Zoom meeting!! LOL! Not a bad idea although I have been taking a lot of CE online and my eyes sometimes just cross!
I am back to work as a dental hygienist. I have cut back my hours a bit. I love my patients and missed them when we were furloughed. I have to tell you all the PPE is exhausting and hot (hot flashes don't improve it!). I wear 2 masks (N95 with a level 3 over it and change that one with every patient), a bonnet to cover my hair (no one can see my purple highlights!), loupes, face shield and a smock over my scrubs. I change clothes before I go home and keep the work clothes separate from everything else. I work in a bubble....my operatory is encased in heavy duty plastic, the air purifier runs constantly and my patients rinse with a pre-treatment solution that lowers the microbe load in the saliva. I feel very safe at work. The only place I go is to work and to the market (once a week). I do go on my walks and I wear a mask when I am out of the house. It's just me and the 2 crazy cats. I will say, they are entertaining.
Like everyone else, I miss being around my friends and family but the Zoom has been a way to at least see faces and talk in somewhat real time.. My Jewish community meets online through Zoom. It's not the same as being in community but it is safer and we don't want to put anyone at risk.
I think the thing I miss most is my community theater participation. One of the groups to which I belong did a great radio show. I think I will look into doing the next one with them.
Zoom as limits to who can attend, I opted out for my cancer group to allow others to attend. I could really use them now with my DIL.
I know that I have you guys if the need arrives. She starts out with a great group at a navy hospital in San Diego. Anyone know about hospitals around Chicago?
She was a high risk pregnancy at the hospital at West Point for my grandchild and they had a plan to air lift her to New York if necessary.
Not sure how this will go when they move to Great Lakes, Would love to hear if anyone knows about
My Heart goes out to your Daughter Blondie. My daughter was married to a Narcissist for just over a year (together for about 4). Ditto the others, help her see that she is reinforcing that behavior thru her daughter's eyes. It will take a while to get her self confidence back to believing her decisions are correct. Gently try to make her make those decisions, with encouragement and support and praise. Anonymous call to his command may or may not help with the financial stress, (as long as she isn't around him for the abuse he will direct). That money is hers as a dependent, not his according to the military when I was in. He has no choice in the matter. Feel free to tell her other Navy Moms have been in the same situation, and support her. Often they feel they are the only victim, and are ashamed.
I appreciate everyone for all the support they show one another, the Reiki, the hugs, the prayers, the advice, just the thoughts not written!
My son is settling in HI, buying a condo overlooking the ocean, airport, Diamond head to the left, sunsets to the right. Already diving, and seems happy. He has a history of depression, so I'm so proud of him. A few pics to brighten your day.
Kim, Thanks for your kind words. I Believe, just getting her too!
T-Lynn Yes, I remember. And SO True! Her sister has talked to her about it also. She went to therapy after her miscarriages….fertility problems, marriage….
Thank you, THANK you, I KNOW she’s in there too! I will let her read what Kim and You have written, if she will. If not I will print and save for her. I do keep reminding her of Tahlia and their Future. He doesn’t have to be a part of it if he don’t want to but He should pay for his daughter. I’m afraid she’s too much like me, I can do this myself. But I learnt a long time ago, You Don’t Have to and Shouldn’t. We always burn the paper but I’ll try the down and around you go. I appreciate all your support and help.
Had to laugh at your description of Emma. Sounds just like Tahlia. I suspect sometimes she makes a mess, to feed the dogs tho. You need more than a laundry fairy you need a maid. LOL
DramaSoul, Congrats!!! Grandma Thanks for sharing your story. Glad it all worked out for you.
Thanks for all the I Believes! What an uplifting experience. Love you all dearly.
DramaSoul I'm exhausted just reading your post. Stay Safe my friend.
Kim, Prayers for your DIL and Comfort to you all.
Chris, thanks so much for sharing. Glad your daughter got out! (made me cry) all this outpour of Love. I will make sure she KNOWS you're all behind her and Cheering her on.
Love the picture! Glad he is settling in and Loving it.
"Chris, Forever Ray's mom" hit the nail on the head. This is about what Tahlia needs and deserves. It is owed not deserved. If they were together and happily married he would be contributing. It's no different when they are apart. Lifting all of you up in prayer. I like the idea of her getting some help from outside of the family and friends. Someone for her to talk to that doesn't have a stake in the game. My husband and I were having problems and I elected to do it on my own. To be honest I wanted someone to tell me I wasn't nuts for feeling the way I did about our situation. She validated my feelings but also have me tools to cope, get better and improve my marriage. It has and I highly recommend it. Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
Please know that even though I am one of the quiet ones on here that I lift all of you and your situations up in prayer.
I am thankful for this site and all of you momma's and am comforted by reading, laughing and crying along with all of you.
Hi Drama !!!!! So good to hear from you. Congrats Grandma!!!!! I know you can't wait to start spoiling. Sure hope that is soon for you. And naturally, we all want pictures! when you can.And let us know about the Radio show.
Hi Chris - thank you for the great pictures. Just making sure - that was a water snake in one of the pictures? So happy for you sailor - he is looking happy!
Blondie - fingers cross that the next message we see from you - "She is in counseling !" And I hope she read, but if not now - maybe later. WE all really Believe in Her. hugs
Ok - Ladies, we need a name for the Third Generation Blondie
Blondie - Blondie Jr - ?
Oh have to share: It was a nice day out - so I took the grandkids in teh backyard. Our neighbor came out on his deck ( staying a distance) But he was wearing his Santa Hat and beard. He yelled out " Ho - Ho - HO" Riker and Emma just froze.
Riker: Why is Santa at Mr. Doug's? Maybe Mr. Doug helps Santa?! ( but then stops and looks at me. I knew he realized it was Mr. Doug, but he was a good big brother - he kept saying - Look Santa for Emma)
Emma: Suddenly stops - points and squeal with delight. Then yells something I could not decode. Then twirled - ran over to the Maple Tree and licked the trunk of the tree.
Santa is laughing and I just wonder Why?
I have not a clue - I can see being a tree hugger - but licking it!
Lets figure out a toast and possible ZOOM. hugs all
(to save time, here is the copy of the text if you aren't able to connect on the link. DailyOM has positive thoughts and some coping. I have bought a couple of the courses, some are good, some not as helpful) Free daily thoughts if interested.
Before making a decision, release your fear of making a wrong decision
Our lives are defined by the decisions we make each day. When we choose one option over another, whether we are selecting a restaurant or considering a cross-country move, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be empowering, allowing us to enjoy the benefits of self-determination. Yet it can also be a source of anxiety because decisions force us to face the possibility of dissatisfaction and inner conflict. As a result, many of us opt to avoid making decisions by allowing others to make them for us. We consequently turn our power over to spouses, relatives, friends, and colleagues, granting them the stewardship of our lives that is ours by right. Though the decisions we must make are often difficult, we grow more self-sufficient and secure each time we trust ourselves enough to choose.
Ultimately, only you can know how the options before you will impact your daily life and your long-term well-being. Within you lies the power to competently weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each selection. Even if you feel incapable of making a decision, your inner wisdom and your intuitive mind will give you sound counsel if you have faith in yourself. Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others, and even then, treat their suggestions as supplementary information rather than votes to be tallied. Before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. Perceived mistakes can lead you down wonderful and unexpected paths that expose you to life-changing insights. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reins of your destiny.
When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power. Since you understand that you must live with and take responsibility for your decisions, you will likely exercise great care when coming to conclusions. As you learn to make informed and autonomous choices, you will gain the freedom to consciously direct the flow of your life without interference.
Thank you. I am going to pass this along to my sailor daughter. She is going through something similar but no abuse. Just being taken advantage of by her live in boyfriend. This may help her make the decision to cut the cord.
Being aware of the connection between all things can help you in terms of the broader effect you may be creating.
