This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

All Hands Magazine's mini-documentary series "Making a Sailor": These six videos follow four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Making a Sailor: Episode 1 - "Get on the Bus"

Making a Sailor: Episode 2 - "What did I get myself into?"

Making a Sailor: Episode 3 - "Processing Days"

Making a Sailor: Episode 4 - "Forming"

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor - Episode 5

Making a Sailor: Episode 6 - "I'm a U.S. Navy Sailor"

...and visit - America's Navy and to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. There are now tickets issued, and there are no longer parking passes for PIR.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Navy Speak

Click here to learn common Navy terms and acronyms!  (Hint:  When you can speak an entire sentence using only acronyms and one verb, you're truly a Navy mom.)

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Visite esta página para explorar en su idioma las oportunidades de educación y carreras para sus hijos en el Navy.




You are here because you are looking for answers to questions, looking for support, looking for other members to meet who are a similar situation. Here are some suggestions:

I.  Find a GROUP (S) of people

As a new member, you will many many questions. There are a number of groups that will support you through these tough weeks before, during and after bootcamp. The groups have members who are new and members with various experience levels and knowledge to help you.

Just click on the following links and when your are in the groups page click on "+Join..."
1. New Moms Stop Here.  A kind of orientation station. We'll direct you to other areas that will help you the most plus we have a panel of advisers "in house" to help you with specific questions.
2. Bootcamp Moms  If your SR (seaman recruit) has started bootcamp already, join this group.

3. Deppers/Future Sailors..In but not gone yet  If your recruit is waiting for bootcamp, join this group.

If you know the month when your recruit will be leaving, you can join a more selected group based on the month your recruit is leaving. Once you know when our SR's PIR (Pass In Review - graduation ceremony from bootcamp) is, find the group associated with the PIR date - this will be an important group for you to join.


1. Leaving for Bootcamp in March
2. Leaving for Bootcamp in April
3. Leaving for Bootcamp in May
4. Leaving for Bootcamp in June
5. Leaving for Bootcamp in July
6. Leaving for Bootcamp in August
7. Leaving for Bootcamp in September
8. Leaving for Bootcamp in October
9. Leaving for Bootcamp in November
10. Leaving for Bootcamp in December
11. Leaving for Bootcamp in January
12. Leaving for Bootcamp in February

HOW TO FIND THE GROUPS? Click on the tab GROUPS on the menu bar, then input the keyword in the search box and click the little icon just to the right. Results will be displayed. There geographically based groups, such as Texas' Moms or San Francisco Bay Area Navy Families. There are groups relating to RATING (job specialty) such as Seabee Moms or MAA moms (Master At Arms) and there are friendship/common interest groups such as Girlfriends, Fiancees and Wives or What's an Ombudsman and how to contact them. Once your sailor has been assigned a ship/boat - there are also groups associated with them. As of January 12, 2011, there are over 1400 groups (a group for just above anything and everything). Many contain under 10 members. Find people to share your common interest or needs. It a great way to get used to being a Navy family. Many geographical groups have Meet and Greet regularly. It's a wonderful opportunity to make new friends. There is nothing like meeting other NAVY families in person. For your convenience lists for geographical groups, ratings groups and specialty groups have been compiled and detailed in the following Forum Discussions:

GROUPS: Listed By Name of US Naval Ship

GROUPS: Listed By PIR Date - Pass In Review (Boot Camp Graduation)

GROUPS: Listed By Navy Job (Rating)

GROUPS: Geographical By State

GROUPS: Listed By Special Interest


II. TIPS on How To Use This Site


USE THE SEARCH FUNCTION (to find groups, blogs, forum discussions, members). This function should be your new best friend. Before posting a new blog or forum discussion, do a search to see if there is a pre-existing thread about the subject. For example, you want to know about "the first call", click or Forum, you see a input box with a little search icon (looks like magnifying glass). Type in "first call" then click on the icon. You'll find that within Forum, there are 2000+ entries as of today. Obviously, many before you have asked about the "first call."

Communications is done primarily by posting comments in the groups, other members' pages, blogs and forum discussions. Members often post comments on another member's personal page (tip - you can also comment on your own personal page but use the "comment back" to reply to a comment from another member). Many members enjoy the CHAT room. The action too fast and there are multiple of conversations going so it's difficult for someone to answer your questions in a detailed fashion - be patient.  

Get in the habit of the following:

  1. Check your personal page. Click on MY PAGE on menubar.
  2. Check on your Status Box (upper right hand corner) for private messages (Inbox), Friends (Requests), Alerts. Just underneath that, you see Invitations from other members to join one group or another or possibly an invitation to attend a meet and greet.
    Remember you can only get messages from your "friends" Please go the How To Do Stuff on N4M for more information and to read up about private messaging, how to change your profile setting, etc.
  3. Check the latest activities with the groups you belong to. You can join as many as you have time for.
  4. If you are getting too many email notifications, don't tear your hair out and don't leave your groups. Simply go to each of your groups (as well as blogs and forum discussions) and click "STOP FOLLOWING" underneath the comment box. You can also control your notification by going to Settings (on your status box), then click on Email. From here you can determine on what occasions you would like email notificatioins. Personally, I check the following: personal message, comment on my event, comment on my page and all three under "Request and Invitations" - that is it. On the bottom you can turn off all email notifications if you are going on vacations - just remember to reset when you come back.

I have written a number of Forum Discussions under the Category "HOW TO DO STUFF ON N4M? Take some time and scroll the discussions, read up on the suggestions. PLEASE TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY TO LEARN TO USE THIS SITE. We are here to help you. It will take some time to learn how to navigate this site. We are all just volunteers with sailors of our own too. Many of our sailors are out on deployment. Some of us may not have heard from our sons/daughters for WEEKS, or seen them for many, many MONTHS. We all had to adjust, most of us did it without Navy For Moms. It will be an emotional roller coaster. So, take a deep breath, be patient, you will get adjusted too.

Regards, BunkerQUEENBee

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Comment by abbyblue on March 23, 2010 at 5:42pm
PIR seam so long ago now. 4/4/08
Comment by Jill-FLA-Proud Mom of a Sailor on March 25, 2010 at 6:38pm
Thanks for posting this most useful information. I am an "newbie" to the sight and still have my land legs so to speak. The the guidence is much appreciated. Just over one week until Chris' ship date. Ugh!!!
Comment by BunkerQB on January 13, 2011 at 12:08am
Denise - that is a great idea. Jessica has been leaving links to the Bootcamp and Depper groups with her welcoming message. I'll email Angie - perhaps you'll get a PIR schedule for me. I also think a link to this blog could included in the welcoming message and maybe eliminating the paragraphs on "friends" - we do a pretty good job on keeping tabs on it plus the email address harvester have migrated over to Facebook!


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