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Comment by Mary (Chris' mom) on June 8, 2012 at 2:56pm

Linda, the group is called Q & A with a recruiter here is the link http://www.navyformoms.com/group/qawitharecruiter good luck.

Comment by Mary (Chris' mom) on June 8, 2012 at 2:51pm

Thanks for helping out there Anna. I knew someone with experience would come along (Anna is former Navy, her husband too, one son, and both daughters). If it can be known...she probably knows it. teehee.

 

Comment by Anna on June 8, 2012 at 2:33pm

Linda,

So sorry to hear your sailor is in this predicament.  Like Mary said the results of the Captain's Mast will depend on the infraction made and the sailor's record, along with any other mitigating factors.  Not all Captain's masts end with the result of separation.  I'll say a little prayer for him.

As far as the Ask a Recruiter I think Mary meant to do a search for it.  If you go to the groups tab there is a box where you can type in what your searching for.  I've seen this myself but I don't believe it is a group - I think it is a discussion on another group.  I also can't remember where exactly it is located.  If you go to the forums tab and type in Ask a Recruiter there are some options that pop up.  You can also ask the Navy4Moms admin's page and see if they have a link.  Good luck!!! 

As for our sailors no longer being our kids I have to categorically disagree.  I have 3 kids serving and they are all first and foremost in my heart my kids.  They may sign up for military service at the ripe age of 18 but they still need guidance and support from their families.  We cannot be with them but we can still be here to talk to them and let them know we support them.  My son got in a bit of a jam because of the actions of others but he was ultimately held responsible.  We talked several times, I offered some advice, and then he handled the situation.  Luckily it wasn't that serious but still he learned from the experience.  That's how we all grow and mature.  So let your son know you support him and let him vent to you if necessary, and then see where it goes and help him with whatever the outcome may be.  I do hope all works out well for him.

Comment by Mary (Chris' mom) on June 8, 2012 at 10:30am

Sorry, I did not mean find it sarcastically...I meant you have to find it the way you found the IS page and your sailors PIR page if there was one, etc.... I don't have the link for it anymore.

 

Comment by Mary (Chris' mom) on June 8, 2012 at 10:29am

Linda, find it like the others. I believe the page is called Ask a Recruiter. You might even find something on a page where there are moms who have been in for a while and can give you the skinny on it. I still say though that much depends on the infraction and the record so far of the sailor. Chin Up! Will be thinking about you.

 

Comment by Gingerman on June 8, 2012 at 9:12am

The hardest part for me, as a parent, is that my Sailor is no longer my kid.  He's an adult, subject to making adult decisions.  The hardest thing for me to get when I got grown up, was to realize that people take me seriously.  They think I mean what I say and do, even when I'm just messing around.  The risk that IS Sailors run is that what they say and do Needs to be believed, and recent events in the Army and the Navy has shown what can happen when they don't take this deadly seriously.  I'm speaking of extremes:  two intel analyst enlisted men who broke their word and betrayed their service and possibly their country.

It 's important that our Sailors realize the responsibility they are taking on.  It amazes me that my littlest, the baby of the family, is being trusted to provide information upon which momentous decisions are made.  He ain't my kid any more.  He's a U.S. Sailor.  Good or bad, that's up to him.  I've done what I can.

Comment by Linda on June 7, 2012 at 11:36pm

how do I find that page??

Comment by Linda on June 7, 2012 at 11:33pm

thank you so much Mary. My heart is broken for him He is a good kid that made a mistake! I wish this was just a bad dream!!

Comment by Mary (Chris' mom) on June 7, 2012 at 7:46pm

Linda, It depends on the offense for which the sailor is going to the capt's mast for. Sometimes its a reprimand and an offer for some extra help to "get back into shape" or it could be as bad as being discharged for conduct, etc. I knew one sailor who began A school and had some trouble maturing into the job. About the time he was allowed back into a new A school class (was on hold during a few weeks between the classes), his grandmother died and he opted to go home for a few days to be with family. He of course did not have any leave time built up and given the fact that he had some previousl problems at the school, he was sent home unrated. I don't know about the full timers, he is reserves. Much later he was rerated and went to school successfully for the rating of IT. He is still doing well with it and is happier in the new rating. From what I have heard in the past, full timers basically become "needs of the Navy" and likely end up as ship's company. This means they may work in the kitchen, the Post Office, cleaning various areas of the ship or whatever that ship needs. I THINK they have the opportunity later to be rerated into a specific job but it takes time.

My information about all of this may not be totally accurate and you may find beter anwers at the Ask a Recruiter page here at N4M. They usually have been in long enough to know how it works for full time. and reserves. I'm going on memory from 3 years ago so...a bit rusty on the issue.

   

Comment by Linda on June 7, 2012 at 7:00pm

has anyone had a son or daughter go to cptains mast and if they do will this ruin their Naval Career?

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