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Comment by Lizzie_Corpsmanwife on January 13, 2014 at 5:40pm

Hi Navy Wives,

This has been such an awesome website for me to get all the information for my husband and also for myself since this is a HUGE life changer.  It JUST literally hit my husband and I that he will be leaving in like a month and a half, so I cried (being honest here).  I always spend time with my husband, he's my best friend, I have friends but I mean my days are making him food and laughing with him about all the silly stuff.  Can you guys give me some tips on what to expect the first two weeks and any advice?  I have been chatting with some navy wives I met here (which is awesome) but still wouldn't mind all the advice I could get.  I am in school, work, and workout, so pretty busy at times.

Thanks ladies

Comment by meagan5220 on January 11, 2014 at 1:14am

Jessica, your sailor needs to ask for sure what all is in his packet and make sure there isn't anything else to fill out. I cant tell you for sure whats in the packet or if there is more since I don't know whats in it. My husband had to do it all himself. He just went down to admin and filled out the form to add me to his page 2 and get me in DEERs. Also have your husband ask if he needs your ss card and or birth certificate, he will probably also have to have the marriage stuff too that you got when you got married.

 

navywife is your husband in bootcamp? school? first command? as far as what the insurance covers, it doesn't cover dental that's another company called metlife. You choose between Tricare standard and Tricare prime. Tricare doesn't cover chiropractor, cosmetic stuff, contacts, and a few other things they deem not medically necessary or that they wont cover. It would be easier to ask what you need covered to get a specific answer.

Comment by Jessica__S514 on January 10, 2014 at 2:04pm

Hello! I have a question for updating info... My husband returned to base last week and got the packet from his instructor to update his information (going from single to married etc). Is that all the paperwork we need to fill out in order to have everything updated or do we have to go to other sources as well for additional paperwork? I just want to make sure we have everything correct before he is given his first orders. Thanks for your help in advance! :)

Comment by SailorsWife0721 on December 23, 2013 at 3:39am

No problem!! I am just a few weeks ahead of you. The next call is so much better I promise!! I'm the opposite, my husband is the one I never see cry (in 7 years) but he had a hard time holding it together.

I want to say middle of week 3 of him being gone I got my packet. It's the DEERS packet with all of the information to get my ID and have my and our daughter's insurance start up

Comment by Cerabell18 on December 23, 2013 at 12:09am

Thanks SailorsWife. I wrote him a letter last night and promised I would be better next time. I'm not usually emotional, he has only seen me cry twice in the 8 years we've been together so it is hard for him to know I'm crying. I'm hoping that his next call will come soon but until then I'm writing him a ton of letters.

Comment by SailorsWife0721 on December 22, 2013 at 8:11am

Cerabell, my first call came after 18 days and we had 11 minutes. My hubby cried the whole time! Here's what I did: inside I was a mess. I just wanted to cry with him, but that's not supportive and won't help him get through until our next phone call or any letters. So I was super positive and upbeat. I filled him in on everything happening with me and asked him a ton of questions. What's your bunk mate like? What jobs did you take on? How are the RDC's? Have you gotten IT? When do you have tests? Etc etc etc. I made myself sound happy. I didn't feel happy at all but it helped him to hear that. And you're past the worst! That first phone call is the hardest. The next one he will sound a million times better!! Write some positive letters!

Comment by Cerabell18 on December 22, 2013 at 1:44am

I got a call tonight from my husband from bootcamp It was right at 5pm PST and he only had 5 minutes so our call was pretty brief. I was so surprised to be hearing from him since I hadn't seen anyone else receiving calls from that division that I didn't know what to say to him.  He has only been gone 2 weeks. He sounded tired and said that it was hard. I was so happy to hear his voice that I couldn't stop crying, which made me feel awful because I could tell it was making it difficult for him. Any tips on how to keep from becoming a blubbering mess when those few calls come in? I have such a great support system at home for me but he doesn't have that. He's by himself and has to deal with the separation from friends and family alone. Me crying on the phone, even if it is from happiness, isn't going to help him.

Comment by meagan5220 on December 18, 2013 at 11:21pm

Temporary lodging is for when you are at the new duty station if you are waiting to find somewhere to live. Per diem is what you get for the days of driving. They give a certain amount per mile for the spouse and the active duty member and then a certain amount per day for driving. Then on top of that he has to apply for DLA which is the dislocation allowance. He unfortunately will have to go handle these issues himself. PSD typically will not talk to a spouse. Write down a list of questions and tell him to get his booty down there and not leave the office until he gets answers or gets someone working on getting him answers. If the person he asks doesn't know have him ask for someone higher up. Did you guys put in for money in advance? There is a part on the Mypay where he can look at any travel vouchers he has pending or that he has gotten recently I believe.

Comment by Adie on December 17, 2013 at 12:24pm

Lily, if you didn't stay at the Navy Lodge and there were openings there or at Gateway within a 50mile radius, they won't reimburse you. We found out the hard way too.

Comment by Lovemyseabee on November 20, 2013 at 11:10am

Hello to all wonderful Navy Wives!! I am also a Navy Wife...missing my husband tremendously who is currently on IA. I am so lost without him by my side and trying to find ways to get through each day. He has been in 16 years, but we have only been married a year and a half so this is all new to me. Thanks for any and all suggestions everyone might have!

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