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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak
All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018.
Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)
Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC
...and visit Navy.com - America's Navy and Navy.mil also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.
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Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:
Events
**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed. Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.
**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.
**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:
In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).
FOLLOW THIS LINK FOR UP TO DATE INFO:
**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED. Vaccinations still required.
**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.
RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021
Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.
Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.
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Getting Married
My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. We have been seriously talking about getting married over the next year. The question I have is how hard will it be to get married once he is in the Navy? Or is better to get married before he joins which will be in the near future? I would love a dream wedding and honeymoon, but with everything going on (him about to join the Navy and me trying to finish getting my degree) I know it won't happen for awhile.
I was doing some research and found people saying that they got married while in the Navy and they are forcing them out. I don't want to rush into anything, and I also do not want to effect his career negatively.
We are just trying to figure out what our options are. Any advice, suggestions, etc. will be greatly appreciated.
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I have NEVER heard of anyone being forced out for getting married. Ever. As Americans, sailors can marry who they please. Now, if they marry a foreign citizen, it can affect their security clearance and thus their school, or if they marry before enlisting and have too many dependents (over two), they aren't eligible to enlist without a waiver. But being forced out? No, not the Navy, we'd have heard of it. (if you have links, please post them I'd love to read them)
Being married before boot camp is easiest, but you must get your recruiter to get on top of the paperwork. Many will tell you to wait, but that is advice, not a regulation. It takes a couple months to get the paperwork lined up, so sooner is better than later. This way your benefits and allowances are in place, and you will be on his orders to be moved (given he is going to where you can go).
Graduation weekend, PIR, they are told not to marry, and it is difficult to pull off. He could possibly be disciplined for disobeying orders. I've heard rumors of that, but no one has ever said, "Yes, that was us".
During A school is common, as that is usually before they receive their first set of orders. Look around and you will see discussions about wives who waited until after school and are ineligible for the paid Navy move. Many brides choose the courthouse wedding to be established as a Navy wife. It is a bit of a hassle, as you must travel to him, he can't get time off to go get married, he has to submit a request chit and possibly go through pre-marital counseling (some school commands are stricter than others). Your families may not be able to attend. It isn't ideal, but is very workable.
Many like the idea of waiting until A school ends because the sailor can come home on leave and the families are usually there. The drawback to this is, the new spouse isn't on the orders. You pay for your move yourself*. If he has orders overseas, the new spouse might not be able to join him (lots of rules, and you can't just go live in a foreign country without a visa).
You will hear to wait until after his first deployment to see how you handle it as a couple, but since you've been dating three years, you probably can handle the separation alright. (ships deploy for six to eight months or more at a time, limited communication).
Sorry about the dream wedding, the Navy will have other plans. Besides, you'll need the money to set up your first place! And the honeymoon is more likely to be a first or second anniversary trip. (My dad was a Navy lifer, I was in the Navy and I married Navy. Been there, done that)
*there are details, exceptions and ways to move his household goods, but rule of thumb is "be on the orders".
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