I'm Nervous

[diva991]

Hello,

I am writing because my son is a Senior and he is planning to go to the Navy. While I know this is probably the best decision for him I'm so nervous for him to go to the Navy mostly because of the war. I don't know if this is the place for this but I just need to tell someone how I'm feeling. I am trying not to let him know how I feel and my husband doesn't quite get it.

 

[diva991]

Thank you so much. His face really does light up when he talks about it and that makes me feel good. I am just praying this decision is the best one for him. I think I will use this site a lot because I am so protective of him.

Thanks again

[ChrisAmo]

Being on board a ship is about as safe as you can get these days. He may "go to war" but chances are he won't actually have to fire a gun or be fired upon. My son is on deployment right now, in support of the war but out in the ocean doing his job. Do I worry about him? Yes, of course, but I know he's doing something very worth-while.

I can't think of a better thing for your son to do than to serve his country. He'll receive training in the job of his choice, have a steady paycheck, health care, a chance to travel (in the past 2 months my son has visited 4 countries), and make life-long friends.

[diva991]

Thank you very much for your words of encouragement. The benefits of being in the Navy do sound wonderful.

 

[diva991]

This is worth way more than two cents to me. He is truly changing and his room is still a mess too but he joined the wrestling team at school to get in shape which was truly a mature thing for him to do. He is also becoming committed to fitness watching what he eats and staying focused on his goal. For these things I am proud of him but he will always be that little baby crawling toward the camera to me. Thank you for your encouraging words.

[diva991]

I will do that. Thank you

[2navymen02div915]

I just want you to know that one day i was washing dishes and I could hear my youngest son talking to my husband and I heard, "yeah i took the practice test today and I did really well, the Navy, etc....." I began to cry because I had no idea. I was very nervous and didn't want to speak to him for a few days...i actually avoided him. Then I spoke to my husband about it and he said, "you didn't see his face when he was talking about the Navy." He was right his face lit up when he talked to me about his future. I cried. I took the video of both my boys taking their oath and in the video you can see he looks completely happy. He is wearing glasses in a red shirt. His older brother who'd demeanor has always been more serious is 2nd row in black right to dyllans right side. All the boys and girls there before and after seemed at peace with their decision. Some boys there said they didn't want their parents there because of the tears. yeah as a parent we will have tears. My boys are in boot camp now and I just ask their Angels to help them cope, give them strength, and left them when they fall. : )

[diva991]

Oh my God this is so touching. I am reading this at work and am literally in tears. Thank you so much

[BunkerQB]

As soon as you know when you PIR date will be, please join that group - you'll be bonding with other moms with sons/daughters in the same class. By the time you get to the meet and greet on the date before PIR, you will be meeting people for the first time but it'll be like meeting old friends. Congratulations mom. Good job. Questions - go to this group. We have a panel of 12 advisers ready to answer whatever question you may have.

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[BunkerQB]

Congratulations. Thank you for posting and sharing your son's adventure with the Navy.

[Patty]

Our daughter joined on September 27th and of course we were all a little nervous as well.  Depending on what job he chose depends on what his course is going to be.  Since boot camp, in two months time we have seen a young 18 year old grow into a more mature person.  The Navy is good to them and he will be in the best hands possible.  The Navy can't replace parents and they encourage you to support them.  Dads can be weird sometimes because they are not emotional.  And it's ok to be emotional and proud. The decision he is making is awesome and please stand behind him on this.  I don't think you will regret it.

[Cheryl]

Hi Diva...this is a great place to express any anxieties/fears because at some point, we all have them.  Your husband probably has his own fears but it's the old Venus/Mars thing....We were astounded when our daughter announced that she was joining the Navy because it had never been mentioned as an interest.  Along with the usual concerns of emotional and physical scars from a war, we also had concerns about her physical safety among so many men, some of whom might not be honorable.  What are some of your thoughts?

[Janie (Ship11~Div.59 Alumni)]

HI ! I just saw your post and thought I would offer some advice and give you some support to calm your concerns. My daughter came to us her senior year @ Christmas (2009) and told us of her plans to go into the Navy. We were a little surprised but happy and proud of her decision. She is a wonderful artist and wanted so much to attend art school in Phila. Pa. but as she saw the economy hit everyone and experienced it with her own family is what had her decide what would be best for her in this point of her life. Knowing there were/are so many college grads coming out of school and not finding jobs yet still have astronomical college loans to pay and the fact that where would a degree in art take her at this time was enough for her to decide she had to do something more.

Her grandfather that had passed a few months before this might have had the impact on her to decide the Navy. I myself coming from an Army household was really glad she chose the Navy. It is my husbands father that was in the Navy and he has a cousin who is a Jag Lawyer for the Navy and she loves her Naval life and all the opportunities it has afforded her and her family. She then spoke with our daughter that Christmas day. She even stated to us that even if she was deployed you have to remember that being in the Navy my daughter may be close enough to the action but FAR enough away not to be in harms way.

My daughter signed up for 8 years, she left for bootcamp (Lakes) December 4th and although its been really hard on all of us,it also has been the best thing for her. Being away from her family and home with little to no contact she has really matured and come to realize what everything she has in her life right down to the littlest thing means to her. Her first letter home she said how much she missed us,  her bed and she misses her long, auburn hair. lol

So although you may worry and have reservations you have to know this is your son's decision, support him and make him feel the pride that comes with his decision and his title of "SAILOR" in his future. I wish I would've had this website before my daughter left for Lakes, if you go to the home page you will see a couple videos that will give you insight as to what he can expect to do and for you to see what he is about to do and live.

This is an outstanding your son is undertaking and I applaud him and all other men and women that choose an armed forces career for it is their committment and service that we can all live free in the greatest country in the world.

Don't hesitate to write to me should you need a shoulder, I completely understand all your emotions and feelings and somehow I feel at times that my concerns were a little more being it was my only daughter, and that fact that she is a female that her entering this career. But I know she will do well, she is a tough cookie.

I hope I helped ease your mind. Good luck to your son and don't worry Mom & Dad, your son is about to be the BEST HE CAN BE!