June 1st

[Soon2bNavyWife]

My fiance left 11 days ago for Boot Camp. I am new to the whole military life. I know his parents are suppose to receive his "form" letter but shouldn't it already be here by now? They have been on vacation so maybe that is why they haven't given his address to me yet (he told them to give me the address as soon as they had it). I just dont want him to think that I'm just not bothering to write him because that isn't the case, I have wrote a letter everyday since he left. I have also heard that it takes 3 weeks to receive his first letter, is that true or is it close? When I do get his address to send him the letters I have written I hope that he will like them and I wont bog him down with a bunch of letters but I have heard that recruits love mail call. I am suppose to go see him graduate the first week of August, but that's along time away. Any advice would be helpful, thanks!

[Soon2bNavyWife]

Its okay, I guess me and you are both kinda in the same boat. When did your boyfriend or fiance leave?

[Soon2bNavyWife]

Well the first day he left was really hard for me, I talked to my fiance as much as I could during that day, but at 8pm that night, he called and told me it would be his last phone call for awhile and that he loved me and would miss me and was coming home to me and would write me as soon as he could and would see me soon. He also told me to stay out of trouble, because Im his girl, I think that was his way of telling me to take care of myself and not to worry (but I still do, all the time). I cut my phone off after that call because I didn't want to be looking at my phone 24-7 waiting for a text that would never come. For the first few days I didnt have much of an appetite, and lost some weight and then I decided I would make that one of my goals while he is gone, to lose weight so I can look good when I go see him graduate, and goal 2 is to get a tan. Its been 11 days and Im not going to say it gets easier because honestly it doesn't...but you just kind of get used to the fact that he isnt here to talk to. I still have my random moments when I will hear one of our songs on the radio and I'll cry or Ill just randomly start crying, but Im not as bad as I was. I am still waiting on his address...(hopefully I will have that in the next few days, and I still have about a week or so left and I should start recieving letters from him) You just need to keep yourself busy as much as possible and try not to think about it. I constantly think about my fiance and miss him super badly (and that is normal) but with every day that passes is another day closer to seeing him again and being in his arms. So think of it that way (and it helps me to think of it this way)...your boyfriend isn't just doing this for his country he is doing this for you and his family and that makes the distance and time apart worth it all.

[nicolet182]

It's been a little while, but I think it took about 2 weeks or so to get that letter with their address. I'm sure they won't mind too much mail.  I think after the first few weeks I received at least 2 letters a week from him and more towards the end. I don't think they give them too much time to write letters so don't expect them to be very long.  Just keep busy and it'll go by fast and you'll be at their graduation before you know it!

[Soon2bNavyWife]

Thanks...hopefully I will have his address by tomorrow and receive his first letter in the next week or so. (: I cant wait to see him graduate, it will make the distance and time worth it all.

[Soon2bNavyWife]

One day at a time is all you can do and awwww, yeah I have to write my fiance a letter at night because it makes me feel like I'm talking to him (: I cant wait for graduation either. Stay in touch and Ill let you know when I start receiving letters from my fiance and you do the same. Our S/O's went in 5 days apart, they could possibly graduate together (maybe).

[Soon2bNavyWife]

Hey! His dad just told me at church today that he received his form letter and is suppose to email me the address so I should know that by tonight *hopefully* but my only problem is, his dad told me not to write him too much and send to many letters at one time because it would draw too much attention to him which sucks because i have already written 11 letters (maybe 12) so I dont know what I'm suppose to do now. But I also found out that his graduation is July 29th instead of August 5th (: I will add you on facebook here in just a few minutes (:

[ColleenJacksGirl (Ship07Div 245)]

My bf left june 7th. Reading what u all are saying about what u do now that they are away makes me laugh because i do the exact same stuff. I havent ate much and I have also decided to lose weight while he is at bootcamp so i look good for him when i see him at graduation. I also dont sleep if i dont write him. I can not wait to get his address. I am a little worried about it though because his dad does not like me very much for some reason and that is who the letter is getting sent out too. I cant call him and get it so i have to wait for his mom to get it from his dad because they are separated. Me and her are close. So hopefully she calls his dad or he calls his mom about the address soon. So it takes about 9 days to get the letter? Is the letter and the form the same thing or do u get them at different times? I am so proud of him i cant say it enough in his letters, I have wrote 3 so far but wow 45 lol what did he say about that when he got all of them? i miss my bf so much its hard to stay busy i keep thinking about what hes doing and wondering if hes ok and is he liking it. I think i will feel a lot better when I get his first letter. He doesnt have my address so i have to send him my letter first hopefully it all works out.

[Soon2bNavyWife]

I feel your pain on the family situation...but girl you should of given him your address before he left lol

[Soon2bNavyWife]

I should know my SR's address by tonight, his dad is suppose to email it to me on facebook....he said he would anyways.

[Soon2bNavyWife]

No such luck, his dad STILL hasnt sent me his address in a facebook message like he said he would.

[Kac46047]

Hey my first batch of letters i sent like 12! i was actually recieving letters from my husband asking me why i wasn't writing! Then one day he got 12 at once and loved it lol. He said he did have to open them all in front of the RDC's just to make sure I didn't send any bad photos or other things he wasn't suppose to have. But he never got in trouble he actually flat out loved the fact he got 12, it made him feel good and I was glad i could do it for him. I wrote a letter a day while he was in boot and he basically wrote me every day except 3 days lol. His rackmate used to ask how we had so much to talk about but i basically just worte about my day ect. It truly made our relationship stronger. I still have all our letters and plan on making into a scrapbook one day.

I cant say my bootcamp expierence was good, i emotionally hated it! He went away over three holidays, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years and it made his boot camp 9 1/2 weeks long. I was on christmas break the entire time and i was completle out of my mind lol. I tried hard to stay busy but it was honestly hard. I think i would have been better if i had a job or school to preoccupy me. But it does go by fast even if it doesn't seem like it.

[m3]

Soon2bnavywife, don't listen to his dad!!! 

My husband wanted as many letters as possible! I asked once about getting made fun of or having to do extra PT if they got a lot of letters and he said that doesn't really happen. And he said that doing an hour of extra PT would be worth it to get extra letters! He LOVED those days! Every day I would send at least an envelope with letters and then another envelope with "extras" like pictures and quotes and stuff! Then there were days I sent 3/4 envelopes with maybe 3 letters in each?

Hopefully you get his address soon. If not maybe call his recruiter? My husbands recruiter called me less than 24 hours after he left for BC with his address! So I had my letters sent out that day! I know on the RTC page they say not to do that for various reasons but I didn't know that before I sent them and they got to him just fine!