses or cups To Life!
Thank you, Love you all
NavyMom Strong
Aug 31, 2020
Sushicat242000
My small city has been having riots too. City of just 100,000. We have had over 30 million dollars in damage in just over a week. They burnt down our downtown and uptown areas. People have been killed. Its very scary. I dunno. Between my son being in Japan and the COVID and now this I really cant cope anymore.
Aug 31, 2020
T-Lynn
HI
Blondie, will gladly have a toast to your father. Have a great time together. And I agree with Kim - you were not political, just sharing what happened. Glad you were save and very sorry for the other little town.
Sushicat, my heart goes out to you. All I can say - come here and talk. We will listen and maybe something shared will help you. I am happy that your sailor is in Japan. That is where my sailor first station after boot camp. He loved it. I wish your sailor a great time, but I know he is thinking of you.
Ok, wish all a good weekend. This world is crazy - but I hope better heads will come around.
hugs
Sep 2, 2020
Blondie
Sushicat, Hang in there. You are NOT Alone.
Thanks T-Lynn
Sep 3, 2020
Kim
Sushicat, We are all here for you. We all had sailors in Japan and have stayed together because we are a great group! Word of caution.....We don't like it if you try to leave us once your sailor leaves Japan. LOL.
I am a Japan Mother-in-Law as my son married a girl from Japan. I am also a Japan Grandma.
Tell us about yourself and your sailor. What is his/her rate? Sasebo or Yokosuka?
I checked out your profile zip code....Please Stay Safe! and check in often so we do not worry.
Sep 3, 2020
T-Lynn
HI All
Good to see Moms coming on.
Sushicat - what Kim and Blondie said. We here feel this. We know we cannot really get to each other. But honest, just getting to talk to someone who is going through the same things at times - gives ideas to find solutions. And our hugs can be felt.
By the way - do you have a cat that likes Sushi?
I have a pet turtle - her name is Shark and she is 43 years old. Her favorite person in the family - the sailor. She once sent him a note of complaint. She told him, that everyone else in the family was getting post cards, letters and even presents - but nothing for her. Well, a few weeks later - her comes a package for for Shark. It actually said Shark on the box. He sent her a Japanese Kimono. He was a local craft market and found a kimono for a doll. And the box was only for her! After that too, any post card that came was addressed to Shark - told about what is happening and then a message to tell the rest of the family hi. YES, I read the cards to Shark. I would send picture of Shark with her postcards to him. And when he calls, he is on speaker and he talks with her. the turtle has send him care packages too. Several of mom's here - the pets have all sent packages. Its a fun thing for the sailors to get.
Again, come on and chat. take care hugs
Sep 4, 2020
Sushicat242000
T-Lynn We have two cats but neither of them like Sushi :) My IT director gave me the nickname and its just stuck. We went out for Sushi one night and he had never had it so I was educating him on it. My dog also doesnt like Sushi lol.
I found out Tuesday that my son wont be coming back to the states for training in October like had been planned. Im trying to not think about it but its really devastating to me. I know in the military nothing is guaranteed (Im an army brat) but this hit my hard. Besides the riots and burnings Ive had major health issues the last few years that seem to want to be horrible the last couple of weeks. When it rains it pours right?
My son is in Yokosuka and he is a gunners mate but I cant remember his exact title right now. It changed recently with some promotion or something. We dont get to chat very often and I havent talked to him on the phone since January and it was very brief.
I was diagnosed with Epilepsy last year and dealing with that has been depressing and life changing. Honestly everything I used to enjoy I cant do anymore and I havent been able to figure out what to do to make myself happy and get out of this major funk Im in. Thats where Im at. So its just been a cascade of poop lately.
Thanks for listening to my rant.
Sep 11, 2020
T-Lynn
hi Sushi
No worries. That is why super clue was made. So we Navy Mom's can rant - vent - cry - scream and we all just glue our ears back on. Hey, I have had my day of venting. We all do.
I understand that feeling when you Think - they are coming home for training or a leave and then that rug is pulled out. Many times. And as you stated - you being an Army Brat - you REALLY know. Ok - now I have to ask - You were Army - and he went Navy? You think he would go Army. Oh well, glad he did. Now I have new friend - You!
I am very sorry to hear of your illness and frustrating not to be able to find something else to do. But I feel that something will drop into your lap.
I am into crafting - actually beading. I was taught some native American style and then making Native American Dance Shawls. Plus, hubby is into black powder shooting so I have been learning to make haversacks and other re-enactor items . Plus, I throw a tomahawk. Now talk about your stress relief! Throw those when mad - feels great. Well, until the tomahawk missing the target and lands in the poison ivy. so far - knock on wood - no problems
There has been times when my sailor has not made contact for months too. So I come here and pout and then get ideas of things to put in a package, with a letter saying to call sometime or I have even sent a package with stationary - envelopes address to me with stamps - with instructions "write something or I will have my fellow Navy Moms contact your commander.". I actually think that happened and the poor sailor got call in to the office and had to explain why he had not called his mom! He called regularly after that. No not mine - but when his pet turtle started sending emails - letters and a package asking for things and to please call. He called.
