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Comment by Teeb on July 20, 2015 at 12:26pm

Julyasmom, was same with us, my husband was a bear for months, even on a family vacation of a lifetime the 2 weeks prior to her leaving.  He's retired Navy and struggled preparing for her leaving, and made worse by the fact that the day she left for MEPS was cold, rainy and icy day here.  He couldn't get the day off to join us either the day we dropped at the recruiters or the day after when we sat at MEPS, plus with the weather, he had to respond to an emergency call and couldn't wait for us to get to him for him to give her hugs and kisses goodbye. I returned from MEPS and there was an all out breakdown in store for me to deal with when I showed him her swearing in video.  After PIR he insisted we were leaving very early the next day, would stop at the airport and drop her off her items, and told her boyfriend to be prepared to leave the airport by 10 am as we had a 10 hour drive ahead of us.  Well, big teddy bear he is,since her flight wasn't until 6:30 pm to FL he couldn't leave his baby at 10, we sat, had lunch, relaxed, and when he picked up that I just needed to get out myself, he simply got up, fell apart, hugged and kissed her expressing his pride then stomped out of the airport leaving the other 4 of us shell shocked.  He still has his moments, but much better following a trip where he and our youngest went to see her at A school, and we've just gotten word that instead of 19 hours from us, her first duty station looks like will be just over 4 hours, where he was stationed.  It will get better, they are just at emotional as we are, just internalize it way more!

Comment by Julyasmom on July 20, 2015 at 10:45am

Tammy66...same here... Her dad and her compare notes all the time and he is always making plans for PRI and the like...so quite the roller coaster of emotions! Thanks for the positive thoughts!

Comment by Tammy66 on July 20, 2015 at 10:39am

Hello Julyasmom!  Yes, my husband was also in the navy, and he has had a very difficult time with my daughter leaving.  She has been gone for 10 days now, and he seems to be doing a little better.  I think it is because they know how BC will be, but he was also very positive with her - telling her he knew she would do great!  Things will get better!

Comment by Julyasmom on July 20, 2015 at 10:39am

Thanks richmrebecca! So glad to know I'm not the only one with this situation! Thanks for the light at the end of the tunnel.

Comment by Julyasmom on July 20, 2015 at 10:36am

Thanks Jean! She knows he loves her and that he is very proud of her. Even my sister told me and our daughter the more he cares the more upset everything makes him. Just hard to think that in the moment! Thanks for the positive thoughts!

Hope you Ladies don't mind but I think I'm going to need all of you and your advice more than I thought! Thanks in advance and hugs to you all!

Comment by Oneofalot on July 20, 2015 at 10:28am

Good morning to everyone.

Julyasmom, my husband was that way. My daughter has always had her dad rapped around her little finger. What wants she gets. But boy, the last few weeks before she left were hard on him and he let her know. He is àlso retire Navy. I think they know what they're going to go through and don't want them to have too, I don't know. But once she was gone, he wrote her more then I did. So it will all work out. Just keep telling her that he loves her and that he is having a hard time with her leaving and it might be his only way to show it by being grumpy. 

Comment by Julyasmom on July 20, 2015 at 9:17am

Morning Ladies!! Last day with our daughter at home. She's with her bf and his mom this morning learning how to play golf. I took the week off from both jobs so I don't have to deal with work on top of everything else.

Have any of your husbands had a rough time seeing their little girls leave? My husband is retired Navy and is so proud of our daughter that tears come to his eyes every time he talks about her going. But in the meantime he is just exteamly grumpy to her and to me. I know it's because he is having a hard time with her leaving but it's hard to see her in tears at this late date. And of course I'm dealing with her leaving too. Hopefully things calm down...all the parties are over and things like that...pray we find our new ,calm, normal soon. Please let me know if anyone has dealt with this before and has a bit of advice!

Thanks Anna for the encouragement and positive thoughts!

Comment by Anna on July 19, 2015 at 11:01pm

hellraiser,

The first couple weeks of bc my daughter would get all teary eyed every morning at breakfast when she'd see some cereal she used to love as a kid!!!!  I would get upset because I hated that that's how she started her day.  But it will get better for your girl as well.  Sometimes they find others who are having a hard time like they are and they find strength by helping each other.  Hang in there - this part sucks!!!!!   :)

Comment by Anna on July 19, 2015 at 10:59pm

MamaBear,

If she is still in bootcamp I would not send her anything that will bring unwanted attention to her.  Get what she wants but wait and take it to her at PIR.  Then she won't get in any trouble.

Comment by kjsdaughter on July 19, 2015 at 10:45pm

Mamabear I thought our SR could not receive cards with any sound? So is this allowed?

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