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Okay, here's the situation.

 

My fiancee's ship will be moved into their barracks (guess they've been on a waiting list for like...EVER!) sometime around the end of May.  He's excited, as well he should be, but the problem arises that we aren't married yet.  Obviously, I want to move into the barracks with him or get an apartment on/near base (he's currently in VA and I'm in GA taking care of my aunt) but what's going to happen with the marriage and housing?  

 

In other words, will I be okay to stay with him while we're engaged in his current barracks?

 

Will they move us into/are there separate barracks for married couples?

 

What qualifies someone for BAH versus barracks? 

 

I'm sorry, we're both new to this and as he's occupied with the ship I've got my family to take care of, so any advice/help here would really be appreciated.  Hope everyone's having a wonderful spring so far <3 

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Ronspatricia- a sailor my husband works with just lost half of 3 months pay, got restricted to the ship for 45 days, and got another 45 days of extra duty for being caught having his girlfriend in wherever he is living (I *believe* it is the homeshore suites but it may be the barracks). Oh, and when they return from deployment, he will not be able to move back off the ship. (and an FYI, being restricted to the ship doesn't just mean you can't leave the ship, it means no cell phone, no internet for personal use, no TV, no magazines, no books that are non-work related, and at least on hubby's ship the only time you would be able to visit him would be for 2 hours on a Sunday). So staying in the barracks with him unapproved is a big no no, unless you want to risk that.

 

As far as the BAH- it depends. We got me entered into DEER a week after our wedding and started getting our married BAH about 2 months later. We were told that it should take at least a few pay cycles to kick in. We're still waiting on the backpay (they will backpay it to the date of your marriage). But if you're living in military housing, you don't get BAH.

Okay I know everyone's going to jump down my throat for THIS question too, but who is responsible for getting you enrolled in DEER?  Is this something he needs to do or can I do it after we're married?  And, I know you don't get BAH if you're on military housing, that was kind of my original question.  As in, what determines whether you get on-base housing versus BAH.  

 

The backpay is cool though...I thought you had to give whatever you weren't using for rent back or something like that.  Forget where I heard that though.  

The Sailor enrolles you in DEER's once you are married.

 

You and your Sailor decide where you want to live (after you are married) on base or off base.  Most times, on base housing isn't really on base it is near the base.  Also there is sometimes a long wait to get into housing.

 

Housing is different, they set up an allotment and they take your BAH to pay for the rent.  You could be living next to an E8 and you both are both not getting BAH and the E8 is paying WAY more for rent than you are. 

Oh okay so it's up to us rather than up to his command, that's good to know.  And if we end up getting BAH (we probably will if it's our choice) is this something we get a "set amount" for after rent is determined, or will it be "here's X take what you need for rent/utilities and keep the rest"

 

Sorry again for questions begeting questions.  

You get a set amount  http://images.military.com//ContentFiles/2011-bah-rates-with-depend...

 

If you live out in town you get the whole BAH (after you are married of course) and you spend it how you see fit. 

You go right ahead and stay in that barracks with him.  Let someone get a bug up there butt and see how much trouble he gets into.  I know of a couple of people that got in trouble for letting people stay over night.  FYI Angie is employed by the USN so you might want to listen to her instead of just a mom.

Ronspatricia, You guys should think about the decision real hard. It would be a shame to waste all the time and training he has been through(especially the fun 8 weeks at Great Lakes Lol). My son is at bootcamp right now. He has accepted the fact that a big part of Navy life will be involving separation from family for unknown periods of time. The two of you are young and will have many years together. He is doing a good thing for his future and country right now. Forgive me if you dont like what you are hearing. But I'm a parent and I would hate to see him mess up a good thing.

Good luck to you two

I have seen people go to NJP, get busted down, have to move back on the Ship, get restricted, and loose money all for having someone stay with them in the barracks.  Also I am not employed by the USN, I am a SAILOR!  People who are employed by the USN, are GS or contracts and can quit their job.
Sorry Angie, my mistake.  And I knew that you are a sailor.  I don't know why I put that, brainfart I guess.   Maybe the civi part of me. Again SORRY ANGIE. 
No need to say you are sorry, I was just stating the difference. I am pretty blunt so my posts may come across rude, which they are not meant to be.  :~}

Oops, I guess I have been boo-booing too. I thought "employed" by USN meant they are sailors and "employed as contractors" meant not sailors (part of USN) but for companies contracted with the USN. I guess technical sailor are employed by the USA (from a tax payers' point of view). Angie, thanks for clarification. 

Happy Easter to all.

ronspatricia, do not under any circumstance stay with your sailor in the barracks - if someone is telling him it is OK, that person is up to no good and messing with your guy. Listen to Angie and Kalena.

Perhaps he is thinking of the new Homeport Ashore suites which some sailors can get into at certain bases.  They are allowed limited overnight visits, but there is a strict limitation on how many nights a visitor can stay.  You cannot "stay" permanently or "move in".   If it is a real barracks instead, you can't even get in the door.  I was in the Navy, that I know very well.

 

The program:

http://www.homeporthr.com/

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