There are times when we may feel disconnected from the world. Our actions can seem like they are of no major consequence, and we may feel like we exist in our own vacuum. Yet, the truth is that our simplest thought or action -- the decisions we make each day, and how we see and relate to the world -- can be incredibly significant and have a profound impact on the lives of those around us, as well as the world at large. The earth and everything on it is bound by an invisible connection between people, animals, plants, the air, the water, and the soil. Insignificant actions on your part, whether positive or negative, can have an impact on people and the environment that seem entirely separate from your personal realm of existence. Staying conscious of the interconnection between all things can help you think of your choices and your life in terms of the broader effect you may be creating.
Think of buying a wooden stool. The wood was once part of a tree which is part of a forest. A person was paid to fell the tree, another to cut the wood, and yet another to build the stool. Their income may have had a positive effect on their families, just as the loss of the tree may have had a negative impact on the forest or the animals that made that tree their home. An encouraging word to a young child about their special talent can influence this person to develop their gift so that one day their inventions can change the lives of millions. A poem written "merely" to express oneself can make a stranger reading it online from thousands of miles away feel less alone because there is someone else out there who feels exactly the way they do.
Staying conscious of your connection to all things can help you think of your choices in terms of their impact. We are powerful enough that what we do and say can reverberate through the lives of people we may never meet. Understanding that you are intimately connected with all things and understanding your power to affect our world can be the first step on the road to living more consciously.
Another good message. Mental abuse is a long road back to believing in yourself, and your decisions. Prayers continue!
Change doesn't have to be hard, here are 10 steps to help make it easier.
1. Begin by making small changes or break up large-scale changes into more manageable increments. This can make you feel better about handling the changes you are about to make while making you more comfortable with change in general.
2. Mentally link changes to established daily rituals. This can make changes like taking on a new habit, starting a new job, or adapting to a new home happen much more smoothly. For example, if you want to begin meditating at home, try weaving it into your morning routine.
3. Going with the flow can help you accept change instead of resisting it. If you stay flexible, you will be able to ride out change without too much turbulence.
4. When a change feels most stressful, relief can often be found in finding the good that it brings. An illness, a financial loss, or a broken relationship can seem like the end of the world, yet they also can be blessings in disguise.
5. Remember that all change involves a degree of learning. If you find change particularly stressful, try to keep in mind that after this period of transformation has passed, you will be a wiser person for it.
6. Remember that upheaval and confusion are often natural parts of change. While we can anticipate certain elements that a change might bring, it is impossible to know everything that will happen in advance. Be prepared for unexpected surprises, and the winds of change won't easily knock you over.
7. Don't feel like you have to cope with changing circumstances or the stress of making a change on your own. Talk about what's going on for you with a friend or write about it in a journal. Sharing your feelings can give you a sense of relief while helping you find the strength to carry on.
8. Give yourself time to accept any changes that you face. And as change happens, recognize that you may need time to adjust to your new situation. Allow yourself a period of time to reconcile your feelings. This can make big changes feel less extreme.
9. No matter how large or difficult a change is, you will eventually adapt to these new circumstances. Remember that regardless of how great the change, all the new that it brings will eventually weave itself into the right places in your life.
10. If you're trying to change a pattern of behavior or navigate your way through a life change, don't assume that it has to be easy. Wanting to cry or being moody during a period of change is natural. Then again, don't assume that making a change needs to be hard. Sometimes, changes are meant to be that easy.
I appreciate everyone's help. Still refuses to read or get professional help....BUT she is talking to other military ex-wives, so I take that as a Plus. Things are busy and stressed at home now. She has turned her back on God and everything we believe (some do to military and some do to Joe) Which is fine, we can't force our beliefs on others. But we still go to Church and Celebrate Advent and Christmas. Tahlia is asking a lot of questions and we get the glare. NOT our problem! We did an outside tree for the animals, strung popcorn, cranberries, hung apples, oranges and homemade birdseed ornaments. T LOVES it!! This weekend we made Christmas cookies together....and put up some of my Nativities (I collect them) I let her play with my Charlie Brown one...some light up (which she loves) etc. so many more questions. Now in her pretend play she talks about God and his Son who came to take away our Sins and how he Loves us. Enacts the Christmas Story with Charlie Brown, Lucy and friends....Mom's not Happy but we're Excited and Joyful. Oh well, there is 2 sides to each story and they are living in Our house. She is there for our Bible reading/study hour( both morning and night) she plays quietly or reads to us. More and more she picks up our Readers or Bible and blah,blah,blahs her way through. We smile, Mom frowns. Hoping Mom hears some and it sinks in. But mostly just going about OUR lives. We have changed enuff for them not that I mind just not willing to give up our beliefs and customs.
T is a whirlwind and makes this Energizer Bunny tired! Her nickname has always been Storm (since conception). LOL
So between being busy at work, babysitting fulltime and home chores add in Christmas sharing and helping I'm a busy and exhausted person. Wish I had more time to get on here. Know that I am Praying and Thinking of all of you often.
Merry Christmas! 5 new inches of fresh snow last night. Perfect Christmas Eve. 17 degrees and 7 windchill. Snow blowing, shoveling and sweeping ourselves out while Tahlia runs and plays with the dogs. Busy morning here.
Sorry, been a bit busy here. And by the time I could get down to my area - I was all pooped out .
Chris thanks for all the sharing. there has to be a point in the message that help each of us. that was a lot to share, but good of your heart. hugs
Blondie !!! Love the tree for the birds. And perfect, place too.
Is that Conor? If so - how tall he is. And all those curls !!!!!! Storm is beautiful.
AS I stated - BUSY here. The usual things and then the NOT so usual things. Like when I ran away to get down in my area to gossip with you all. Haha on me.
Tonight - son fixed dinner. Very nice of him and as he was doing the finishing touches - he ran downstairs with grandson' comforter to wash. So as I was setting the table - he ran down to laundry room - just underneath the kitchen. We could hear: "OH NO - what happened? (&*^%&&$^&()*)( !!!!!!!" son comes back up to eat and shared - hat there is so much soap in the washer - it will take another washing to get it out. Ok - no big deal. I get to come down and gossip and the guys clean up kitchen. then Son comes back down with Emma after her bath and to switch the loads. He is just standing there looking. By now Riker is down here too. So I go in to look - SO MUCH SOAP !!!!!! So much - I can't find that comforter. AS I go to get the vinegar to cut the soap, I hear son saying to Riker: "Do not touch it" ok - everyone guessing what happened? Everyone getting a visual? And no I did not run to get my cell phone to video. But I did pick up Emma. So now, laundry room all clean - and washer going again. Honest, I do not believe just two more washings will do it. And can't blame that Laundry Fairy - this is all my son!
So it appears 2020 is going to still be something leaving!
Have you all seen that commercial - where the Devil is looking for his Match? Well, commercial says it all!
Sorry, I forgot a toast of Christmas. But I did think of all you.
So if you have time this New Year Day - lets think of each other - send out a hug.
The Year 2021 is still being a bumpy ride fro me. There was a funny placed on fb, it simply stated: I had my first 7 day free trail of 2021 and I would like to return it. Something like that.
Also, with a heavy heart I want to share about the lost of a dear Navy Mom. She was a Pam Mom for w while too.
Tracey Davis passed away on October 30, 2020 of natural cases. ( No Covid) I received a Christmas card from her hubby last night. In it he shared about her lost. I had not seen her on on fb for a while, but I knew she had alot of Blue Star Moms event and the holidays coming, I just didn't realize or feel her going.
She was a beautiful lady and nothing stopped her joy.
Maybe that was the beautiful Red Cardinal I saw yesterday morning. Her saying she is ok.
Sorry, to place a sad note, but I wanted you all to know.
Happy New Year everyone. I loved all the pictures.
TLynn, I am sad to hear the passing of a Pan mom.
My daughter in law had her 2nd chemo treatment this week. They shared a video today of him buzzing her hair. It was a family experience with my 6 year old grandson. They were laughing and giggling the whole time. He did all of their hair and posted a picture of all 3 of them with a military hair cut. They match!
