I had one of those nights last night too. Everything I looked at in our home made me cry because we bought it together. I swear these pregnancy hormones just make it 10X worse than it should be! Oy!
Buuuut.... I got a call from my SR this morning, just when I was really falling apart. It was for security clearance information, but we were able to talk about other things, too!
I haven't received my form letter (should today or tomorrow), but he told me he is on Ship 3 Div 262 graduating July 12th! It's nice to have the date! 1/4th of the way through!!!
So glad I found this page! I've been stuck on the Mom's page and everyone is talking about their sons and not their husbands! My husband will have been gone for 3 months TOMORROW. but heck it feels WAAAY longer than that! He is in A school in Pensacola right now!
Russellwife...I know what you mean :) moms EVERYWHERE lol. but they got me through basic that's for sure :) what is your husbands rate? my husband went to A school in Pensacola too! :)
LynBon im glad you got settled in.. how is it going? where is his A school at?
we are in goose creek sc, we were able to purchase some furniture for our children. I finally have my house in order and all paperwork complete. It only took a month and a half, lol. Now we cant wait to do stuff on our bucket list
Its about as muggy and buggy as florida, but pretty pleasant.
On your way here, if you drive, stop by the welcoming center for Sc and pick up broschures* there it will help for when you can go out into town. And you should note that the closer to the university you are the worse the drivers.
I hope you get base housing, everything is less then five minutes away, and being close to base is good especially if your hubby has to muster at 5:30 am
Have any wives on here moved to Great Lakes while their Husband was in A school. Mine will be there at least 6 months, and we are in the process of moving me. Any Tips, tricks, Suggestions, advice? I am finding the first move very stressful.
oh girl make sure you pack your necessities. it could take up to a month to get your stuff if the navy is moving you. depending on how busy they are. it took my friend up here a month and a week to get her stuff. idk if you are driving, but if so make sure you stuff it plum full with as much stuff possible.
They give you a quote online without having to give all your information. I tried one of those online companies where they wanted my phone number and was harassed for more than a month with emails and phone calls from multiple places.
Hey ladies! My husband just landed in San Diego today, our first duty station!!! Does anyone know about how long the wait list is for on base housing out there ? He is E-3 and we have a mini poodle (8lbs and fixed). Curious how long it will take for me to be able to get out there, I cant wait!!!
Does anyone know how to update my address for DEERS & my husband's LED? He went online and logged into his (mypay) account but couldn't figure out how to change my address? Does anyone know what office I should call or have a number? Any information would be helpful. Thanks.
Hi ljoyce, took us about 2 months to get into pet-friendly housing in San Diego. They have a hot list of immediately available housing he can look into as well if you don't want to wait. There are tons of civilian options that are pet-friendly and will save you some money as well. Most (though not all) of the pet-friendly housing out here takes all the BAH. Check them out online, it's Lincoln Military Housing.
I need help, I am completely new to everything. I've been a member of this website for a while but was only connected to the boot camp group. My husband has finally received his orders and they are for San Diego, we are on the waiting list for military housing through Lincoln military Housing and the wait is 3-5 months, I was thinking I would wait until housing became available to go out there but he went to the fleet and family support center at the base where he is currently doing a-school and was told (and even encouraged) that he can take his family with him when he reports to his first duty station and that he will be given 10 days of housing at their on base hotel so he has time to find temporary housing until THEIR housing becomes available. I guess that's an option. Just don't think it's a wise one... He is so eager to have us with him already and I don't want to discourage him or shut him down. The lady at fleet and family support said that it being summer it was a good time to move (he is PCSING late july) since we have a 5 yr old starting Kindergarten in august. I have called the ombudsman numbers we were given and have been unable to reach them. Can someone please advise me on this???
Mariana-Congratulations on orders to San Diego! We loved our years there. The decision to move is one you and hubby need to talk through. There are a couple of things to consider:
The ten days of hotel stay is called TLE (Temporary Lodging Expense) and covers your lodging as well as a per diem for meals. We usually stay at a Navy Lodge on base while we search for housing. You will pay for it and be reimbursed, so be sure to keep receipts!
If you do find temporary housing, will it be in the same school district as the base housing? If not, your child may have to change schools anyway.
