This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Visite esta página para explorar en su idioma las oportunidades de educación y carreras para sus hijos en el Navy.




Advice for new spouses

Hello, everyone my name is Amanda. Thank you for joining this group! I have recently went through the whole process of becoming a PROUD NAVY WIFE.  I am starting this group to help all the new spouses on your journey.  Ask me anything!!!!

Members: 148
Latest Activity: Mar 2, 2019

This is especially for wives, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, or fiances.

Everyone has a different experience throughout this whole process.  My husband started signing up in July of 2010 and did not leave for bootcamp until March 29th 2011, so we have pretty much been through a lot this last year and I would love to help everyone that I can understand things that I did not when we first started. He is now in the middle of A-school and I guess so are we.  It has not always been fun, but it is worth it in the end. I say this is especially for spouses becuase pay, and things like that are different for us, but mom, dads and anyone else is more than welcome to join.  I look forward to hearing from everyone, and hope that I can help you along the way.  This page is for newly married about to get married, or just being a new Navy spouse in general.  My husband and I have been together 6 years and married over 2 years now.  We have a 3 year old son.  Watching the children go through this is very difficult because they do not fully understand what is going on.  I am here to help!!!!  I have lots of ideas and experiences to share!!!!

Discussion Forum

Chicago PIR Weekend

Started by Meridith_21 Mar 10, 2014. 0 Replies

Hi Ladies, So my husband leaves for BC next week and I wanted to start getting a plan together for his PIR weekend in May. My in-laws and I plan on flying out Thursday night and staying through…Continue


Started by Meridith_21 Feb 12, 2014. 0 Replies

So, while my husband is in boot camp and A School will I be recieving half or all of BAH? We have been told both and just want to get an idea for budget purposes. I also read that after 30 days I…Continue


Started by skell456 (AO wife). Last reply by Michelle Apr 24, 2013. 9 Replies

So as you probably already read my husband and I have a 3 year old son named Logan.  He is just a great kid, but this has been so hard on him.  We have moved from where he knows everyone to hear…Continue

moving to japan- help????

Started by ProudNavyWifeFresca. Last reply by abuon18 Nov 13, 2012. 1 Reply

just got married and husband went to japan, we are waiting a year untill i move there, what do i need to do, we didnt get married while he was in a school but got married while he was on leave b4…Continue

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Comment by FireTeamLeaderWife aka FTLW on December 2, 2016 at 7:39pm


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Comment by Gabbi on March 25, 2015 at 10:25pm
Hi everyone, I am technically not a "new spouse" yet however my long term boyfriend and I are debating getting married before he goes to basic. We are at the very beginning of this whole process and I just wanted to get some advice from others who have been through it.
Comment by Amberw27 on August 19, 2013 at 9:10pm

Hi I have so many questions....Husband is heading to A school soon. Does anyone know when the families can move with. We have already been away from each other for around 5 months. Not as long for some. But would like to be closer soon. Since he has not been stationed anywhere for longer then 6 months we cant move with. He will be going to A school and C school in the same area so was wondering if anyone had any ideas. Or experiances with this situation. thanks (:

Comment by Proudnavywife<3mysailor on April 30, 2013 at 10:07pm

Michelle, here is the link to the free phone cards you can send to your SR!

Comment by Proudnavywife<3mysailor on April 30, 2013 at 10:05pm

The last phone call you get for a few weeks will be the "I'm here"call.Like everyone has tolled me No news Is good news!The SR's get to write letters about 2-3 weeks into BC.If an SR is fall ill or gets hurt and it will push back the day they graduate then they will be able to call to let their loved ones know. I heard they can also "Earn phone calls"Depending on how they and or their division do.There is a page on here that gives free phone cards for you to send to your SR so they can call there loved one when they have earned it. 

Comment by Michelle on April 25, 2013 at 11:46am
Hey navy wife's how many days after they leave for boot camp do we get our first phone call?
Comment by lovemysailor on February 15, 2013 at 11:37am

thank you!!!

Comment by Britt<3Corpsman Wife on February 14, 2013 at 3:11pm
You should get married ASAP. My husband is at Ft. Sam for C school right now which is about a 20 minute drive to Lackland. If I remember correctly, MA A schoolers got their orders pretty quickly after getting to Lackland. So I would have him ask his command how he could do it ASAP.

Also, you cannot go on deployment with him. You can however, move with him if he stays within the U.S. if he gets overseas orders you will not be allowed to move until he is above an E4.

I have heard the Japanese Tea Gardens is a pretty place to get married or Marriage Island at the Riverwalk... its supposed to bring good luck. Let me know if you have any questions about the San Antonio area. I have lived here for several months now. Good Luck!
Comment by lovemysailor on February 14, 2013 at 12:00pm

hello, i am new to this group and am needing some advise. My fiance just graduated boot camp and now in lackland airforce base, tx for A school. we are trying to figue out when is the best time to get married. we were told if were not married before he gets his orders then I wont be able to go on deployment with him. is this true? i really want to follow him as much as I can so does this mean we have to get married in A school?

Comment by RebeccaProudWife on February 7, 2013 at 1:28am

Scarlette there is a gal, shalonda,  from my pir group on face book who is going through what you are asking about...she might be able to answer your questions best.


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