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All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

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I hope someone can respond and give me a few words of encouragement on how they got through the days immediately after their son/daughter left. I feel like I'm not going to be able to function.  Any advice is appreciated.

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I have stayed busy! Met alot of people on here and talk. I have 2 younger kids so it helps. Just write letters, it helped me. Write to the recruits who don't get mail. I had my boy scouts do it and friends. Stay busy busy busy! My kid left 9/24, almost time to see him. It went by fast
Stay busy, rely on the information that is provided on this site to help ;) write lots of letters, that is the ONLY connection they have!

I felt like that too!  My son left November 4 and I haven't cried since Sunday :-)  It just takes time, but what helped me most is this website.  Read all that you can.  It is helpful, and the people are wonderful support!  My friend whose son is in the AF told me when she got sad she wrote letters so I have also done that.  I hope this helps you.  Hugs!

My son too left on Nov 4th.... I miss him terribly! I didn't even get to see him before he left, I did however talked to him Sunday night. He is in (what I call a bad marriage) a situation where I can't see or talk to him unless he is away from his wife! It makes him being away somewhat easier since he is away from her but I still don't know when I will get to see him again! I think about him everyday and just keep my faith that he will find himself and come back to his family! This website is very helpful and brings out a lot of emotions...I will hang in there and hope to hear from him soon!

Its not my child but my fiance and I have been going to the gym. 

I am going to the gym too. I am taking out my frustration on the treadmill. LOL Now if I can only stay away from the doughnuts when I am depressed...I may lose some pounds! LOL

Doughnuts are like vampires, if you don't invite them into the house, they can't get you!

I may have to borrow that line Anti M. ;-) 

-Tiffany (N4M Admin)

Start writing letters, use your strength to give them strength. Use this website to vent, ask questions, or just to talk. There is a lot to learn, use your time to find out what is happening, what they will be doing in the weeks to come ect. This place is the only thing that kept me sane! I am excited for my SR's call today and graduation on Friday- I am really excited to meet the other moms that I have had dialogue with over the last 7 weeks.

Good luck to you and your SR- Everything will be fine :)

I was where you are now, in Nov. 2010. I was on the verge of tears everyday!! Soon you should receive 'the letter". It is a form letter from RTC telling you the ship/division number and PIR date for your sailor recruit.  If someone doesn't beat you to it, you can create a page here for that specific ship/div and or PIR date. You will  meet other moms from that ship/div or PIR date  who will be your lifeline. When you get to meet them ,in person, at PIR, it will be so awesome!

Hi, I am a guy on the wife's site (I signed her up but I use it) because I'm a very sensitive man who went thru boot camp 33 years ago. I chose not to use the Navy for Dad's site because I empathize like a woman and cry like a woman and men usually do it behind closed doors. Let me tell you that I know exactly what you feel. My wife and I had my son thru invitrofertilization and have treasured every single moment of our son's life. The tiny years where Ice Cream drips down their face and onto the floor and the years where they start maturing and don't really want you around that much! There, in my opinion, is nothing like dropping your son or daughter off somewhere knowing you may not hear from them for weeks or get a call. My son was allowed his first call after arriving and called his girlfriend to let her know he made it and lo and behold I found out from her late that night that he only reached her "voicemail." Talk about really feeling bad. I told him to call her if he wanted to instead of us but my wife didn't know that. Both of us were like scared flies in front of a bullfrog! This is a cool site and from the little time I've spent on it I see everyone is in the same boat. There are many caring parents out there. That goes contrary to what you hear on the news or what you or anyone may think. And, that is good to know. Shed tears for that is a healing process that was put there in my opinion by God. If you are a believer and even if you're not by the time your "child"  gets thru this it will only strengthen your faith! One once said (don't know who), there are no atheists in foxholes. Let us pray for our "kids" and their leaders and this country. God bless you and prayers go out to you and all- please if you want, read "Birth of a Sailor" in the Blog section. I find it comforts me to talk to people who are going thru the same journey!- Seqouia

I write to my SR every day.  I also keep a small journal and write in it like I am talking to him.  It helped me.


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