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Link to Navy Speak - Navy Terms & Acronyms: Navy Speak

All Hands Magazine's full length documentary "Making a Sailor": This video follows four recruits through Boot Camp in the spring of 2018 who were assigned to DIV 229, an integrated division, which had PIR on 05/25/2018. 

Boot Camp: Making a Sailor (Full Length Documentary - 2018)

Boot Camp: Behind the Scenes at RTC

...and visit - America's Navy and also Navy Live - The Official Blog of the Navy to learn more.

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DO be smart, use your head, always think OPSEC when using texts, email, phone, and social media, and watch this video: "Importance of Navy OPSEC."

Follow this link for OPSEC Guidelines:



**UPDATE 4/26/2022** Effective with the May 6, 2022 PIR 4 guests will be allowed.  Still must be fully vaccinated to attend.

**UPDATE as of 11/10/2022 PIR vaccination is no longer required.

**UPDATE 7/29/2021** You now must be fully vaccinated in order to attend PIR:

In light of observed changes and impact of the Coronavirus Delta Variant and out of an abundance of caution for our recruits, Sailors, staff, and guests, Recruit Training Command is restricting Pass-in-Review (recruit graduation) to ONLY fully immunized guests (14-days post final COVID vaccination dose).  


RTC Graduation

**UPDATE 8/25/2022 - MASK MANDATE IS LIFTED.  Vaccinations still required.

**UPDATE 11/10/22 PIR - Vaccinations no longer required.


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Trying to get married while your sailor is in "A" School? It's not easy, but it's possible!


Trying to get married while your sailor is in "A" School? It's not easy, but it's possible!

I've heard of so many people trying to do this and I just recently went through it myself. If you need any questions answered or advice on how to get hitched before he gets his orders and you can go with him, just ask on here!

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Latest Activity: Nov 17, 2017

Discussion Forum

Marriage after bootcamp or A school?

Started by NavyGF. Last reply by Allison Feb 8, 2016. 3 Replies

We were hoping to get married PIR weekend but I was told that isn't allowed.. Could he send in a request during bootcamp? If not, how do we go about it while he's in school? I believe his school will…Continue

My Fiance & I want to get married while he's in A school. Help.

Started by GOMOM Jan 14, 2016. 0 Replies

My fiancé has been in A school (in Great Lakes) for almost 2 weeks now but just got classed up yesterday.. He's been taking the classes & tests in order to put in the request chit. I just want to…Continue

Future wife.

Started by Mandy0801 May 7, 2014. 0 Replies

My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married in July. But found out the court house closes at 4:30pm... He doesn't get out of school till 3:50pm... And there won't be enough time to make it to…Continue

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You need to be a member of Trying to get married while your sailor is in "A" School? It's not easy, but it's possible! to add comments!

Comment by tatortot1107 on January 2, 2017 at 12:56am

My fiancé and I are thinking about getting married while he is in A school at Great lakes...has anyone done this or know of the process? 

Comment by Lexi on March 22, 2016 at 2:20am

Hello! So me and my Fiance were planning to get married PIR weekend, but recently discovered that it's not allowed :/ So how would we go about us getting married during A school, so i can be stationed with him? Can he fly home for a weekend possibly, get married, then him fly back? Who would he have to get permission from and how early ahead of time?? Please help

Comment by Candace on July 14, 2015 at 5:35pm

hi! my bf is currently in A school in conneticuit and we want to get married soon he will be there for at least 6months and we are needing to know the steps to getting this done any help would be greatly appreciated!!

Comment by Brooke on May 4, 2015 at 1:15pm
Hi, my fiancé is at A school in Pensacola, we are wanting to get married in the next few weeks. He will be in phase two this weekend and I was wanting to know exactly what we need to do to get married and what we need to do afterward? As detailed as possible thank you!!
Comment by heyashli on December 23, 2014 at 1:01pm

Has anyone had any success getting married while in a school in Chicago? I know the court house closes at 4 and it's a two day process in Illinois, has anyone actually pulled this off and can give me some tips?

Comment by AubsMama on June 17, 2014 at 6:59pm

My daughter is in Pensacola A school & wants to get married to her fiance. However she already has orders to go overseas after 4 weeks. Now what??

Comment by Atriceismissinghersailor on November 11, 2013 at 3:40pm
I jus want to know how does the process work when is it best to get married during a school does he have to get a form and did u make it on the order papers in time?!
Comment by Krose018 on October 15, 2013 at 8:59pm


What A-school is your boyfriend going to? Depending on how long the A-school is, his higher up may not allow it. But if is it long can have him talk to his higher ups and he can put in a REQUEST CHIT. Saying he wants to get married. You would have to go to the local court house and get a marriage licence, and either have a Justice of the Peace marry you all or a Chaplin on the base. You then would have to get a few copies of your Marriage Certificate. He then would take to PSD (Personnel Support Detachment)  and have him update his PAGE TWO and get you your ID. If you get married to him in A-school, you have to do it before he gets his orders. If you do not marry him before he gets his orders he could get "Unaccompanied Orders" Over seas....depending on his Rate (his job.) and he would not be able to bring you. But on the plus side....even if he gets over seas orders, he can still marry you, and put you on his PAGE TWO, you would still have his benefits and be taken care of, while he is over seas. If you can tell me his job I can maybe give you more clairety? My husband I married him after A-school, I got lucky since he qualified for state side program. So I married him after he got his orders. If your husband does well on his tests in A-school he can pick his orders. He does get two weeks leave to come home and he can always marry you then. If you do that do the court house can get your marriage certificate and what not done all in one day. Then have him take you to the closest base with a PSD and have him get you an military ID and update his page don't have to go to a Navy base to do this anyone is fine. We went to an Army/Airforce base to have my ID done. Send me a friend request and you can feel free to ask me anything you want. I was in the same position less than 7 months ago. I got lucky that our wedding date fell on his leave.  

Comment by crystal.claire on October 15, 2013 at 6:55pm

I need help please!! My boyfriend is in bootcamp and we need to get married during A school, how should I go about this and will it be possible to do?? I don't want to wait too long and then be screwed :( feeling so stressed out 

Comment by Whitney on August 29, 2013 at 5:34pm
Hello all
Is there anyone here who got married while their sailors were attending the A school in Meridian, MS? If so can you tell me how the process went? Any responses will be very much appreciated....

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