The military should move you into housing if you are on the waiting list; we have moved 18 times over the years, several of those from rentals to base housing and they were always paid for by the Navy. You can check with the housing service center to be sure.
Your husband is justifiably excited about having you come out right away, but you might want to point out to him that having a couple of months to get used to the ship could be a real benefit for him. Let him get started off on the right foot at his new command without the distractions of wanting to run home to his wife and child.
This is a decision only the two of you can make. Consider all of the factors to make the best choice for your family. Welcome to the adventure of Navy life!
@beachmom76 THANK YOU SO MUCH! Your input was amazingly helpful. I'm glad I posted on here, I have learned some critical info on the moving process. I really appreciate everything you suggested.
If he is going to be in A school for 6 mos or longer you can move to be with him. i am moving next week to be with mine. He has to be phase II to apply for the housing.
You can move with him. Depending on the length of the school you may have to pay to move yourself. If it's longer than a certain length they will pay to move you but if it's shorter you will have to pay to move yourself. They can't stop you from moving anywhere you'd like in the US.
First, each school has different rules. Your husband will have to check with his chain of command when he gets there to see what the rules are regarding him living off base. Phase 2 is not a Navy-wide rule...it varies from each command. Second, if the school is only 19 weeks you will probably have to find your own housing. They won't provide you with housing for such short-term....I know Lincoln Military Housing, which has a lot of the privatized housing contracts with Navy bases, requires a 6 month lease at least. So if your husband's orders are for less than that they can deny you. If you know where he is going for A school, I recommend finding that group on here...I'm sure there are other wives who can give you insight into the area and temporary housing. BUT as I said above, your husband may not even be able to live off base with you.
my husband was at school for 2 months. his A school lasted a month but took him a month to class up. I moved to be with him for a month. I didn't take all of our things just the necessities the rest was put in storage. it was amazing. people told me not to, but wanted to be with my husband so I did anyway :) he was in Pcola and we got to spend so much time together it was great. like a vacation for a whole month :P every school and class is different so I can't say you will have all the time I did with your husband
We just PCSd from hawaii. We were there for 3 years. I had an awesome job there as a project coordinator. My husband is stationed in San Diego on a PreCom ship. i am in our home of record now in Illinojis (near St Louis). I planned to stay here to fix our house and try to sell it. Renters destroyed it while we were gone. Its almost finished and i can hopefully move in soon. Having no luck with a job here. Registered with 4 job agencies. Only been actively looking about a month but it is very frustrating. My husband is having to pay rent to live on base in apts since the ship isnt ready yet. All of this has put a huge financial strain on us. I am giving it till September and if I don't find a job by then, i will have to just lock up the house and go live with my husband in San Diego and try my luck there. I was thinking this was the best choice for now to be here sell the house and pay off bills and go visit monthly. He ships off to MS in March to help finish the ship. But no income is not working. You would think that more companies would be sympathetic to military wives situation. I am open to temp, contract or whatever. Anyone in the STL area that knows of a military friendly company? I have many years exp as an Executivve Asst. and Project Coordinator
Urabisswife, he is going for : Aviation Warfare Systems Operator where he analyzes data on the planes duing flight and pr and post flight for specific missions. not necessarily flying the plane or working on them.
My husband is in a-school at great lakes right now. I moved to be with him about a month ago and he submitted the chit ASAP (about 3 weeks ago) but hasn't heard a word about it. He's had 2 overnight stay chits approved since then, but not the live ashore chit. Any suggestions? I knew it wasn't promised, but was wondering if it's weird we hadn't heard anything. Thanks in advance.
My husband left on 07/23 I recieved "the Box" . He told me that we would be eligable for tricare insurance as soon as he got to Tricare so we cx our sons insurance effective 08/01. I am wondering if anyone knows who I need to contact regarding getting information on our insurance or does it come with the letter that we are suppose to be recieving. It would be so much easier if we can a direct contact with questions. :(
you will get a packet with all the tricaer information in it. Once he signs you up for DEERS you have tricare standard. if you need to take your son to the doctor before you guys get your military id you can always call tricare . their number is on the website, they are all really nice. there are different forms of their insurance. If you want tircare prime which means you wont have to pay anything out of pocket, you will have to fill out the paper work that will come in with your form letter he will send. that takes a month to take into effect. you are not covered under dental until you fill out the paperwork that comes though.
hframe0412- before you switch to prime, make sure your doctors accept prime. We had planned on signing up for prime, turned out my doctor only accepted standard, so my husband got a kudos for not doing what I had asked him to. lol The letter you need to get your ID should come really soon (which most places accept as proof of insurance). If your doctors office uses electronic billing, all they should really need to know is that you're signed up for standard and your husband's social security number.
