sharon - I mainly help deppers on my website. Here is some advise I told one of the deppers. You may want to see if this works for you too. As you noticed I said deppers, which means, the mom did finally come around and actually was very happy in the end....
I can only assume, like most, it's your mom that has the apprehending of you joining.
Obviously joining the Navy is very important to you, and once your mom sees that, she will support you whether or not she wants you to go. Now if she doesn't......
We can make all kinds of assumptions about why your mom doesn't want you to join, but you need to ask her outright and deal with all her specific objections and concerns, and I would suggest asking your recruiter to help you with this.
So here's my advice:
1. Talk about the Navy with your mom every day for a few days. Talk mainly about why she doesn't want you to join, and keep stressing that joining the Navy is very important to you. Try your best to convince her on your own, but don't count on it.
2. Tell your recruiter you want to set up a "home visit" to talk to your mom, who is the main reason why you are not joining right there on the spot. Ask which recruiter is the best at using "PSS" (Professional Selling Skill) and have him or her do the home visit. It's their job to help your family understand why you want to join.
3. Make sure you tell your mom about the home visit and if she protests, just tell her you already set it up and it would be important to you for her to just sit down and talk to the recruiter. Make sure your dad is there too if possible. I know you don't want to make her unhappy, but even though she may be unhappy that the recruiter is coming over, the intent is that she will be happy that you are joining.
4. During the home visit with the recruiter, just be open and honest about why you want to join. The recruiter will ask your mom a lot of questions and talk to her, hopefully letting her see that joining the Navy is a good thing for you. Most of the time, a parent's concerns are based on misinformation, and if that's the case, the recruiter will identify those concerns and show your mom a more accurate picture.
At this point, one of two things will happen: Your mom will come around and give you her blessing, or she'll throw the recruiter out of his house and stick to her opinion. Don't be afraid to have multiple meetings with your mom and recruiter. You are not in a rush! Take your time and give your mom all the information she needs to try and understand where you are coming from.
Now, if she doesn't come around, I say join the Navy anyway. She won't like it, but when she goes to your Boot Camp graduation and sees you in your uniform, and sees how happy you are, and sees how happy and proud the hundreds of other sailors and families are, she would have to be a very cold person to not come around then.
I hope that helps, and let us know how it goes!
Where is your son now? My son just graduated from boot camp 7/29/11 and is in Groton, CT for submarine training. He called us tonight and got to go on a submarine on base today and was so excited. He really seems to like what he is learning now. He really didn't get to talk much because he had to get his liberty card back. I emailed him some questions I had and will let you know anything new I learn.
I am here in Groton, and the base is extremely secured and well prepared. All boats have gone to wait it out in calmer waters. Have no fear. all precautions have been taken.