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**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


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**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


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16hrs since I received that scripted phone call from my son. Unaware of the "scripted" part and or length of phone call (48 sec). I could hear stress in his voice. Also unaware of being able to have accompanied him to his recruiter meetings for preparation on what to expect after final swear in. Maybe he thought I wouldn't have been as supportive had I attended. Definitely unprepared for this journey. Never been away from my three children. My heart feels heavy. Experiencing detachment with my children becoming adults and leaving NEST that's been built with a strong foundation with walls insulated with ADT security. Now not even being able to communicate with my middle child and only son. I feel as if I'm grieving or had a loss. Emotions from PROUD, SAD, UNCERTAIN, EXCITED for his journey, and LONGING to hear him say "I'm going fishing". Never thought it would be so hard to fold his clothes, walk past his door, pick up his shoes, or not hear his car crank. Wondering if there are other navy moms who have experienced these feelings? Today only cried once and here I am writing without tissues thanks to the support from another navy mom (whose ex navy chief).  

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So the day is here. Mine has a few more months at home and I am dreading the day that I type "My son leaves for Boot Camp tomorrow". I hope that you will find strength in knowing that he will be in good hands. However, I understand the sadness because I am not wanting this to happen at all. I know that I will be upset, but plan to hold it together as much as possible. Let me know how you do and give me any tips that you think will help! I am gong to need all the help I can get. Right now I am just trying to have "family time" as much as possible. Good luck!

48 sec?? OMG not ready for this.. my Son leaves 11/25. sees his recruiter tonight for final commitment, after being sworn in on Thurs. So not ready for this.


Waiting is the hardest part! Once they leave come to N4M and we will hold you tightly. You will put on a brave face and try to be strong. You can do it! I promise! You have to and it will be alright! Hug!

My Son left today, my heart is heavy. Cried alot today but I also am proud, but also will miss having him home.


my son is Ship13 Div008  I think they graduate the same day nov. 15th am I right?  I have received 2 calls already and I was shocked.  I never know when they come one was last sat one was yesterday afternoon. Do you know why they get to call?  He seems to have no idea. I cry like you for no apparent reason.  I was in the Navy so I know all about BC but I was so much more independent and my son is such a mama's boy. He seemed bored to me not enough athletics I guess all the paperwork the first week hasn't left much time to exercise.


See Phone Cards and Phone Calls for info on calls.

I got the phone cards!! thanks


We have no idea when his Graduation date is. But thanks for the words of cheer that I am not the only water works mom here!!!!

The calls are often rewards for good performance of the entire division.  You just can' tell when they happen, and sometimes individual recruits will miss out if they have duty or are off to someplace like dental.  

I feel like I was reading something that I had written. I, too, was very unprepared for this.  My son enlisted, unbeknownst to me, over the summer and came home and said "Mom, I joined the Navy".  Talk about a punch in the gut.  He has talked about the military since he was a little boy and always thought he wanted to do infantry in the Marines.  I just never felt like I could support that decision.  When he started to mention the Navy I felt better about it but didn't realize he was THAT SERIOUS!  He was scheduled to leave in January, which gave me time to get used to it, but when he called to see if they could move his date up they told him November.  I panicked a little, behind closed doors, but then they called back and said he could leave in October, which was 2 weeks later.  He is my middle son as well.  And like you I have had a hard time letting go. He has lived with me day in and day out for 19 years.  All the times that I thought I would get aggravated because he wanted a turkey sandwich at 10 o'clock at night because "you fix it better than me" or can you please wash this or that.....I want that back sooooo much :(  He left Oct. 3 and this past Thursday was the first day since he left that I hadn't teared up.  It's the little things I see around, that normally I wouldn't pay any mind too, that tear me up.  (The frozen chicken nuggets at WAlmart that he loved to snack on......totally lost my marbles right there in the store when I saw them...haha).  My younger children (5 and 2) must think I'm crazy and that I constantly can't "get the dirt out of my eyes" :p.  No matter how old they are they will always be our "babies".  When I received his "scripted" call it killed me because I wanted to say so much but I know he would be so mad at me to know that I cried for a whole week.  When I dropped him off, crying of course, he said "Mom, you have got to stop.  I will be fine and you have to take care of the other babies now".  Gosh I miss him.  Can't wait for graduation 11/27.  I'm so glad this site is available because I can see that we're not alone.  God Bless You!

Yes we all relate!!You are not alone or anything else .  You are a MOM who loves her kids like us.  My son graduated 8/30/13 and is now at A school.  I am still having a hard time some days.  Your son WILL be OK.  When I saw my son at Graduation I thought I had a great boy before, but he is even more wonderful after this experience.  Polite, considerate, speaks UP and many other things. Put on your bravest voice when you hear from him and then come here for support.  The ladies here will lift you up in prayer and friendship like no one else because they have been where you are.  Cry all you want,  it is a healing thing.  It is hard to let go of our kids, but they are better off because of us letting them fly ( or Sail) in our case. 

yes i have felt all those emotions,my son has been gone for a week an a day.he is my best friend an i feel so empty inside without him.i feel like im in a bad dream an want to wake up,i wasnt prepared at all for all of this,im so

happy i can talk to other moms who are going through this as well.i dont even no where to start with getting prepared for traveling from de. to there.this is a very proud momma  thats for sure im just so confused too.


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