My husband left on 07/23 for boot camp we were under the impression that he would get paid on 08/01. Does anyone know when the first check should be in our account? Thanks.
hframe- When my husband was in boot, we didn't get our money until later either. He left on 5/6 and we didn't get any money until the 6/1 payday. So, if you haven't seen it, it should be the 8/15 payday most likely.
We did seem to get all of the money from the entire 3ish weeks, though. So also keep in mind that the dollar amount you see around 8/15 will probably be more than you will normally be making. Honestly, between random deductions like the DITY bag (clothing and uniforms), I would expect to see the amounts vary until a couple months into school. We're still trying to figure my husband's out.
hframge: while my husband was in basic is took a month and a week to get his first pay check. and it will be less than you expect because of the money they take out for uniforms. plus they have to pay for their own smell good stuff, razors, laudry detergant, and stuff to write home. you will get reembrused for his uniforms later. we got that money a week before my husband graduated A school. :) its stressful but it will work itself out. my husbands recruiter told us we would get pay right away, he lied, and we were in trouble for bills. so you can either call and talk with the billing companies or get a credit card if you need to
My husbands recruiter told us that he wouldn't be getting paid for the first 4-6 weeks, and when his first check comes it'll probably only be $200 due to unifor expenses etc.
oh no it will be more than 200 :) you still get BAH :P but just plan for it to be less. nothing worse than feeling like youre going to get a bunch of money and then watching it go all to bills :P we still got plenty don't get me wrong, it was just less than what was expected
UrabissWife
im sorry girl :/ nights were the hardest for me. too much time to think. you'll be in his arms before you know it :) cheer up
May 28, 2013
BrylerBug
I had one of those nights last night too. Everything I looked at in our home made me cry because we bought it together. I swear these pregnancy hormones just make it 10X worse than it should be! Oy!
Buuuut.... I got a call from my SR this morning, just when I was really falling apart. It was for security clearance information, but we were able to talk about other things, too!
I haven't received my form letter (should today or tomorrow), but he told me he is on Ship 3 Div 262 graduating July 12th! It's nice to have the date! 1/4th of the way through!!!
May 28, 2013
UrabissWife
how exciting you got all his information :) my husband graduated a year ago the 13th of july :) its going to be WARM in IL :)
May 28, 2013
BrylerBug
WooHoow! DEERS letter came in! Going to the Fort Worth base tomorrow to get my ID card.
Jun 3, 2013
UrabissWife
this page sure is quiet :)
Jun 8, 2013
russellwife
So glad I found this page! I've been stuck on the Mom's page and everyone is talking about their sons and not their husbands! My husband will have been gone for 3 months TOMORROW. but heck it feels WAAAY longer than that! He is in A school in Pensacola right now!
Jun 10, 2013
LynBon
finally got settled down after moving with in with my husband for A school
Jun 10, 2013
UrabissWife
Russellwife...I know what you mean :) moms EVERYWHERE lol. but they got me through basic that's for sure :) what is your husbands rate? my husband went to A school in Pensacola too! :)
LynBon im glad you got settled in.. how is it going? where is his A school at?
Jun 10, 2013
russellwife
haha yeah I agree they totally got me through basic too.
My husband is Aircrew! He has been on hold for the past several weeks and just started class today. hallelujah! Hold is the worst
Jun 10, 2013
LynBon
Jun 11, 2013
Mamushka23
Jun 11, 2013
UrabissWife
my husband is an AD . he was on hold for a months when he was in Pcola waiting to class up. I went to stay with him. it was taking too long for me ;)
Jun 11, 2013
UrabissWife
only a month and a half?? sounds about right navy style lol... how is goose creek ?
Jun 11, 2013
LynBon
On your way here, if you drive, stop by the welcoming center for Sc and pick up broschures* there it will help for when you can go out into town. And you should note that the closer to the university you are the worse the drivers.