Funny - he called the turtle and not me.
AS I stated I craft - maybe some of the other moms can chime in and share their ideas.
The thing is - there is something for you - I believe in you
I will send out positive thoughts for your son to call. And who knows - the Navy could change its mind and his training is back on. Miracles do happen.
You take care - keep talking to us.
Hugs
Sep 11, 2020
Sushicat242000
I was born at Fort Stewart and lived there until I was 3. Both my parents were Army and I never wanted my son to go into the Army. Im very glad he went into the Navy.
I used to crochet and we used to play board games all the time. I also used to read ALOT like a book every other night but with the epilepsy none of that is possible. I cant even cook dinner right now.
I started a new medication a few weeks ago. My doctor increased the dose last 9/4. I slept for 20 hours a day for an entire week. Im hoping it starts working soon and the tiredness goes away.
Sep 14, 2020
T-Lynn
Hi Sushicat
Sorry, it tool me so long to get back to you. Babysitting grand kids, my hands are full! My older son, my dil and two grandchildren - we all live together. So I have been teaching Pre-school when this virus hit and now getting him ready for that bus for school. Then the granddaughter who is 1 and half years. - thinks she is older ! Is into everything. when nap times comes - I am napping too.!
Gee, I am so sorry. I didn't have a true understanding of your illness. I have never heard of this being so rough. I cross all I have for that new meds to kick in an work for you. And I still believe in you. One who had so much going and that spirit just can't get buried.
With your permission, may I send healing Reiki Energy to you? It is an ancient Japanese hands on - well - long distance hands on healing. You can ask some of the other Moms here - I have done it for them.
It will last 7 days long. - each evening I would think of you and place my hands on my body and to send the healing energy. this energy is not mine - it belongs to the highest power of good. I am only asking for you to receive it.
Please let me know. And I promise to get on back on sooner to check in on you
Need to get - need to get two babies to bed.
wish you sweet dreams hugs
Sep 24, 2020
Kim
I am 99% sure my husband and I have Covid-19.
We visited our son in Maryland last Tuesday to Thursday. Thursday morning he said that he thinks he is coming down with something. Mild headache, sore throat and that body feeling you get before a cold. I convinced him to get tested Friday but non of us felt it was covid. He phones Monday afternoon and says "I have good news and bad news". Now, this is my son in remission for brain cancer (reason for visit and MRI was good). Did he want to give me a heart attack!!! He has Covid. His wife got the rapid test and she is positive too. My husband and I went Tuesday and got tested. Thursday we heard we were negative. But, we had started mild symptoms and yesterday my husbands fever was going up to 101 or 102. Does anyone know why this expensive temple thermometer is always 1 degree higher than our cheap mouth thermometers? Phoning doctor in couple of hours to find out if there is a place near us to get the rapid test. I only have bad headaches and can't sleep.
Sushicat, I will be praying that you find the medication that works for you. I hope you are with a facility that does research on your epilepsy. T-Lynn's Reiki really works! She got me through my chemo. So much positive energy from this group of ladies. Just typing my Covid fear at 5:00 am this morning is already relieving my headache. Maybe the coffee is helping tool
Oct 3, 2020
T-Lynn
HI All
Coffee FIXES everything! But naturally I mean the good ole coffee you perk on the stove.
Kim - gentle hugs. I believe in you. You are already positive and this makes me feel you and hubby and son and dil will be ok. But do keep us posted.
Hubby and I - with the kids and grandkids have been quarantine for 10 days. Someone in Riker's class had it - I think. But our county health department said only get tested IF we call and they never called. None of us - knock on wood - have any signs. Just frustrating. But now my kids have decided to keep Riker home and teach him at home. Also, have invited another child form his day care too. The two families have known each other since day care days. And when the little girl was 3 - she told everyone she was going to marry Riker. Told that to Riker too - he said ok.
I think by January - our school system talked of being totally reopened. But if Riker and his little friend are doing better at home - it could just stay that way. I have gotten grayer. and Emma now runs every where. Hoping me having to chase her - I should be a smaller size by Christmas!
Hope everyone else is doing ok.
Time to check in ladies !!!!
Wish all a fun weekend hugs
Oct 8, 2020
Blondie
checking in ! not much time. Been working Everyday, co-worker quarantined, she was Very sick, turns out not Covid. Thank God! Sunday was Church Festival so no day off Sunday either! Weekend before had Connor for his birthday he's 9! (WHAT?)