Happy Sunday Ladies! I haven’t been on Navy4Moms in a long long time but my son is back in Japan now and I thought I’d stop in and say hello. Hey once a ‘Pan mom always a ‘Pan mom right? He’s in Atsugi right now but once he gets done with quarantine he’ll head to Sasebo. He’s thrilled to be back in Japan and ready to get back out to sea. I’ve got to get use to the time difference between us and of course the lack of communications again. I got spoiled having him in the states for a few years!
Yes, MaggieMay always a Pan Mom! Hope he is enjoying his time in Japan again. and yes, one gets spoiled when they are home. Mine is back in the states and that is a comfort.
Hi Kim - that picture of the three of them has to be awesome!!!! Sending positive healing thoughts to her. please keep us posted on how all of you are doing.
I no longer have a taste for lobster, I got sick on lobster New Year Eves. New Years Day I was sick!. then the last weekend, I somehow pulled my back muscles. So bad that my daughter in law had to help me in and out of bed. Plus, luckily I still had some pills that had from a prior back injury. One for muscles and the other pain. PAIN I was in. But after the no pain pill, mu daughter in law told me I said: " Sorry for being a pain in the ass." Looks like the pill was working!
Today has been my first day of no pain and I could pick up Emma again. Now if I could just figure out what I did to cause the injury.
Hey - need to get along. Wish all a good weekend. hugs all
Just popped in - I am not watching my grand daughter today. I get some Me Time. Well, for part of the day. So I will try to do some mending of pants and a sweater.
It has been a while since I have updated, and it has been quiet on here as well. I hope all of you are well. My family and I are all okay. Christmas was very different, but the whole year of 2020 was as well. My daughter did not come home so we opened gifts together by Zoom. And now she has scaled her wedding way back. We all got cards stating that since Covid is still very prevalent in Phoenix that they are doing a very small intimate service with immediate family only.
My Mom is doing well for her physically, but mentally not so good. Got a call Saturday morning she was having chest pains. She does have a history with her heart, and we have been told by many Drs. that there is nothing else they can do. Her caretaker had already called her Home Health Nurse, and given her 2 tums (which I know made Mom mad), and I told her to go ahead and give her a Nitroglycerin, and wait on her home health nurse. Mom's caretaker was calling me every few minutes and I asked her how Mom was feeling about 10 minutes after the tums and Mom said she was good and not hurting any more. It really may have been indigestion, or it could have really been her heart. It is so hard to be able to go inside and see her. I really lost it Saturday. The home healthcare nurse was a weekend on call nurse that never laid eyes on my Mother, and she called the Dr. on call who has neve seen my Mother, and together those two made me very mad. The Administrator called me and wanted to know if wanted Mom to take the new meds that had been ordered and I asked what they were giving her, Tylenol 3 and Ativan. I told no mam. The nurse that saw Mom also told the Administrator that I wouldn't let an ambulance be called. I told her to have that nurse call me and she did and let her have it. I asked her if she thought my Mother could coherently answer a question in the ER, and she said yes. She said there is nothing wrong with your Mother's mind and I said really???? Do you know that last week she helped hold the election, feed everyone that registered tiny sandwiches, then let them vote and then gave them their shots (Covid Vaccination)? The nurse didn't say a word. I told her the day before she was over at her dead neighbor's house and was doing the paperwork for everyone taking their shots and she didn't know why they had her at Al's house, she thought he had died and his house had sold. I told that girl that I didn't know her, and she had no idea who I was, but she had better never question my judgment regarding my Mother. I told her before Covid I visited my Mother 3 times every day, and that I would crawl through Hell and back many, many times with holes in the knees of my britches, for my Mother. It was hard enough having to try to make the right call with Mom, much less dealing with a nurse who didn't know diddly squat about my Mom.
Then my Mom got really confused and was thinking she and one of her buddies at Southern Magnolia was in a restaurant and was calling me every few minutes wanting me to come and pick them up and take them back to Southern Magnolia. I was telling her to let me check with the SM and see if I could do that. I was calling my brother that can usually calm her down when she gets like this. Before I could get him she would call me again. I finally told her I had talked to the girls at SM and she was back in her room and her friend, Ms. Nelda was back in her room. She said I am? I told her yes mam, that they had made it back and every thing was good. She said well I do see my stuff in here, so since this room is paid for, for tonight I am going to stay here. I told her that would be a good idea. She said well let me hang up somebody else may be wanting to talk to me. The bad thing is I know it is not going to get better.
I hope all of you and your families are all doing well!
Mississipi Mom: God bless you and your mother! My dad died at 95 in 2019. I can't imagine his life if he lived in 2020. He would have really suffered.
Checking in. My dil had her 3rd chemo treatment yesterday. Her tumor has shrunk to where they cannot feel it. Yay.
I booked my flight to be there for number 5 and 6. My sailor will be away, so I will be there for her and my grandson who is doing online Kindergarten, I am working remotely so this should be interesting.
Kim, thank you! You are so right about your Dad. This is so hard, and I can't even imagine how hard it is really is on my Mom. Some days she understands about the virus, and some days you cannot get to understand anything about it. I think that group of people have had the hardest time separated from their loved ones.
Praises for your daughter-in-law! Will be praying for her, and that more good news keeps coming. That is great news that you are going to be with her and your grandson. I know she will be happy to have you there with them. Hopefully all will go well with your work while there!
I hope all is well with everyone, and you all have a wonderful weekend. It is a beautiful day here in the South, a little cool, but hubs and son are going fishing!
Hey Mississippi !!!!! So glad - so very GLAD you came back aboard to catch us up. But - gee - what a ride you have had! I am happy to hear that your mom has you - even if it is by phone - you are there! And that you put your foot down so the nurses and others who care for her - KNOW to listen. Good too - your brother is there to help out with calling when needed. I understand - she will not get back to herself, but your love she will always know is there for her. And good for you hubby and son - gone fishing!!!
If they were up here - it would be ice fishing!
We are going cold again too. I mean cold! Below zero at nights and now a storm coming through with up to 9 inches. My hubby and son have the snow blower - filled with gas and aimed to go out the garage door when it opens. They complain about it - but honest - ALL the neighborhood guys come out and have this big party of who's blower can shoot the highest.
Kim, glad you are coming in. Bring warm clothing! Congratulations on dil tumor shrinking down. Fingers crossed for it just to leave! How long will you be here? Wow - you this close - only hours away. I know - you will have your hands full and you time is needed there. But just feeling - knowing you are so close - its wonderful!!!
Me - doing ok - still have no taste for lobster. And my back is still sore. I told it to knock it off - we need to exercise. So what does it do - hurts more. I need to exercise - to be able to catch Emma! she is getting fast on me.
Need to get - the approaching storm did not stop the Laundry Fairy from visiting.
Miss - keep us posted how your Mom is doing and naturally any gossip about wedding details.
Kim - let us know when you get here and how things are going for your dil.
But the both of you - remember have some Me Time!
And Blondie that goes for you too. I know - you HAVE to get these things done. How about putting Me Time on your to do List. then you have too!
Hey other Moms - my gossip tank is low - would enjoy to hear about how things are going for you and your sailors.
My sailor - he was heaven. Why you ask?
Where he lives finally had snow. Enough snow to have a snowball fight and make a snowman. Then he and his wife found a place that serves Adult Shakes. He said his Elvis Presley was delicious. It had Booz and Bacon in it! Knowing him he had seconds.
Well, I hear the Laundry Fairy calling - got to get hugs all
Good morning, Kim! I am sorry that I have laughed so hard, but your grandson cracked me up! I know it would not be nearly so funny if that was my credit card, but you do have to admit he is super sharp! God love him, he just needed a new game. You may need to sleep with one open while you are taking care of him. Just kidding, I am sure he is a great kid.
So thankful for your great news on your youngest son!!!! Super stoked about this! Thanking God for answered prayers.
Oh how funny!! Already knows how to order on Amazon. Well, maybe not so funny - I don't know how. He will have to teach me. Hey Kim can we borrow your card for practice ? Kidding
DRESS WARM Kim - it is freezing cold here !!!!!
And we just got our furnace up and running again.
short story:
Sunday morning early - furnace not working - no heat
Waited all day into evening before any one came to help.
