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could use some guidance from experienced Navy wives/fiances/girlfriends
Hi, everybody. My fiance left for boot camp on the 26th of September, and I'm missing him pretty badly. I've been feeling better recently, as I'm focusing on our future together, rather than being alone in the present. We want to get married soon, so I can follow him when he is assigned to a base. I know it will be nothing more than a form marriage to start with - we'll plan a wedding when we have the money and time - but is it reasonable for me to think about getting married in the next six months? It's what we both want, and I have even thought about trying to visit him when he's in A school in Pensecola, so we can get married and he can register us as a married couple in time for us to apply for housing. It's a whirlwind, I'm realizing, but it's something I've been researching tenaciously. Could anyone offer some advice? I would appreciate it greatly!
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Permalink Reply by mollybub on
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It would be so amazing if my fiance could come home from Christmas. He didn't seem to want to, at first, because he wanted to save his leave days, but as time got closer to his ship date, he was starting to rethink that maybe he WOULD want to come home as soon as he could haha. What a wonderful Christmas present it would be! :) There's so many things that will have to come in to play in determining all of this...it's maddening at times.
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Permalink Reply by Danielle on
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the paper said november 23rd but i dont know if it has been moved up or not
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As far as I have seen on the Navy website for graduation dates, there is not a PIR on November 23rd. If that's what your paper said, I'm fairly certain it was a misprint and it was meant to be the 21st. My fiance's form letter printed the 21st.
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Oh, boy. If memory serves, my fiance gets a little stressed when it comes to paperwork! Haha, I know he will figure it out if he needs to, though. He's good in that way. We'll just have to communicate about this as soon as possible, so I can let him know all of the info you all have so wonderfully helped to provide.
I have been looking in to the marriage license laws in Florida in the past few days, but definitely not thoroughly enough. If this is what my recruit and I absolutely want to do, then you can be I will most certainly get on it ASAP! It sounds like a ton of paperwork, so it's a good thing I have excellent organizational skills :) Having you spell it out, basically step my step, has helped immensely, so thank you very much!
I'm not sure if my fiance is thinking about coming home for the holiday, and even if he does...I think we would wait on the ceremony for now. I'm not money would permit me a white dress right now, unfortunately. I'm excited for you, however! I hope your ceremony is wonderful, with all of the Christmas magic! Also, your words are very encouraging. It's easing my mind a bit, about this plan of a "shotgun" wedding, haha. Like I said, I'm not entirely sure this is the path we'll choose - it's so hard when we can't talk right now - but now I have so much information, no matter what we decide! I love this site!
Don't apologize for the long reply! Mine was long too! Plus, you've been extremely helpful. Thank you again!
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Permalink Reply by meagan5220 on
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My husband and I got married down in Pcola its definitely doable! :) He needs to start on paperwork as soon as he gets there! (Thats when its easiest anyways because its before he starts classes!) Pcola doesnt have a wait time for non-FL residents. It cost us about $130. how long is his A school? Phase II would probably be the best time to do it if its a short school. That way you can get on the orders. My husband and I were pretty rushed because his A school was only 8 weeks long. and his rate typically got orders about 3-4 weeks before they graduate. We got it done in time and it was golden. We ran into some hiccups along the way. Down in Pcola there are quite a few LPOs and instructors that told my husband there was no paperwork or chits or told him not to do them! He needs to do them! My husband's chief found out and my husband almost was told he wouldnt be able to get off early enough to get to the courthouse! Luckily an LPO owned up to telling him wrong so he got to leave. But its really something he needs to do!
Also, I would say a good idea is to take all your stuff with you and when he is in class one day go down to the social security office and change your last name. When I went to get my Mil ID I hadnt done it yet and they wouldnt put my married name. Its not alway like that but it gives you something to do during the day lol :)! You will need the marriage license, ss card, birth certificate, and possibly your DL or photo ID.
If you have any questions feel free to PM me. I did lots of research because I am a freak about knowing things lol!
PS I am sorry if I have duplicated anything anyone has said. I am running in circles doing stuff around the house lol!
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Thank you so much for all of the information! I'm telling you - and I may have said this before - but it's such a relief for me to hear about success for other Navy couples. As far as I have been informed, my fiance's A school will be five to six weeks. My main concern is making sure, if a Pensecola wedding is what we want to do, is that we get it done in a timely manner! It helps to know that I will have to relay to my recruit that he needs to put in the chit ASAP!