Jun 11, 2013
LynBon
Jun 11, 2013
NerdyNavyWife
Have any wives on here moved to Great Lakes while their Husband was in A school. Mine will be there at least 6 months, and we are in the process of moving me. Any Tips, tricks, Suggestions, advice? I am finding the first move very stressful.
Jun 11, 2013
UrabissWife
it would be super stressful b/c your husband isn't there to help. are you moving yourself or in the navy moving you?
Jun 11, 2013
NerdyNavyWife
The Navy is moving me...thank goodness. But we are just beginning the process now. ugh.
Jun 11, 2013
UrabissWife
oh girl make sure you pack your necessities. it could take up to a month to get your stuff if the navy is moving you. depending on how busy they are. it took my friend up here a month and a week to get her stuff. idk if you are driving, but if so make sure you stuff it plum full with as much stuff possible.
Jun 11, 2013
NerdyNavyWife
Most Definitely. Already planning on packing all the clothes and things with me. I have a decent sized car so I think I will be ok.
Jun 11, 2013
Mamushka23
Jun 11, 2013
ohwhere
I haven't used them yet but was going to for shipping my car. They got really good reviews:
www.montway.com
They give you a quote online without having to give all your information. I tried one of those online companies where they wanted my phone number and was harassed for more than a month with emails and phone calls from multiple places.
Jun 13, 2013
ljoyce
Hey ladies! My husband just landed in San Diego today, our first duty station!!! Does anyone know about how long the wait list is for on base housing out there ? He is E-3 and we have a mini poodle (8lbs and fixed). Curious how long it will take for me to be able to get out there, I cant wait!!!
Jun 18, 2013
ohwhere
Does anyone know how to update my address for DEERS & my husband's LED? He went online and logged into his (mypay) account but couldn't figure out how to change my address? Does anyone know what office I should call or have a number? Any information would be helpful. Thanks.
Jun 19, 2013
abuon18
Jun 19, 2013
xoxo_mariana
Jun 21, 2013
beachmom76
Mariana-Congratulations on orders to San Diego! We loved our years there. The decision to move is one you and hubby need to talk through. There are a couple of things to consider:
The ten days of hotel stay is called TLE (Temporary Lodging Expense) and covers your lodging as well as a per diem for meals. We usually stay at a Navy Lodge on base while we search for housing. You will pay for it and be reimbursed, so be sure to keep receipts!
If you do find temporary housing, will it be in the same school district as the base housing? If not, your child may have to change schools anyway.
The military should move you into housing if you are on the waiting list; we have moved 18 times over the years, several of those from rentals to base housing and they were always paid for by the Navy. You can check with the housing service center to be sure.
Your husband is justifiably excited about having you come out right away, but you might want to point out to him that having a couple of months to get used to the ship could be a real benefit for him. Let him get started off on the right foot at his new command without the distractions of wanting to run home to his wife and child.
This is a decision only the two of you can make. Consider all of the factors to make the best choice for your family. Welcome to the adventure of Navy life!
Jun 22, 2013
xoxo_mariana
Jun 25, 2013
NerdyNavyWife
If he is going to be in A school for 6 mos or longer you can move to be with him. i am moving next week to be with mine. He has to be phase II to apply for the housing.
Jun 30, 2013
abuon18
Jun 30, 2013
abuon18
Jun 30, 2013
UrabissWife
my husband was at school for 2 months. his A school lasted a month but took him a month to class up. I moved to be with him for a month. I didn't take all of our things just the necessities the rest was put in storage. it was amazing. people told me not to, but wanted to be with my husband so I did anyway :) he was in Pcola and we got to spend so much time together it was great. like a vacation for a whole month :P every school and class is different so I can't say you will have all the time I did with your husband
Jul 1, 2013
sschick02_new navy wife
We just PCSd from hawaii. We were there for 3 years. I had an awesome job there as a project coordinator. My husband is stationed in San Diego on a PreCom ship. i am in our home of record now in Illinojis (near St Louis). I planned to stay here to fix our house and try to sell it. Renters destroyed it while we were gone. Its almost finished and i can hopefully move in soon. Having no luck with a job here. Registered with 4 job agencies. Only been actively looking about a month but it is very frustrating. My husband is having to pay rent to live on base in apts since the ship isnt ready yet. All of this has put a huge financial strain on us. I am giving it till September and if I don't find a job by then, i will have to just lock up the house and go live with my husband in San Diego and try my luck there. I was thinking this was the best choice for now to be here sell the house and pay off bills and go visit monthly. He ships off to MS in March to help finish the ship. But no income is not working. You would think that more companies would be sympathetic to military wives situation. I am open to temp, contract or whatever. Anyone in the STL area that knows of a military friendly company? I have many years exp as an Executivve Asst. and Project Coordinator
Jul 22, 2013
navywife10/12
Jul 23, 2013
UrabissWife
hey navywife10/12 ! you are almost half way there :)
Jul 23, 2013
navywife10/12
Thanks UrabissWife. I needed to hear that today. :)
Jul 23, 2013
UrabissWife
Navywife10/12 : this time will fly by PIR will be here before you know it :) what is your husbands rate going to be ?