During the checking of problems - found 4 gas leaks and Nicor gas had to come out - new meter installed.
During the night - furnace cut out again - in morning NiCor back out to turn of all gas to house and put in another new meter- because that one was leaking gas outside! Finally by 2 PM today - house is warm and toasty.
I'm beat. Watching some TV and going to bed early !!!!!!
My daughter(navy vet) and granddaughter moved to Dublin Ohio. 20 mins, from our other daughter in Hillard Ohio. So we are Ecstatic! Hard to see them move out but it was time. :(
WE went down and spent Fri.-Sun. with Storm one weekend so Daughter could drive to VA with a friend and bring back their things. Big disappointment. Uhaul did not have the big truck she had rented on line so they only got a utility van. Big rush, long weekend for just a few things. But Storm has her clothes, toys and things. Just none of the furniture or antiques came back. Uggg
Then Joe called Storm and told her he was coming for a visit. When? Questions everyday. we knew nothing. Poor child. Then in a snapchat picture we noticed he was in the hospital. I told daughter who cares if he gets MAD ask! You are still legally married and he's Storm's Dad! He cut is hand, got infected, went to his glands....3 days in hospital with IV's. Then he drives straight here, 12 hours. UGG Didn't have complete use of his hand.... Packed up Storm and took her to Missouri!
I asked daughter what do you mean, packed her up???? He is her Father. So hasn't seen her for 3 Months! Well he is in the Navy. But he's Never had her by himself, How'd you get her to go? We convinced her it was an adventure. There's a STORM coming! He'll bring her home monday or tuesday. He did Video call when they got there. Storm did not look happy, she looked frustrated and tired. All that time in a car, facing backwards and he puts in earbuds and listens to his book. He had no idea where he was staying, wherever we eat supper. What? This is Unexceptable and never again! He hung up.
As you might guess things did not go well. Storm through a fit, wouldn't talk or behave..... He called Sat. morning he was bringing her home, could daughter meet him in Indiana. NO! Big storm coming, he took her he can bring her back! They got here at 1:00am. He unloaded and left, went back to Missouri! Here to find out he has a girlfriend there. How? when? A old friend....
Storm won't talk about her time with him. Tells Daughter to quit talking! I don't want to say. She's very clingy and NOT herself. Doesn't want to leave their townhouse, not even to see Joseph! We are going down this weekend, hoping she'll talk to us. Daughter Finally got a Lawyer! Keep your fingers crossed!
My other daughter is pregnant due in June. They are going to take baby sometime in May, Daughter's kidney's already starting to fail....more worries. So they decided to find out ...it's a GIRL!
Oldest son still held up with wife, we barely hear from them.
Youngest son, with kidney disease and works on Covid pts. got his 1st vaccine shot, as did my 85 year old Dad who has heart problems, cancer and Diabetic. More to worry about...
Just hanging in there, working everyday, husband still laid off... I get every other weekend off work. So we get Connor one of them and go see Girls and Joseph and David the other one. Hoping once weather gets nicer the girls can come here and we can take Connor down there (2 hour drive).
Happy Friday to all! It is cold in Mississippi! I am sure not as cold as most of you. We did miss the ice storm yesterday, and for that I am most thankful. However, we have another one coming! Hopefully we will miss it too.
T-Lynn, happy you have furnace fixed, and house is toasty. I am sure you are happy as well with this artic blast!
Blondie, so good to hear from you!! Girl, your life is one roller coaster ride after another. I am so thankful your daughter has talked to an attorney. Bless your sweet Storm! She is too young to be treated that way by her Dad. There is no way for her to understand. Lots of prayers for your daughter and granddaughter and you as well. Praying for your pregnant daughter, your sons and your Dad. You have your wagon simply loaded. Remember to take care of Blondie! Thank you for your prayers for my Mom. At the moment, she is doing much better. Actually the last couple of weeks have been much better, so I know prayers work. I ordered flowers from all of us (brothers & sisters) to be delivered today for Valentine's Day. Hopefully this brings some warmth and smiles to her on this gloomy day.
I hope you all stay safe and warm, and you have a Happy Valentine's Day!
Blondie - what Miss said: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TOO!!!
Me too - glad Blondie Jr. called an attorney. And I believe you can get Strom to chat. Bring a book to read together. Fingers cross all goes well. And I am sending a Protection Shield Spell!!!! All positive thoughts for your daughter who is pregnant. You have a loving family - hang in there - things will get better.
So happy to hear Miss that your Mom is doing better. Your heart must feel better too. Yes, so happy that furnace and gas leaks are fixed.
Today has stayed in single digits and wind chill of negatives. Right now at this moment - 5:46 PM Central - it is 0 degrees - wind chill of -17. I have the furnace and a space heater running.
Family here are healthy - knock on wood. No one here has been vaccinated. DIL is a nurse too and still waiting. Son has signed up and we are waiting. Its Illinois - everything is backwards here.
Wish all a great day - sending hugs and wishes for all good
THANKS Miss and T-Lynn! FYI I have a 1 hour massage scheduled for this Wed. Yes, I'm taking half a day off and NOT to run after anyone, just for ME! GREAT Minds think alike. :)
Miss, glad your Mom is doing better, what a thoughtful gesture, flowers! That will brighten her room and bring smiles for days I'm sure. Glad the ice storm missed you.
T-Lynn, WE are cold and snowy also. Still ice and snow left over from last storm getting another 10-12 today/tomorrow and Very frigid!
Winter is taking hold this year. Even in Mississippi!
Blondie, I am so happy Blondie Jr. is seeking legal advice. Snow and ice today/tomorrow and massage scheduled Wednesday? You will need it.
TLynn, I hope you did a spell on the gremlin in your furnace to keep him away. Glad you are staying warm.
Miss, hugs to your mom. I am saying a prayer that she will soon get the vaccine and be able to have visitors.
My sailor put his house up for sale and in 3 days has 2 offers over asking with 20-30 more people scheduled. I travel there at the end of the month and hopefully papers will be signed and showings over. Her 4th chemo is tomorrow. I am helping them while my son is away in March. They will be moving May-June. I am so grateful that I am able to do this.
They say we get ice tonight. Stay safe and warm everyone.
Chemo 4 in the books today. All good. They are signing paper s for the sale tonight. $5,000 over asking. Not sure of the closing date. I am grateful that I will not be showing the house, but I might be kicked out before leaving.
Kim
DramaSoul. I missed you.
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
How about a zoom meeting?
"I believe" sounds better, more Christmas and more positive than "stupid covid".
"stupid covid" seems more of our slogan. LOL.
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
and congrats drama soul on your grandchild.
Dec 2, 2020
DramaSoul
Zoom meeting!! LOL! Not a bad idea although I have been taking a lot of CE online and my eyes sometimes just cross!
I am back to work as a dental hygienist. I have cut back my hours a bit. I love my patients and missed them when we were furloughed. I have to tell you all the PPE is exhausting and hot (hot flashes don't improve it!). I wear 2 masks (N95 with a level 3 over it and change that one with every patient), a bonnet to cover my hair (no one can see my purple highlights!), loupes, face shield and a smock over my scrubs. I change clothes before I go home and keep the work clothes separate from everything else. I work in a bubble....my operatory is encased in heavy duty plastic, the air purifier runs constantly and my patients rinse with a pre-treatment solution that lowers the microbe load in the saliva. I feel very safe at work. The only place I go is to work and to the market (once a week). I do go on my walks and I wear a mask when I am out of the house. It's just me and the 2 crazy cats. I will say, they are entertaining.
Like everyone else, I miss being around my friends and family but the Zoom has been a way to at least see faces and talk in somewhat real time.. My Jewish community meets online through Zoom. It's not the same as being in community but it is safer and we don't want to put anyone at risk.
I think the thing I miss most is my community theater participation. One of the groups to which I belong did a great radio show. I think I will look into doing the next one with them.
Big hugs to all of you! :-)
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
Zoom as limits to who can attend, I opted out for my cancer group to allow others to attend. I could really use them now with my DIL.
