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So here's the scenario. Any and all advice would be greatly appreciated! I am currently enlisted in the Navy in the DEP program set to ship out on March 6th, 2012. I am set to go to Pensacola Florida for 4 months after boot camp for training to be an air traffic controller. My fiance is currently in his A school at Fort Sam Houston to be a hospital corpman. He didn't start classes until about a month after being there, but he was scheduled to be there for 4 months. My plan about getting married was to get married within the first few weeks of me being in A school as soon as I reach phase 2 and can go off base. He has enough leave time saved up to come to Florida. We could either do the courthouse wedding but I am aware they close by 4 Monday to Friday, or we could get a justice of the peace to do a wedding at Pensacola beach.  The difficulty in the second option which I prefer, would be it would be very difficult to secure a set date until last minute because of the uncertainty in timing. He should be getting his orders and finishing A school around April due to the setback. My purpose in doing things this way was in hopes of being married before I receive my orders so that I could be placed with him. I am aware that the timing will be difficult but I think it's possible. My plan was to notify the Navy as soon as I arrive at Pensacola, because I am aware that you must be granted pemission of sorts to get married. I am not sure how long this request takes or even how to go about it. My main questions are

1) when and how do i go about submitting the marriage request

2) If we are successful in getting married before I receive my orders, will I be able to be placed with him?  I've heard mixed things, many people say that the paperwork takes time to process and it may not be processed in time but if I submit it within my first few weeks of school it may be enough time.

 

3) Is this a doable option? Are there any suggestioins on doing this a better way?

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1st off, don't get your hopes up that you'll be stationed together.  Being married doesn't give you the right to be stationed together, the Navy only has to consider to get you within the same geographical area.

"e. Collocation - Not always Possible. Members should be aware that due to the difficulties involved in spouse collocation, fulfilling duty preferences for geographical location or type of duty/unit may not be possible."

http://www.public.navy.mil/bupers-npc/reference/milpersman/1000/130...

 

Secondly ,just because you get married in one state doesn't mean that you file the marriage in that state.  You can pull a license in Texas and get married in Florida if you want.  So the license could have been anywhere. 

A LICENSE PURCHASED IN ANY TEXAS COUNTY CAN BE USED IN THE STATE OF TEXAS AND ANY OTHER STATE OR COUNTRY THAT WILL ACCEPT IT. (Including: ceremony performed on an aircraft, boat or ship traveling in the US or international territory.)

http://www.co.walker.tx.us/department/division.php?fDD=5-60

http://www.co.fort-bend.tx.us/getsitepage.asp?sitepage=7336


Just curious, why wait till you get to "A" school?  Get married now.  It would probably be a lot easier.

Getting married... yeah, fly down to TX and marry before you ship out.  It will piss off your recruiter, but not change your eligibility to join the Navy.

If you wait until you're in A school, you must submit a special request up your chain of command,  pretty simple.  You can technically skip it, but it is better to go by the policies of the training command.

Co-location doesn't apply for first enlistments.  You might get it, but you might not.  If he's stationed somewhere without an air base, or any sort of air det, you're not going.  You will both go where the jobs are.  Period, end of story.

My husband and I had "co-location".  We were in the same country, Japan, on different bases.  He couldn't leave the area surrounding his ship without taking leave, which was rarely possible. We saw each other a total of 28 days in the first two years we were married.  I gave up my Navy career at nine years of service because we couldn't get orders near each other. Some make it work, we barely did so.

Good luck.

If we choose to go that route wouldn't he have to submit the request through his chain of command? How long does that usually take to process? There's not too much time. Secondly I must say I have a tremendous amount of respect for you for making a marriage work under those circumstances! 28 days in 2 years? Wow. Many would have given up! Congratulations to you and your husband I hope to have a strong marriage like that to withstand the military careers.
If we choose to go that route wouldn't he have to submit the request through his chain of command? How long does that usually take to process? There's not too much time. Secondly I must say I have a tremendous amount of respect for you for making a marriage work under those circumstances! 28 days in 2 years? Wow. Many would have given up! Congratulations to you and your husband I hope to have a strong marriage like that to withstand the military careers.

Anti - Geez, I can just imagine those 28 days.  I bet that was a wild and fun!!!...  

Just curious, can you read this now?

Once I was blind, but now I can see!

Next month is 25 years, we're on yet another honeymoon right now.  I'm in Hawaii, this very minute, with my hubby.  Thank you, United States Navy!  

(We honeymoon several times a year, because we can.)

First off you are not in the USN, until you finish bootcamp.  So reality you can do what you want...though I would let the recruiter know so s/he can fix your paper work. 

 

If you get married now or in bootcamp, your orders to your first duty station are not going to change.  The USN WILL send you both where ever they want to.  Once could end up in VA, one could end up in CA...it is NOT up to you where you and he goes.  People will say what they think you want to hear, so odds are the recruiter is saying that you will get stationed together.  Unless it is in your contract "will be stationed with in 50 miles of spouse for whole career" it isn't going to happen.  There is a chance that you could be stationed together, but don't count on it.  Also if you end up having children...who is going to take care of them?  Just something for you to think about ahead of time.

As far as children goes me and him have discussed that option already. He is going to be making his navy career long term whereas I am most likely going to fulfill my first enlistment and be done. Once I decide I am finished with my navy career we are going to have children. I don't want to have children if we are both in the navy I want to be the one home and caring for them so they have at least one consistent parent with them.

just so you know, if you do have children you both can end up on sea duty, that is what I meant by who will watch the kids.  As far as you thinking you will be the one who will be home with the kids while you are both in the USN, it isn't up to you!  The USN will decide who if either of you can be on shore duty..BUT you will still need someone to watch the kids on duty days and if ou have to stay at work late.  There is no such thing as saying your kid is sick and you need to go get them from day care....you need to have someone else who will do that.

 

Also just 'cause you don't want to have children while you are in the USN doesn't mean you won't end up with one...nothing is 100%.  Just trying to open your eyes

 

Thanks everyone for your input! After discussing things with him, we have decided to get married in Texas before I ship. He is putting in the request through his chain of command and I will be informing my recruiter about the change tomorrow.

 

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