Has she tried MWR, on base? Its a great resource for families stationed there.
She should contact Fleet and Family Services on base, they will know of every resource available to her in the area. They also often run a food pantry.
Do you mean she needs help with watching the kids while she goes food shopping? Because if a sailor has surgery, they still get paid completely and have no medical bills. Just a little confused. Or is she the sailor?
There's also Navy and Marine Corps Relief So,that is there to help with families, they have loans and grants to help with almost anything.
You just posted her private phone number for the entire world to see. Not everyone who reads here is a nice Navy mom.
Don't post personal information, especially if it is not yours!!!!!!!!!
Is she a Navy spouse? Will her husband's command not help her? I'd think the FRG would turn out in drives to help one of their won, as would spouses at a shore command.
This is very odd. Very.
i would not have posted her number without her saying so. may be she isnew to all of this and dont know where to reach out for help, so may be you can lead her in the right dirction for help. dont tell me what to do if you dont know if i have permission. If you dont want to helpher an her family dont worry about it. karama will come around a bit you in butt
Anti M was trying to help you.
What I'm wondering is, why won't you answer the questions on here, like, is this family a Navy family? Have you tried getting help via the Navy? And why is she not on here herself explaining the situation?
You may be trying to help someone in need, or you may be trying to work on the good nature of the people of this website, but how are we to know the difference if you won't share more information?
yes, they are a Navy family, her husband is in the Navy. She said she contacted the Navy and they dont have the help she needs, she has 3 kids and having to care for her husband and taken him back and forth to the hospital a lot, she needs help watching the kids. She had no idea about this site, so why can we not reach out and help her. I understand there are people who will use others. They have never had to ask for help and sont know where to start or may be a little ashamed.. If you want to know all the details you can contact her. you can email me and I will give you her name and number.
Thank you for answering the questions. Have you or she tried contacting the Red Cross?
I gave her that info also. I am sure she dont know if she is coming or going, she her self is having problems with kidney stone and one of her kids was to have oral surgry. she has a baby that is a yr old and the oldest one is 12 yrs. I know she feels so along with no one there. I think if she just had someone so she could get some rest herself. she tells me she is getting about 5 hours of sleep. She worries about the kid eating it more the issue of having time to fix food for the family
This site discourages the posting of personal information of that nature. It is dangerous to her.
And I was just trying to help. I cannot just send a stranger on the internet money because another stranger asks (and we're retired Navy so we aren't exactly able to help anyone financially). Which is what it sounds like you are asking for. She can probably get emergency money through Navy Relief.
So far it has been recommend she contact FFSC, MWR, Red Cross, Navy Relief, her FRG and ombudsman if he's attached to a ship, and the Command Masterchief, and the hospital. Has she, or you, done any of this? We aren't hearing feedback other than she's struggling, and we should call her. Help her get in touch with the people and agencies in her area who can actually get her out of this bind. We can look up their numbers if that would help. But she must reach out and not suffer in silence. We all have troubles and there is nothing to be ashamed of asking the right folks to hep her. A little shame is better than letting the kids go hungry. I would find random people calling me more scary than helpful!
But Angie is right, he needs to tell the hospital he isn't recovering well at home or it is a burden on his wife. He may be eligible for a visiting nurse. He needs to call his Command Masterchief and ask what resources are there for his family. We may not know all of them like the CMC would. Heck, one of the spouses right there might be able to babysit if they knew this family was in a bind. But they can't help if they aren't reached.
Please, help her call the resources we've suggested and find out what sort of hep is there. I know there's plenty. Is she afraid they will take the kids? They won't.
Not sure I understand the issues...
If he is in the Navy, his medical is taken care of and he also gets a check stilll.
If she needs help taking care of him after surgery, than they need to talk to the doctor and odds are he should stay in the hosptial.
If she needs help with the kids or what ever around the house, she can also call his command and talk to the CMC about assistance. Most commands have a first class and a Chiefs mess...so if they are in port someone could come help her.
Regarding food...umm they are still getting his paycheck...why can they not afford food.
If his surgery is causing this many issues...again...it sounds like he may need to stay in the hosptial to recover