I know that I have you guys if the need arrives. She starts out with a great group at a navy hospital in San Diego. Anyone know about hospitals around Chicago?
She was a high risk pregnancy at the hospital at West Point for my grandchild and they had a plan to air lift her to New York if necessary.
Not sure how this will go when they move to Great Lakes, Would love to hear if anyone knows about
Dec 2, 2020
2tymeNavyMom
I BELIEVE
Dec 2, 2020
Kim
Too many words.....
I BELIEVE
Dec 2, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
I BELIEVE
Dec 3, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
My Heart goes out to your Daughter Blondie. My daughter was married to a Narcissist for just over a year (together for about 4). Ditto the others, help her see that she is reinforcing that behavior thru her daughter's eyes. It will take a while to get her self confidence back to believing her decisions are correct. Gently try to make her make those decisions, with encouragement and support and praise. Anonymous call to his command may or may not help with the financial stress, (as long as she isn't around him for the abuse he will direct). That money is hers as a dependent, not his according to the military when I was in. He has no choice in the matter. Feel free to tell her other Navy Moms have been in the same situation, and support her. Often they feel they are the only victim, and are ashamed.
I appreciate everyone for all the support they show one another, the Reiki, the hugs, the prayers, the advice, just the thoughts not written!
My son is settling in HI, buying a condo overlooking the ocean, airport, Diamond head to the left, sunsets to the right. Already diving, and seems happy. He has a history of depression, so I'm so proud of him. A few pics to brighten your day.
Dec 3, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
Dec 3, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
Dec 3, 2020
Blondie
Kim, joining your army.
Covid Sucks!
Dec 3, 2020
Blondie
I BELIEVE!
Kim, Thanks for your kind words. I Believe, just getting her too!
T-Lynn Yes, I remember. And SO True! Her sister has talked to her about it also. She went to therapy after her miscarriages….fertility problems, marriage….
Thank you, THANK you, I KNOW she’s in there too! I will let her read what Kim and You have written, if she will. If not I will print and save for her. I do keep reminding her of Tahlia and their Future. He doesn’t have to be a part of it if he don’t want to but He should pay for his daughter. I’m afraid she’s too much like me, I can do this myself. But I learnt a long time ago, You Don’t Have to and Shouldn’t. We always burn the paper but I’ll try the down and around you go. I appreciate all your support and help.
Had to laugh at your description of Emma. Sounds just like Tahlia. I suspect sometimes she makes a mess, to feed the dogs tho. You need more than a laundry fairy you need a maid. LOL
DramaSoul, Congrats!!! Grandma Thanks for sharing your story. Glad it all worked out for you.
Navy Strong. HUGS
Dec 3, 2020
Blondie
Thanks for all the I Believes! What an uplifting experience. Love you all dearly.
DramaSoul I'm exhausted just reading your post. Stay Safe my friend.
Kim, Prayers for your DIL and Comfort to you all.
Chris, thanks so much for sharing. Glad your daughter got out! (made me cry) all this outpour of Love. I will make sure she KNOWS you're all behind her and Cheering her on.
Love the picture! Glad he is settling in and Loving it.
Dec 3, 2020
2tymeNavyMom
"Chris, Forever Ray's mom" hit the nail on the head. This is about what Tahlia needs and deserves. It is owed not deserved. If they were together and happily married he would be contributing. It's no different when they are apart. Lifting all of you up in prayer. I like the idea of her getting some help from outside of the family and friends. Someone for her to talk to that doesn't have a stake in the game. My husband and I were having problems and I elected to do it on my own. To be honest I wanted someone to tell me I wasn't nuts for feeling the way I did about our situation. She validated my feelings but also have me tools to cope, get better and improve my marriage. It has and I highly recommend it. Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.
Please know that even though I am one of the quiet ones on here that I lift all of you and your situations up in prayer.
I am thankful for this site and all of you momma's and am comforted by reading, laughing and crying along with all of you.
lastly,
COVID (and Cancer) Sucks,
May God Bless you all.
Dec 3, 2020
T-Lynn
HI
Well this place made my day!
Oh, forgot - Covid Sucks!
Hi Drama !!!!! So good to hear from you. Congrats Grandma!!!!! I know you can't wait to start spoiling. Sure hope that is soon for you. And naturally, we all want pictures! when you can.And let us know about the Radio show.
Hi Chris - thank you for the great pictures. Just making sure - that was a water snake in one of the pictures? So happy for you sailor - he is looking happy!
Blondie - fingers cross that the next message we see from you - "She is in counseling !" And I hope she read, but if not now - maybe later. WE all really Believe in Her. hugs
Ok - Ladies, we need a name for the Third Generation Blondie
Blondie - Blondie Jr - ?
Oh have to share: It was a nice day out - so I took the grandkids in teh backyard. Our neighbor came out on his deck ( staying a distance) But he was wearing his Santa Hat and beard. He yelled out " Ho - Ho - HO" Riker and Emma just froze.
Riker: Why is Santa at Mr. Doug's? Maybe Mr. Doug helps Santa?! ( but then stops and looks at me. I knew he realized it was Mr. Doug, but he was a good big brother - he kept saying - Look Santa for Emma)
Emma: Suddenly stops - points and squeal with delight. Then yells something I could not decode. Then twirled - ran over to the Maple Tree and licked the trunk of the tree.
Santa is laughing and I just wonder Why?
I have not a clue - I can see being a tree hugger - but licking it!
Lets figure out a toast and possible ZOOM. hugs all
Dec 5, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
Blondie, et all! this may help all of us-
https://www.dailyom.com/cgi-bin/display/articledisplay.cgi?aid=7533...
(to save time, here is the copy of the text if you aren't able to connect on the link. DailyOM has positive thoughts and some coping. I have bought a couple of the courses, some are good, some not as helpful) Free daily thoughts if interested.
Before making a decision, release your fear of making a wrong decision
Ultimately, only you can know how the options before you will impact your daily life and your long-term well-being. Within you lies the power to competently weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each selection. Even if you feel incapable of making a decision, your inner wisdom and your intuitive mind will give you sound counsel if you have faith in yourself. Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking the guidance of others, and even then, treat their suggestions as supplementary information rather than votes to be tallied. Before making your choice, release your fear of wrong decisions. Perceived mistakes can lead you down wonderful and unexpected paths that expose you to life-changing insights. If you can let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right while others are entirely wrong, you will be less tempted to invite others to take the reins of your destiny.
When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices. Your decisions will be a pure reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power. Since you understand that you must live with and take responsibility for your decisions, you will likely exercise great care when coming to conclusions. As you learn to make informed and autonomous choices, you will gain the freedom to consciously direct the flow of your life without interference.
Dec 7, 2020
2tymeNavyMom
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom,
Thank you. I am going to pass this along to my sailor daughter. She is going through something similar but no abuse. Just being taken advantage of by her live in boyfriend. This may help her make the decision to cut the cord.
Dec 7, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
Being aware of the connection between all things can help you in terms of the broader effect you may be creating.
Think of buying a wooden stool. The wood was once part of a tree which is part of a forest. A person was paid to fell the tree, another to cut the wood, and yet another to build the stool. Their income may have had a positive effect on their families, just as the loss of the tree may have had a negative impact on the forest or the animals that made that tree their home. An encouraging word to a young child about their special talent can influence this person to develop their gift so that one day their inventions can change the lives of millions. A poem written "merely" to express oneself can make a stranger reading it online from thousands of miles away feel less alone because there is someone else out there who feels exactly the way they do.
Staying conscious of your connection to all things can help you think of your choices in terms of their impact. We are powerful enough that what we do and say can reverberate through the lives of people we may never meet. Understanding that you are intimately connected with all things and understanding your power to affect our world can be the first step on the road to living more consciously.
Another good message. Mental abuse is a long road back to believing in yourself, and your decisions. Prayers continue!
Dec 10, 2020
Chris, Forever Ray's Proud Mom
one last one from me. DailyOM:
Change doesn't have to be hard, here are 10 steps to help make it easier.
