If your family has little experience with the military, then he just hasn't wrapped his head around the reality.
He should hold off on a car, no matter how good the deal. Almost every A school has restrictions on who can have a car, and there is no parking on base for most student sailors. The Navy won't move the vehicle from home for him either. Many sailors buy a used car from another sailor when they get to their first duty station. And if he is stationed overseas, he doesn't want to be saddled with a vehicle he can't use there. Not that he won't eventually want a car, he just needs to wait and see how things go that first year.
Those 30 paid days are terrific, although most sailors don't get all 30 at once. That can mean more visits home, shorter ones. It just depends on where they are stationed and what their command or ship is doing. But it is a fabulous benefit.
My dad served for 29 years, I was in the Navy, I married Navy, and my nephew is currently serving. I tend to take a lot of basic knowledge for granted.... but keep asking, that's the only way you'll learn in advance.
That's great that your son says that to you. I wish mine would. He's been spoiled (my fault, I know). He doesn't waiver though in his desire to do this. I am so very proud of him for making this decision I'm just having a hard time keeping my feelings in check!
My son bought a new car while in A school in Goose Creek. Granted he is married but they already HAVE a car. Depending on his job, he won't be "gone" for 4 years. Mine is enlisted for 6 years AND he was 22 when he left and married for a whole month! Lots of people take their sailor the car when they go for a visit either during A school or when they get their duty station.
Many want a car of their own, especially if he can buy a reasonable, reliable car for cash!!! That way they don't have to depend on a buddy to haul them around, drive home on leave, take a short trip on a long weekend! How about going on a date every once in a while, vehicles are useful. Young man I know just returned from months in Afghanistan with the Marines, brought his car home to mom's house so he didn't have to worry about it while he was deployed, then came home and got it! Has done that twice now during deployments and was more excited to get home to get his car than just about anything.
Whether in the Navy, in college, working at McDonald's or wherever, there is always going to be something to regret, but if the positives outweight the negatives, that equals a relatively happy life! Don't fret too much, how many of us really have a clue what we want to be when we were 22? This is a great chance for him to learn valuable skills, see more than his hometown and spread the wings that you gave him.
I understand. You could have knocked me over with a feather, after the "gut punch" of my college, fraternity, son coming home for a weekend to say he wanted to join the military. Asked him to wait 90 days, explore his options and come back to us with his answer. His answer was NAVY!
Neither of my brothers were military, nor my brothers in law or my dad. My husbands family is different. Father in law in Air Force, grandfather in law was Army in WWII, his brother was a WWII POW in Germany. So, even though we had no experience in dealing with it, our strong willed son gave us a jump start. It is VERY hard to wave goodbye to a child and make no mistake, I cried a RIVER of tears, still do, but now the tears are of pride. Hang in there, this is a great place for support. We've all been there.
I know how you feel. My oldest decided to join the Army while in high school...he was 17. I knew he didn't know what he was getting himself into but I let him go anyways. We had to sign papers for him to go because he wasn't 18. When he left I felt like someone had ripped out my heart...and I was so worried that he would die in the heat of Georgia since he shipped in July. But he made it and the boy I sent was gone what stood before me when I saw him at PIR was a man. He did five yrs and was EOD. Being 22yrs should make it easier on him. The old guys my son was with did better. He came home as often as he could. And then got stationed three hrs away but then got deployed to Iraq for 15 months. Again I was worried. He is very glad he served. He is now 23 and got out last July. I had wished he joined the Navy. I learned I had to let him live his life and do what he needed to do. I was not easy. When the time for him to go gets closer he may change his mind about the car. If not he does get a PCS move and that includes his car.
Now my youngest is at boot camp in the Navy. Needless to say it isn't any easier. And sharing helps me remember that she has to live her life and this is the choice she has made. She crashed her car about a month before she left. I told her she can always get a new one once she knows where she will be stationed if she needs one. I don't know if this helped. One thing I do know is no matter how old my kids get I will always worry about them....it's part of what we parents do.
One last thing....I would much rather have my husband going through all this than my children....is that awful to say. I was a Navy wife and I know that my husband would be fine.