My Son

[Bird MomShip13Div363]

My oldest son (19) left yesterday for BC in Illinois.  I am a wreck.  Did nothing but cry yesterday.

I have another son age 17 who has one more year in Tech School.  Please can someone put my

mind at ease about what goes on there.  I here many diff things.  I sometimes don't think I will

be able to do this waiting without crying everyday.  I am very proud of him, believe me.  His dad

passed away in 2011 and I know he misses him very much and would have loved for him to be here.

I just want to know if they are ok while they are they are there.  When can I expect to talk to him?

Please help  :)

 

Deb

[Zig's Mom - carmen47 14/307]

@my son .... u gotta hang tough .  u will receive the clothes box than the  letter with his address. expect a few weeks before he able to call .. but u will receive a call stating he there and he ok .. within 48 hrs ..its going to  be a quick call. your not alone..  keep writing a note/letter to him to keep your mind clear..  till your letter comes.

sending a hug, from navy mom to another. :)

[Valerie ( Ship 2 Div 943)]

@ My Son.... It's normal for you to feel what you're feeling. My only son left left for boot camp a little over 2 weeks ago. It has always been him and I, since his pops walked out of his life many years go. His pops was in the Navy many years ago, and I think thats what inspired my son to join. He's always had a love for carriers and planes. Anyhoooo, I have yet to hear from my son, although my worrying isn't that bad. I know he and the others are in good hands, and they will be okay. It took about a week and a half for me to get the form letter detailing the graduation info (I live in Fl, not sure if thats why it took so long). Just keep him in your thoughts daily and write your son plenty, his grad will come before you know it ;)

[Bird MomShip13Div363]

Thank you so much for the info. I guess once I start hearing from him, and being able to write letters, I will feel much better. It just feels so empty w/o him, even though it's only been 1 day. The support means alot.

[lemonelephant]

Join the group, DEP-Leavin for bootcamp in July, to connect with others with loved ones who left yesterday and may have PIR together. Go ahead and strat writing. You can't mail the letters until you get the form letter, but writing will help you to feel connected to him. Number the letters on the outside. Some mail 3 or four at a time at first rather than all of them at once upon receiving the address in the form letter.

Arrival and What Happens at the RTC within Boot Camp Moms (and loved ones) will let you know what is happening.

You may want to join, or at least check out, Boot Camp Moms (and loved ones), PIR Reference Information, and New Members Stop Here. Once you know your SR’s PIR date and/or division number, watch in Boot Camp Moms (and loved ones) and/or at http://www.navyformoms.com/forum/topics/groups-listed-by-pir-date and join the group for that once it has been created. There will be a lot of great information and support for you in those groups. Be sure to check out the Pages (found under the pictures of the Members) and Discussions within the groups. 

(Group names within this reply are clickable links. To join a group, click on the group name and after the group page opens, click on "+ Join..." in the upper right.)

[taylorsmom]

I can be overwhelming, my son was an only child i cried too alot but it has been 18 mo know I miss him all the time thye come home for a little then leav again it gets a little easier, but they do well in BC start you a note pad when you have a thought or wishes for him write it down so when they send the letter withaddress isent like 4 letters the do get homesick but you can send as many letters and pics in a regular envelope it helps them get thru hard core training and long nights. they will always need and miss you too.about 5 to six weeks you will then get a scripted phone call the  you will be able to have a conversation with him then theirs graduation its all good

[Laurie W. (ship 12 div 360)]

@ My Son.....my son left the same day for BC, I definitely am in the same boat as you.  The crying & wondering, actually we have quite a bit in common, my husband passed away 4 years ago.  As my son being my only child we are very close.  I would like to add you as a friend, I have started writing little notes so I can send them when I finally receive his address, this seems to help me.

[Lynn]

@ My son. My son left 2 weeks ago and i been crying every day.. It too is killing me. I to dont know how to stop crying i miss him so much. He just turned 18. I received his 30 second call when he arrived to BC and got a 15 minute call last Saturday. I cried the entire time. I wont lie to you, he stated he hates it, wants to leave and made a mistake joining !!! He cant handle the yelling in his face, being told what to do, when to do it and how long he has to do it. I havent heard from him since, but I did get a letter this week. Very proud as I come from a Military but i miss him so much. So,i know exactly what your going through.... Hang in there,,,,, 

[Bird MomShip13Div363]

Hi Lyynn,

wow, I don't know what I would do if my son said that...im sure id be crying too.  Nothing more heartbreaking than knowing your child is not happy. I did get his call that he arrived safe at BC and he was ok.  Can I look forward to a 15 min call?    It is so hard not knowing what he is doing and if he is ok.  I cant wait until the lines of communication gets easier. 

Can you friend me so we can support each other from one Navy mom to another?

I have been told it gets easier....I hope so  :)

[Lynn]

Hello, I was told i wont get a call for at least 2-3 weeks, but i got a call after a week and a half he has been gone. It all depends on there unit leader and if they dont get in trouble. Today i hope i get another call from my boy. I too was told it gets easier, but i dont see it. I guess it depends on the relationship we have with our kids. We are very close. he's jelly and Im the peanut butter.We have Never been away from each other with no communication for over a week ever. So, this has been extremely hard. I know he is "ok". But its the not knowing thats hard. I know you should be getting a 15 minute call soon  :) 

[lemonelephant]

Lynn, join the group, PIR 09/06/2013 TG 43 - 11 Divisions (331-340 and 943), to connect with others with loved ones training with your SR. I also invite you to join, or at least check out, Boot Camp Moms (and loved ones), PIR Reference Information, and New Members Stop Here. There will be a lot of great information and support for you in those groups as well as in the PIR group. Be sure to check out the Pages (found under the pictures of the Members) and Discussions within the groups. Arrival and What Happens at the RTC within Boot Camp Moms (and loved ones) will let you know what is happening and Phone Cards and Phone Calls will give you more information on how phone cards work and will even let yo know of times when you can relax knowing you won't be missing a call, but you will also want to check out the other Pages in all of the groups.

(Group names within this comment are clickable links. To join a group, click on the group name and after the group page opens, click on “+ Join...” in the upper right.)