My back/legs is doing better can go up 3 steps now with help on 33rd. BUT neck and between shoulders is bad, too many hours, work, weather and Stress. seeing Doctor's twice a week hardly any relief. Not sleeping.....Life! Working on wills, medical directories, looking towards retirement. (pick your jaw up T-Lynn. LOL hubby will retire first, right now, he's still laid off. Health might play a factor.)
Kids Not going to England, long story......
positive vibes and Prayers appreciated.
Oct 9, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
Hey All,
Blondie, Keep your eyes on retirement! always a goal! I just filed for a former job retirement benefits. For the 20+ years it will take for me to make up the difference between taking it now and waiting even 2 years...give me the money! I will save it for tickets to see my son! He's out of Japan, headed to HI. Do you use the Reiki offered? I pray you have what you need for pain.
T-Lynn-The coffee comment made me laugh. We went camping over Labor Day with my daughter and SIL. I had carried around a campfire coffeepot for 30 years, and got rid of it last year!! grrr. lol. Those who say that keeping stuff around must have never gotten rid of something just before needing it. I also disposed of closing papers of a house we bought 30 yers ago, and sold in 2017. For 2017 taxes, the accountant asked for the original paperwork for some sort of calculation for a ta credit... lol never fails!
Prayers for all having ANY covid issues. As a nurse, I have been fortunate not to have contracted it (that I am aware of!) and neither has my family. Stay mindful and live healthy.
Wish we could get together to meet! in NC about 8 of us would have lunch once a quarter or so when we could. Some drove 2 hr, some 10 min. It was fun.
Wish all the best. Have a Great Holiday Season this year!!
Oct 9, 2020
Kim
Update. Went back to the urgent care Saturday. That place was awful. It is a covid testing center but they were all booked. A doctor would see him. They cattled everyone into the same small waiting area. It looked like 3 covid and 3 sick patients all together. I left him in the car until called. Oxygen 93 and fever. Doctor said he definently has covid and sent us home. She didn't want us waiting for paperwork in the lobby so he didn't spread the germs. Booked appointment Monday at a better place. Brought him in thru back door, to his room. Saw the fever and 93 and ordered blood work and xrays. Pneumonia. Set up virtual doctor appt. for Wednesday with our doctor. gave him antibiotic and steroids. I bought the oxygen finger thing to monitor. Still 93 on Wednesday, told he was borderline to go to emergency. My test came back negative, his test came back positive last night. Virtual appointment this morning. 91/92 but went up to 93/94. He has to do breathing exercises every hour and monitor oxygen. I am freaking out playing nurse. I think I convinced him to let me take him to emergency.
I reported the first urgent care to the health department. They should hang a sign. "Covid testing center, If you don't have it when you come in, we guarantee you will have it before you leave".
Oct 9, 2020
Blondie
Kim, Sending Prayers and gentle HUGS.
Chris, Thanks for your comments and encouragement. Yes, I've benefited from Reiki through this group and home town.
Good luck with your retirement benefits. Our children are our future. I'm the same way, Mama will find a way!!!
Oct 9, 2020
Kim
Update: Talked hubby into going to emergency yesterday. He is now getting great care. Whew! I felt like telling the ER doctor "Tag your it". He has to stay in for 5 days of remdesivir and I don't know the other stuff. He is feeling much better. With him being positive severe case and me being negative, he must quarantine for 20 days from 1st symptom (10 if mild case) and I must quarantine for 14 days at the end of his quarantine. Oct. 31st is my coming out day!
TLynn, Good idea to do school at home. I can't imagine what these parents are going through. I am so lucky to be able to work from home. I have been doing 1/2 office, 1/2 home for 23 years. It was easy to switch.
Whenever I feel down, I remind myself how difficult so many people lives are during this pandemic. I can't help but feel blessed for the good things in my life. Like you ladies.
Oct 11, 2020
T-Lynn
Hi
First off - Sending out a BIG Hug !!!!!!!! Hope you all felt it.
Blondie : How did you know I would think you - when you typed retirement? Yes, I almost did the Navy Mom Happy Dance in my chair. Now I have to wait. Tease! Conor is 9 years old? Oh my, I feel old. ANd you all know - we love LONG stories. So let us know when you plan on telling it - and we all will get our snacks and listen. Me - I'll take notes so I can ask questions later.. But keep safe dear friend hugs. Oh happy that your co-worker did not have Covid.
Hey Chris: I am so sorry that you do NOT have your coffee pot! Want me to look one for you? I cannot image non perked coffee. Just the morning smell gets my day started. Oh to get together. I get tingles just thinking - imaging ALL of us together - sharing stories and REAL hugs! WE would have to have our own room at a restaurant. WE all would sound like a hen house - all clucking at once.
Cluck Cluck all - lets dream this into being real.
