Wedding a Yeomen

[Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45)]

Hey-ya, I'm rather new to this site, and already it has been pretty helpful.

I just turned 18, and I graduate high school the end of May 2012.

My boy, Chris, is leaving for Basic Training in two days.
He will then be attending A-school to become a Yeomen.

We plan on getting married after I graduate high school, our date is set for July.
But, I've heard so many things, how it's really complicated to get married after A-school, instead

of during. But, there's no way I can get married while I'm still in school.

I know you need a "certified" marriage certificate, which can apparently can take about 3 weeks to obtain.

But...gah.

I have so much I'm rather confused about.

For instance...I know they will not pay for the spouse to move if they are not married before they sign in at their duty station. I'm okay with paying to move wherever they station him, if in the US.

However, if he gets station outside the US, will I still be able to pay and follow him? Or is there some sort of different procedure they follow for out-of-state?

I'm also sort of curious about the amount of leave they get, although I've been told it depends on how busy they are, and simillar matters.

I suppose what I'm asking for is any advice for getting married after A school.
Anything would be appreciated~
I thank anyone for their tyme.

[Angie]

If he gets stationed overseas you will be seperated the whole time...the chance of getting what is call a command sponorship for such a jr sailor is very hard and most times doesnt' happen at all.

 

As far as leave the leave after "A" School is written in the orders so no one can tell you 100% normally they get 2 weeks.  Regarding leave while at their command that is up to the command, no one can tell you that...but what can be said is normally jr people don't get top choice when they want to take leave as they just got to the command and they need to learn their job at the command.

 

If he gets stationed state side, you just follow what ever the laws are to get married in that state. 

[Anti M]

It is not impossible to wed during A school, and it isn't that complicated.  Although, yes, yeoman A school isn't all that long, and while the paperwork to add you as a dependent won't take long, the lead time is needed for the orders.

Angie is correct, overseas orders need a dependent to be command sponsored.  E-3 nd below are not authorized to take dependents overseas.  It is a gamble.  And no, you cannot just move overseas.  Foreign countries have immigration laws, without command sponsorship, they will not give you the correct visa, you'd be a tourist and could not stay longer than whatever the host country allows.  In Japan, that's 90 days.  Your sailor would receive no money for your housing, or cost of living allowances.  

They earn 2.5 days of leave each month.  And yes, they often get a week or two after A school.  And you are correct, he'd not have you on his orders.  Getting leave once they reach their command is unlikely when they first arrive.  Could be months, or a year.  No way of telling beforehand.  But "the new guy" does not get leave easily.  

I would not put any money down on a July wedding.  Let him get to A school and find out his time line.  You may have to travel to him, marry in the courthouse to get it on paper, then have a reception and ceremony for the families at a later date.  

There's also the option of a nice, long engagement if you can't get the logistics down.

[Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45)]

Rah rah rah...
Thank you~ ^_^

Although I know the unpredictibility of it all, our wedding is on the weekend of the 4th of July, and I have read it is possible to recieve 4 days of passable leave for the holiday, depending on how busy they will be.

Also, it'll be about four months between the tyme he gets his first duty station and the tyme we'll get married...though, still, I've heard that it will all depend on the amount of other people applying for leave, and how busy they are at their duty station.

Does the tyme when they apply for the leave change anything? What I mean to say, is if he applies for the leave in July early (Assuming he's at the same duty station in July) will he have any better a chance of actually being allowed it?

[Angie]

It really doesn't matter when they apply for it, leave can be denied, canceled, ect...for really no reason.  No one has to explain whey they won't give it to him...the reason they can use and it will work is the work load will not allow leave at this time.

 

When he gets to his command he should talk to his boss and ask about leave they would be able to advise best

[Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45)]

Okay, again, thank you very much.
He always gets in good with everybody (I swear, everytyme at DEP, we had to wait an extra hour sometymes, because he was inside BSing with the chief or recruiters.) So he won't have a problem talking to his boss about things>

We're also now considering doing a quick, courthouse wedding if/when he gets the leave after AIT, so we have it on paper, that way if he can't get the leave in July for the actual ceremony, we'll have something to fall back on, and can set it for a later date.

[Angie]

Recruiter are trained to be nice to people...Chief's in the real Navy are NOT soo friendly! 

[Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45)]

I'm aware~
But, I'm pretty sure my boy could have sat down and had a casual conversation with Atilla the Hun or something. ^w^
Thank you very much for all your help, I really appreciate it.

[Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45)]

*she nods*
Thank you~

I'm very well aware how quirky and constantly changing the Navy lyfe is, and I've also heard before that they may only get a few days to a week leave after Boot camp/AIT.

[Anti M]

Hey, good to see you have the flexibility part down!

[Almyraia (Ship09/Div 45)]

*she laughs*
You have no idea. ^_^"

So, if we do go to the court house for a quick marraige certificate, I still have a little bit of a problem.
I won't be able to move with him until after I graduate.

Assuming he gets the leave after A-school, this is the tyme we would go to the courthouse and get everything done. That would be late mach, early april.

No matter where he's stationed, I really wouldn't be able to move along with him until, at the earliest, the first week in June. Because we would be "married" before he signs into his duty station, would they still pay for me to move with him, even though I wouldn't be moving until a few months after he signs into his first duty station?

I'm sorry for all the questions. >_>" This site has been the most useful of them all thus far, and I'm just trying to make everything work so we can have the best end results possible.

[Anti M]

I know there's a window of opportunity, I just don't know what it is.  However, if it is a move in the US, and you aren't "on the orders", you can move just yourself.... and he can have "his" household goods moved by the Navy as an unaccompanied sailor.  Plenty of wives have reasons to wait for the move.  I'm sure they'll be along with advice.  Dont' worry too much yet.  

Married before pretty much married in enough tome to get the paperwork into the system.  About three to four weeks.  Sure it can hit his record fast, but BUPERS and the detailers issuing the orders, takes longer for them to see it.

The Navy doesn't ship vehicles, so you have to factor that in too if you have a car.

[Anti M]

You have to do the DIY/PPM by the rules, or there is no money given back.   Marrying during A school gets a lot more information to these new sailors about how to do stuff to maximize financial benefits.  They don't know everything, and the ones on leave are often just guessing. Sorry, not picking on you, but it is true more often than not.

Keep all receipts anyway, for taxes.  Start an envelope now for all receipts, and one for all your personal information.  One more for any other paperwork (power of attorney, bills, contracts, etc.).  Get the heavy duty clear plastic envelopes from Staples or Office Max.  Potential Navy spouses, make sure you have copies of your SSN card, driver's license, and an original or certified copy of your birth certificate.  Many of you never have left home before, dont' wait until you are halfway across the country to ask your mom for your birth certificate.