2. Mentally link changes to established daily rituals. This can make changes like taking on a new habit, starting a new job, or adapting to a new home happen much more smoothly. For example, if you want to begin meditating at home, try weaving it into your morning routine.
3. Going with the flow can help you accept change instead of resisting it. If you stay flexible, you will be able to ride out change without too much turbulence.
4. When a change feels most stressful, relief can often be found in finding the good that it brings. An illness, a financial loss, or a broken relationship can seem like the end of the world, yet they also can be blessings in disguise.
5. Remember that all change involves a degree of learning. If you find change particularly stressful, try to keep in mind that after this period of transformation has passed, you will be a wiser person for it.
6. Remember that upheaval and confusion are often natural parts of change. While we can anticipate certain elements that a change might bring, it is impossible to know everything that will happen in advance. Be prepared for unexpected surprises, and the winds of change won't easily knock you over.
7. Don't feel like you have to cope with changing circumstances or the stress of making a change on your own. Talk about what's going on for you with a friend or write about it in a journal. Sharing your feelings can give you a sense of relief while helping you find the strength to carry on.
8. Give yourself time to accept any changes that you face. And as change happens, recognize that you may need time to adjust to your new situation. Allow yourself a period of time to reconcile your feelings. This can make big changes feel less extreme.
9. No matter how large or difficult a change is, you will eventually adapt to these new circumstances. Remember that regardless of how great the change, all the new that it brings will eventually weave itself into the right places in your life.
10. If you're trying to change a pattern of behavior or navigate your way through a life change, don't assume that it has to be easy. Wanting to cry or being moody during a period of change is natural. Then again, don't assume that making a change needs to be hard. Sometimes, changes are meant to be that easy.
Dec 12, 2020
Blondie
Thanks Chris! WE all can learn from those.
I appreciate everyone's help. Still refuses to read or get professional help....BUT she is talking to other military ex-wives, so I take that as a Plus. Things are busy and stressed at home now. She has turned her back on God and everything we believe (some do to military and some do to Joe) Which is fine, we can't force our beliefs on others. But we still go to Church and Celebrate Advent and Christmas. Tahlia is asking a lot of questions and we get the glare. NOT our problem! We did an outside tree for the animals, strung popcorn, cranberries, hung apples, oranges and homemade birdseed ornaments. T LOVES it!! This weekend we made Christmas cookies together....and put up some of my Nativities (I collect them) I let her play with my Charlie Brown one...some light up (which she loves) etc. so many more questions. Now in her pretend play she talks about God and his Son who came to take away our Sins and how he Loves us. Enacts the Christmas Story with Charlie Brown, Lucy and friends....Mom's not Happy but we're Excited and Joyful. Oh well, there is 2 sides to each story and they are living in Our house. She is there for our Bible reading/study hour( both morning and night) she plays quietly or reads to us. More and more she picks up our Readers or Bible and blah,blah,blahs her way through. We smile, Mom frowns. Hoping Mom hears some and it sinks in. But mostly just going about OUR lives. We have changed enuff for them not that I mind just not willing to give up our beliefs and customs.
T is a whirlwind and makes this Energizer Bunny tired! Her nickname has always been Storm (since conception). LOL
So between being busy at work, babysitting fulltime and home chores add in Christmas sharing and helping I'm a busy and exhausted person. Wish I had more time to get on here. Know that I am Praying and Thinking of all of you often.
HUGS, Navy Strong
Dec 14, 2020
Blondie
Merry Christmas! 5 new inches of fresh snow last night. Perfect Christmas Eve. 17 degrees and 7 windchill. Snow blowing, shoveling and sweeping ourselves out while Tahlia runs and plays with the dogs. Busy morning here.
Dec 25, 2020
Blondie
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Blondie
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Blondie
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Blondie
Dec 25, 2020
T-Lynn
HI All.
Hoping your Christmas was Merry and full of Love.
Sorry, been a bit busy here. And by the time I could get down to my area - I was all pooped out .
Chris thanks for all the sharing. there has to be a point in the message that help each of us. that was a lot to share, but good of your heart. hugs
Blondie !!! Love the tree for the birds. And perfect, place too.
Is that Conor? If so - how tall he is. And all those curls !!!!!! Storm is beautiful.
AS I stated - BUSY here. The usual things and then the NOT so usual things. Like when I ran away to get down in my area to gossip with you all. Haha on me.
Tonight - son fixed dinner. Very nice of him and as he was doing the finishing touches - he ran downstairs with grandson' comforter to wash. So as I was setting the table - he ran down to laundry room - just underneath the kitchen. We could hear: "OH NO - what happened? (&*^%&&$^&()*)( !!!!!!!" son comes back up to eat and shared - hat there is so much soap in the washer - it will take another washing to get it out. Ok - no big deal. I get to come down and gossip and the guys clean up kitchen. then Son comes back down with Emma after her bath and to switch the loads. He is just standing there looking. By now Riker is down here too. So I go in to look - SO MUCH SOAP !!!!!! So much - I can't find that comforter. AS I go to get the vinegar to cut the soap, I hear son saying to Riker: "Do not touch it" ok - everyone guessing what happened? Everyone getting a visual? And no I did not run to get my cell phone to video. But I did pick up Emma. So now, laundry room all clean - and washer going again. Honest, I do not believe just two more washings will do it. And can't blame that Laundry Fairy - this is all my son!
So it appears 2020 is going to still be something leaving!
Have you all seen that commercial - where the Devil is looking for his Match? Well, commercial says it all!
Sorry, I forgot a toast of Christmas. But I did think of all you.
So if you have time this New Year Day - lets think of each other - send out a hug.
And I know we all wish each other:
A Brighter - Happier - Healthier - and a so much
BETTER - New Year.
Hugs Pan Moms.
Dec 30, 2020
T-Lynn
Hi All,
The Year 2021 is still being a bumpy ride fro me. There was a funny placed on fb, it simply stated: I had my first 7 day free trail of 2021 and I would like to return it. Something like that.
Also, with a heavy heart I want to share about the lost of a dear Navy Mom. She was a Pam Mom for w while too.
Tracey Davis passed away on October 30, 2020 of natural cases. ( No Covid) I received a Christmas card from her hubby last night. In it he shared about her lost. I had not seen her on on fb for a while, but I knew she had alot of Blue Star Moms event and the holidays coming, I just didn't realize or feel her going.
She was a beautiful lady and nothing stopped her joy.
Maybe that was the beautiful Red Cardinal I saw yesterday morning. Her saying she is ok.
Sorry, to place a sad note, but I wanted you all to know.
Do wish you to have a good weekend hugs
Jan 9, 2021
Kim
Happy New Year everyone. I loved all the pictures.
TLynn, I am sad to hear the passing of a Pan mom.
My daughter in law had her 2nd chemo treatment this week. They shared a video today of him buzzing her hair. It was a family experience with my 6 year old grandson. They were laughing and giggling the whole time. He did all of their hair and posted a picture of all 3 of them with a military hair cut. They match!
Jan 9, 2021
MaggieMay
Happy Sunday Ladies!
I haven’t been on Navy4Moms in a long long time but my son is back in Japan now and I thought I’d stop in and say hello. Hey once a ‘Pan mom always a ‘Pan mom right? He’s in Atsugi right now but once he gets done with quarantine he’ll head to Sasebo. He’s thrilled to be back in Japan and ready to get back out to sea. I’ve got to get use to the time difference between us and of course the lack of communications again. I got spoiled having him in the states for a few years!
Blessings to you all!!!
Jan 10, 2021
T-Lynn
HI
Yes, MaggieMay always a Pan Mom! Hope he is enjoying his time in Japan again. and yes, one gets spoiled when they are home. Mine is back in the states and that is a comfort.
Hi Kim - that picture of the three of them has to be awesome!!!! Sending positive healing thoughts to her. please keep us posted on how all of you are doing.
I no longer have a taste for lobster, I got sick on lobster New Year Eves. New Years Day I was sick!. then the last weekend, I somehow pulled my back muscles. So bad that my daughter in law had to help me in and out of bed. Plus, luckily I still had some pills that had from a prior back injury. One for muscles and the other pain. PAIN I was in. But after the no pain pill, mu daughter in law told me I said: " Sorry for being a pain in the ass." Looks like the pill was working!