Kim !!!!!!!! What a Roller Coaster ride you have had. So happy - glad - doing teh Navy Mom Happy Dance - your hubby FINALLY got help and is doing better! And you are negative. I never thought in my life, I would be so happy that someone was "Negative". I know you all know what i am saying. My mom always told me to Never say a person was Negative. But in this case - NEGATIVE is a beautiful thing. Naturally yours is Flamingo Pink Negative. And updates about your son and dil? Hang in there - Reiki and Healing Spell is continuing. Gentle hugs
Here is just hoping for grandson and his little friend to get into the routine of home school. It would be helpful if they both had the same the teacher. No - my dil works between two teachers. It is hard and grandson is getting angry - he has to share his mother's attention. Plus, the little friend is faster at teh work - so she gets to play first. So tempers have flared.
As for me - I am busy with the grand daughter. She is 1 and into everything! Even the turtle runs and hides when she hears her.
At this time - no words from my sailor. So I have to believe all is well.
Its late , I need to move on. wish all a good weekend. Stay safe - hugs. Oh yes. Cluck cluck.
Oct 14, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
Thanks T-Lynn for the offer to find a coffee pot. My daughter actually went online while camping and ordered one!! lol She camps a lot as well, and now it is her turn to store it.
Kim, glad hubby receiving the care he needs. Stay well.
My son left this am for HI finally!! He was anxious to get on with his career. Vacation is good (better for mamas) but sitting idle for that long was hard for him.
I had told another mama to come to this site form the Yokosuka groups as y'all are much better support and interactive. Hope she does.
Headed to work. Y'all are the greatest!!
Oct 15, 2020
T-Lynn
HI
Oh good - at least there is a REAL coffee pot that you can still have REAL coffee ever so often.
And I hope the new Mom comes Aboard.
Wish all a great weekend. hugs
Oct 16, 2020
Kim
This is my FINAL Covid update. Yey! The prayers, Reiki and wishes worked! Thank you ladies. My husband came home Thursday after his last Remdesivir. He was so much better. He was also given steroids, plasma with antibodies and something for blood clotting, so science and doctors helped too. I had my antibody test and it is negative. I can't believe with all the hugging and kissing my son and husband that I could possibly not have gotten it!
I count my blessing for all the good stuff happening. Back to you.
I LOVE coffee and make horrible coffee. I buy it or use my Keurig. I am a great baker which I do for others because I do not like sweets. I am an ok cook. But I make horrible coffee.
Connor is how old??!??
For all the grandmas (and moms) dealing with home schooling. Bless you! I have a question. I am looking at buying a phonics game for my grandson. All he wants to do is math and this online is a bust for him in kindergarten. His mom is worried. She is Japanese and struggling with this. I want to buy something for them but have no idea what is good.
Oct 17, 2020
Kim
FYI, she is Japanese, catholic and from Sasebo Japan. If anyone has question to her...Let me know.
Oct 17, 2020
T-Lynn
HI Kim
GREAT NEWS !!!
But Reiki will be still for the next 7 days. Let me ask my dil about a phonics game. Riker needs it too being almost deaf in one ear. And I have two girl friends, one in Maryland a great Librarian that helps teachers with many books and games, and another who is a Teacher in Virginia. One or both should have ideas.
You take care and still get some Me Time. But does my heart good to hear he is him - hugs.
Oct 17, 2020
Blondie
Celebrating with you Kim!
HUGS to all.
Oct 22, 2020
T-Lynn
Hi All
Heard my sailor !!! He was relaxing beside a pool , drinking his second Long Island Ice Tea and stated he hadn't called mom in a while. Don't want to say - it was the drink, but if it help - OK !
He is doing ok, just doing that hurry up and wait time to return from deployment. He wants to be home so much for Halloween. But one nice thing - the temp has dropped where is he is at. Now in the 90s. I shared - it appears it will be 32 tonight here and we have the heat on. He just laughed. Then said - I wish I was there. Me too.
Hope all are doing ok.
Hubby and I had our flu vaccine shots this weekend. And now we both are feeling like the flu is coming to visit. Wonderful - I thought it was suppose to keep it away! Guess, things have been working backwards for me this last month.
Hope to hear from you all - would love to see some gossip.
Until then - hugs all
Oct 25, 2020
NukeMom_09Nov
Is there a way for me to order him dinner and a cake to deliver to his home?
Nov 8, 2020
T-Lynn
HI
Welcome aboard here. We call ourselves the Pan Moms.
Explain a bit later.
Yes, there is a way to order him a cake. But can't think of it. Hey Kim, Maggs. Blondie, Anti M. I should have written it down, but I didn't can you help here.
Sorry, this is choppy - I was just checking in and I need to get upstairs to the grand kids.
One of them should be on soon.
Chat soon. hugs.
Nov 11, 2020
Blondie
LONG Story Alert!!!!
9 days before pack out for England, House is sold, they turn the house over 5 days later, then on hold till they leave right?
