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Comment by Judy Proud Mom on October 25, 2011 at 7:15pm

I just can't believe you were not notified. When my son was separated, he was told to call us. I wonder who she called, because they make sure one is made. Have you been to the Facebook page for RTC? You could probably message someone there and get some answers. I can't even imagine what you are going through.

Comment by BigDaddyJames-Ship 14 Div 273 on October 25, 2011 at 5:48pm

Thank you, but they not able to tell me anything. 

Comment by Judy Proud Mom on October 25, 2011 at 4:53pm

Call her local recruiter, they might have some news. I am so sorry you are going though this.

Comment by BigDaddyJames-Ship 14 Div 273 on October 25, 2011 at 3:28pm

Hi, I know I'm not a Mom, but the Moms had much better communication during boot camp. I hope it's ok if I post, because I am very concerned about my daughter.

She was discharged on June 2nd, and showed up on our doorstep to "surprise" us.  When I opened the door, I knew something was not right, but she said she was on her way from GL to Dahlgren for "C" school.  She was an FC.

She was home for 17 days, which seemed odd to me.  But I gave her every benefit of the doubt, even when she boxed up stuff for Dahlgren that that was not in keeping with the amount of storage a sailor would have.

She kept up the deception that she was in A school until about 3 weeks ago when I asked her how it is going, and how much school she had left.  She said she didn't want to talk about it.  So, I sent a private message to one of the recruiters on Facebook and asked him if he would please find out her status, as things did not add up.  Later that day, she texted me, and asked why I was "in her buisness".  I asked her if she was still in the Navy, and she said NO. 

She lied to not only her parents, but everyone else in the family for months.  Whoever she was living with in Dahlgren drove her to San Diego last week, but she won't tell us where she is staying, nor how she can support herself. 

She is doing all this with the knowledge her mother is undergoing chemotherapy for aggressive cancer as we speak.  We simply can't understand without know more, and I am having a hard time understand how she could be seperated without some kind of notice to us from the Navy. If I had not asked her directly, it may have gone on for many more months. 

Who can I contact at Great Lakes to find out how this happened?  We are worried sick, she could go missing, and we would never know or be able to help.

Can anyone help us find the truth?

Comment by danzrgr8 on April 7, 2011 at 12:09pm

I am so sorry to hear yet another story. My son is home now and was medically discharged with the option to come back in a year. We went from threats of dishonorable discharge to that. He has had extensive medical work ups for his back and general health. His doctor said he has never seen ear infections as bad in both ears and we are looking at surgery for this. The Navy only gave him Tylenol for his ear aches. He now has continuous drainage from both ears. His back that they said was a degenerative disc problem they said was caused by a car accident, happened to be a rib head out of place and 3 physical therapy appointments and he is back to his running and weight lifting regimen. This makes be very angry that our sons/daughters are getting such shoddy medical care. My nephews that is being shot at daily somewhere in Iraq and my nephew that is getting ready to be deployed again deserve better than this. I expect and demand that our tax dollars be used to make sure they have safe and updated equipment. My nephew has to tie the door to his humvie closed because the latch does not work. This is sad. He can not get out quickly in an emergency. Keep giving your son pep talks and get as many letters to him as possible. He needs to know there are many people supporting him. Write a letter to your congressman when this is all said and done. I did this and just one or two letters won't change anything but if the offices of these elected officials are bombarded with complaints about how these men and women are being treated then it will get the attention that is needed. Good luck and I will keep your son and your family in my prayers.

Comment by Reneric007/169 on April 6, 2011 at 11:07am

Need help Son in Boot Camp Left on 2/22  asmo'd for failing a test set back a week passed that test in new div then was relaly working hard and Monday April 4th asmo'd again for Recruit misconduct after him and other recruit kicked each other boot kidding aroung Both were asmo'd for two weeks He was threatened with going to jail if he as much as walk out of line or talks out of turn as it will be his second offense. When he called home Monday night at 9:53 pm to tell me he was not allowed to tell me why and I kept begging he said he had to write me a letter I then called the recruiter the next dau he called up there and the new RDC told him he didn't know that my sonc would call me that day. He called this morning crying and said he can't stop and he can't take no more he wanted to know if he could come home I tried to give him a pep talk and say it will all be alright but he told me I really didn't understand that he has really been trying and he can't due anything right that he is being ridden 24-7  and nothing he's done is right and he would call me I told him to sign a medical wavier to talk to me and give me information but will he be allowed to do that who knows Rules don;t apply to them RDC make the rules up as they go along and The Navy backs them. I am very discouraged and need some help as to what I can do to help my son and what will happen now as his recruiter hasn't returned  my call or messages .

Comment by Judy Proud Mom on March 28, 2011 at 11:56am

Glad your kids are home, or coming home. It was definatly bitter sweet when my son came home. Glad to see him, but sorry for the reason. He is going to try to get back in, but that worries me. Someone asked if the navy cares about the families, the answer is no. I was an army wife, and the military attitude is to make the whole group strong, individuals dont count at all.

Comment by danzrgr8 on March 27, 2011 at 3:01pm

Teresa, I am happy that your son has made it home OK.  My son is supposed to come home this next week but of course we will get no information until the last minute.  Our family is a very strong military family but this has definitely left a bad taste in my mouth.  All my nephews that are in now tried to tell my son that he will be lied to constantly.  My son is not getting a dishonorable but a medical but had to act like he was depressed to get it.  That is sad.  I can't wait til this is over but I have another son that wants to go into the Marines.  I should be proud but I feel nothing but panic that he may deal with this too.  I will be fighting this as best I can but it is the military and it would probably bankrupt me and they know that.  I will write my congressman though.  

Comment by danzrgr8 on March 21, 2011 at 10:14am

I have been hearing story after story of things like this.  Does the military even care what the families are going through?  I really do not know much and all I was told by my son was that they are threatening to dishonorable discharge him for a car accident that he was told not to say anything since he was not hurt.  Our family is completely devastated right now.  I cried all weekend.  I will probably drop out of school in my last class over this because I don't know if I can keep up and cry constantly.  I really want to let that recruiter have a piece of my mind but I do not want him to have a heads up to cover his tracks.  I am sure he has already done so.  I have another son who is wanting to go into the Marines and I am really against it now.  I thought this would be a time of pride in my son and pride in my country.  It is a shame how one recruiter has shaken all my faith in our military.  I am going to fight my other son joining every step of the way.  I can not believe that someones life can be ruined before it even starts because he did not disclose a car accident that no one was hurt in.  He apparently told them about it when they were yelling at him.  We will fight this.  The case is being made against him and there is no one there to protect his rights although he said in one of his letters that they are told constantly that they have given up all rights as US citizens.  I thought the military was honorable.  I am so heart broken that I don't know where to turn.

Comment by danzrgr8 on March 19, 2011 at 8:41pm

Thanks for the advice. I am not sure when I will get to talk to him but I will definitely mention this to him. He is so scared right now. I have a hard time understanding why they are willing to ruin a 20 year old's life over this. I understand that these kids need to be truthful but what about being lied to by their recruiter? I am sure there is no proof and it will be my son's word against the recruiters and who do you think they will believe? I agree he should have told the truth when asked but I am not sure he was asked about car accidents until he hurt his back and that is when he told them. I am not even sure that he did lie to them. I think he just did not volunteer the information. Like I said before, he wasn't hurt and never was treated for the car accident. My son did tell me that he could get a medical discharge if he tells them that he is suicidal. I think that is sad that he would be told to do that. I am sure that that would not look good either but maybe not as bad as a dishonorable.
I hope your son is doing well now. You should be so proud of him for standing up and doing what was right. I

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