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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit Navy.com - America's Navy and Navy.mil also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:

OPSEC GUIDELINES

Events

**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  

FOLLOW THIS LINK FOR UP TO DATE INFO:

RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.

RESUMING LIVE PIR - 8/13/2021

Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Keisha

Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

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Girlfriends, Fiances,and Wives of Sailors

Hello my name is Keisha and i am the creator of this group. Thanks for joining and i hope that all the advice this group gives is helpful

Please, if you no longer want to be a part of N4M's consider NOT deleting your profile as everything you have ever posted will disappear when you delete it .  You can leave a group but don't permanently delete your profile!

Location: From Atlanta, GA all the way to Cali-forn-i-a now in Washington State
Members: 3875
Latest Activity: Feb 3

I'm a Navy Wife and I created this group back when I was a girlfriend and my now husband had gone to bootcamp. Its funny because i joined this website when they had under 50 members. This website has been sooooo helpful and I met so many people on here that gave great advice. I made this group so that we could all come together and give eachother advice and share ideas. I see that this group is growing more and more by the day, Im happy to see that because so many wives/fiances/and girlfriends are clueless when it comes the military lifestyle. Not knowing what to expect and not knowing about deployments, bootcamp, duty stations, etc. I want this to be the place you all recommend because so many people on this site are knowledgeable and very helpful. Once again thanks for joining my group and i hope you get all the information you need. I dont get to log on as much as i used to but i try my best to get on here. So if u have any questions feel free to make a discussion topic and Im positive that it will get answered if not, inbox me :-) Take Care ♥

Discussion Forum

Help needed!!

Started by Nia. Last reply by Nia Sep 7, 2022. 4 Replies

Hi everyone! My name is Nia, I’m new here. I just have a question that have been giving me anxiety lately. So my boyfriend has been emailing me every morning and sometimes night overseas, and then suddenly the flow has stopped out of no where. I’ve…Continue

advice!

Started by Mykenzie Apr 1, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi ladies!I just would love some advice on this current topic my significant other and i are having currently. without saying too much he’s enlisted in the navy and i am currently a university student. his work peers really value his work and his…Continue

Graduation coming up

Started by Kelly Jan 9, 2022. 0 Replies

Hi,Im new here and I am glad that I found a group that share my confusion during new path of couple life. My boyfriend is due to graduate on the 28th and I am so sad I can't make it to see him. Mainly cause he only had two invites and family comes…Continue

Hubby shipping off to BC June 24!

Started by TARA. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 1 Reply

Hi Everyone,I am new to this group and would like to say how thankful I am for finding a community of Navy wives, fiancés and girlfriends who can lend support to each other.  A short background of our Navy journey - my guy wanted to sign up as EM…Continue

New here!

Started by Linda Jane. Last reply by Kaylee Sep 29, 2020. 4 Replies

Hi. I just joined last night. I wanted to introduce myself. I’m linda. My boyfriend is in Great Lakes now for basic training ship 02 Div 950. Then after graduation he immediately ships off to A school in SC. This is all extremely new to me and his…Continue

Fiancé Advice

Started by Lauren C. Last reply by astc Sep 26, 2019. 5 Replies

My fiance just joined the Navy and was sent off to bootcamp this week. We've been together for almost six years and we plan to get married after bootcamp is over.> I was hoping you could tell me if waiting until bootcamp is over was the smart…Continue

Good neighborhoods around Great Lakes IL??

Started by Artfulmind. Last reply by WCK110658 Jul 9, 2019. 3 Replies

Hi everyone! Hubs, baby, and I will be stationed in Great Lakes soon was wondering if anyone new of some good safe family friendly neighborhoods to rent a place? We don't mind being a half hour or so away from base. Heard the surrounding…Continue

Tags: moving, chicago, illinois, Lakes, Great

Hello Everyone!

Started by mommasett. Last reply by Anti M Mar 27, 2019. 1 Reply

Happy Hump day to all!! I am new here and I am so glad that I have found this group! I am hoping it helps in my journey with my boyfriend and understanding his Navy Life a little better. Continue

POA to get a military i.d.

Started by Hafaadai. Last reply by Ib_vv_N Feb 23, 2019. 7 Replies

Hi! My SR left for BC on 28th of Nov. I received THE BOX on Dec. 6th. Still waiting on his form letter, personal letter and DEERS. He did not leave me a POA before he left because the recruiter said we won’t really need it until he gets out of BC.…Continue

sending photos

Started by lifesimplified Feb 20, 2019. 0 Replies

My boyfriend shipped out on 2/11/19.  I just received his box but no form letter yet.  As soon as I get his address, I will be writing him daily and sending many photos.  I read somewhere on this forum that the recruits must show all photos to the…Continue

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Comment by meagan5220 on June 19, 2014 at 10:29pm

Deansgirl I had a friend that told me she heard from her sailor for the first time 6 months into a deployment on a sub. They rarely have communications up. only when they pull into a port and sometimes a little before or after. I think its pretty typical for subs.