Joe tells Daughter he wants a divorce. Only because she questioned him what was wrong, was he okay, were they???? When she asked when were you gonna tell me? He said after we were in England. (WHAT?!!!) He seen no reason that they all shouldn't move to England together. She told him, Tahlia and I Will NOT be going to England. So next day he went into work and told the Navy he was pulling his contract and gave up putting on Chief. Came home and asked Daughter to stay in VA for the next two years.....Then we had to wait to see where they would station him!
So she continued getting the house ready for turnover Plus had to pack all their stuff up, find a storage unit..... She refused any help from us, don't come..... Tahlia and her moved in with Jane, her "partner" from military back in 2008-2013, I felt better. Until Jane told her Joe was not allowed in her house.
Back Story: Back in June we did an intervention, 2 Military friends and myself, told Daughter she shouldn't go to England with Joe unless He sought help. AND they should be in Marriage Counseling also. She asked he said No! Things got worse he made comments, not out an out threats to daughter and T. Although one day he told T he was gonna hit her if she didn't stop whatever she was doing. She got up in his face, nose to nose and said Do it! He comes from an Abusive Family, he once told me the only person who had never Abused him was his Step Grandmother. He never let his Mom meet his wife or daughter, he says she's poison.... Then deploy the last 3 years for 8-9 months stretches hasn't helped. He's seen a lot, done a lot, almost died 3 times this past year.... He NEEDS professional Help but won't even considerate it.
So she moves in with Jane and he moves in with one of his friends. He tells her look for 2 apartments in the same building, so they can co-parent, gives her a dollar amount. Oh they must allow his dog.... Then he leaves for Missouri for 2 weeks, he told her 1 week. So because of the fight between Jane/Joe and Daughter, daughter has to leave my oct. 31st and the FBI wanting info on residency....Jane works for the FBI now, not suppose to have people living with her without permission.... Joe tells Daughter take T and go to Ohio. Well daughter tried to put a hold on an apartment but no job and Joe wouldn't give her his financials.....she wouldn't go to Navy Because Joe Wouldn't like it! So basically she's homeless so she packs a small bag to come to Ohio, then he tells her don't leave before I get back! Threatens abandonment and kidnapping charges! She believes him. UGG So she checks into a hotel. He gets home on the 31st so they can trick or treat, T has 5 of the top 8 allergies, she can't trick or treat! Then he sends her home to Ohio Nov. 1st. And wanted her to bring his dog. Ahh NO! She drove straight through, Poor Babies were so tired when they got here.
Enough for now, will try to get on tomorrow to continue
Nov 19, 2020
Mississippi Mom
Oh my goodness, Blondie! I am at a loss for words. Bless your heart, I can only imagine (no not really) what you have been going through. When our children are going through even the smallest things it brings us to our knees, so I know you have been on yours for sure. I am praying for your sweet daughter and granddaughter, and you and your hubby as well. I wish I knew the right words to say, but I do know that you are holding them both close and you will do everything you power for them both. Sending you lots of love and prayers.....
Nov 20, 2020
Blondie
Thank you Miss. Our world is upside down and sideways.
God is good.
He tried to get a quick divorce in Missouri, uncontested and she would have signed it! He has Emotional and Mentally beaten her down so bad. Luckily the Judge said no! He wants 50/50 custody and pay nothing! He doesn't even KNOW her allergies, he's only been alone with her once. I asked Daughter, would you be okay with T spending the night with him, 149 nights per year. A lot of late night talks....
She needs to get a Lawyer, file in VA or go to the Military. For thanksgivings we can't go to family because of T's allergies. So I offered to make whatever they wanted....She had to call Joe. What ? Why? Everything is Joe won't like that, He'll never pay spouse maintenance or child support.... NOT his choice. Judge will decide. UGGG
Nov 20, 2020
Mississippi Mom
Blondie, you are so welcome. I know prayers are what you need the most right now. Sometimes as Moms, we feel so helpless, but I know you are guiding her with wisdom and lots of love. I will be praying that you always have the words she needs. I am so thankful that she is home with you and her Dad. Y'all hang in there and lean upon the Lord right now. He will see you through this. Just know that my heart hurts for you, and your sweet daughter. She is so blessed to have great parents like you.
Nov 20, 2020
maggs
Hi all.. still about.. not posting much.. Still miss hubby. Sailor has two children now..
Nov 21, 2020
Blondie
I Appreciate you Miss and all the ladies here.
Hi, Maggs, glad to see you post. I'm sure each day is a struggle, but we're here for you and 2 Grandbabies to LOVE!!!!
Nov 23, 2020
Kim
Blondie, You were in my Thanksgiving prayers. Your daughter has a great mom to be her rock as she maneuvers through this.
