Contents of a letter..

[PumpkinHead]

Hello, I am new to this site and to the military lifestyle. My boyfriend left on the first for bootcamp. I have been writing him since we said our goodbyes but am starting to wonder if I am doing this write..

I dont want all my letters to be sad and down about how much i miss him, i do express myself but not to a point where he would have to worry about me. Is it weird if I just 'talk' and tell him about my day, update him on friends and stuff? A friend told me I shouldn't but I dont understand why? I know that I would want to know, but now im just confused lol...

So I guess im just wondering how everyone goes about writing a letter and generically what is "good or bad" to say in your opinions? Does anyone do anything specail to their letters? I have been putting short inspirational quotes at the ends of my letters and will be sending the superbowl info asap!

[HalfofaWhole]

I agree...you can tell him everything that goes on during your day. I kept a journal and would write my sad feelings there, so that I could sort of censor what I put into the letters. I would also write sport scores every Sunday and give him summaries of his favorite television shows. You can also spray your letter with your perfume to give him a nice surprise.

[PumpkinHead]

Thanks for the responces, this is all new and all the help i get means so much!

[brittney216]

you need to write whatever you feel like writing dont worry about what anyone else says what is going to be most important is that he is hearing from you and what you have to say not what people are telling you to say and what not to say what you are doing already will be perfect dont change a thing

[Cp7]

you are doing the right thing. I made the mistake last week by telling im the extent of how bad I was hurting. I just couldnt keep it all in anymore. He called me a few days later (hes in haiti, not bootcamp) and told me this is his hardest deployment, that hes over being in the navy (8 years so far) and he hates hurting me. He said it was one thing when he put his life on hold but he hates putting my life on hold. I reassurred him that the navy is the right thig for us and our family and that matter what, I am and always will be by his side. I tld him I would wait a year if I had to...or more. Mke sure to let him know how proud you are of him, that you miss him and think of him often. Tell him what you are most excited to do when you get to be togeher, tell him your daily activites. Tell him what you miss about him and cute things you do to reind him of your love for each other. Write him a poem or find some on the internet (justt google stuff like...poems for my sailor, navy girlfriend, navy ove..etc). And come up with a saying or a way to always end your letter...it offers secuirty.. mine always ends like this

waiting patiently to be in your arms again
xxoxoxoxo
I love you forever and always
your loving and faithful wife

[Tiffany (Ship 12 Div 086)]

I agree with all of these replies. I would like to also point out that you should CONSTANTLY tell him and remind him of how much you love him. One of my boyfriend's biggest fears was the my feelings for him were going to change in a negative way while he was gone. Every letter I reminded him of how much I loved him, and he now seems content in knowing that things aren't going to change. He told me that a bunch of guys get letters from their girlfriends breaking up with them. Assure him that, while everyone else around him might get a letter like this, HE has nothing to worry about. I would also suggest, if you have the money for the stamps, write him everyday. It is the one thing that keeps them going. It gives them strength when things get hard. They Live for Mail Call! I didn't start writing everyday in the beginning but after he told me he was one of the few people without mail for Christmas my heart broke and I vowed he would never go without a letter. In one letter I got back from him he told me, "Your letters have been the one thing carrying me through my remaining time here."

So here is my advice:
1. Write often, if not every day
2. Remind him constantly of how much you love him.
3. Try to keep your letters up beat.
4. Tell him how proud you are.
5. Encourage him to do his best.
6. Tell him that you believe in him.

(and I too have a journal to write my sad feelings in, as a censor)

Good Luck!

[PumpkinHead]

thanks again all! I have a lot of letters to send so i hope i get his address soon, another question, should i mail all of the letters i have accumulated in one envelope or seperate? i dont want to get him in trouble for the envelope being to thick or anything like that... also, can we mail cards? i was planning on sending valentines day cards but wasnt sure if thats allowed lol

[navywife<3]

I would send like 4 in an envelope and my fiance never got in trouble. You can send cards just make sure they arent the music ones :) He would probably LOVE it if you made him a card, they like little things like that to show off :)

[Tiffany (Ship 12 Div 086)]

I have read that if you do send cards make sure you get a WHITE envelope. NO envelopes with color.

[AF Airman]

HEy my bf left for boot camp on the first also. This helped me alot because i been writing letters too and i just express everything i feel and tell him about my day things i would normally tell him when hes here. We have this thing with music and we made a playlist with songs that mean soetn special to us and i write a quote or two from a song in each letter and i always end it with a cute quote. Theres this really cute i found "im the girl who waits months for a single kiss, a kiss that makes the months apart worth every second". Glad to know im doing this letter thing rite. =) lol

[Melissa]

I write everyday! then he asked me to mail him letters everyday so he had a letter to open every night, so that's what i started doing, even if they were short. He said in the time that he spends reading my letters for those few minutes he feels like he's home with me & not in boot camp . Let him know that you miss him, but don't drown him in depression.. Remember HE is also having a hard time ! Believe it or not, a lot of guys CRY the first couple of weeks. Tell him about everyday stuff, like what you did, how your doing. Try to keep things positive. But in the end he just appreciates getting letters. No matter what they say . Letters are like the ice cream truck on a hott day . They get them nightly before bed & i'm sure thats what allows them to sleep at night, knowing someone at home loves them & misses them . Another thing i like to write is stuff thats going on in the world. YOU are their only connection to the outside world . if you guys watched sports tell him how the teams are doing.. if you went to the movies a lot tell him whats playing .. i like to go on fml & write down the jokes that make me laugh, just so he can get a kick out of them . update him on the tv show you guys watched together. Anything! Just write, tell him how much you love him !

Best of luck, it's a tough journey :[.. Two weeks from tomorrow is my pir :]

[Haleymay]

Oh I had just begun college when Jake entered boot camp, so I was always telling him about my day. He wants to know. It doesn't have to be all sad, I mean sure you can say you miss him, but you want him to smile after reading your letters, and just hearing from you, how you're doing, and what you've been up to is definitely going to make him smile. I also always put lipstick on and kissed the bottom of my letters. He loved it and said he'd kiss the place I did so in some way it felt like he were kissing me. Haha yeah, we're dorky, but it's sweet. =)

[crcb4ever]

Hey I'm new as well to both. Something my sailor told me to do is email him as much a possible,tell him all about your day. even if he does not have time to email back, knowing someone is thinking of him helps him make it thrugh the tough days, also he told me to NEVER say good bye, because that means forever. talk to you later or see ya later or just later is what we say. I email him ever morning when I get up, when I arrive to work becasue I travel out of town, when I get home from work, and before i go to sleep. i know it sounds like a lot but if he has a few mins in he middle of his day to check his mail, then knows I made it to work ok. I hope some of this info helped.