Today has been my first day of no pain and I could pick up Emma again. Now if I could just figure out what I did to cause the injury.
Hey - need to get along. Wish all a good weekend. hugs all
Jan 14, 2021
T-Lynn
Hi All
Just popped in - I am not watching my grand daughter today. I get some Me Time. Well, for part of the day. So I will try to do some mending of pants and a sweater.
Wish all a good week. hugs
Jan 18, 2021
Mississippi Mom
Good Monday morning Ladies!
It has been a while since I have updated, and it has been quiet on here as well. I hope all of you are well. My family and I are all okay. Christmas was very different, but the whole year of 2020 was as well. My daughter did not come home so we opened gifts together by Zoom. And now she has scaled her wedding way back. We all got cards stating that since Covid is still very prevalent in Phoenix that they are doing a very small intimate service with immediate family only.
My Mom is doing well for her physically, but mentally not so good. Got a call Saturday morning she was having chest pains. She does have a history with her heart, and we have been told by many Drs. that there is nothing else they can do. Her caretaker had already called her Home Health Nurse, and given her 2 tums (which I know made Mom mad), and I told her to go ahead and give her a Nitroglycerin, and wait on her home health nurse. Mom's caretaker was calling me every few minutes and I asked her how Mom was feeling about 10 minutes after the tums and Mom said she was good and not hurting any more. It really may have been indigestion, or it could have really been her heart. It is so hard to be able to go inside and see her. I really lost it Saturday. The home healthcare nurse was a weekend on call nurse that never laid eyes on my Mother, and she called the Dr. on call who has neve seen my Mother, and together those two made me very mad. The Administrator called me and wanted to know if wanted Mom to take the new meds that had been ordered and I asked what they were giving her, Tylenol 3 and Ativan. I told no mam. The nurse that saw Mom also told the Administrator that I wouldn't let an ambulance be called. I told her to have that nurse call me and she did and let her have it. I asked her if she thought my Mother could coherently answer a question in the ER, and she said yes. She said there is nothing wrong with your Mother's mind and I said really???? Do you know that last week she helped hold the election, feed everyone that registered tiny sandwiches, then let them vote and then gave them their shots (Covid Vaccination)? The nurse didn't say a word. I told her the day before she was over at her dead neighbor's house and was doing the paperwork for everyone taking their shots and she didn't know why they had her at Al's house, she thought he had died and his house had sold. I told that girl that I didn't know her, and she had no idea who I was, but she had better never question my judgment regarding my Mother. I told her before Covid I visited my Mother 3 times every day, and that I would crawl through Hell and back many, many times with holes in the knees of my britches, for my Mother. It was hard enough having to try to make the right call with Mom, much less dealing with a nurse who didn't know diddly squat about my Mom.
Jan 25, 2021
Mississippi Mom
Continued.......
Then my Mom got really confused and was thinking she and one of her buddies at Southern Magnolia was in a restaurant and was calling me every few minutes wanting me to come and pick them up and take them back to Southern Magnolia. I was telling her to let me check with the SM and see if I could do that. I was calling my brother that can usually calm her down when she gets like this. Before I could get him she would call me again. I finally told her I had talked to the girls at SM and she was back in her room and her friend, Ms. Nelda was back in her room. She said I am? I told her yes mam, that they had made it back and every thing was good. She said well I do see my stuff in here, so since this room is paid for, for tonight I am going to stay here. I told her that would be a good idea. She said well let me hang up somebody else may be wanting to talk to me. The bad thing is I know it is not going to get better.
I hope all of you and your families are all doing well!
Take care and stay safe!
Jan 25, 2021
Kim
Mississipi Mom: God bless you and your mother! My dad died at 95 in 2019. I can't imagine his life if he lived in 2020. He would have really suffered.
Checking in. My dil had her 3rd chemo treatment yesterday. Her tumor has shrunk to where they cannot feel it. Yay.
I booked my flight to be there for number 5 and 6. My sailor will be away, so I will be there for her and my grandson who is doing online Kindergarten, I am working remotely so this should be interesting.
Jan 26, 2021
Mississippi Mom
Kim, thank you! You are so right about your Dad. This is so hard, and I can't even imagine how hard it is really is on my Mom. Some days she understands about the virus, and some days you cannot get to understand anything about it. I think that group of people have had the hardest time separated from their loved ones.
Praises for your daughter-in-law! Will be praying for her, and that more good news keeps coming. That is great news that you are going to be with her and your grandson. I know she will be happy to have you there with them. Hopefully all will go well with your work while there!
I hope all is well with everyone, and you all have a wonderful weekend. It is a beautiful day here in the South, a little cool, but hubs and son are going fishing!
Jan 29, 2021
T-Lynn
HI
Hey Mississippi !!!!! So glad - so very GLAD you came back aboard to catch us up. But - gee - what a ride you have had! I am happy to hear that your mom has you - even if it is by phone - you are there! And that you put your foot down so the nurses and others who care for her - KNOW to listen. Good too - your brother is there to help out with calling when needed. I understand - she will not get back to herself, but your love she will always know is there for her. And good for you hubby and son - gone fishing!!!
If they were up here - it would be ice fishing!
We are going cold again too. I mean cold! Below zero at nights and now a storm coming through with up to 9 inches. My hubby and son have the snow blower - filled with gas and aimed to go out the garage door when it opens. They complain about it - but honest - ALL the neighborhood guys come out and have this big party of who's blower can shoot the highest.
Kim, glad you are coming in. Bring warm clothing! Congratulations on dil tumor shrinking down. Fingers crossed for it just to leave! How long will you be here? Wow - you this close - only hours away. I know - you will have your hands full and you time is needed there. But just feeling - knowing you are so close - its wonderful!!!
Me - doing ok - still have no taste for lobster. And my back is still sore. I told it to knock it off - we need to exercise. So what does it do - hurts more. I need to exercise - to be able to catch Emma! she is getting fast on me.
Need to get - the approaching storm did not stop the Laundry Fairy from visiting.
Miss - keep us posted how your Mom is doing and naturally any gossip about wedding details.
Kim - let us know when you get here and how things are going for your dil.
But the both of you - remember have some Me Time!
And Blondie that goes for you too. I know - you HAVE to get these things done. How about putting Me Time on your to do List. then you have too!
Hey other Moms - my gossip tank is low - would enjoy to hear about how things are going for you and your sailors.
My sailor - he was heaven. Why you ask?
Where he lives finally had snow. Enough snow to have a snowball fight and make a snowman. Then he and his wife found a place that serves Adult Shakes. He said his Elvis Presley was delicious. It had Booz and Bacon in it! Knowing him he had seconds.
Well, I hear the Laundry Fairy calling - got to get hugs all
Jan 30, 2021
Kim
This is short and sweet.
I gave my sweet grandchild that just turned 6 an Amazon Fire 3 years ago.
Today I discovered that he bought an $800.00 Go Cart on my credit card and it was supposed to be delivered to my house!
On it.
So funny! But he is in big trouble!
This is my sailors son. He loves to speak Japanese to me to trip me up!
I arrive February 27th to look after him and his mother during her Cancer treatments while my sailor has to be away.
Game On!
Feb 7, 2021
Kim
I forgot to post my youngest great news. No change! He is moved from every 4 months to every 6 months now. Very positive news for brain cancer.
We are both almost 4 years cancer free.
Maggs! Next appointment will be my birthday in July in Frederick. Time for us to meet up!
Anyone else near Frederick Maryland?
Feb 7, 2021
Mississippi Mom
Good morning, Kim! I am sorry that I have laughed so hard, but your grandson cracked me up! I know it would not be nearly so funny if that was my credit card, but you do have to admit he is super sharp! God love him, he just needed a new game. You may need to sleep with one open while you are taking care of him. Just kidding, I am sure he is a great kid.
So thankful for your great news on your youngest son!!!! Super stoked about this! Thanking God for answered prayers.