She is a strong girl that will get through this and be strong for her daughter. Emotional abuse is real. Physical abuse leaves you with a bruise (or worse) that confirms it in your mind. Emotional abuse from a loved one is so confusing.
Victory number 1 was that she did not move to England. Victory number 2 would be if she moves to Ohio. I am confused on the status of that one. Is she just visiting you? Plus, I predict that you have 8 more victories to go.
Huggs Mags. We have to plan a visit after this Covid crap. I still go to near you every 4 months for my sons cancer tests.
So...I hate to be needy (after asking for covid prayers)...BUT...My sailors wife was just diagnosed with breast cancer. Her entire family lives in Sasebo Japan and cannot travel because of covid. She starts chemo soon in San Diego and they will move to Chicago during her treatment. I am so grateful that I work remotely and will be able to help them out when I am needed. Just prayers needed right now. We will beat this!
Sailor will be relocating in Great Lakes soon and I will be traveling there over the next 3 years a lot. I hope to meet as many of you as I can on my travels.
Nov 30, 2020
Mississippi Mom
Kim, don't ever feel "needy" asking for prayers. With the distance between us all, praying is something I can do. Lifting your daughter-in-law and son up in prayer. Also praying for you and all of your family.
Blondie, you and your family are in my prayers.
Thanksgiving was good, yet really weird for us this year. We decided at the last minute that it was just too risky to bring Mom to our family Thanksgiving. We have a very large family (anywhere from 45 to 50 people) at our gatherings. It was a tough decision, lots of tears and sleepless nights but I just could not get any peace about it. Four of us went to her window and had a really good visit with her Thursday afternoon. She was happy to see us. I have a sister that has tested positive for Covid, and her husband has tested negative but has more symptoms than she does. My brother's wife had been running fever for a couple of days before Thanksgiving, but tested negative so they did not come. My sister, Shirley lost her Mother-In-Law, Wednesday afternoon. She suffered a very bad stroke 2 weeks earlier, and had not known anyone since the stroke. Shirley and Travis came but didn't stay long. We had a total of 11 that celebrated Thanksgiving together. We are all hoping it will be better for Christmas, but it does look doubtful.
My daughter is worried about flying, and yet wants to come home so bad. She is wanting to go see my Mom even if it is just at the window. If they are still doing porch visits, she can definitely have my turn. We are thinking those will stop soon, just because of the cold weather. They do need to be sitting on the porch freezing. But you never know about Mississippi weather. We had snow yesterday, and it was 25 this morning. But suppose to warm back up later in the week.
Hope all of you are well. Take care and stay safe.
Dec 1, 2020
T-Lynn
HI
funny, I feel no words. Now that is strange for me!
This has been some year. Lets put it that way.
1. First off - Major Reiki Energy coming to all of YOU! I am pulling out all I got too. So the next 7 days, I hope you feel and your love ones feel the healing energy wrap around you like a warm blanket of Love. And have a cup of Hot chocolate too.. chocolate makes everything better.
2. Blondie - first off . I agree with the statements already voiced. Your daughter is so strong and she has you and your hubby. With your permission, I will do a Justice Spell for your daughter and little one. And protection spell too.
3. Miss- What a hard but loving decission you made for Thanksgiving, but it shows you care. I hope your daughter can make it home. Tell her to find a stone near her home. Clean it and place her request to be safe on her travel home on the plane and place it in her pocket when she travels. It will be a protection piece, because even if she is flying - she is ground to Mother Earth. YOur family gatherings sound fun !!
3. Kim - got a real good feeling about your daughter in law. But will sending her Reiki energy and the healing spell. As I do ever so often for you son. And I agree - asking for help is NEVER too many times. hugs.
4. Maggs !!!!! YIppee - 2 grand children !!! Double the spoiling. I know my words can't help that much with you missing your hubby - but I and the others care. WE all believe in you. I know you have had many Cardinals visiting you. Take teh gift of love that is being sent to you. hugs
Me - doing ok. Just alot of babysitting - laundry and cooking and cleaning. The kids got the tree up and when Emma tried to climb it - they decided NOT to put on the Disney Collection ornaments. So now this weekend - they will get some plastic ones to finish the tree. I have never had to say - get out of the tree - so may times in one day!
My sailor is home and is enjoying the cooler weather. He got back from deployment where is could reach 125 degrees. He has decorated his home. One 6 foot Snowman - one 6 foot Santa in the front yard. Lights all round the house. In the bushes, plus those light up presents. BUT he still needs more.. I believe he is going for that Christmas Vacation look
No leave at this time, but he did get it for all his crew. So learning to zoom and getting packages ready..
AS for me the only thing I had happen, is my nails started to peel apart and my hair break.. Then numbness in arms and hands and feet. Leg cramps and lower back pain. I thought - darn Thyroid or the other - getting old and warranty is gone!
No - after a blood test - I have very low vitamin B12. REally?
