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Comment by Linda on August 12, 2014 at 10:14am

scuba girl  Have a great visit with your son.  My son sold his car before he left and like so many of us are fighting them to not purchase a car while at Groton.  I agree with Gisels I wish the Navy would not allow them to have personal vehicles until they reach there PDS.  What they seem to forget is it is not just purchasing the vehicle.  Insurance, repairs, gas, storage. EVERYONE wanting a ride and asking to borrow the vehicle. They need to stay focused on finishing school and getting to there duty station than maybe think about getting a car.  I know that they have to grow up and make there own decisions but when it is a bad decision it is hard not to say something.   

Comment by Giselda on August 11, 2014 at 11:56pm

He finished BESS in June and just finished the 2nd phase and is waiting to class up so he was lucky enough to get 5 days leave. I can't wait to have him home for a few days!
I agree 100% with everything you said. My son is the same way and WILL get taken advantage of. My husband and I feel the same way about him saving money and buying it at the right time. I just don't see the purpose for any of it until they get their permanent duty station.

Comment by scubagirl on August 11, 2014 at 11:21pm

Giselda, It is a thin line we walk trying to let them grow up and knowing the decision they are making are not the best.  My son got his car loan on his own and was working to pay for it before he left for boot camp.  We did not want him to buy a new car when he had a family car that was paid for to drive.  He did not live at home and he bought the car without our input or advice.  We talked to him before he left for boot camp and told him we did not want him to have to worry with debt while he was getting his life settled in the Navy. We paid off the car loan and his credit card.  WE told him please do not go and get your self in debt like so many guys do.  Save your money and if you decide you have to get a car, get one you can pay cash for.  The weather in CT is harsh and it will be harsh on a new car.  I also think a car could add extra problems, with people wanting to be taken everywhere, drinking, and being in the wrong place at the wrong time.  My son was always a designated driver while he was at college but he got taken advantage of often and spent alot of his money on gas going and getting people when they would call and need a ride.  I wish the guys were not allowed a car until they were at their permanent duty station.  Make it a rule no personal cars until out of all the schools and at their permanent duty station.  Why is your son headed home?  Is he just taking a leave?   

Comment by Giselda on August 11, 2014 at 9:42pm

Scubagirl, we are going through the same thing right now. He is 19 and has been in Groton since April and is actually on his way home as I'm writing this. Truthfully, my husband and I are going to try to talk him out of it for the same reasons you stated. Not to mention the expense that goes along with it. Also, to be truthful, I fear that they could get into trouble with the freedom the car would allow them. He's a good kid with a good head on his shoulders, but let's face it, he's still a kid!
We told my son to bring all his bank information so we could see if he can afford it right now and is it worth it. My husband and I will not buy him a car because he totaled the one we bought him before he left for BC. not sure if he's thinking we will, but we won't lol. I'll keep you posted on the outcome and if there is any info I found out throughout our conversation.

Comment by scubagirl on August 11, 2014 at 7:40pm

My son arrived in Groton on the July 26th.  He said they were finally starting BESS this week. I know he is glad to get this phase going.  He is wanting to get a car while there and I have mixed feeling about this.  We bought his new car from him before he left for boot camp and sold it at a loss.  If he buys a new car again and then is deployed after he finishes at Groton then again he is stuck with a new car and can not sell it for what is owed on it.  He is 22 and I know he does not want his parents advice but I feel this is a bad decision.  He needs to save his money and wait until he knows where he will go next.  Right now everyone leaving Groton are going to Hawaii.  Any advice how to advise him without making him feel like a child.  We ate the loss on the sell of his other car.  We even have an older car that we would drive from GA to CT for him but he does not want that car.  I know he sounds like a brat and in a way he is being a brat. I know my husband will be very upset if he buys another car after we just took a $4,000 loss on the car we just sold for him.  Help anyone. 

Comment by Ladyrocker on August 8, 2014 at 8:43pm

Congrats Matt's.mom to you and your Sailor. Mine's graduates BESS on the 22nd of this month. 

Linda....same here .....congrats to all the Sailors that graduated today........

WTG.................Navy Strong.......I am proud of each and everyone of our "Sailors"

God Bless them all.

Comment by Linda on August 8, 2014 at 4:27pm

Congratulations to all of the sailors who graduated today. Proud of all of them!!

Comment by Matt's.mom on August 8, 2014 at 8:21am

I'm right there with you ladies!  My son struggled all through high school.  Today he graduates 5th in his class from BESS.  Thank you Navy!!

Comment by hoosiermamma on August 7, 2014 at 9:18am

What has the Navy done with my son?  In talking with him last evening, he said he and his buddy were studying for their quiz.  I asked if the quiz was tomorrow.  He said no, it is not till Monday!!!  Just a little over a year ago, I couldn't get him to study for his finals his senior year of high school!  Thank you Navy, thank you very much!

Comment by Annette on August 6, 2014 at 6:44pm

JJWmom, I missed your post and I don't see it here, but my son's best friend through BC and at Sub School was name initials JW. If this is your son, I have been praying for him. My son thought very highly of him. Feel free to private message me or email me at sweetmccoy@att.net

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