Comment by Anti M on June 19, 2014 at 8:50am

Deansgirl, fast attack or boomer?  If it is a boomer, you can expect a severe lack of communication.  My nephew is on a fast attack, they aren't much better.

Comment by RachaelJay on June 18, 2014 at 3:51pm

MoNavyGf... I'm so sorry you're going through this. One thing I want to point out is although you need to be patient with him, you also need to communicate with him. No matter what he is going through, you don't deserve to be treated badly or without respect. Just like we don't take our hard/rough/depressing days out on our sailors, he shouldn't do the same to you. My sailor is on his first deployment ever and in every email he still finds the space to tell me that he loves me and he thinks about me every day and how important our relationship is to him. Deployments, boot camp, etc. are hard on both ends. Part of being in a relationship is supporting each other and trying to be our best selves for the other person. So, yes, be patient with him and cut him a little slack, but don't let it go to far. No one deserves that. 

Comment by Emily-aaronsgirl11 on June 17, 2014 at 5:32pm

I went through the same thing when my husband came home from deployment. For 8 months he was just around his work buddies and they always talked trash to one another and there were just no emotions. When he got home, he'd still make the same comments he always would to his friends, but this time they were directed towards me. And when I called him out on it he'd tell me I was being ridiculous or overreacting. It took me awhile to figure out why it was really happening, and once I did we had a conversation about it. He agreed that he was probably a bit harsher than he usually treated me, and he agreed to be more conscious about it. Since then, we haven't had a problem. 

Just make sure you communicate with him. If you don't tell him what's going on, he may not realize it himself. 

Hope things get better soon! 

Comment by MoNavyGf on June 16, 2014 at 8:16pm

Lizziebear he's actually at bootcamp right now, well it's complicated since he graduated but he's in holding so he's really just hanging out with other guys in holding. But that helped so much, I'll just wait until we can have a talk in person, it's so much different in person. and yeah everyone has told me that's what happens, I figured it would happen eventually just not this fast. but you and your husband make a good point to be patient! thanks so much again. God bless! 

Comment by Lizzie_Corpsmanwife on June 16, 2014 at 3:17pm

MoNavyGf is he in boot camp? A school? First deployment?  What's his status?  When my husband and I reunited after Boot camp he was a different person and so we went on a hike and decided to talk about what was going on.  He explained to me that when you are in boot camp you somehow get desensitized to emotions and its normal.  His point was, which was an amazing point, that it took us nearly three years for him to become more emotional and he left to BC and they're gone.  Now it's going to take patience for us both to get to that point again.  It's normal and you have to communicate with him and more importantly, you HAVE to be patient.  If you start nagging and attacking, it will only make things worst cause I have been there myself.  Hope that helps girl.

Comment by MoNavyGf on June 16, 2014 at 3:05pm

Ladies,I'm not sure which group to join or if there is a separate discussion board for when our men get crabby and take it out on us....but how do you guys handle it? I'm a strong woman, but he's never talked to me like I was one of the dudes with all the cussing and the no emotion, and just loss of interest in basically anything we talked about-- and he's so sassy (but more rude than funny sassy) It really through me off, I'm not sure how to approach it, because from military friends they say that's how these guys end up when they're not around sensitive people anymore or women or something like that for extended periods of time, is it worth anything to tell him this is on my mind? Does it go away? as you can tell i'm new to this whole thing, but maybe more experienced loved ones can help me out :/ 

I can handle the distance & lack of communication, but now when we communicate it's just so dull and he's just not himself, it's definitely not something I prepared for! 

Comment by Anti M on June 12, 2014 at 7:48am

@Ashley, it probably just means there is an issue with completing his security clearance.  Something in his background checks needs cleared up is the most likely cause.  Mostly he'll be doing boring stuff like cleaning the barracks.  

Comment by Ashley on June 12, 2014 at 12:44am
Can someone please tell me what a "security hold" is? My sailor started BESS on 06/09 and he was informed the next day that he would be placed on security hold soon. I know that means he won't be attending classes for however long he's on hold, but what else does it entail? And what causes one to be put on security hold?
Comment by miss magoo on June 11, 2014 at 9:27pm

@Alex's girl, yes Prototype, which is the last part of the nuclear training before being assigned to a ship can be in New York, though there is also a prototype school in Charleston.  Ballston Spa/Saratoga is a pretty awesome place - I grew up and met my sailor while he was in prototype there :)

 

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