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my fiance left. the 19th for bootcamp and here its only the 22 and i got the box. :/ i thought i was fine and strong untill today. now all i can do is cry. i feel a pain and emptiness i never thought i could feel. i cant even bare to look in it and put his things away. all ican do is stare at this big brown box that is sitting on the couch and cry and then cry some more. any suggestions on ways of making this feeing go away for now. :'( i need the help and support of all. thank you all so much.

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I know how hard this is for you right now. Just a month ago, I was in your shoes. The love of my life, my husband of a year and a half, left for bootcamp on June 23rd. The first few days, it seemed like all I could do was cry. The box was the worst part. Just seeing it, all his stuff without him there, it was awful. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. First the form letter arrives. That might be tough too. But then you'll have his address. And a graduation date. And a message at the bottom. Mine went like this: "Dear Kelly, Boot camp is much much worse than I thought but I'm doing fine." Of course,that got me started all over again. But then you mail your letters out. And soon, before you know it, you're getting letters back, from him! I am now about halfway through boot camp, and let me tell you, it gets so much easier the further in you are. I got my 3 week phone call on Tuesday. Hearing his voice again was the best thing ever. It's the little things you really miss. Hearing their voice, their face (They're allowed photos, so I recommend sending one. I sent my wedding picture.)
So yeah, it's painful, it'll hurt for a while, but it lessens with time, and before you know it, graduation will be upon you. I'm already halfway there:)
i finally got the courage to open it. why did they send his stamps envelopes and paper home! his recruites and everyone told him it was fine to bring these things in fact it was encouraged?????? this is worse than i thought but i do appreciate your advise and words of encouragement! thank you thank you thank you
The Navy will provide him with paper and envelopes. He can buy stamps at the NEX. He probably was carried away and just threw everything in there. A lot of them panic and they are tired and stressed and just dump everything in there. My son sent his ID and social home!!! That got him a call home but I have a feeling he got yelled at for being a goober.
thank you. i was so worried he woulsnt be able to write me. i know they cant send mail for two weeks. but i still check the mail everyday hoping god has let one slip through. :) oh ok. thank you jessica you have been a huge help to me and to everyone else thank you as welll! all is appreciated greatly!
The same reason they sent my husband's nail clippers home: Because they can be used as a weapon. Just kidding. Actually, I think the DEP book and the recruiters lie. I asked my husband about this during my 3 week phone call, and he said they make you send everything home except your legal papers. But don't worry. The student exchange sells stamps and envelopes and all that stuff. So he'll still be able to buy all that stuff when it comes to that. Btw, they also sent my husbands brand new Bible home that was a gift from his grandparents, and his dental floss, and his notebook and pens.
wow. they almost seem like they want them to forget all about home and the people there waiting lol
It does seem that way, the first few weeks. But as my husband said last Tuesday, if you make it through the first few weeks, you'll most likely graduate. Those are definitely the hardest. And it's not just boot camp for them, I feel like it's boot camp for us, too. An emotional boot camp, especially for those of us who haven't been separated this long. But I think it makes our relationships stronger in the end. And this goes for all loved ones, but especially girlfriends, wives, and fiances. There's a group for us, if you haven't found it already.
i hadn't but i am definately going to look for it right now. yeah. i feel like i am in bootcamp myself like i am being trained to live wihtout him. which is a feeling i never thought i'd have. i hope it does make our relationship stronger. but what makes it harder for me is that before this we had never been apart for more than a week and even then we were constantly on the phone wiht each other.
Me neither, prior to this. We were literally joined at the hip. But like I said, this really is a learning experience, especially if you're going to marry this guy. Because as a spouse, or even as a girlfriend, we have to deal with deployments. So in many ways, I kind of look at this as like a mini-deployment. By the way, I have experience in this in another way. I'm also a brat. My dad was in the Navy for I think 24 years. That prepares you in some ways for what to expect. But being a spouse is a whole new ball game. As a kid, you just kind of go with the flow. But now I find myself making all sorts of decisions I've never really had to make. Stupid ones, too. Like I broke my husband's gas cap in the first week, because I didn't know how to turn it right. Ordinarily, Michael would have figured out what to do. But without him, that meant driving over to Pep Boys, waiting in line, asking what gas cap would fit on my car etc.
So yeah, it is an adjustment. But it gets easier.
again all i really know to say is thank you. i have only been coming to his sight since yesterday. but it already makes me feel more comfortable wiht the situation. and i dont feel bad anymore for being emotional like i am because i know there are other people out there who felt the same and that during a situation like this there is nothing wrong wiht feeling the way i do! thank you! you have been such a help
Just cry your eyes out. It's good for the soul. You will miss him and appreciate him so much more.
You don't need to do it anytime soon, the box will always be there for you.
thank you viki. crying seems to make my feeling better for the time being. :) but soon after they quickly return.


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