Not fitting in

[29junkie]

I really think this site is a great resource, but I don't think I'm fitting in well. My son left for BC yesterday and we had know since November he was. I'm not heartbroke, I'm not crying at the slightest thing, not sleeping with his pillow/shirt/stuffed animal, etc.

Not saying it wasn't hard to walk away. I cried. I worry. I'm concerned & hoping things go well, but also knowing he's going to have hard times. This is his journey though, not mine. I'm here to be strong for him & support him.

I guess seeing everyone's post make me wonder if I'm heartless. I would love to comment on posts, but I think my posts won't really feed into the tears & loneliness.....

Any others out there like me just looking for information & friends that are on the same page I am?

[mamato9]

I am glad that you posted this, I was feeling a little odd myself. My husband retired after 20 years in the Army, and we met while both on active duty so I had an idea of what my son was going to be going through. I hope he has fun and am very proud of him, but don't feel sad or like crying at all. It is good to know that I am not alone. Thank you.

[Buckeyebill]

First off thank you and hubby  for your Army service. It's a little different having a son/daughter leaving the nest.  It's a different kind of love and a different kind of missing but you know how to deal with it.  Thank you for loaning your Son to the Navy......  

[candy2]

I understand what you are saying. And my daughter didn't have that much notice. But I haven't been a mother that was over protective, so though I cried to know my baby was on her on, it was more of I've been through it and I don't like the idea of not being there for her protection, but I also realize this will help her grow up. ..it did it for me and made me a stronger and tougher person...so I felt like I was out if place when I first started reading the post. But then I also realized that though I wasn't that overly concerned about the bix...she told me what they said to espect before she left. The blog helped me a lot to give me an idea of how long it actually took to get the box and form letter. So I wouldn't panic after a week.And fron the post I could figure out graduation before I got the form letter. :)

[Dgr8360]

We have 7 kids between my husband and I.  My daughter has just arrived at bc (actually got the call about 5 minutes ago from her)  I know how you are feeling as most of our older kids have moved away.  She has just chosen a different way of moving away.  So she isn't the first one to move away and won't be the last one.  I support her and I know she has great opportunities ahead of her.

[kathy0303]

I thought I was the only one!  So glad you said something!  I think I took my son leaving a lot easier than anyone in my family, even my husband who could not stop crying.  I don't think we're heartless at all. I knew deep in my heart this was the right decision my son had made.  It "felt" right and I actually had a sense of peace when he left.  He's been gone nearly 4 weeks now and I have cried.  The first time was at day 5!  It suddenly dawned on my how terribly much I missed him.  The next time I cried was after his first phone call.  Oh my, that was awful.  I cried for him. He is really struggling to adjust to Navy life.  His homesickness is terrible and he cries himself to sleep EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.  Now for a mom, that is hard.  I pray every day that it gets easier for him.  So, no, do not think you are heartless, know that you are content with his decision and you support it.

[Jojo]

I took it pretty easy the first week. Mostly because I was thinking, 8 weeks is no big deal...then one night it hit me...it's not 8week...this is his life now, for 6 years at least...he's not coming back home, except to visit.. He's starting HIS life. Then I did cry.

[TexasDocMom]

You fit in just fine. In fact, I was wondering if you might be interested in being an admin on the Corpsman's Moms board. My son has been out for 3 years now, and my info is old and out of date. I think you are just the pragmatic voice that is needed to keep their heads above water. Let me know! TDM

[lemonelephant]

TexasDocMom, Who are you posting to? 29junkie has not posted on N4M since 24 March 2015 and her Sailor was/is an AE. Some of the others who have replied in this discussion are also no longer active on the site. You are probably referring to Jojo since she does have a Sailor in the HM rating, but she has not been active on the site since October.

[CryptoDad]

29junkie, are you out there? How about a 2 year update?