Do you know all the darn vitamins I take? Even that multi vitamins for women over 50 ! Well, I did it. So now I have to another vitamin - you guess it vitamin B12 1000mcg. And maybe by 6 months I will be good. I am getting a chocolate cake from Protello's. and I am eating the ENTIRE thing!
As I said - chocolate makes anything better. Keep you posted.
Until then - that laundry Fairy just said - first load done.
Got to get - please feel the Reiki and hugs
Dec 1, 2020
Blondie
Kim, Prayers going up for your DIL. And her Family, What a Mess our world is in. I live in OHIO, so when you're visiting those Great Lakes think of me!!!
Miss, I understand the struggle of what to do with aging parents and sick family members. It's such a stressful time and we just want to do what's right for everyone. My Dad is shut in for the winter now, we talk on the phone and take his groceries to him and leave on the porch. My sister is working from home again because of her husband's poor health. My Brother is still recovering from heart surgery and hasn't even gone to Church! The problem is my 2 other brothers don't understand the concern... It's okay to have your own beliefs BUT be Considerate of others! Sorry to hear of your family's problems and loss, just know we're all going through it, you're Never Alone! Prayers going up. (thanks for mine)
I haven't seen my Son and DIL for over a year now. And they're not Military, stupid Covid! My other Son is still working none stop in Covid Units, I worry about his health, He tells me I've been living on borrowed time for 20 years, God is in control. We send him food and groceries also but not the same as a HUG! Eldest daughter is Pregnant again, 13 weeks, got to hear the heartbeat yesterday (virtually of course) Thank God for technology! Who would have thought I would say THAT?! LOL So Miracle Baby Joseph is gonna have a brother or sister, took them only 1 month of treatments SO HAPPY for them, but SCARED. They are being Very Careful and Mindfull.
T-Lynn, Love that you're willing to send Reiki Energy just be mindful of your own. Although we were taught the more you give the more that comes back to you. And I am certainly sending LOVE your way! Yes PLEASE any protection you can think of! Glad it was just a vitamin deficiency.
Dec 2, 2020
Blondie
Update: Where to start where did I leave off.
No Missouri Divorce.
He got passed over for Chief (really got him going!) Why did he think he'd get it. He was all set up if he went to England, but when he didn't go we KNEW he wouldn't. He always thinks he's got an "in" So Now he's MAD he has to do ALL the work cause they're off doing Chief stuff....Told daughter to stay in Ohio, he will be unavailable for 6-8 weeks.
Then he got Notified they are relocating him! We don't know when or where..... He thought he was staying with his old command. His contract with them was up, they were headed to England. Then he told them he was getting out in 2 years. His Chief told him they'd make a job for him. WELL Big Navy says NO! (I'm so bad, I'm laughing!) Of course Everything is Daughter's fault, I'm SO GLAD they are here with us.
Daughter started her virtual job, 6 month contract. Still talks about going back to Virginia! Joe still refuses to pay her anything! Well what she's making (what I make) won't afford her to live here leave alone VA! She gets Mad but usually at us or even if she gets mad at Joe she makes excuses for him. UGG So she just started hasn't got her 1st check yet, so can't wait till she gets that shock. And they don't pay your rent or insurance..... no breaks for daycare.....
Hubby is babysitting for now but his unemployment runs out at the end of the year so he'll have to get a job.... With schools and day cares shut down.... I keep telling hubby and myself, it's Her problem! She needs to realize she needs that Child Support!!!
Well enuff about us.
HUGS to all
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
Blondie, I think your daughter can get free legal by going to the closest base to you. She can also join the navy as a career recruiter for her hometown. She will get her own BAH and his will switch to single. She keeps her rank and recruiting has extra pay. When my son was a recruiter he worked with a young woman, just divorced with child that did this. She had permanent orders for that shore duty. I don't know if I have all the details correct. I can ask him or your daughter can follow up on that. Either way, Joe is getting BAH for a family and not supporting a family. Bad, bad move on his part! The navy will take care of that! They will garnishee his wages for her.
I am sure she still has conflicting feelings for him. Maybe you can suggest she go for legal or counsel advice to see what her options are. Especially if it is free like I am guessing. She can go for counseling in confidence without reporting on him.
Thank you everyone for your prays and kind words.
Miss, I feel for you and everyone else with aging or at risk loved ones. My father passed away a year before covid. My first response last March was to say thanks that he did not live to face this. Being isolated from my sister and brother would have made him suffer.
I agree with 'stupid covid'! Everyone stay safe. I think of all of you often. Maybe we can set up a Christmas toast.
Dec 2, 2020
Blondie
Thanks Kim.