Also, thank you for the advice! I will absolutely keep that in mind. I'm sure I'll need things to keep me busy, if I have to be waiting on my fiance all day haha :) And thank you for being so open to help me with this! I appreciate any and all information anyone can pass on, especially from those, like you, who have lived it!
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Permalink Reply by Anti M on
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Who did you hear this from?
If they marry before boot camp, the recruiter has a ton of paperwork to do, so many recruiters are not fans of marriage unless the recruit comes in already married. During A school, the paperwork and logistics of marrying are a hassle, but it isn't to give them a hard time.
Are there senior enlisted sailors who think marriage sucks? Sure. And they'll say so, and discourage young marriages because many relationships do end up on the rocks, and some wives don't get that the Navy has to come first for the sailor, that long hours and studying take precedence over a new marriage.. But being "hard" on them? A married sailor cannot be singled out for special harsh treatment or held back from advancement just because they're married.
Your BF will not get in trouble for marrying in A school as long as he follows the instructions about submitting a form and doing what is required of him.
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Permalink Reply by ProudNavyGf81 (Ship 11 Div 319) on
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I've been having similar thoughts! Although I do not want to rush into anything. My boyfriend just got to pcola this past weekend. We both have every intention on getting married but I feel like so many people look down on these types of marriages like we're all rushing into it. But it would make so many things easier on the both of us if we were married. Moving expenses would be paid for every time he has to go somewhere new, and that would help so much. But like every girl we all want a dream wedding right? So that is holding me back, plus I'm old-fashioned and want our parents approval.. Not so sure we're going to have it. So that will hold me back as well.
Have you found anything interesting in your research? I've been trying to look into housing options, but it's so hard to figure out on my own.
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Well, if he is not ready, he isn't ready. You can only help him along in his feelings, not force him. You'll be surprised at what boot camp can do about that. He'll miss you like crazy.
I don't know if it helps, but assure him that at least one ex-Navy first class petty officer says it won't cause trouble to get married. Not one bit. Sounds like his recruiter is willing to do the paperwork.
However, sounds a little like he isn't sure about how the Navy works, and needs to get his feet wet before he can swim. You might have to just be loving and reassuring and let him figure some of this out for himself. Honestly, both halves of a married couple have to be 100% positive it is the right move.
Yes, it is simpler financially and concerning PCS orders ("getting stationed") to be married before boot camp. But if he feels pressured, it just is not worth it. You can still be together, it just takes more planning and patience and flexibility.
Start saving your pennies for visits and your (eventual) new home.
LOL, Meagan, I wasn't a "white wedding" gal either. Vegas and jeans did just fine for me.
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lol Anti M, this girl was wearing a pair of extremely short shorts (not purposely), a tank top, and a little jacket. We were supposed to get married friday afternoon. I got there Monday at 245ish checked in to the hotel and went to shower when I got a call saying come pick me up now we have to get married today. I am waiting outside the LPO that almost made it where we couldnt get married because he told him wrong snuck him out and we had to get to the courthouse in less than an hour to get married. So I dashed out the door not even thinking lol!!
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To be honest anyone that had anything negative to say about me getting married in A school I told them to shove it. If they wouldnt leave it alone I typically told em to get out of my life. I dont mind a warning but if people are going o be rude about it they can move along. Didnt you say that your sailor already had orders? In that case they wouldnt pay for you to move for those orders because he already has them unaccompanied. but anytime after you are married and he gets new orders you will have a paid move (well most of the time but of course there are always exceptions!) lol honestly I was glad to not have a big wedding.. I am sort of weird though I have never been the girl to dream of a big wedding.
What are you wondering about as far as housing goes?
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Yeah I'm sure I will react the same way, after all it's our decision to make. As it was yours. But I dont really have anything to worry about yet, he hasn't even asked yet! haha
But as far as housing, when he gets up to WA he's confident that they AREN'T going to make him live on base and he thinks we will be able to get a place together.. But I'm not sure if that's correct or not. He's 24 so he thinks that since he's not an 18 year old kid they will let him live where he wants. I haven't been able to research much because I don't know the guidelines he has to follow.
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