If he is going into the reserves, he will go to bootcamp, than to training, than he goes home. Reserves drill one weekend a month and two weeks out of the summer.
He will either adapt or be seperated, easy at that :~}
Thank you so much lemonelephant for the links. I will definately check them out.
My son is also enlisted as a reservist. He graduated BC in June and is sitting in Pensacola waiting to class up. When he finishes training, he will return to our state and, as Angie stated, drill one weekend a month and go active 2 weeks/year for the rest of his reserve enlistment. Because of my son's rate (job), he may be activated twice during the 6 years he's signed up for, but hopefully he will be able to finish his last two years of college before that happens. Perhaps your son may have enlisted as a reservist just to get his feet wet with military life. If you think he's lazy or too young, rest assured that the 'boy' that goes to BC will either graduate a man or be returned home. Hopefully the pride he will earn through his training will be what he needs to motivate himself into a great career in the civilian world while continuing to serve his country as a reservist. My son occasionally regrets signing as a reservist because he really wants to be in full-time; however, he wants to finish his degree and this was a way to do both!
Try to relax and encourage him. It won't take much reading to realize that we have it easier than a lot of parents. :) God bless!
Thank you MidwestMom, What do you mean by waiting to class up? Is he having to wait for the schooling for the job he is going to do? What job is he getting training for?
I know we will have it much easier than the moms with children going in active. Mine had planned to go active and then I think he got cold feet, not wanting to go to far away from home and everything he knows.
This is just mom-to-mom talk. I think the best thing to do is to get your son to delay entry as long as he can. Your son doesn't sound like he is prepared for the military. This is not just something to do - he is making a commitment. If he gets bored, does something stupid and gets discharged he may close a door to a career that may in fact be great for him in the future when he is more mature. Since he is 18, he doesn't require your signature to join; however, in my opinion, if you don't think he is ready he probably isn't. Please don't think I am judging him. He probably has many fine qualities. Many 18 year old young men are not ready for military, college or work. They get impatient. They jump the gun. All I am saying is that immature 18 year olds often shot themselves in the foot. One mistake (because he is an adult in the eyes of the law) will have lasting effects.
I didn't get wise by myself. My two sons (23 & 27) have educated me. You are welcome to show this message to your son. Here are some of the things I would discuss or what I would say to him:
Don't worry too much honey, he will be fine. It doesn't matter how he goes into bootcamp, they all come out the same. Navy Tough! You will be amazingly surprised how proud he will be of himself. We are here for you, hang tight to this group of woman. They are the best. They kept me from going crazy during bootcamp. I wish him the best. and for you? patients, lots of patients.
My stepson went into boot camp a few weeks ago. We worried and stressed about if he was "grown-up" enough to go in but he is 18 and in the eyes of the military he's an adult. He's doing fine. We have just gotten our first letter from him and our first real phone call. He likes it. He did say it took some getting used to getting up at 0500 hrs, but he's so tired he falls right to sleep at lights out.(this coming from a kid who always needed his music to fall asleep)He also likes the food.
My advice to you would be make sure he has a few phone cards so he can call home when he earns the right to. Remind him that the only way to do things is the Navy way and to be respectful of the commanding officers. Make sure he has all the addresses and phone numbers written down on a small piece of paper in his wallet. So many kids don't know anyones phone numbers because they are saved in their phones and the art of letter writing is lost on them. They only know how to text. There is no texting at RTC.
I think that the separation is harder on the parents than the kids, so hang in there and good luck
My son leaves on October 6th. I wonder what he is thinking about. But I think he knows he needs this. He is the baby of the family.He has three older siblings and I think he has taken note of how they have done. He knows he needs to grow up and figure out what he wants to do with his life. He also knows an education is expensive. So maybe your son knows he needs the discipline.
My son is an only child, but he has several cousins that are very close, one of which went into the air force last October, so he kinda knows what he is getting into. He says he is nervous about this change. He knows he isn't prepared physically for the challenges, and I don't think he is prepared mentally for what is ahead. He leaves Monday, the 3rd to go up to Denver where they will stay the night and then he flies out Tuesday the 4th to get up to Illinois. At least he won't be by himself in Denver, a boy that he has known since kindergarten is going up that day also, to do all the testing and everything so he will have some company over night other than the recruiter. Is your son going up to the Great Lakes base? That would be nice if both of them are up there at the same time. Let me know....maybe we can stay in touch and help each other through this.