Ways Of Communicating During Bootcamp?? And sea/shore rotation??

[Gottaluvmysailor]

Hi ladies my soon to be sailor will be shipping out this summer and I am trying not to freak out about it. We have a baby girl who will be 1 year when he ships out. But anyway what are some good ways to communicate with him while he is in basic training and A school? Also being that we have a little one do you ladies think it would be a good idea to move with him to A school if it is more than 30 days? Also for the sea to shore rotation... Do they serve the full 36 or 54 at sea and then 36 months on shore straight? Clarification is greatly appreciated

[meagan5220]

oh good :) A school for AM is really short its about weeks if I remember correctly. and when my husband was in a school the hold time was super short and they usually get orders relatively quick. As far as the wedding. I have been told by many that recruiters typically say not to get married just because they do not want to deal with the paperwork bc there is lots to change. Thats also why they are told no tattoos as far as I know. You might ask Anti M or another more experienced wife for sure but I dont think it will negatively impact him. But as far as why. the main reason why is because she now has a lot of paperwork to take care of. It can complicate things and yea if its a longer a school they wont move you. but it also can be done the other way :) we got married while my hubby was in a school! just a little more work lol.

[Anti M]

Your guy should tell the recruiter you KNOW it is harder to marry after boot camp, and you know why... as advised by wives and sailors who have been there and done that.  And that she needs to just get the paperwork done, and don't take any guff about it changing his eligibility.  If you have two kids, then  yes, it does.  If you are a foreign national, then it might.  Otherwise. the recruiter is obligated to do the paperwork.  Your Depper can always insist on a talk with the recruiter in charge if yours is being a poophead.  (RNIC)

1. There is no time to marry PIR weekend, and they're advised not to do so. Almost certain he flies to school early on Saturday.

2. During A school, they must submit a request chit, and they must earn their liberty privileges.  For a very short school, this makes getting enough time to run the chit, complete counseling if ordered to do so, and have liberty when the courthouse is open is a real hassle.

3. Being married during boot camp gets your benefits started quickly and with less  hassle.  

4. Being married during boot camp when he has a short A school means the orders come in as accompanied/authorized to move dependents (with exceptions such as overseas orders).  Waiting will almost assuredly mean he gets unaccompanied orders.  That could be a disaster if he pulls Japan or Italy/Spain.

Tell her ET1 Clayton, retired, says so.  If she has a failed marriage, tell her that doesn't mean yours is doomed.  If she has never been married while in the service, then she doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.  

(LOL< I still know how to talk like a sailor... and I pulled my punches.  hehehe)

[Gottaluvmysailor]

Hahaha ok Anti M thanx for the advice. Like I said we decided to get married the 30th regardless of her continued opinion. She is not married that I know of but either way thanks for your input. My mom was Army and told us the same but a second opinion is always nice :)

[Tiffany51908]

From my experience, once your sailor signs that contract and swears in, NOTHING is suppose to change during his DEP until boot camp is over. No tickets, no tattoos, no dependents (wife or child). If you were married prior it wouldnt be an issue. Its not that they don't want him to be married, it just takes a lot of time and money to "re-do" all of his paper work. All of this should be in his contract. My sailor and I went through almost the same thing.