This site is for mothers of kids in the U.S. Navy and for Moms who have questions about Navy life for their kids.



Choose your Username.  For the privacy and safety of you and/or your sailor, NO LAST NAMES ARE ALLOWED, even if your last name differs from that of your sailor (please make sure your URL address does not include your last name either).  Also, please do not include your email address in your user name. Go to "Settings" above to set your Username.  While there, complete your Profile so you can post and share photos and videos of your Sailor and share stories with other moms!

Make sure to read our Community Guidelines and this Navy Operations Security (OPSEC) checklist - loose lips sink ships!

Join groups!  Browse for groups for your PIR date, your sailor's occupational specialty, "A" school, assigned ship, homeport city, your own city or state, and a myriad of other interests. Jump in and introduce yourself!  Start making friends that can last a lifetime.

Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

OPSEC - Navy Operations Security

Always keep Navy Operations Security in mind.  In the Navy, it's essential to remember that "loose lips sink ships."  OPSEC is everyone's responsibility. 

DON'T post critical information including future destinations or ports of call; future operations, exercises or missions; deployment or homecoming dates.  

DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


Please note! Changes to this guide happened in October 2017. Tickets are now issued for all guests, and all guests must have a ticket to enter base. A separate parking pass is no longer needed to drive on to base for parking.

Please see changes to attending PIR in the PAGES column. The PAGES are located under the member icons on the right side.

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Click here to learn common Navy terms and acronyms!  (Hint:  When you can speak an entire sentence using only acronyms and one verb, you're truly a Navy mom.)

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Liberty during A School

Started by BlessedOne. Last reply by Carlouise Jan 7, 2016. 1 Reply

Dental Tricare

Started by WifeofaUSsailor. Last reply by EmilyNicole98 Jul 3, 2015. 1 Reply

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Comment by abuon18 on January 26, 2016 at 11:27am
Has it expired/is it going to expire or does it need to be renewed for a different reason like her husband has a new rank or re-enlisted so his termination date needs to change?
Comment by Myboysmom on January 26, 2016 at 11:24am

Does anyone know how to go about renewing the spouse military ID? Thank you


Comment by HealthHopeHappiness on May 26, 2015 at 4:45pm
I have a few questions. My SR spoke with his recruiter today - last meeting before he leaves for boot camp. But a few things came up. Recruiter said SR will have 2-3 weeks of living in barracks in Monterey when he gets there. Any married spouses experience this? And for the move, they said they won't pay for this move for a-school to Monterey. I'm just confused by all this since we've never done this before so any advice is greatly appreciated.
Comment by Eva on February 18, 2015 at 9:55pm

Elizabeth - first off, bootcamp goes by quick! There isn't really anything designated to that sort of thing mainly because its different for everyone. And you can never believe what you hear. You CAN go by other peoples experiences and learn from them. This site is great for that. And everyone is SO helpful. I could go on and on but this "comment" would turn into a novel. I have a blog that I try to add "navy" stuff to whenever I think about it. It has a lot that may be helpful or at least a start for you. Check out the PIR for dummies post too! You'll need to plan for that soon! ;) This stuff isn't fact, as I said its different for everyone depending on circumstances. Its just what we experience and hopefully tips and ideas to help other people have an idea of what to expect! They're all linked on the left of the page. 

Comment by Elizabeth on February 18, 2015 at 9:34pm

Hey everyone!  My husband is currently in BC and I am missing him so much.  This is the first time apart...ever.  We got married last year but were waiting on the wedding ceremony because it our dream for me to marry him in uniform.  So to keep me busy I have been doing accumulating info and budgeting everything.  Is there any specific sites or info that would be useful to achieve our dream?  

Comment by Eva on February 17, 2015 at 10:38am


It's really hard to "plan" anything. I wouldn't recommend doing it unless EVERYTHING is refundable. I've heard and seen horror stories of everything being planned and ready only for the bride or the groom (sailor) to not get back from deployment in time or get deployed unexpectedly..... and thousands of dollars went wasted. 

Soon after we got engaged we decided it was best to just get married at the court house and play it by ear. He was in school at the time and we didn't know what would happen after or when. So, I absolutely didn't want to plan or even think about having a "real" wedding only for the plans to change a billion times and maybe end up having to wait a VERY long time to actually be married. Not to mention my family lives all over the country and a few in other parts of the world. Its not fair to them to plan something that may get postponed. When we found out my husband was able to take leave over the holidays and it would be approved, I then threw together a wedding in 3 months with the help of my mom and friends.

Its not "normal" and some people don't understand why we may do things the way that we do them. We have family members who are still upset that we eloped. But, we aren't in "normal" situations. Most engaged couples have all the time in the world to plan their weddings and make them perfect. We don't have the luxury of time. 

If you find that you CAN throw together a ceremony or reception,  use zazzle or vista print for cheap unique invitations and definitely look through pinterest for affordable diy wedding decor ideas. My mom and I did my whole wedding ourselves with the help of some friends. We used cranberries and candles to save money on centerpieces. Then made cranberry wine with it all after the wedding. 

And absolutely use your connections. Ask your friends if they know a venue or HAVE a venue, a farm, barn, winery. Someone may know a baker, or a caterer or be related to one. You'd be surprised. My photographer was a friend from college, and the venue was owned by a military family who was 100% flexible with all of our needs. Even had a generous military discount.

Comment by kim on February 16, 2015 at 11:04pm
I am NOT a Navy wife but I am the mom of a new sailor. He has been in the Navy for about 5 months.he got engaged over christmas. He and his fiance are having a hard time picking a wedding date because they are not sure of when he will be available. He is getting ready to deploy and will be back around July or August. Can anyone give us any ideas on how to set a wedding date a year in advance when 1 Party is in the Navy? Thanks for any help
Comment by ProudMomHappy on October 30, 2014 at 9:31pm

Looking for the parents of a "Paul" on Ship 04 Div 038.  I am not sure if you are on this site but I would like to talk to you.  It looks like I will be adopting him for Thanksgiving and thought you could send a care package I could surprise him with.  If you are out here. Please private message me with last name to confirm for privacy reasons.

Comment by Eva on September 29, 2014 at 4:10pm

Hello, I'm a new navy wife. We got married on July 17th of this year! :) However I was wondering if we'll ever get the BAH from the month we got married. They keep saying we'll get half the months BAH and it will be in my husbands next pay. Its been about 4 "next pays" and still no July BAH. Granted, its only $600 but it adds up.

Comment by eyezofanangel18 on September 23, 2014 at 1:26am

Hey ladies... this is probably a stupid question but with my husband being gone and me being very new to the navy wife ordeal.. I need help.   Tricare... it is my understanding that I am already enrolled in Tricare standard as he enrolled me into DEERS.   is this true ?  If so.. is there no insurance card or number or anything?  or.. how do I get that?  TIA


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