Emotional breakdown :(

[Cynthia022312]

This week makes two weeks that my boyfriend has been gone to bootcamp. I haven't gotten letters yet or anything and i'm just having an emotional breakdown. Im already writing him, i got his address on friday so im sending letters out tomorrow. This is just so hard. I cant help but cry. This is killing me :'(

[lemonelephant]

You will be fine. The time that your recruit is in BC is also a BC of sorts for the loved ones. It helps to prepare you for when he is a Sailor and you may not have communication for weeks (or longer) at a time. It is also a time when you can start learning about what is going on and what to expect. The Pages (found under the pictures of the Members) in this group and the PIR group will help with that. You may also want to join Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors and you will see you are not alone.

Be sure to check your My Page.

[jas babe(div230)]

Aww it's ok to cry... I cried all the time when my husband was in boot... It doesn't get any easier but u will learn how to deal with it better... I know it seems unfair now but boot camp is a learning experience for us too... This is how u learn if u can handle the seperation an how to deal with it... Chin up the letter will come soon... He is safe there and that's all tht really matters... Good luck!!!!

[maureenwithfive]

Hello Cynthia,

Hold on tight, the good stuff is just around the corner!

Have you received "the box" yet?  If not, it will be there soon.

Have you received his "form letter" yet?  If not, just remember it can take anywhere from 10 -14 days (on average) to receive it.

Let me help you put this in perspective... as of tomorrow, my son will have been gone three full weeks.

We did not receive his "form letter" for 10 days, his first phone call came 20 days after he arrived at boot camp, and we have not received any letters yet (he told us in his phone call that he will finally be able to mail them today) which means we will probably be receiving his first "written" letters sometime during the fourth week that he has been gone.

From what I understand, these time frames are pretty standard.

So don't fret - you're not in this alone, and we all have to live with the Navy's timeline of events.  But we are all here to help one another!

You can count on that!

[pygmy]

I didn't get anything till three weeks. His mother lives closer and got mail a day before I did, I broke down crying cause I was so upset. Yeah it's silly but it's hard. Try to stay busy doing things, let yourself cry, things get easier I promise. The less contact seems to be better since rtc contacts you only if theres an emergency.

[EmilyandChris]

My boyfriends in for almost a week and although it doesn't seem like a long time I feel like it's been a month. It's the hardest thing ever. Don't show him how much it hurts u. Tell him how much you love him. It's ok to cry, I cry everyday but it makes me feel so much better. Just remember this is TEMPORARY. Just think of how awesome and perfect it's going to be when you first see him, were all here