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My fiance left 02/22 to basic training, he is in ship 03 div 143 PIR 4/22. I miss him sooooo much and I have so many things going through my head. I support him with his choice but just needed some advice on this, im new to the navy spouse thing and boy is it hard, I have a respect for navy wives!
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Hey girl..I have been reading your comments and I am really sorry that you are having to put up with people telling you such negative things. As if having him gone isn't hard enough having people say things like that hurts and just makes it harder. I trust my husband fully that he would never do anything like that but sometimes the "what ifs" take over and you can't help but think about it. It would be especially hard if people are constantly putting that in your mind. I know its easier said then done, but try to dwell on the good things in your relationship...this time apart will help the two of you grow stronger and realize how much you mean to one another. He loves you and just remember that. I know this is stuff you have heard from everyone else but I just want you to know that I am here for you. Sometimes it just helps to talk about especially when he is gone! Take care of yourself and ignore what those folks are saying, just hold your head up and think positive (but its ok to cry to..I do,lol). And write him all the time! I hope you are having a good day!
I wanted to comment from a momma's point of view. Missing your SR is so emotional and its important that you let yourself feel everything that your heart wants to feel.
My son will probably graduate at the same time as your fiance.
I would like to offer you some advice. Those who told you "what do you think we did when we were away for 6 months?"...sweetie, this speaks VOLUMES of that person's character. Not ALL of us raised our boys to be like that. Some men cheat and some men don't...regardless of whether or not they are in the military. My guess is, the person or people who told you this wouldn't know fidelity if it smacked them on the back of their punkin heads!
Take a look at your future mother in law....take a look at your fiance. Is he built that way? Has he cheated on you before? Do you trust him? Of course you do not have to tell me the answers to these questions...what you need to do is find out what you believe in and completely disregard those folks that are trying to crush your dream.
You are a beautiful young woman, it is my opinion that these people would rather see you without him, cuz then maybe, just maybe...they stand a chance! People are amazing creatures Britt...figure out what you believe and then...just believe.
Faith, trust, loyalty and love will get you through. As long as you both believe the same thing and have the same goals in mind, it will all work out!
Also...this is a big decision for the both of you. My sons GF is in college and wants to attend art school. She struggled with the usual thoughts "what about what i want to do" ..."can i still be happy, following him around".."what kind of life is it going to be with him gone so much".etc...She didnt know if she wanted to give everything up because of his decision to join the Navy. So i completely understand you concern. Its something you have to decide on and then buckle down for the long haul. After she realized how much she missed him and the letters started coming in, she didnt even hesitate to make her decision. She is behind him 100%, and is ready to follow him anywhere it takes him. At least for these first years, who knows how long it will last.
But im hoping that if you can hang in there until you have some contact with him, then you can get a 'feel' of where it will lead. It really is tough on you... i know, Its even tougher on them. Theyre going thru hell right now, and hes counting on everyone to hang in there until its over, im sure. I understand that its not just Bootcamp you are worried about, its the long road after that, but believe me, it seems tough now, but as soon as he gets out of BC, it will be totally better. MUCH easier and MUCH better. Plus, if hes not sure what his rate (job) will be, maybe he will end up doing lite duty and you will see much more of him than what you think...:))
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