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soooooooo guess what!! Yep, engaged to a sailor!!!
I'm 23. I have no family. I live in Utah at the moment and Ron lives in Maine on his ship.......but we have thought long and hard and yes, we're going to do it. I'm thrilled, and entirely alone. I have no idea what to do. Can anyone here help me at all?
I know things are different if you get married after boot camp or A School but I don't know what the differences are. And don't worry about me moving and being alone while he's at sea yada yada.....as I've mentioned I've been alone my entire life and move around like the wind. I'll be fine :) I would like advice/tips/info on Navy marriages though.
Thanks ahead of time!
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Permalink Reply by ronspatricia on
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Awww! Congrats :D (not sure how long ago it was though haha) and well no we were both thinking probably on the beach at Norfolk which is where he'll be stationed. I didn't know what the procedures were; will he be allowed some leave time?? Will he have to sign anything from the Navy? And what do I do? I mean my mom married a man in the Army and moved to Germany and lived on base. I just don't really know what's to come :S
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Permalink Reply by Jess's Mom (Fire Controlman GL) on
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My neice is engaged to a sailor who is currently in Afghanstan on a tour of duty. They are getting married in May on an island and then she is going to move to california where he is based. My daughter is a sailor and she told me that my neice will be taken very good care of when they get married. She will be under the umbrella of the Navy. My sister is a milatry wife and has moved all over the country. Her husband is now retired, but she has made some very close friends with the other wives on the various bases they lived at.
Congratulations and best wishes to you and your fiancee.
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oooh thank you guys for the replies!!!
Navywife; I hadn't even thought of a honeymoon, duh.......way to go being new at this LOL. I guess I'll see if he can request leave then!! I know he'll be stationed in Norfolk when we get married so I assume that's where I'll live. On base???? Oh I'm so nervous about living on a military base, that's one thing I've never done in my life HAHA.
so what's a chit? I've heard the term before but don't know what it is, I forgot to ask Ron when he called me earlier too. Then again he was busy telling me about the hurricane lol. I keep hearing that word thrown around. Someone somewhere told me that I'd have to go through pre-marriage counseling and all kinds of jazz, making it sound really negative as though it'd be hard to get married to a sailor. I hope that isn't the case.....I'll have him talk to his CO tomorrow and find out more from that end.
And Jess's Mom: WOW that's a nice reply to read, the very good taken care of part. My mom was a military wife but she never really talked to me about anything including that so I don't know what to expect as far as the military helping me with things. Or if they'll be like "okay have fun in Norfolk" *dumps on the ground* I hope it's the former :D
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oh and I almost forgot....my wedding is scheduled in May too!!! How awesome is that! :D
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Oh, Skype, that's a good idea. Yeah I wouldn't want to waste the several hundred of airfare (and missed days of work) to do pre-marital counseling ~_~ That.....would anger me LOL.
And sure we can be Facebook buddies! I'll pm you my email that I use and you can find me :D
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Permalink Reply by Miranda Nicole on
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Me and hubby got married in Norfolk at the courthouse it cost us about 80 dollars total and about 15 mins. Then we did our wedding photos on the beach. We didn't have any family and didn't want the hassle of finding someone to preform the ceremony. We still live in Norfolk so if you need anything shoot me a message and i can give you my facebook. I've gotten pretty used to the town and its goings on and everyone needs friends right?
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ooooh cool! That's not a bad idea; marriage and then beach pictures. I'm not too picky :) I'll PM you my email for facebook as well (sorry it took so long to respond, I've been so busy with overtime at work) Hope to see you on FB soon!
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Permalink Reply by Anti M on
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Congratulations. I live in Utah (Ogden). I was on vacation or I'd have answered a few days ago. I', ex-Navy myself, also born and raised Natv, and married and retired Navy.
The first step is for him to talk to his chain of command and find out what specifically he needs to do on his end. A chit is a request form, and is used for many things... informing the Navy he is marrying is one thing, requesting leave is another thing. Getting married is much different than having a wedding, many couples choose the courthouse to get the marriage legalized and on track for all the paperwork. If counseling is required, you can talk to the person performing it as to long distance solutions. Many chaplains are very willing to work around this issue with couples.
He may or may not get to take leave, too hard to tell with ships what their schedule may be like (and we aren't supposed to discuss it online even if we do know). You may have to have a quickie wedding and have the honeymoon later. The beach at Norfolk is cold as heck in the winter, so don't plan on that as your main venue, but it is great for photos when the weather is nice. You have to be flexible and prioritize what you can do, what you want to do, and what the Navy is going to let him do. LOL, have fun.
Navy housing always has a wait list, and Norfolk, being several big bases, may have a long wait. Expect to have an apartment offbase. You will need money for travel as you are not on his orders this time. You will need money for a deposit, setting up, and transportation. Start saving every penny.
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Thank you for all the valuable info!!!! I was figuring there'd be a waiting list. How do I even get on that? Do I have to be married to him before I can even apply? If so, that'll suck lol. A lady at my work who used to be in the Navy said if I lived off base they would pay rent, or some of it; how does that work?
I'll remember the weather advice :D I'm so thrilled to live near a beach! I never have before!!!!!
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Once you two are married, and he has accompanied orders, he can get you on the waiting list. If you two will be living offbase, the Navy will give him a housing allowance for the area, called BAH (basic allowance for housing). You will find HE is responsible for getting most of this done and you can't do much for yourself. It takes some getting used to, communication, and sometimes some nagging, to keep your sailor on track as the responsible party. LOL, wives may not be able to do a lot of the paperwork, but they certainly can make sure their spouse stays on top of it.
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LOL. Aw, maaaaaannnn. I -HATE- nagging. Ron and I are both sort of drifters....you know the type, we're not very on top of things and kind of float around going "huh" and things just seem to happen. Damn initiative!!!!!! Well, I appreciate the honesty though XD time for us to stop being lazy and get to it.
The other thing that bites is that with him on the ocean, barely getting reception, then doing watch after watch, and his off hours being MY work hours, and me not even allowed a text message at work, our communication is to its bare minimum. I'm sure so many people have said this same sob story, guess I better get used to it with marrying the Navy :D
*gets out whip to crack*
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Yep, one of you has to be the detail minded whip cracker. The Navy has many, many benefits, but almost every single one of them requires timely submitted paperwork. Get one of those little calendars where you can track tasks and chores and appointments. Practice using it. Have fun and schedule silly things.
Cell reception at sea? Not supposed to happen, and cough cough not supposed to be done. I know they can pick up signals closer in to shore, but I also know that ship communication policy usually forbids private communication devices.
I was stuck in the old days of snail mail. You just do the best you can. 23 years later, we're fine. My parents did it for 29 years (62 years together).
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