We've been trying to get her to go to Base to get counseling without him since June! She refused, He wouldn't like it! Now that she is here, Dayton Wright Patterson air force base is closest but 4 hours from us. She knows she can get 50% of everything from the Military until a Civil Suit is settled... She won't He wouldn't like it! She had a chance to go FBI and didn't.... I've set her down and explained he's getting housing and dependent pay.... She and Tahlia is homeless with no income (until she started work Mon.) She refuses to seek legal counseling also. She says he wants the divorce let him file.
WE worry he has threatened her or something. It's just Frustrating to see her going through this, and acting like this! She was a Force to be reckoned with! Now she cowers doesn't want to leave home, won't make decisions. Sometimes she resents him or gets made that he has the "life" no responsibilities....but she's allow it. UGGG I said you don't have to screw him or be a bitch....but he NEEDS to take responsibility for T. These past 3 years, he deploys every year for 8-9 months, then all his training etc. He gave her 200.00 per month to live on! I said well that's NOT gonna work with rent, babysitter.....! We just wait.
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
I guess you make her feel safe if she is taking her anger out on you. You are exactly the rock she needs right now and we are here to be yours.
She is a great, loving and caring person! A shallow woman would have stuck it to him long ago. Emotional abuse is tricky. There is this great guy that she loves and married and he is probably still in there. I bet he also has narcissist qualities which explain why he is in control right now.
We have all known Blondie Jr. for years. One day she will realize that she has an army of navy moms all over the U.S.
PM me and give me a way to contact you outside of this.forum.
I drive thru Ohio to Great Lakes. My retirement plan is to drive through U.S. and visit many national parks and many of you gals along the way. Then go to Europe and travel by train for several months.
This 'stupid covid' needs to go away soon.
Dec 2, 2020
T-Lynn
HI
Blondie: What Kim Said !!! I agree with her and I know fellow Pan moms here do too!. And talk with Kim - that's what we do here - help each other.
I am glad you are saying - go talk with someone. Share with her I did. Maybe you don't remember when my mom threw me out of her life and home back in 2012. I saw a lady councilor and she taught me: "this path you are on - there's going to bumps in the road and you will fall - but we working together - you will not fail. And at the end of that path - honest - you are going to love it. Because, you will have found yourself you buried. then you can be there for your family and yourself. Because how can you help others - If you let others walk all over you. "
Ask Blondie Jr. - how can she really help Tahlia - if she allows herself to be walked over. Please remind her too - we all here called her Blondie Jr. Not because of just being your daughter - BUT - the strength - leadership - honesty - courage - and caring person she is - we learned that with all the wonderful stories you shared about her. That person - Blondie Jr - is STILL there . Just hiding. I believe in her.
Challenge to all Pan Moms:
Please Let Blondie Jr Know you Believe in Her. Just type:
I Believe.
And Protection and Justice Spell will be done. Perfecting timing too - Moon is waning - to pull away Negativity!!!!
I know the Spell too. Down And Around You Go
One writes on pieces or roll of TP, ALL the things that are hurting you or that you just want gone! Then throw it into the toilet and say: Down and Around You GO! All my troubles and woes. Gone you Be and Justice Served and My Battles Won . I'm finally Free and Back to being Me and now I can see my life as it was meant to be - So Bless It BE. Doing this Spell with be an Honor and Reiki coming for all of you. Thanks Blondie - as you stated giving help to others and you too receive it back. hugs
Need to go - Laundry Fairy came back. Really, just because I made spaghetti for dinner! So Emma is wearing some - ok a lot. And the table and the chair and the floor. Ok My bad. The poor Laundry Fairy HAD to come back.
Hugs all
Dec 2, 2020
T-Lynn
I Beleive
Dec 2, 2020
T-Lynn
Had a thought - again
There is Blondie and Blondie Jr.
What is Tahlia' s name going to be?
Third Generation here - its got to be Grand!
Dec 2, 2020
T-Lynn
Ok - last thought then off to chat with the Laundry Fairy.
Kim - When do you want the Christmas Toast?
Hugs
Dec 2, 2020
DramaSoul
Hi Moms!
I have been terrible about posting. I will write more later but I cannot say enough about having an objective third party (aka counselor) to talk with. I was married to a narcissist and we have 2 children, one of whom is my Corpsman and the other my daughter who is a special ed teacher. It is a complex situation, needless to say, and I could never have been on this journey without that help. I am constantly learning. While this year has been so difficult there is one bright light. I became a grandmother for the first time. My son and DIL had a baby boy, Max, on November 23. I will not be able to travel cross country to see them. I am grateful for FaceTime!
Reading regularly, just not posting. Love to all of you. Blessings of peace and comfort.
Dec 2, 2020
DramaSoul
I Believe
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
Congrats Blondie. You invoked the "I believe" army. I prefer 'covid sucks'.
I have a bigger group of people to visit when I go cross country when I retire.
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
TLynn, I am thinking a virtual toast.
Dec 2, 2020