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Comment by Kim on March 5, 2010 at 11:26pm

AntiM, we have way too much in common. I don't want to go into details, but my mother-in-law never accepted me because I was a second marriage (her loss, and my kids loss). I felt like a victim during her funeral but... The "legion of Mary" arrived (she was a respected member) and I knelt and did the rosary out of respect for my MIL. They called me my husbands ex-wifes name. I bit my tongue. I am at peace because I gave her the respect that she deserved and it helped my husbands grieve. I don't agree how she treated her grandchildren but in the end she hurt my step-son the worst because he is 33 and ...(another story)... well you understand the best my "problem child" that is doing so well in the navy.

Comment by T-Lynn on March 5, 2010 at 9:22pm

At least no one was playing hide and seek under the casket.
Yes, at my Aunt Lou's funeral - her youngest Grand daughter ! My oldest son was the baby sitter and she got away from him. so he came in quietly - respectfully - calling out her name. He heard her laughing and lifted up the cloth. He then told her to get out from under there. She responed: " It's ok she dead" You can't make this up !
See the Red Neck Funeral do exist. By the way Aunt Lou was Catholic - VERY ! This palying around was before the funeral started. When it did - I and my son - locked ourselves - with all the kids we were babysitting in another room.

Sorry to hear that people do not respect other wishes. I don't understand that. Do hope for things to get better Anti M.

Got to go - that Laundry Fairy is calling again! ANyone want her to just visit - a short while?
Hugs TLynn

Comment by Anti M on March 5, 2010 at 5:55pm

Kim, that does sound nice. My dad chose "When you were sweet 16" for mom. It was their song. And Aloha Oe. Her relatives were shocked there were no hymns, but she told dad to choose what made him happiest.

SIL Kim has a daughter, 11 years old. Very tough on her.

The reason I like funerals less and less is that mom's was taken over by her bishop and he was very rude to those of us who had left the Mormon church during the ceremony! The next was my brother, he was non-religious and had left very specific instructions as to his memorial. I knew what he wanted, but his wife ignored it all to have a mass. So I'm not very keen on what has not been comforting to me in the least.

Comment by Kim on March 5, 2010 at 3:17pm

Funerals are tough. I believe that they are for the living. It helps those grieving and gives closure. My husband hates funerals but when is mother died I could see how it helped him when people showed up or sent flowers. When my mom died we went out and bought a complete set of Glenn Miller tunes. We played them softly during the viewings. During the funeral we sat in silence while they played "moonlight serenade" (my parents favorite slow song). There wasn't a dry eye in the house. During the procession out we played "In the Mood". People where tapping their feet and a lot where dancing on the way out. It made my dad smile. It was like a great memory of her after we wept. She loved to jitterbug and was always a happy upbeat person.

Comment by Anti M on March 5, 2010 at 2:37pm

Hubby is still very proud of his ESWS. I got him a "Steel Ships, Iron Men" t-shirt with the emblem on it. Got mine through NEX, but I've seen them on ebay too. It's pronounced eess-wass, if anyone cares to know. Enlisted Surface Warfare Specialist! Counts as points toward advancement too, which is great.

My BIL sent Kim's obituary via email. I thought she was older than me, but she is six months younger. The viewing is tomorrow and the services are on Sunday. She'll be cremated, which I find sensible. I'm glad Larry went when he did, far better than now with all the grief. He doesn't do grief well, and I don't do funerals well. I'm alright, just so weary of losing family members to cancer.

We have snow today, but a few yellow crocus have popped their heads up. I have to catch a quick glimpse, because the little birds come and eat the petals!

Comment by T-Lynn on March 5, 2010 at 11:53am

Good Morning All :)

Ouch - am I sore, but not too sore to gossip.
Yes, NDM - I'm back to gossiping, just can't get out of that vice.
Or coffee - or chocolate - being lazy - :)

My friend is moved.! My hubby was able to visualize the "how to" get an antique over stuffed sofa up a narrow stairs with a right angle turn - just befroe the last four steps to the top - and get it up there without sawing it in half. My hubby and Brian got it through the 29 inch door way ( sofa is 35 inches at widest part) and when they approached the right turn - they tossed it over the banister to the upstairs. The sofa was the largest piece - so the other stuff was a breeze. My hubby and Brian celebrated with a Guiness - Kristen and I had ice tea.

We were able to get home not late in the evening and around 10 PM - I was surprized with a call from my sailor. He is fine and busy studying for his E5 promotion and that EWSE pin. ANd he is making plans to come home for Christmas ! ( Just 295 days away ) He shared about some sight seeing and hopeful futrue tours to go on. Then he had to get off - the lunch bell was ringing. And even though he wanted to talk - his empty stomach called louded.

But I had another surprise this morning - actaully right before I got on this site. He called again to finsih talking. He was laughing about our weather here. I was so excited to have 44 degrees. He thought that was funny - he is in humid upper 90's. He said he doesn't think he remembers what 40 degrees is like. then he started yawning and I told him it was night-night time. He agreed - wished him sweet dreams and kissed him goodnight. Nice way to start my crank duty here :)

Kim - do hope you are feeling better. Those sinus infections are the worst. I had to have my sinus's scraped. It was the only way to stop the re-occuring infections. It was a rough recovery, but worth every bit of the time getting better. No major infections anymore - only slight ones. So do take it easy on yourself - you deserve to be cared for.

Well, I see we area back to toilets again. That was the first thing I saw yesterday when I got on. My friend's home ( person I helped move yesterday) has a very unque bathroom. Her home is dated in the early 30's. It has a black and violet tiled bathroom - with bath tub - sink - and toilet that are an antique violet color. With an Art-Decor stained glass window. The bathroom is beautiful - but I hate to be the one to clean it!

Hey new Moms - jump in - need gossip.

Anti M - just bend our ears. hugs beautiful lady.

Got to get. Have an Out Ragious - Fantantic - Fun - Dreams Come True Day.
TLynn :)

Comment by Kim on March 4, 2010 at 10:54pm

AntiM, I am so sorry. I am glad that Larry made it there to spend some time with her. So sad, so sad.

Thanks for the get well wishes but I told you that I had the feeling sorry for myself all under control. I went to work today but I shouldn't have. The walls where spinning around, I felt like I was on cheap drugs. LOL. The good news is that I always get sinus infections in the Spring. This one is one for the books which means ...... it MUST be spring. Think positive!
I believe! I believe!

Annette, I hear from my son sporadically. He is either busy, having fun or just not homesick when I don't hear from him. That's a good thing.

Comment by T-Lynn on March 4, 2010 at 7:32pm

Still not done moving my firend - other friend that promised to be there - lied.
So hubby and i are helping to move big items. you know all those muscles I forgot about - the ones hidden under layers of celulite. I found them And everyone is telling me so.

Sailor called today and I missed it. But my mom got to talk to him for over an hour. It made her day :) He said he will try to call again tomorrow. I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE TOMORROW !

Anti M - lighting a candle now.
And hugging you.

good evening all TLynn

Comment by T-Lynn on March 4, 2010 at 11:16am

Anit M - hugging you my friend
Lighting a candle this evening . Keep talking to us - we are all ears for you.

Comment by Storymom on March 4, 2010 at 4:08am

Anti M, my thoughts are with you and your family...so sad.

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