My Fiance leaves tomorrow for BC

[supportive1(norfolk,va)]

Mixed emotions. I understand he will be home soon..3 months from now. But you just can't avoid feeling like your best friend and loved one will be gone over the holidays. Just not exactly sure how to cope or what I should do to feel at peace.

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

Just stay busy...WRITE, WRITE and WRITE....write about what is going on at home, keep him updated on gossip, tell him about the boring things going on at home, send him jokes http://www.jokesgallery.com is good. Let him know what his favorite sports teams are doing, his favorite TV shows, etc. Whatever you do DO NOT tell him that you can live w/o him and want him to come home. You can tell him you love and miss him but follow that with how proud you are of him and that you are looking forward to seeing him after he graduates (will you get to go to graduation?) Just don't say things that will stress him out and cause him to worry about things at home....NO BAD NEWS.. Come on here and vent, cuss, stress, worry etc here it is fine to vent, most everyone has been in your shoes and understands.

He'll send his clothes home in a box (via FedEx) and his grad date, info, ship, div address, password for gatepass and a few lines from him via snail mail. They should get to his home address in about 2 weeks. His temporary addy, you can get from the recruiter 72 hours after he leaves (his mom may have to call to get it)

He won't get any mail and neither will you for about 2-3 weeks. He may get a phone call around week 3...watch for the 847 area code and id is usually payphone. He has a calling card, right?

[supportive1(norfolk,va)]

Hey,thanks so much. I have been journaling ever night, which seems to help a lot. He didn't want to get a calling card. I am not sure as to why,assuming he will never get the chance to call. He actually called me three times and his parents twice, I'm shocked but apparently they had plenty of free time to give out calls. We got his final 30second call the ore night. I do have a question, how many tickets will the sailors get for graduation? I was told from a gentleman 7years ago they were only allowed 3. Which is my only current stress... His parents and his brother will come first but as far as where I stand in this while process I am not sure.

[ChrisAmo]

There are no tickets for PIR, your recruit submits up to 4 names (unless it's changed) of people he wants there. Children under 12 aren't counted as part of the 4. His parents should get all the info soon, which is why it's important that you stay on good terms with them!

What makes you think he'll be home in 3 months? He'll spend 2 months in boot camp and then he'll go off to A school somewhere. They don't get leave until after that, which could be several months. At least at A school you'll be able to visit him.

[supportive1(norfolk,va)]

He is in a program that gives him no rate I believe that's how it was described to me. His recruitor told us his school is only 2 weeks. I don't really have any idea what is going on.

[supportive1(norfolk,va)]

He's "undesignated" in an apprenticeship program

[norirodproudmom74]

Hi, my name is Nori. My son left to BC on Nov.2nd, and The first thing I did was cry. I felt like maybe I pushed him to hard to want to leave, but then you start to think rationally. First of all you have to understand that this is something he wants to do. My son had to leave his girlfriend crying and all, and she also tells me she doesn't sleep at night, but always remember GOD before anything. He will be ok. My son wasn't able to call me for about 2 weeks after he arrived at BC, and he wasn't able to write until about 6 days into his training. It has been a month now and he didn't have a thanksgiving, and I don't know if he's going to have a Christmas, New Years, or his B-Day on the 2nd of Jan. He doesn't graduate til Jan.07th, and all he keeps saying is that you have to overcome the mental challenges, and always do what your told. That is the way you survive, because although the physical part is also challenging, the mental part is the hard part. So, my advise to you is if you really do love him, just know in your heart that he's doing this for both of you, not just himself, and also you know that this is what he chose to do, and if being away is hard, always remember that when he graduates, he will be able to spend sometime with you, before going to A-school, and once he is stationed in his barracks, or dorm, he will be able to call you and even see you on the weekends, depending if you are close enough. My son is about 45 mins. away, and he will be able to come home for the weekends, if granted permission from his Commanding Officer, sooo, just have faith, and most of all be patient. I hope this will comfort you some, and GOD BLESS YOU, AND YOUR SAILER!

[JessicaB-Sailor Mom]

nori here is the link to your PIR group, it will be your lifeline for info and support http://www.navyformoms.com/group/pir10711

I had left a link on your page but it was worng...THIS is the right link...sorry

[supportive1(norfolk,va)]

Thank you, I really appreciate it. I seek god every day. I think because its only been a few days its hard. I can't help but feel he's unhappy, of course most are the first few weeks. I am stronger than this weakness I am feeling so I just can't explain it. I think I will feel much better after his parents get information. I hope I am able to be at his graduation, his mother,father, and brother will be going I just pray there will not be much limitation to how many can be there. We live in the largest base station in the U.S chances he will be here is high, however I am not sure if he will deploy him to a ship he may be assigned to out at sea already. Either way its just a matter of time.