Time goes by so fast, then he'll be gone.

[ErisValaska]

My boyfriend leaves for Basic Training in less than two months and I guess I've just been having a hard time trying to deal with it. I feel like I'm driving him crazy because I want to be with him all the time. I find myself getting upset when he wants to go hang out with friends and I feel so selfish for it. I guess I'm just scared of him leaving and I know it's coming. Time goes by so fast and then he'll be gone. I guess I just want to spend every moment I have left with him together. Everytime I get sad about him going places he asks me why and I have yet to talk to him about how I'm feeling. I'm thinking about doing it tonight but then i always end up crying and I don't want to make him leaving harder on him. We've been together for almost ten months and he won't be here for our anniversary, which is going to be really hard for me. I don't think I'll even be able to speak to him on that day. I support him joining the Navy 100% and I want him to do what he wants. I just want to make the time we have left special but I know he has a life and there are other things he'd like to do. I wish it were easier and that I wasn't acting so crazy about it. I'm just going to miss him so much.

[AJVNavyMom]

I wouldn't say you are acting crazy, but rather in love.  You need to let him know you will miss him and you MUST allow yourself time to cry.  Somewhere along the line, we learned to hide our feelings and to be "brave."  But in my opinion,  a real woman, or man, cries.  Its ok to feel and to show you do.  I wouldn't say cry every day to him because the added stress will derail him.  He needs to stay hyper focused on his decision.  Support him, and yes, be with him every chance you can...without smothering him.  You should love him enough to share him with his family and friends.  He will love you more for that.  My son left Wednesday and I am so sad without him here it hurts.  Before he left I made sure he knew how incredibly proud his dad, sister, and myself were of him.  How proud our entire family is of him.  I saved a lot of my crying for night when he couldn't see.  Hang in there and remember, talk it out and allow time to cry!  :)