My love just left for bootcamp last week.

[Mama Bearr293]

It has been sooo much harder then I thought it would be. :/

Anyone else have a Sailor in bootcamp that left 10-14-11?

Lets chat. I'm in desperate need for a friend that's going through what I am. Mine don't seem to understand nor care much.

[HoldFast86 (Ship 12 Div 325)]

My husband has been gone since the 4th....bootcamp isn't easy by any means because of the lack of communication but write him...everyday, every time you think of him even though you probably don't have his address yet, this will give you a stack to get off to him that will make his day, take pictures for him [clean] and tuck them away with your words...writing will make him feel closer though. And keep a journal of your own to write down the pain because you have to remember to try and keep his letters upbeat to keep him going knowing you are strong and by his side

[Mama Bearr293]

I have been writing! I started an hour after he called me and said the bus was coming. It definitely has helped. He'll have a book when I finally get his address which should come any day now.

And it is soo hard. I knew I'd be upset, but I never thought I'd be this bad. The thought of seeing him next in his uniform keeps my head up. I am excited for that.

[HoldFast86 (Ship 12 Div 325)]

I understand completely, I thought it would be different but the lack of them for the first time is really kind of devastating. I'm really glad to hear you have been writing him though, I know he will be happy. This will be my husband's third week in and I'm hoping that this week maybe will be the week I get a letter just to know he misses me at least half as much as I miss him.

 

Just know you aren't alone by any means, all the women here know what you are going through oh and if you have a facebook 'like' the page

 

http://www.facebook.com/NavyRecruitTrainingCommand

 

They help so much and once you get his address and know his ship and div there will be a thread started in the discussion section for your SR's ship and div specifically.

 

Oh and this helps a lot as well =)

 

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documents/document/cnicp_a144801.pdf)
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[Mama Bearr293]

Thank you soo much! :]

And I hope you get your letter as well. I cannot wait for that first letter. You'll have to let me know!

[abuon18]

You'll just be learning to deal with it as you go. Mine is 2 1/2 weeks from PIR and I can tell you that it does get easier, the first 3 weeks are really really hard and it's okay to cry! It's difficult for us because we are stuck at home doing the same things we did every day while they were here. We are the ones who have to adjust our every day lives. So just feel free to come on here, vent, ask questions, and just know that it will be a huge roller coaster of emotions for you you may be absolutely fine one day then wake up crying the next. It's all okay and it's all normal! Not only the facebook page one of the girls suggested below, there will be a group on here for your boyfriend's PIR. When the form letters start getting sent out it will be formed, make sure you find that because everyone in that group will have a SR graduating with yours and it's so helpful to be able to talk to them and even get to know them because your SR is getting to know their sons/boyfriends! Also there will be a discussion in that group for your SR's specific division, I'm lucky because mine is very active! Once that was formed I didn't feel quite so lost and that's when it really started becoming a little easier for me.

[Mama Bearr293]

:] thank you. And it is very emotional. I was at work the other day and a song came on my friends ipod that my bf and I had listened to when he was working out, and I sort of lost it and had to leave the office. I have breakdowns in the middle of my day, but I'm getting through it. His mom is wonderful and is helping me as much as I'm helping her  as well. I just can't wait till graduation! That's whats keeping my headup for now.

[abuon18]

Every time I've gone out at night with my friends the band has played "our" song... it's "I Want You To Want Me," and he used to sing it to me, but the first time I heard it it made me cry and I had to leave! But every time I've heard it since then I've been in much better moods and was able to enjoy it :) It makes me feel like he's with me still! I am getting so excited for graduation, you girls will be there sooner than you think!

[Mama Bearr293]

Oops I meant graduation date 10-14-11. He left last wed for bootcamp.

[Courtney]

My fiance left today and I have i have been crying since he left. Saying goodbye was the hardest part and so much more worse than i though it would be. I definitely feel you on needing a friend that is going through the same thing. This is such a rough time :(

[abuon18]

Hey Courtney- I really don't want to sound mean but actually saying goodbye is NOT the hardest part. It will get even harder in the next couple of weeks. But this is a great community, make sure you make friends and talk to people and come on here to vent when you're really upset or frustrated. And they live for their letters so make sure you write to him! And honestly it was kind of threrapeutic to me in a way for those first couple of weeks. Writing to him and just telling him about my day and what was going on, if something happened at work... it almost made me feel like I was talking to him and helped me get through a lot of lonely nights! It definitely gets worse before it gets better, but it WILL get better! Honestly not for about 3 weeks when you get that first letter from him, but after that you don't feel as sad and you start getting excited about PIR and by then you've also formed relationships with other mothers/fiances/gfs/wives and even though missing him never gets less you learn the best way for you to deal with it. But we're all here to help you through and we've all either gone through it or are going through it right along with you!

[Courtney]

yeah i  get alot of different responses on whats the hardest part. But i didnt take saying bye to hime yesterday very well but i know i can make it. Im letting graduation and seeing him in uniform a incentive. Ive already wrote my first letter this morning just waiting for the address to send it!

[abuon18]

I'm sure it's different for everyone! But from a lot of people I've talked to it's the first few weeks until you get a letter (it was for me!) because the absolutely no contact is awful. Just because you're upset and crying definitely does not mean you're not strong enough, I felt that way at first because none of my friends here really understand so I would just keep it all in, which is why this site is so great. I held it together while we said good bye, he actually started crying lol but I waited until I was driving off by myself, ugh I was a wreck! The first few weeks I spent most of my nights crying and not being able to sleep because I was so used to sleeping with him every night! Sleeping pills were my best friends those nights, no joke. And when you get that first letter from him it will seem like the last 3 weeks were nothing, it's really amazing how much that one letter can lift your spirits! Mine is graduating 9/9- he'll still be in whites but I believe yours will be wearing his blues... very handsome and a really great incentive to make it through, haha! Well if you're as impatient as I was you can try calling his recruiter next Mon or Tues they should have his address by then. My bf's was right but I have heard some people saying that they were given the wrong address from their recruiter.