I missed the call

[Rose (Ship 09 Div 074)]

I am just to sad for words.  I can't stop crying... The phone rang in my hand.  I can't believe it.  He left a message. Saying how he wished I would have answered the phone.  It makes me me feel worse every time I listen to it and now it just keeps playing in my head.  I know I will be seeing him in a couple of weeks and I am very grateful to have received 3 letters from him. I just really wanted to talk to him and I don't want to feel this sad anymore. I wrote him a letter explaining how I missed his call and how sad and disappointed I am.  Now I feel like maybe I shouldn't send him a letter saying all that.  At the same time I want him to know that I care and we are not taking his absence lightly. I just want him to know we are thinking of him and I hope he is not taking this as hard as me. :-{  Any happy words would be greatly appreciated...

[Charity]

I would deffintly write him a letter , just let him know how proud you are of him . Mention how dissapointed you were you missed his call. And how my much your looking forward to graduation.  I know how much my daughter loves getting letters . Maybe that will help you feel better and him too.  Who knows he may get to call back soon. Try not to be sad!  I will remember you in my prayers tonight:-) 

[Fur&FeathersDVM]

When my husband (then fiance) was at Officer Candidate School, I missed his first phone call. He had been gone for three months and his class had just earned the right to make phone calls. I'm a veterinary student and was scrubbing out of surgery. I had NO idea he might be calling me because his class wasn't allowed to send letters, so when my phone beeped, I thought nothing of it. When I looked thirty seconds later and saw it was him, I was SO devastated. I tried calling back but the number was busy (he was calling from a payphone). He said he loved and missed me in the voice message but I could just hear the disappointment in his voice. I ended up writing him a letter explaining, telling him how proud i was so him, and how much I loved and missed him and how sorry I was. He got to call back a few days later which made me feel so much better but he told me he was VERY glad I sent that letter because a (very tiny) part of him was worried that I didn't care (which was silly because I wrote him every single day). A few weeks later at his graduation, it was nothing more than a memory! I guess what I'm trying to say is that I know how tough it is- but you never know when they will get to call back, and once their training is over, it's all okay! So send that letter- but also include a note with it saying how proud you are and that you want him to know that you are thinking of him and thank him for calling! It is tough but you can do it!

[Rose (Ship 09 Div 074)]

Thank you ladies.  I am so happy.  He got to call again tonight.  I am so relieved.  I did send the letter saying how much I missed him and I am glad I did.  :-)

[SailorMom]

 :). Hi.

 

My son left yesterday and I missed his last call to say he made it. I made him keep his cell phone and I had been talking to him throughout the day, but I ran out to Walgreens to buy STAMPS and CARDS to send him. The call came at eight but he told me they said he'd be at GL at ten.

On the message machine it was saying, hello? Hello? Somebody pick up. 

Broke my heart. I was grateful I had been able to talk to him yesterday but I felt like a total failure as a mother for not getting that call. I have no idea how it happened either, I was perfectly aware he was going to make that call and the span of time I was not by the phone probably added up to ten minutes.

I was SO upset.

I don't have his address yet but I've already written him three letters. Writing to him made me feel better.  The only thing that consoled me yesterday was that whatever disappointment he was feeling at not talking to me he was going to be too busy to remember tomorrow. And I'll talk to him soon.

 

All you can do, you know?