Didn't get accepted into program. Should I tell him?

[mmaleigh]

My sr is in boot camp right now, ship 3 div 229.  I have been working on my nursing prerequisites for almost two years and applied for the program before he left.  He knows I will find out if I got in or not by June 30th. I got a letter today saying it was the most competitive applicant pool to date and I did not get in. I'm hurt and disappointed, but I will be okay.  There is just a lot of options on what to do now and what i should do next. I don't need to plan my life out this very second and decided to continue working until I figure out my next step.

I can't decide on whether to tell him or not.  I feel like if I don't mention it he will know and worry (when someone quits mentioning something abruptly you notice).  If I do tell him, he will most likely stress out and worry. He's faced set backs before too so I know how he gets.  Before he left he told me if I didn't get in (a lot of first year applicants don't) then to take the time as a blessing in disguise sort of.  He's had something similar happen and it turned out great for him (yay navy!). 

Anyways, if I tell him I could be upbeat and say we can figure things out later.  If I don't tell him then honestly I don't know what to write tonight.  I write him every day.  I'm a little terrified he will call and hear it in my voice that something is up.  I want to do what is best for him though  I got the home stuff covered. 

Any advice, ladies?  It would be greatly appreciated.

PS If anyone else has a SR in the same division it would be nice to PM each other and see if they mentioned anything.  I missed his phone call and goofball forgot my zip code so i haven't gotten his letters yet. 

[NavyMama2Dani]

One of the reasons my daughter joined the Navy when she did was she had completed her nursing perquisites and even with a 4.0 gpa there was still a two yr waiting list. I'm a RN but have been since 1992 I would suggest keep putting applications in and check out community colleges as they generally are quicker at getting you in! I wouldn't say anything to him right now bless he asks but if he does be upbeat about it. More than likely God has another better plan for you in store!

[scubagirl]

I would not tell him.  If you go onto the Letter Writing section on Mom's for Navy there are the questionnaires and print that out.  I would send that and give yourself a couple of days to get your thoughts in order before you write to him. I have also bought a couple of encouragement cards to send on the days when news was short.  My son is on Ship 03 but he is in Div 230. My daughter is in the nursing program here in GA.  She went back to school 3 years ago after being out of school for 13 years.  She had graduated with a degree in Biology.  She had to retake all of her Sciences.  She applied to the Nursing School and was scared she could not get in. It is tough.  Do not give up on your dream.  My daughter is 38 and said if she did not get in she did not know what she would do.  But she did get in and it has been and will continue to be hard until she graduates next July. I help with her children as much as I can so she can attend study sessions.  Just believe in yourself and wait until after PIR to tell your son.  If we are lucky enough to get a call this weekend direct the conversation in different directions.  Hope to meet you PIR weekend.  We will be at the Holiday Inn Express.  Plan on going to Meet and Greet it is suppose to be very informative.  

[mmaleigh]

I should've said that he was my boyfriend.  That's why I was afraid of worrying him because it changes our future plans.  I'm not going to tell him until after PIR.  I have a meeting with my advisor to discuss my options and how to improve my competitiveness. This program gives an extra 10% to those who took all their prereqs at their school and I was a transfer. I may end up retaking some classes just to get that "application advantage". 

Honestly, I think the hardest part about this is that before he left he thanked me for supporting him through college and his period of not knowing what to do.  He felt bad that he couldn't be there for me with nursing.  I don't see it that way, but I just hope he doesn't find out and it messes with him. 

Thanks for the heads up about the questionnaire though  I'm definitely going to be doing that tonight.  I hope I can meet you at PIR, too, I will most likely go to the meet and greet.  Just checking with what his parents want to do first.  

You know 229 and 230 are brother divisions? I wonder if our recruits know each other?

[Darla]

my son ison ship 03 div.230 when he called i asked about someone he goes mom hard to tell we only know everyone by last name lol

[lemonelephant]

If there is any chance that it will distract him from his training, then save that news for after PIR if you can. If he calls and asks if you've heard you can be evasive and yet truthful and say, "It's in God's hands." Remember when God closes one door, then He will open another. (Windows are for letting in blessings, not for entering. Only thieves--or those who have gotten locked out--enter through windows.) God has something better in store for you. If you don't believe in God's guidance, then you can still be evasive and truthful and say, "Time will tell."

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