Jul 24, 2013
navywife10/12
UrabissWife. I hope so. He is going to be an Aircrewman.
Jul 24, 2013
UrabissWife
is he going to be an airmen (such as works on planes) or is he going to fly the planes?
Jul 25, 2013
navywife10/12
Urabisswife, he is going for : Aviation Warfare Systems Operator where he analyzes data on the planes duing flight and pr and post flight for specific missions. not necessarily flying the plane or working on them.
Jul 25, 2013
J's Wife
Jul 27, 2013
hframe0412
My husband left on 07/23 I recieved "the Box" . He told me that we would be eligable for tricare insurance as soon as he got to Tricare so we cx our sons insurance effective 08/01. I am wondering if anyone knows who I need to contact regarding getting information on our insurance or does it come with the letter that we are suppose to be recieving. It would be so much easier if we can a direct contact with questions. :(
Aug 2, 2013
UrabissWife
you will get a packet with all the tricaer information in it. Once he signs you up for DEERS you have tricare standard. if you need to take your son to the doctor before you guys get your military id you can always call tricare . their number is on the website, they are all really nice. there are different forms of their insurance. If you want tircare prime which means you wont have to pay anything out of pocket, you will have to fill out the paper work that will come in with your form letter he will send. that takes a month to take into effect. you are not covered under dental until you fill out the paperwork that comes though.
Aug 2, 2013
J's Wife
hframe0412- before you switch to prime, make sure your doctors accept prime. We had planned on signing up for prime, turned out my doctor only accepted standard, so my husband got a kudos for not doing what I had asked him to. lol The letter you need to get your ID should come really soon (which most places accept as proof of insurance). If your doctors office uses electronic billing, all they should really need to know is that you're signed up for standard and your husband's social security number.
Aug 2, 2013
hframe0412
My husband left on 07/23 for boot camp we were under the impression that he would get paid on 08/01. Does anyone know when the first check should be in our account? Thanks.
Aug 5, 2013
J's Wife
hframe- When my husband was in boot, we didn't get our money until later either. He left on 5/6 and we didn't get any money until the 6/1 payday. So, if you haven't seen it, it should be the 8/15 payday most likely.
Aug 5, 2013
J's Wife
We did seem to get all of the money from the entire 3ish weeks, though. So also keep in mind that the dollar amount you see around 8/15 will probably be more than you will normally be making. Honestly, between random deductions like the DITY bag (clothing and uniforms), I would expect to see the amounts vary until a couple months into school. We're still trying to figure my husband's out.
Aug 5, 2013
UrabissWife
hframge: while my husband was in basic is took a month and a week to get his first pay check. and it will be less than you expect because of the money they take out for uniforms. plus they have to pay for their own smell good stuff, razors, laudry detergant, and stuff to write home. you will get reembrused for his uniforms later. we got that money a week before my husband graduated A school. :) its stressful but it will work itself out. my husbands recruiter told us we would get pay right away, he lied, and we were in trouble for bills. so you can either call and talk with the billing companies or get a credit card if you need to
Aug 5, 2013
pandabugz SD Essex
Aug 5, 2013
UrabissWife
oh no it will be more than 200 :) you still get BAH :P but just plan for it to be less. nothing worse than feeling like youre going to get a bunch of money and then watching it go all to bills :P we still got plenty don't get me wrong, it was just less than what was expected
Aug 5, 2013