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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  

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I am inconsolable.I never knew this would be so difficult for me. My son graduated from high school a little over a month ago and left yesterday for boot camp, My daughter is ten years old and I love her dearly but I am lost without my son and cannot stop crying. I feel lost without him. We were so close we did so many things together, I don't know what I am going to do now that he is not here with us. Has anyone ever been in this situation? If so please respond I could really use some comforting words about now.

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Good Morning ktzmom! We all have all been through it - or in my case - going through it now! Your emotions are very very natural & I couldn't stop crying for over a week  BUT, it does get easier every week! Use this time to think how proud you are of your recruit - look forward to the letters and phonecalls & remember to keep writing him!

Hang in there! laura

My son left on Tuesday and I have been crying too.  People keep telling me that he is grown up you have to let him go.  But he is my baby and I cant stop crying and I have not slept for more than 2 hours.  His sister is 11 years old and we have stuff with her  like dance and swimming. I love them both to death but this is hard.  I am so proud of him and I hope he continues to remember to let god lead his way.  They do tell me that it gets easier but for now it is to hard to deal with.  I have a friend that her son is leaving in Jan 2012.  I told her to make sure she spend alot of time with him.  I cant wait until i can hear from him just to know he is ok. I just have to remember that he wouldn't want me to be sad.  So i will have my moments and also make sure he knows how proud I am when I write him every week.
Good to know I am not alone feeling this way...thank you.

Oh I know how you feel.  My son left on the 6th of July.  He's only 17 for crying out loud.  I should have been able to keep him til he was 18 urg.....   I cried a lot too, didn't cook for a few days.  Now, that I have a place to send letters too I feel a bit better, but really I just try not to think about it so I can keep on keeping on for the rest of the family.  I have a 15 yr old son that is thinking of following his older brother's lead, so I may have to go thru this again.  I have a 12 yr old daughter and another 11 yr old son.   So I really have to keep my chin up and push on for their sakes....


Life is getting back to normal around here and I don't cry at the dinner table over the empty seat...   I've been writing happy uplifting letters to my son, which helps... 


Hang in there, I'm right there with you.

Our son left for BC on July 5th.  I was so focused on staying strong for him before he left, that I had NO IDEA how hard it was going to hit me when he was actually gone!  The first day was hard, but it wasn't until the second day that I literally fell apart...I cried over everything!  I felt like I had lost something that I would never get back....but my husband encouraged me to cry and not hold it in...AND BOY DID I!!  I couldn't be prouder of what he is doing, and know that he is counting on my letters for support and strength...whether he would admit it or not...LOL!  I write daily...sometimes twice, as much for myself as for him....always positive and encouraging letters.  As the days go by....I am learning that I haven't lost him...only gaining a more confident and self sufficient son.  We have five others children at home....and keeping him around in spirit is really important for me right now.  It helped me so much to watch videos of BC on YouTube, and also to let the younger ones watch so they would feel closer to their brother.  With this site though...I don't feel alone...I feel like a normal mom learning a new way of life, gaining new friends along the way!

Always here to listen and share!!


Thank you so much for your post. My son just left yesterday. I literally havent stopped crying. I feel like I can hardly functon. I can't do anything! All I want to do is lay in bed and look at pictures of my son, but that just makes it worst. I can't wait till I start feeling better! I'm so proud of him that it HURTS!!! All I want to know is that he's doing ok! Can't wait for that first etter! Whew!
ktzmom02...I just realized that you are in Lake Charles.....we came here from Westlake...small world!

I am so sorry. I know it's difficult.  My son has been gone since 7/5 and I still cry several times a day. Just know that he is there by choice and it's our job now to to support our children's decision. They need to know we are being strong for them.  I know you are probably sick of hearing (I know I am sometimes) that each day will be better, but it is true.  I know for me, as soon as I start getting letters and maybe a phone call I will feel so much better.  We are all in this together!




Thanks Stacey! We truely are all in this together! It's so comforting to know that theres other Mom's out there that are feeling the say way we are! But Wow! Why does it hurt the heart SOOOO much??? :(

Oh dear ktzmom...I'm sooo glad I just found you!!! I'm here!!! I cannot stop crying either!!! My son left yesterday too! I'm so lost and inconsolable myself! I feel like theres something wrong with me to be this distraught! My son just graduated from HS last month too. We are just sooo close and I didnt prepare myself for being a grown man and leaving the nest. I wish he were here soooo bad right now! Please help me to stop crying!!!

How's everyone doing?  It's been 14 days and my house looks like the maid ran away.  I haven't had the motivation to do my chores.  How about you?  I think I'm going to try and force myself to clean one room today.  Not my son's tho, not yet.

No! I definitely don't have the motivation either! The laundry is piling up and I haven't cooked dinner for my family in 3 nights! I keep calling it "fend for yourself night" I'm sooo sad! :(



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