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Multiple questions, fears and worries

My fiancé left on 5/30 with a BC date of 6/1. I received his box over a week ago, but have yet to receive his form letter or a call. I’m worried that this means I won’t be getting anymore information. Does this mean things could just be going slower for the summer arrivals? Should I wait another week before I start to really worry? I know the saying is “no news is good news” but I’d prefer any news at this point. If anyone has a recruit that shipped at that time and you have news or any words of wisdom, would you please share with a worried bride-to-be? I have so many more questions and concerns but this would be a great beginning. Thank you in advance for any and all news or words of wisdom that can be given.

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Comment by Phoenixmom on June 15, 2018 at 6:20pm

Hi Jessica, please dont worry yourself, it usually takes 9 to 14 days to receive the form letter and him barely leaving may just be that. also you have to consider they do not count the weekends just business days. and then they changed the way the form is being sent to to the standards. I can leave you some info, please do not hesitate to reach out, you will never be alone.

Comment by Jessica on June 15, 2018 at 6:33pm

Thank you, Phoenixmom.

Comment by Phoenixmom on June 15, 2018 at 6:35pm

You are welcome!

Comment by FUNSIZE on June 16, 2018 at 4:16pm

My son left on the 4th.  He said they are going into their divisions this week coming and the letters will go out.  Seems like they didn't go out yet.  I got really lucky and got a phone call on Thursday.  They had some questions about his medication allergies and she let me talk to him.  

Comment by Jessica on June 16, 2018 at 5:38pm

FUNSIZE: This late? My fiancé left a few days before your son—does that mean they held the arrivals on 6/1 over until 6/4 came in? I’m so confused... Shouldn’t they already have been sorted into their divisions? They’ve been there over two weeks? Does that mean they haven’t done their first PFA? I’m sure you probably don’t know or you’d have given that information as well. Thank you for the info.

Comment by lemonelephant on June 16, 2018 at 9:57pm

Jessica, it looks like FUNSIZE's recruit was on P-4 and doing medical on Thursday and would have had the initial run on Friday, so yes, that would mean that if he passed on Friday, then The Form Letter will go out on Monday and he will move to his permanent Ship and Division. That means that his division did not fill until the 7th or 8th and he is probably in an integrated division, one containing both males and females. Integrated divisions take longer to fill than all male divisions.

Your recruit may be in a division that filled the day he arrived or he may have had to wait for others to arrive to fill his division. Your recruit should have had his initial run and PFA one day this week and since no one has received a call from him saying that he is being sent home, then someone will be receiving The Form Letter soon. You are still within the 9 to 14 business days that it now takes to receive the form letter.

Comment by Jessica on June 17, 2018 at 12:44am

Right, ok. Thanks. You know, I’d have thought this would be a little more interactive than it has been. Anyway, thank you for the information. Good luck to you all

Comment by Michele on June 19, 2018 at 6:44pm
This is a late response, but my son left St. Louis to go to BC on 6/1. I received his form letter on Saturday, 6/16. Did you get your recruit's? I sure hope so. I know how unsettling this can feel. I was so happy to see his hand writing!
Comment by Jessica on June 19, 2018 at 10:07pm


I did get mine. I was so happy! I’ve had letters written for days so I finally get to send those out.


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