Feb 8, 2021
T-Lynn
HI All,
Oh how funny!! Already knows how to order on Amazon. Well, maybe not so funny - I don't know how. He will have to teach me. Hey Kim can we borrow your card for practice ? Kidding
DRESS WARM Kim - it is freezing cold here !!!!!
And we just got our furnace up and running again.
short story:
Sunday morning early - furnace not working - no heat
Waited all day into evening before any one came to help.
During the checking of problems - found 4 gas leaks and Nicor gas had to come out - new meter installed.
During the night - furnace cut out again - in morning NiCor back out to turn of all gas to house and put in another new meter- because that one was leaking gas outside! Finally by 2 PM today - house is warm and toasty.
I'm beat. Watching some TV and going to bed early !!!!!!
And great news for your son !!!!
Wish everyone a great week hugs
Feb 8, 2021
Blondie
GREAT news Kim!!! Doing Happy Dance with you. Too FUNNY!! Have a Safe trip and a Wonderful Time
Miss, Praying for your Mom, her Care Givers and your Family. It's so hard.... but rewarding . We had some great laughs and stories. (all Lovingly!)
T-Lynn, glad you got things fixed without any explosions!
Feb 9, 2021
Blondie
My daughter(navy vet) and granddaughter moved to Dublin Ohio. 20 mins, from our other daughter in Hillard Ohio. So we are Ecstatic! Hard to see them move out but it was time. :(
WE went down and spent Fri.-Sun. with Storm one weekend so Daughter could drive to VA with a friend and bring back their things. Big disappointment. Uhaul did not have the big truck she had rented on line so they only got a utility van. Big rush, long weekend for just a few things. But Storm has her clothes, toys and things. Just none of the furniture or antiques came back. Uggg
Then Joe called Storm and told her he was coming for a visit. When? Questions everyday. we knew nothing. Poor child. Then in a snapchat picture we noticed he was in the hospital. I told daughter who cares if he gets MAD ask! You are still legally married and he's Storm's Dad! He cut is hand, got infected, went to his glands....3 days in hospital with IV's. Then he drives straight here, 12 hours. UGG Didn't have complete use of his hand.... Packed up Storm and took her to Missouri!
I asked daughter what do you mean, packed her up???? He is her Father. So hasn't seen her for 3 Months! Well he is in the Navy. But he's Never had her by himself, How'd you get her to go? We convinced her it was an adventure. There's a STORM coming! He'll bring her home monday or tuesday. He did Video call when they got there. Storm did not look happy, she looked frustrated and tired. All that time in a car, facing backwards and he puts in earbuds and listens to his book. He had no idea where he was staying, wherever we eat supper. What? This is Unexceptable and never again! He hung up.
As you might guess things did not go well. Storm through a fit, wouldn't talk or behave..... He called Sat. morning he was bringing her home, could daughter meet him in Indiana. NO! Big storm coming, he took her he can bring her back! They got here at 1:00am. He unloaded and left, went back to Missouri! Here to find out he has a girlfriend there. How? when? A old friend....
Storm won't talk about her time with him. Tells Daughter to quit talking! I don't want to say. She's very clingy and NOT herself. Doesn't want to leave their townhouse, not even to see Joseph! We are going down this weekend, hoping she'll talk to us. Daughter Finally got a Lawyer! Keep your fingers crossed!
Feb 9, 2021
Blondie
My other daughter is pregnant due in June. They are going to take baby sometime in May, Daughter's kidney's already starting to fail....more worries. So they decided to find out ...it's a GIRL!
Oldest son still held up with wife, we barely hear from them.
Youngest son, with kidney disease and works on Covid pts. got his 1st vaccine shot, as did my 85 year old Dad who has heart problems, cancer and Diabetic. More to worry about...
Just hanging in there, working everyday, husband still laid off... I get every other weekend off work. So we get Connor one of them and go see Girls and Joseph and David the other one. Hoping once weather gets nicer the girls can come here and we can take Connor down there (2 hour drive).
Hugs to all
Feb 9, 2021
Mississippi Mom
Happy Friday to all! It is cold in Mississippi! I am sure not as cold as most of you. We did miss the ice storm yesterday, and for that I am most thankful. However, we have another one coming! Hopefully we will miss it too.
T-Lynn, happy you have furnace fixed, and house is toasty. I am sure you are happy as well with this artic blast!
Blondie, so good to hear from you!! Girl, your life is one roller coaster ride after another. I am so thankful your daughter has talked to an attorney. Bless your sweet Storm! She is too young to be treated that way by her Dad. There is no way for her to understand. Lots of prayers for your daughter and granddaughter and you as well. Praying for your pregnant daughter, your sons and your Dad. You have your wagon simply loaded. Remember to take care of Blondie! Thank you for your prayers for my Mom. At the moment, she is doing much better. Actually the last couple of weeks have been much better, so I know prayers work. I ordered flowers from all of us (brothers & sisters) to be delivered today for Valentine's Day. Hopefully this brings some warmth and smiles to her on this gloomy day.
I hope you all stay safe and warm, and you have a Happy Valentine's Day!
Feb 12, 2021
T-Lynn
Happy Valentines Day !!
Blondie - what Miss said: TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TOO!!!
Me too - glad Blondie Jr. called an attorney. And I believe you can get Strom to chat. Bring a book to read together. Fingers cross all goes well. And I am sending a Protection Shield Spell!!!! All positive thoughts for your daughter who is pregnant. You have a loving family - hang in there - things will get better.
So happy to hear Miss that your Mom is doing better. Your heart must feel better too. Yes, so happy that furnace and gas leaks are fixed.
Today has stayed in single digits and wind chill of negatives. Right now at this moment - 5:46 PM Central - it is 0 degrees - wind chill of -17. I have the furnace and a space heater running.
Family here are healthy - knock on wood. No one here has been vaccinated. DIL is a nurse too and still waiting. Son has signed up and we are waiting. Its Illinois - everything is backwards here.
Wish all a great day - sending hugs and wishes for all good
take care - and keep talking here. hugs
Feb 14, 2021
Blondie
THANKS Miss and T-Lynn! FYI I have a 1 hour massage scheduled for this Wed. Yes, I'm taking half a day off and NOT to run after anyone, just for ME! GREAT Minds think alike. :)
Miss, glad your Mom is doing better, what a thoughtful gesture, flowers! That will brighten her room and bring smiles for days I'm sure. Glad the ice storm missed you.
T-Lynn, WE are cold and snowy also. Still ice and snow left over from last storm getting another 10-12 today/tomorrow and Very frigid!
Feb 15, 2021
Kim
Winter is taking hold this year. Even in Mississippi!
Blondie, I am so happy Blondie Jr. is seeking legal advice. Snow and ice today/tomorrow and massage scheduled Wednesday? You will need it.
TLynn, I hope you did a spell on the gremlin in your furnace to keep him away. Glad you are staying warm.
Miss, hugs to your mom. I am saying a prayer that she will soon get the vaccine and be able to have visitors.
My sailor put his house up for sale and in 3 days has 2 offers over asking with 20-30 more people scheduled. I travel there at the end of the month and hopefully papers will be signed and showings over. Her 4th chemo is tomorrow. I am helping them while my son is away in March. They will be moving May-June. I am so grateful that I am able to do this.
They say we get ice tonight. Stay safe and warm everyone.
Feb 15, 2021
T-Lynn
HI All
Stay safe all - its darn cold out there!
Knock on wood - furnace is working great. Kim - I hope I scared that Gremlin out!
Kim - know you will be busy caring for your family - but make sure you make some Me Time.
Its in Writing - did you all see it?
Blondie is taking a half day off! And getting a massage and there better be some wine there. Doing the Happy Dance
Wishing all Happy Mardi Gras !!! Its tomorrow - find some way to celebrate something special.
Take care Hugs
Feb 15, 2021
Kim
Chemo 4 in the books today. All good. They are signing paper s for the sale tonight. $5,000 over asking. Not sure of the closing date. I am grateful that I will not be showing the house, but I might be kicked out before leaving.
Feb 16, 2021